60 pippa.io How Can I Say This... http://howcanisaythis.com en Beth Buelow communication, conflict, mediation, communication skills, coaching, conversations, Beth Buelow, negotiation, relationships, adr, conflict resolution, language Beth Buelow Speak Up, Speak Out, Speak Courageously The “How Can I Say This…” podcast offers tips and advice for real-world communications challenges, such as difficult conversations, conflict, giving and receiving feedback, negotiating, and other situations where what you say and how you say it makes a difference.


Your host is Beth Buelow, PCC, founder of ZOPA Consulting and author of “The Introvert Entrepreneur: Amplify Your Strengths and Create Success on Your Own Terms.” As a credentialed professional coach, she’s spent the past 10 years offering support to entrepreneurs and leaders, holding space for them to explore their strengths, fears, and very often, their communication challenges. Beth’s also a trained mediator and loves finding the “Zone of Possible Agreement” (ZOPA!) in any situation that comes her way. She’s hosted The Introvert Entrepreneur Podcast since 2010.


In every episode of "How Can I Say This...", you’ll find ideas about how to handle your communication conundrums; tips on feeling more confident and comfortable with conflict; opportunities to learn from real-life situations through questions shared by listeners; and ultimately, gain skills and techniques for dealing with sticky situations at work and home. Of course, we can’t be all talk and no action; each show will end with an invitation to try a particular technique or approach that came up in the episode.


Episodes will feature listener questions, as well as expert guest interviews and contributions. The scope of conversation will evolve over time… we’re open to seeing where this goes. Thanks for joining us on the journey!

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The “How Can I Say This…” podcast offers tips and advice for real-world communications challenges, such as difficult conversations, conflict, giving and receiving feedback, negotiating, and other situations where what you say and how you say it makes a difference.


Your host is Beth Buelow, PCC, founder of ZOPA Consulting and author of “The Introvert Entrepreneur: Amplify Your Strengths and Create Success on Your Own Terms.” As a credentialed professional coach, she’s spent the past 10 years offering support to entrepreneurs and leaders, holding space for them to explore their strengths, fears, and very often, their communication challenges. Beth’s also a trained mediator and loves finding the “Zone of Possible Agreement” (ZOPA!) in any situation that comes her way. She’s hosted The Introvert Entrepreneur Podcast since 2010.


In every episode of "How Can I Say This...", you’ll find ideas about how to handle your communication conundrums; tips on feeling more confident and comfortable with conflict; opportunities to learn from real-life situations through questions shared by listeners; and ultimately, gain skills and techniques for dealing with sticky situations at work and home. Of course, we can’t be all talk and no action; each show will end with an invitation to try a particular technique or approach that came up in the episode.


Episodes will feature listener questions, as well as expert guest interviews and contributions. The scope of conversation will evolve over time… we’re open to seeing where this goes. Thanks for joining us on the journey!

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no Beth Buelow info+5b7f438da13e0a117ca4e549@mg.pippa.io episodic https://assets.pippa.io/shows/undefined/1535066540348-2896dac29947123ad20bfc8aa9fd2441.jpeg http://howcanisaythis.com How Can I Say This... Barbara McAfee, Using Your Full Voice Barbara McAfee, Using Your Full Voice Thu, 15 Nov 2018 02:40:03 GMT 38:44 5bec9f8f309139e175e08187 no http://howcanisaythis.com full 1 14 Watch your tone… it’s advice we’ve all received at some point, most likely when we were children and saying, “I don’t want to” to a parent, or “give it back,” to a sibling. As adults we still have to watch our tone, as how we say something is as important as what we say. Tone takes on new meaning, not just the attitude, but the pitch and timbre. How can we be powerful communicators by using our words and our tone?


How you convey your message is just as important as the message itself. Voice Coach Barbara McAfee teaches us how to powerfully express ourselves using our full voice. Barbara McAfee is a voice coach, singer/songwriter, keynote speaker, and author who merges lessons from 12 years in organization development with the transformational power of sound. Her book, Full Voice: The Art & Practice of Vocal Presence, is based on her 25+ years as a voice coach, supporting people from many professions in learning how to access the full power and expression of the voice in service to their work and relationships.


Hosted by Beth Buelow, PCC. More resources and information at howcanisaythis.com

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Watch your tone… it’s advice we’ve all received at some point, most likely when we were children and saying, “I don’t want to” to a parent, or “give it back,” to a sibling. As adults we still have to watch our tone, as how we say something is as important as what we say. Tone takes on new meaning, not just the attitude, but the pitch and timbre. How can we be powerful communicators by using our words and our tone?


How you convey your message is just as important as the message itself. Voice Coach Barbara McAfee teaches us how to powerfully express ourselves using our full voice. Barbara McAfee is a voice coach, singer/songwriter, keynote speaker, and author who merges lessons from 12 years in organization development with the transformational power of sound. Her book, Full Voice: The Art & Practice of Vocal Presence, is based on her 25+ years as a voice coach, supporting people from many professions in learning how to access the full power and expression of the voice in service to their work and relationships.


Hosted by Beth Buelow, PCC. More resources and information at howcanisaythis.com

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Kwame Christian, Compassionate Curiosity Kwame Christian, Compassionate Curiosity Wed, 07 Nov 2018 04:23:12 GMT 35:19 5be268b08adad47f3a2e03e5 no http://howcanisaythis.com full 1 13 There are times when we feel stuck in our communications, that no matter what we say or how we plead our case, we make zero headway with the other person. We’re so fixated on what we need and want, we forget to consider the other person and their needs and wants. What are some ways we can turn that around and create a situation where everyone gets what they need? 

 

This episode features my lively conversation with guest Kwame Christian, who offers us some awesome insights on how to connect on a meaningful level with someone – even a 2-year old! – and have a persuasive conversation.


Kwame Christian is Director of the American Negotiation Institute, where he puts on workshops designed to make difficult conversations easier. As an attorney and mediator with a bachelors of arts in Psychology, a Master of Public Policy, and a law degree, Kwame brings a unique multidisciplinary approach to the topic of conflict management and negotiation.


He’s the author of Nobody Will Play With Me and his  TEDx Talk, Finding Confidence in Conflict, was the most popular TED Talk on the topic of conflict of 2017. He also hosts the  top negotiation podcast in the world, Negotiate Anything. He’s also been a repeat guest on my other podcast, The Introvert Entrepreneur; links to those shows can be found on the page for this episode at howcanisaythis.com.

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There are times when we feel stuck in our communications, that no matter what we say or how we plead our case, we make zero headway with the other person. We’re so fixated on what we need and want, we forget to consider the other person and their needs and wants. What are some ways we can turn that around and create a situation where everyone gets what they need? 

 

This episode features my lively conversation with guest Kwame Christian, who offers us some awesome insights on how to connect on a meaningful level with someone – even a 2-year old! – and have a persuasive conversation.


Kwame Christian is Director of the American Negotiation Institute, where he puts on workshops designed to make difficult conversations easier. As an attorney and mediator with a bachelors of arts in Psychology, a Master of Public Policy, and a law degree, Kwame brings a unique multidisciplinary approach to the topic of conflict management and negotiation.


He’s the author of Nobody Will Play With Me and his  TEDx Talk, Finding Confidence in Conflict, was the most popular TED Talk on the topic of conflict of 2017. He also hosts the  top negotiation podcast in the world, Negotiate Anything. He’s also been a repeat guest on my other podcast, The Introvert Entrepreneur; links to those shows can be found on the page for this episode at howcanisaythis.com.

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Your Questions: How to Stop Rambling Your Questions: How to Stop Rambling Wed, 31 Oct 2018 00:47:36 GMT 18:44 5bd8fba8a931ac72230b7a05 no http://howcanisaythis.com full 1 12 When I get nervous, I can talk… and talk and talk and talk. It’s really embarrassing sometimes, and I don’t know how to stop myself once I get going. I’m sure the other person is bored to tears or wishing I’d just shut up already. But I can’t help it. Or can I? Is it possible to gracefully stop our rambling and get the conversation back on track?  


In this episode, I respond to a listener question about what to do when you find yourself talking too much, as well as start an exploration of what really gets in our way when we’re having difficulty being in conversation with someone we disagree with. I also share an insight from Alan Alda about the importance of empathy in conversation. Hosted by Beth Buelow, PCC. More information at www.howcanisaythis.com

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When I get nervous, I can talk… and talk and talk and talk. It’s really embarrassing sometimes, and I don’t know how to stop myself once I get going. I’m sure the other person is bored to tears or wishing I’d just shut up already. But I can’t help it. Or can I? Is it possible to gracefully stop our rambling and get the conversation back on track?  


In this episode, I respond to a listener question about what to do when you find yourself talking too much, as well as start an exploration of what really gets in our way when we’re having difficulty being in conversation with someone we disagree with. I also share an insight from Alan Alda about the importance of empathy in conversation. Hosted by Beth Buelow, PCC. More information at www.howcanisaythis.com

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Derek Pratt, Tips for Neighbor Conflicts Derek Pratt, Tips for Neighbor Conflicts Tue, 23 Oct 2018 19:02:39 GMT 35:51 5bcf6f5fbf0ebe8f44eb89f7 no http://howcanisaythis.com full 1 11 Your Questions: Negative People, Protecting Colleagues Your Questions: Negative People, Protecting Colleagues Wed, 17 Oct 2018 03:04:18 GMT 21:16 5bc6a6b341de98890238bea1 no http://howcanisaythis.com full 1 10 There are times in most relationships when we’re faced with one of two situations: we feel a need to protect ourselves, or we feel a need to protect someone else. Every once in a while, especially when it comes to giving feedback, those two things can happen at the same time! How can we act in a way that establishes boundaries while still being kind? In this episode, we take a look at two listener questions: dealing with negative people and sharing difficult feedback with a colleague who’s having personal issues. Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. More information and resources at howcanisaythis.com.

 

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There are times in most relationships when we’re faced with one of two situations: we feel a need to protect ourselves, or we feel a need to protect someone else. Every once in a while, especially when it comes to giving feedback, those two things can happen at the same time! How can we act in a way that establishes boundaries while still being kind? In this episode, we take a look at two listener questions: dealing with negative people and sharing difficult feedback with a colleague who’s having personal issues. Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. More information and resources at howcanisaythis.com.

 

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Your Questions: Creating Closure from a Distance Your Questions: Creating Closure from a Distance Tue, 09 Oct 2018 22:01:51 GMT 15:11 5bbd254f556909a93217b068 no http://howcanisaythis.com full 1 9 In an ideal world, relationships that end would do so clearly and with no loose ends. Each person would walk away feeling like they’d tied a nice neat bow on the matter. But we don’t live in an ideal world, and endings can be messy and feel incomplete. What do we do when we are left with lots of loose ends and no one to help us tie them up?


In this episode, we’re going to do a deep dive into a listener question about how to find relationship closure alone when it’s not possible to do it together. Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. Learn more, submit your questions, and subscribe at howcanisaythis.com

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In an ideal world, relationships that end would do so clearly and with no loose ends. Each person would walk away feeling like they’d tied a nice neat bow on the matter. But we don’t live in an ideal world, and endings can be messy and feel incomplete. What do we do when we are left with lots of loose ends and no one to help us tie them up?


In this episode, we’re going to do a deep dive into a listener question about how to find relationship closure alone when it’s not possible to do it together. Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. Learn more, submit your questions, and subscribe at howcanisaythis.com

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Ep008: Veronica Cravener, Determining Your Interests and Wants Ep008: Veronica Cravener, Determining Your Interests and Wants Wed, 03 Oct 2018 02:21:41 GMT 29:32 5bb42155b799143c5a063f61 no http://howcanisaythis.com full 1 8 Grace Judson, Empathy in Conversations Grace Judson, Empathy in Conversations Tue, 25 Sep 2018 18:15:19 GMT 34:33 5baa79c49375881652f0a335 no http://howcanisaythis.com full 1 7 There’s a time and place for everything, and that includes emotion and intimacy. Most of the time it’s clear when we can show emotion and wear our heart on our sleeve. But sometimes, especially in professional environments, it can be more challenging to know how to respond when a clear need for empathy presents itself. We want to connect as human beings while still respecting boundaries. What’s a healthy way to walk that line with people we care about? Leadership Coach Grace Judson joins to me to discuss this and more. Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. More information and resources at www.howcanisaythis.com There’s a time and place for everything, and that includes emotion and intimacy. Most of the time it’s clear when we can show emotion and wear our heart on our sleeve. But sometimes, especially in professional environments, it can be more challenging to know how to respond when a clear need for empathy presents itself. We want to connect as human beings while still respecting boundaries. What’s a healthy way to walk that line with people we care about? Leadership Coach Grace Judson joins to me to discuss this and more. Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. More information and resources at www.howcanisaythis.com Your Questions: Friendship Challenges, Generational Differences Your Questions: Friendship Challenges, Generational Differences Tue, 18 Sep 2018 17:39:49 GMT 27:34 5ba13865b8c55beb1499bfa4 no http://howcanisaythis.com full 1 6 How can we offer our perspective in a thoughtful way that doesn’t put someone on the defensive? In this episode, we’ll be looking at some listener questions about telling it like it is to someone you care about, intergenerational conversations, and lopsided friendships. Submit your question and find more information about this podcast can be found at howcanisaythis.com. Hosted by Beth Buelow, PCC. ]]> How can we offer our perspective in a thoughtful way that doesn’t put someone on the defensive? In this episode, we’ll be looking at some listener questions about telling it like it is to someone you care about, intergenerational conversations, and lopsided friendships. Submit your question and find more information about this podcast can be found at howcanisaythis.com. Hosted by Beth Buelow, PCC. ]]> Arden Clise, Tricky Feedback, Establishing Boundaries (Ep005) Arden Clise, Tricky Feedback, Establishing Boundaries (Ep005) Tue, 11 Sep 2018 13:42:20 GMT 30:44 5b97c60cd850022e2db99a0a no http://howcanisaythis.com full 1 5 I welcome etiquette consultant Arden Clise to the show, and together we respond to listener questions on giving and receiving sensitive feedback, as well as how to establish boundaries when you value your privacy. I welcome etiquette consultant Arden Clise to the show, and together we respond to listener questions on giving and receiving sensitive feedback, as well as how to establish boundaries when you value your privacy. Cinnie Noble, Navigating Conflict and Passive-Aggressiveness Cinnie Noble, Navigating Conflict and Passive-Aggressiveness Tue, 04 Sep 2018 13:00:49 GMT 28:12 5b87e8a49b27362d4aee1142 no http://howcanisaythis.com full 1 4 Your Questions: TMI, Unsolicited Help, Releasing a Client Your Questions: TMI, Unsolicited Help, Releasing a Client Tue, 04 Sep 2018 12:00:05 GMT 24:09 5b87e6e2309f31114e19bdfe no http://howcanisaythis.com full 1 3 This episode features listener questions about how to gracefully exit a client relationship, tell someone their help isn’t needed, and extract yourself from a TMI conversation. This episode features listener questions about how to gracefully exit a client relationship, tell someone their help isn’t needed, and extract yourself from a TMI conversation. Laurie Helgoe, How to Handle Bullies and Narcissists Laurie Helgoe, How to Handle Bullies and Narcissists Tue, 04 Sep 2018 11:00:56 GMT 38:15 5b87e6809b27362d4aee1141 no http://howcanisaythis.com full 1 2 Bridging Political Divides with Kern Beare Bridging Political Divides with Kern Beare Tue, 04 Sep 2018 10:00:49 GMT 29:52 5b8773388e43746828ec4018 no http://howcanisaythis.com full 1 1 Pop the Bubble, an initiative born in the wake of the 2016 election. After taking a cross-country “conversation road trip” with his son Will to better understand the source of our divide, Kern created a workshop called “Difficult Conversations: The art and science of thinking (and living) together.” He’s been traveling the country leading the workshop since October of 2017.]]> Pop the Bubble, an initiative born in the wake of the 2016 election. After taking a cross-country “conversation road trip” with his son Will to better understand the source of our divide, Kern created a workshop called “Difficult Conversations: The art and science of thinking (and living) together.” He’s been traveling the country leading the workshop since October of 2017.]]>