60 pippa.io Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show http://www.relationshiphelpshow.com en Content here is owned and copyrighted by Dr. Rhoberta Shaler. relationship,questions,problems,advice,difficult,people,narcissists,borderlines,hijackals,sociopaths,psychopaths,verbal,abuse,emotional,abuse,passive,aggressive Rhoberta Shaler, PhD Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show. Expert guests & tips for getting along with the humans you care about.


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor offers a wide range of advice on improving the way you navigate life with others. Whether at home, work or play, dealing with humans can be tricky. Learn how to do it well and increase your love, trust and emotional intimacy for more fulfilling relationships.

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Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show. Expert guests & tips for getting along with the humans you care about.


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor offers a wide range of advice on improving the way you navigate life with others. Whether at home, work or play, dealing with humans can be tricky. Learn how to do it well and increase your love, trust and emotional intimacy for more fulfilling relationships.

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no Rhoberta Shaler, PhD info+5ac9a352ef7a4c2376786ec9@mg.pippa.io episodic https://assets.pippa.io/shows/5ac9a352ef7a4c2376786ec9/1524613969107-75a4e673309e75018f80875690cef0af.jpeg http://www.relationshiphelpshow.com Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show https://feed.pippa.io/public/shows/relationship-help-advice-podcast How to Have the Best Divorce From a Narcissistic Hijackal GUEST: Jason LeVoy How to Have the Best Divorce From a Narcissistic Hijackal GUEST: Jason LeVoy Wed, 12 Dec 2018 03:22:19 GMT 43:42 5c107943865da838724cf59e no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/best-steps-to-divorcing-a-narcissist-hijackal-jason-levoy full 5 64 Best divorce possible from a narcissistic Hijackal? Does such a thing exist? Stay tuned.


Yes, divorce is often messy, and definitely messier when there is a difficult person, or a toxic person involved, those people I call Hijackals®!


All divorces--in my opinion--go in two clear ways: one end is a Divisive Divorce, and the other end is the Collaborative Divorce. There is a third that takes in the benign, neutral space in the middle that some people wander in, too.


If you're divorcing--or, divorced from--a narcissist, a Hijackal, you're definitely going to be on the Divisive end. That's because Hijackals MUST win, and divorce doesn't feel like that. So, the Hijackal wants to win every way to Sunday IN the divorce. That creates divisiveness, for sure, and also pain, stress, anxiety, and too much uncertainty and chaos. Nasty, but true.


Listen to these suggestions I have in the first part of today's episode of Emotional Savvy, and see how you could move towards a more collaborative arrangement--IF you're not an ex of a Hijackal, that is!


GUEST: Jason Levoy, The Divorce Resource Guy, and former divorce attorney.


Jason Levoy aka The Divorce Resource Guy, is a former divorce attorney turned divorce coach who works with people who have attorneys, or are representing themselves to get through the divorce process as quickly as possible, without spending thousands of dollars wasting time.


Jason is the creator of DivorceU, the most comprehensive and affordable divorce resource on the internet.


In today's conversation, Jason and I discuss the pitfalls of divorce, and how to prepare to avoid them. Especially when you've divorcing a relentlessly difficult person, you need these particular insights we're sharing today.


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • Need to know things that make divorcing a narcissist different
  • Ways you can recognize that you're dealing with narcissism during a divorce (...just in case you weren't sure, right? lol)
  • Why preparation is particular important BEFORE you say you want a divorce
  • What preparation is required to divorce a narcissist
  • How to best shortcut the divorce process when a narcissist, a Hijackal, wants to make the divorce process last as long as possible
  • How to save money on legal bills in a divorce


FREE GIFT FROM JASON LEVOY:

ebook: Tips on How to Co-parent with an A-Hole GET IT HERE!


CONNECT WITH JASON LEVOY

Website: JasonLevoy.com

Twitter:  @JasonLevoy

Facebook: Facebook.com/YourDivorceResource

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/JasonLevoy

Instagram: Instagram.com/JasonLevoy


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

You can. CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #emotionalintimacy #divorcinganarcissist #difficultdivorce #saveonlegalbills

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Best divorce possible from a narcissistic Hijackal? Does such a thing exist? Stay tuned.


Yes, divorce is often messy, and definitely messier when there is a difficult person, or a toxic person involved, those people I call Hijackals®!


All divorces--in my opinion--go in two clear ways: one end is a Divisive Divorce, and the other end is the Collaborative Divorce. There is a third that takes in the benign, neutral space in the middle that some people wander in, too.


If you're divorcing--or, divorced from--a narcissist, a Hijackal, you're definitely going to be on the Divisive end. That's because Hijackals MUST win, and divorce doesn't feel like that. So, the Hijackal wants to win every way to Sunday IN the divorce. That creates divisiveness, for sure, and also pain, stress, anxiety, and too much uncertainty and chaos. Nasty, but true.


Listen to these suggestions I have in the first part of today's episode of Emotional Savvy, and see how you could move towards a more collaborative arrangement--IF you're not an ex of a Hijackal, that is!


GUEST: Jason Levoy, The Divorce Resource Guy, and former divorce attorney.


Jason Levoy aka The Divorce Resource Guy, is a former divorce attorney turned divorce coach who works with people who have attorneys, or are representing themselves to get through the divorce process as quickly as possible, without spending thousands of dollars wasting time.


Jason is the creator of DivorceU, the most comprehensive and affordable divorce resource on the internet.


In today's conversation, Jason and I discuss the pitfalls of divorce, and how to prepare to avoid them. Especially when you've divorcing a relentlessly difficult person, you need these particular insights we're sharing today.


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • Need to know things that make divorcing a narcissist different
  • Ways you can recognize that you're dealing with narcissism during a divorce (...just in case you weren't sure, right? lol)
  • Why preparation is particular important BEFORE you say you want a divorce
  • What preparation is required to divorce a narcissist
  • How to best shortcut the divorce process when a narcissist, a Hijackal, wants to make the divorce process last as long as possible
  • How to save money on legal bills in a divorce


FREE GIFT FROM JASON LEVOY:

ebook: Tips on How to Co-parent with an A-Hole GET IT HERE!


CONNECT WITH JASON LEVOY

Website: JasonLevoy.com

Twitter:  @JasonLevoy

Facebook: Facebook.com/YourDivorceResource

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/JasonLevoy

Instagram: Instagram.com/JasonLevoy


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

You can. CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #emotionalintimacy #divorcinganarcissist #difficultdivorce #saveonlegalbills

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<![CDATA[What's the Relationship Between Autoimmune Conditions & Emotional Well-being GUEST: Sharon Sayler]]> Wed, 05 Dec 2018 18:48:31 GMT 47:49 5c0818a1966b3d8d48aa5b6c no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/emotional-well-being-autoimmune-conditions-sharon-sayler full Do you think that there is a connection between what goes on in your emotional life and what goes on in your body?


You betcha!


Today's episode starts with me giving you some insights into the hows, whys, and benefits of creating uninterrupted time in your life frequently. Do you do that? Most people don't, so take this in. It can make a HUGE difference in your feeling of well-being!


When you have difficulties--especially chronic stress and anxiety--from being raised by, living with, or leaving toxic people, #Hijackals, you are likely to have health issues. When you're young, you may not notice the cumulative effects so much. You may be unhappy, irritable, or feeling defeated, but your body is more resilient...for awhile.


As you stay in these toxic relationships, or at least, don't fully realize the toll these relationships have on you, you may well begin to experience small breakdowns in your body. You lose energy, feel fatigued, and don't bounce back as you used to. That's the beginning of more difficulties to come...if you stay.


Often, when you go to the doctor and describe this general malaise, the doctor will tell you that it's all in your head. In a way, that's true because you are experiencing emotional issues from destructive relationships. But, you're not crazy, or mentally unstable.


It's true, though, that when these conditions persist, you feel like you're living in a fog, surrounded by pain, unable and unwilling to participate.fully in life. Sound familiar? Time to change your mind, and today's episode of Emotional Savvy will definitely help.


Today's we'll explore the connections between emotional well-being and physical well-being, between the damaging effects of unhealthy relationships and the potential for autoimmune conditions.


DISCLAIMER: Neither my guest, Sharon Sayler, nor I are medical doctors. We are talking about other people's research and our own anecdotal experiences with clients, listeners, and friends.


GUEST: Sharon Sayler, Producer and Host of The Autoimmune Hour on Life Interrupted and creator of UnderstandingAutoimmune.com


Sharon Sayler is an international bestselling author and speaker known as the difficult people whisperer, and is listed on GlobalGurus.org as one of the top 20 worldwide for body language.


She also happens to be the host of the #1 show on OMTimes Radio, The Autoimmune Hour, where she offers hope and help for those with autoimmune conditions. Her own experience dealing with a rare medical condition propelled her to create The AutoImmune Hour to support others to become informed, courageous, and powerful self-advocates as they turn life's traumas into transformations regardless of their diagnoses.


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • What is the connect between intention and physical health
  • How to think about what you think about that might need changing
  • Sharon's experience with her own medical journey
  • Compliance vs non-compliance as patients
  • The power of the mind and the decision to put yourself first
  • Taking powerful steps to improve autoimmune conditions


CONNECT WITH SHARON SAYLER

Website: UnderstandingAutoimmune.com

Twitter:  @SharonSayler

Facebook: Facebook.com/SharonSayler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/SharonSayler

Instagram: Instagram.com/SharonSayler


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

You can. CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #emotionalintimacy #autoimmunedisease #SharonSayler #understandingautoimmune

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Do you think that there is a connection between what goes on in your emotional life and what goes on in your body?


You betcha!


Today's episode starts with me giving you some insights into the hows, whys, and benefits of creating uninterrupted time in your life frequently. Do you do that? Most people don't, so take this in. It can make a HUGE difference in your feeling of well-being!


When you have difficulties--especially chronic stress and anxiety--from being raised by, living with, or leaving toxic people, #Hijackals, you are likely to have health issues. When you're young, you may not notice the cumulative effects so much. You may be unhappy, irritable, or feeling defeated, but your body is more resilient...for awhile.


As you stay in these toxic relationships, or at least, don't fully realize the toll these relationships have on you, you may well begin to experience small breakdowns in your body. You lose energy, feel fatigued, and don't bounce back as you used to. That's the beginning of more difficulties to come...if you stay.


Often, when you go to the doctor and describe this general malaise, the doctor will tell you that it's all in your head. In a way, that's true because you are experiencing emotional issues from destructive relationships. But, you're not crazy, or mentally unstable.


It's true, though, that when these conditions persist, you feel like you're living in a fog, surrounded by pain, unable and unwilling to participate.fully in life. Sound familiar? Time to change your mind, and today's episode of Emotional Savvy will definitely help.


Today's we'll explore the connections between emotional well-being and physical well-being, between the damaging effects of unhealthy relationships and the potential for autoimmune conditions.


DISCLAIMER: Neither my guest, Sharon Sayler, nor I are medical doctors. We are talking about other people's research and our own anecdotal experiences with clients, listeners, and friends.


GUEST: Sharon Sayler, Producer and Host of The Autoimmune Hour on Life Interrupted and creator of UnderstandingAutoimmune.com


Sharon Sayler is an international bestselling author and speaker known as the difficult people whisperer, and is listed on GlobalGurus.org as one of the top 20 worldwide for body language.


She also happens to be the host of the #1 show on OMTimes Radio, The Autoimmune Hour, where she offers hope and help for those with autoimmune conditions. Her own experience dealing with a rare medical condition propelled her to create The AutoImmune Hour to support others to become informed, courageous, and powerful self-advocates as they turn life's traumas into transformations regardless of their diagnoses.


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • What is the connect between intention and physical health
  • How to think about what you think about that might need changing
  • Sharon's experience with her own medical journey
  • Compliance vs non-compliance as patients
  • The power of the mind and the decision to put yourself first
  • Taking powerful steps to improve autoimmune conditions


CONNECT WITH SHARON SAYLER

Website: UnderstandingAutoimmune.com

Twitter:  @SharonSayler

Facebook: Facebook.com/SharonSayler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/SharonSayler

Instagram: Instagram.com/SharonSayler


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

You can. CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #emotionalintimacy #autoimmunedisease #SharonSayler #understandingautoimmune

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How to Create the Intimacy You Crave Without the Fear GUEST: Allana Pratt How to Create the Intimacy You Crave Without the Fear GUEST: Allana Pratt Tue, 27 Nov 2018 19:09:14 GMT 42:27 5bfd9068e14eb1200320eeb2 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/create-intimacy-without-fear-allana-pratt-rhoberta-shaler Intimacy. A bit scary? Sure. Learn how to open your heart without closing your mind. full 5 62 In today's episode, I'm talking about what it takes to get past the fear of intimacy that a past relationship has taught you. It happens so often, doesn't it?


You fall in love, and really trust someone. You are tell them your secrets, and share your vulnerabilities. You so want to have that one person you can share life with, warts and all. You want to believe you are safe.


Sometimes, you are safe, and it all works beautifully. It deepens, grows, and enriches over your time together.


Then, there are the times where you share deeply, and the other person uses what you said, turns your fears into weapons, and beats you with them in future arguments. Does that sound at all familiar?


You can recover from this nonsense, pain, and trepidation. Really! You can. I'll give you some hints, and so will today's guest.


GUEST: ALLANA PRATT, Intimacy Expert


Wow! So delighted to have Allana on Emotional Savvy! She's a delightful spirit and a lovely friend, as well as a colleague helping folks to grow past the pain.


Allana Pratt is an Intimacy Expert--on all levels. She inspires open-hearted, unapologetic living, and does it, as she says, "with delicious sass!" Her inspiring vulnerability and courage has landed her a featured weekly column on the GoodMenProject.com , featured as an Icon of Influence, and as guest expert on CBS, TLC, FOX, Forbes, People Magazine, and Huffington Post.


Were you wondering why to listen? After reading that, any questions...lol?


Allana is a cum laude graduate of Columbia University, and the author of four books. She hosts the empowering podcast, Intimate Conversations, with guests like Grammy-award winning Alanis Morissette. Allana is a certified coach, and was invited to work with Leeza Gibbons during Dancing with the Stars. With over 3.7 million viewers on YouTube, Allana is the go-to authority when struggling to trust again after a harsh breakup so followers can create hot, healthy, thriving intimate relationships.


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • What happened to Allana at 16 years old that changed everything
  • How to move towards vulnerable, honest, transparent relationships
  • Why Allana knows the Universe cares
  • How to live an unapologetic life after being with a #Hijackal
  • Why moving past the bad stuff is a choice and how you can make it
  • What can be learned from a nasty divorce, and difficult custody battle
  • Learning to trust yourself after divorce
  • Empowering yourself to live fully


CONNECT WITH ALLANA PRATT

Website: AllanaPratt.com

Twitter:  @AllanaPratt

Facebook: Facebook.com/CoachAllanaPratt

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/AllanaPratt

Instagram: Instagram.com/AllanaPratt


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®


WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

You can. CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #emotionalintimacy #fearofintimacy #AllanaPratt #intimacyexpert #intimaterelationships

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In today's episode, I'm talking about what it takes to get past the fear of intimacy that a past relationship has taught you. It happens so often, doesn't it?


You fall in love, and really trust someone. You are tell them your secrets, and share your vulnerabilities. You so want to have that one person you can share life with, warts and all. You want to believe you are safe.


Sometimes, you are safe, and it all works beautifully. It deepens, grows, and enriches over your time together.


Then, there are the times where you share deeply, and the other person uses what you said, turns your fears into weapons, and beats you with them in future arguments. Does that sound at all familiar?


You can recover from this nonsense, pain, and trepidation. Really! You can. I'll give you some hints, and so will today's guest.


GUEST: ALLANA PRATT, Intimacy Expert


Wow! So delighted to have Allana on Emotional Savvy! She's a delightful spirit and a lovely friend, as well as a colleague helping folks to grow past the pain.


Allana Pratt is an Intimacy Expert--on all levels. She inspires open-hearted, unapologetic living, and does it, as she says, "with delicious sass!" Her inspiring vulnerability and courage has landed her a featured weekly column on the GoodMenProject.com , featured as an Icon of Influence, and as guest expert on CBS, TLC, FOX, Forbes, People Magazine, and Huffington Post.


Were you wondering why to listen? After reading that, any questions...lol?


Allana is a cum laude graduate of Columbia University, and the author of four books. She hosts the empowering podcast, Intimate Conversations, with guests like Grammy-award winning Alanis Morissette. Allana is a certified coach, and was invited to work with Leeza Gibbons during Dancing with the Stars. With over 3.7 million viewers on YouTube, Allana is the go-to authority when struggling to trust again after a harsh breakup so followers can create hot, healthy, thriving intimate relationships.


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • What happened to Allana at 16 years old that changed everything
  • How to move towards vulnerable, honest, transparent relationships
  • Why Allana knows the Universe cares
  • How to live an unapologetic life after being with a #Hijackal
  • Why moving past the bad stuff is a choice and how you can make it
  • What can be learned from a nasty divorce, and difficult custody battle
  • Learning to trust yourself after divorce
  • Empowering yourself to live fully


CONNECT WITH ALLANA PRATT

Website: AllanaPratt.com

Twitter:  @AllanaPratt

Facebook: Facebook.com/CoachAllanaPratt

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/AllanaPratt

Instagram: Instagram.com/AllanaPratt


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®


WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

You can. CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #emotionalintimacy #fearofintimacy #AllanaPratt #intimacyexpert #intimaterelationships

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<![CDATA[Great Relationships Require Trust. How Can You Build & Rebuild it? GUEST: Scott Schilling]]> Tue, 13 Nov 2018 22:04:57 GMT 45:08 5beb1c1e5ec61c100dbb4452 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/build-trust-rebuild-trust-scott-schilling-emotional-savvy full 5 61 In today's episode, I'm talking about what you really need to have if you want a great relationship.


If you have the ingredients, you can put them into the relationship. If you're missing them within yourself, and you go looking for them in another, you won't be able to have the relationship you know you want. You've heard me say many times that you cannot give a gift you do not have. That applies to relationships, too. What you put into it is so important.


How have your past relationships taken a toll on your current one? I give an example of a couple I worked with and how this was the biggest issue between them. Yay! We resolved it. You'll want to hear this, and understand more fully what might be going on in your relationship.


Blame? No, that doesn't work. You know that. You don't like to be blamed, so that means you don't blame others, right? Oops! Learn more about this, too, in today's episode.


(If you enjoy this topic, please go to my show page on Facebook and let me know, or leave feedback or ask questions about any topic I've covered there. I'll see it, and respond. I promise. Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpShow )


GUEST: SCOTT SCHILLING, The Significance Expert and Co-Founder of YouPlus1


Scott Schilling has achieved the pinnacle of success within the speaking, training and business coaching industries having achieved the top platforms worldwide sharing the stage with likes of General Colin Powell, Suze Orman and many more. He has personally closed millions of dollars in business, while helping clients grow their businesses closing hundreds of millions. He has helped countless numbers of people find success within their businesses, and passions. 


Scott’s reach spans the globe and his time is sought after by people all around the world. Scott reminds us that,


"Legacy is not what you have accumulated throughout your life to leave behind once you pass...it should be what you are known for as you live!"


Today, I'm engaging Scott in a conversation about trust. Scott says,


"Relationships take time, energy, and investment. In order to truly create a prosperous relationship, others must know, like and trust you. Because we live in an immediate gratification society, many people are not willing to put in the time, energy or investment to earn others trust. Trust is hard to earn and easily lost...but it is imperative that others trust you to have a true relationship."


This is a very in-depth conversation. Get yourself a cup of something warm, and settle in for a deep listen! 


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • What can you do when trust is broken
  • New thoughts on why trust is so critical to relationships
  • What congruence has to do with rebuilding relationships
  • How feedback can be used to improve relationships
  • Getting clear within yourself to have the relationship you want
  • What Scott Schilling learned from Talking with Giants and what you can, too.



CONNECT WITH SCOTT SCHILLING

Website: ScottSchilling.com

Twitter:  https://twitter.com/ScottSchilling8

Facebook: Facebook.com/ScottSchilling8

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/ScottSchilling8

Instagram: https://instagram.com/ScottSchilling8


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®


WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

You can. CLICK HERE


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #emotionalintimacy #healingtrauma #buildingtrust #ScottSchilling

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In today's episode, I'm talking about what you really need to have if you want a great relationship.


If you have the ingredients, you can put them into the relationship. If you're missing them within yourself, and you go looking for them in another, you won't be able to have the relationship you know you want. You've heard me say many times that you cannot give a gift you do not have. That applies to relationships, too. What you put into it is so important.


How have your past relationships taken a toll on your current one? I give an example of a couple I worked with and how this was the biggest issue between them. Yay! We resolved it. You'll want to hear this, and understand more fully what might be going on in your relationship.


Blame? No, that doesn't work. You know that. You don't like to be blamed, so that means you don't blame others, right? Oops! Learn more about this, too, in today's episode.


(If you enjoy this topic, please go to my show page on Facebook and let me know, or leave feedback or ask questions about any topic I've covered there. I'll see it, and respond. I promise. Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpShow )


GUEST: SCOTT SCHILLING, The Significance Expert and Co-Founder of YouPlus1


Scott Schilling has achieved the pinnacle of success within the speaking, training and business coaching industries having achieved the top platforms worldwide sharing the stage with likes of General Colin Powell, Suze Orman and many more. He has personally closed millions of dollars in business, while helping clients grow their businesses closing hundreds of millions. He has helped countless numbers of people find success within their businesses, and passions. 


Scott’s reach spans the globe and his time is sought after by people all around the world. Scott reminds us that,


"Legacy is not what you have accumulated throughout your life to leave behind once you pass...it should be what you are known for as you live!"


Today, I'm engaging Scott in a conversation about trust. Scott says,


"Relationships take time, energy, and investment. In order to truly create a prosperous relationship, others must know, like and trust you. Because we live in an immediate gratification society, many people are not willing to put in the time, energy or investment to earn others trust. Trust is hard to earn and easily lost...but it is imperative that others trust you to have a true relationship."


This is a very in-depth conversation. Get yourself a cup of something warm, and settle in for a deep listen! 


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • What can you do when trust is broken
  • New thoughts on why trust is so critical to relationships
  • What congruence has to do with rebuilding relationships
  • How feedback can be used to improve relationships
  • Getting clear within yourself to have the relationship you want
  • What Scott Schilling learned from Talking with Giants and what you can, too.



CONNECT WITH SCOTT SCHILLING

Website: ScottSchilling.com

Twitter:  https://twitter.com/ScottSchilling8

Facebook: Facebook.com/ScottSchilling8

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/ScottSchilling8

Instagram: https://instagram.com/ScottSchilling8


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®


WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

You can. CLICK HERE


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #emotionalintimacy #healingtrauma #buildingtrust #ScottSchilling

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<![CDATA[Speaking Up! Escaping Domestic Abuse: What It Takes & Why It Takes So Long GUEST: Mickie Zada ]]> Wed, 07 Nov 2018 01:59:08 GMT 45:08 5be1e3c2368262e06d1e359e no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/speaking-up-escaping-domestic-abuse-mickie-zada full In today's episode, I give you some new perspectives--and effective words to say--when people treat you in ways you do not appreciate.


For many listeners, "ways I do not appreciate" usually come from one particular person, a #Hijackal®. Whether that is true for you or not, you want to feel and be confident that you can trust yourself to speak up when someone says something rude, wrong, or abusive, without concern that you will turn into a blaming, shaming, or abusive person yourself. That's the goal of my segment today.


Learning to respond from your best self rather than lose it and react is a skill! The ideas I've shared here really work. I hope you find them useful immediately for dealing with unexpected hostility, rudeness, and the desire of a Hijackal to squish you like a gnat!


(If you enjoy this topic, please go to my show page on Facebook and let me know, or leave feedback or ask questions about any topic I've covered there. I'll see it, and respond. I promise. Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpShow )


GUEST: MICKIE ZADA, Advocate for women who have escaped emotional abuse.


Mickie Zada, lived in domestic abuse for thirty-four years. In spite of enduring emotional, financial, and physical abuse, for twenty-three years she pretended her life was "normal." Even after admitting her reality, it took eleven more years to leave.


Mickie got help from both an experienced counselor, and a psychologist who understood the issues and depth of domestic abuse, who realized and recognized the verbal abuse, emotional abuse, AND the domestic abuse she lived with. She wisely gave herself five years of time to gather, embrace, and apply personal growth insights, understanding that, if she didn't change, she would return to her abuser or attract another abuser.


Sixteen years later, Mickie is now a content creator, catalyst, and advocate for women who have escaped domestic abuse. Her business, Surviving Abuse Network, includes weekly podcasts, live videos, and articles created to support and inspire women who have escaped.


Mickie's first book, Looking Behind Closed Doors: Domestic Abuse - If You Don't Change, Nothing Changes, is available on Kindle through Amazon


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • Why it took so long to believe it was abuse
  • What to do when the thought that you've allowed this to happen paralyzes you
  • The important of a "getaway" plan
  • How Mickie created that "getaway" plan
  • What to do when you're so afraid of your abuser
  • Why it's not a good idea to broadcast the idea that you're leaving to your abuser, or to anyone who will tell him or her



CONNECT WITH MICKIE ZADA

Website: SurvivingAbuseNetwork.com

Twitter: https://twitter.com/mickie_Zada

Facebook: Facebook.com/SurvivingAbuseNetwork

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/mickiezada

Instagram: https://instagram.com/mickie.survivingabusenetwork


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®


NEWFINDING MY CONTENT USEFUL? SUPPORT MY WORK ON PATREON AND GET FURTHER GREAT BENEFITS

...like access to a Secret Facebook Group, my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy program, and monthly "Ask Me Anything" calls.

Patreon.com/RhobertaShaler


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #leadership #Hijackals #narcissisticabuse #healingtrauma #survivingabusenetwork #speakingup

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In today's episode, I give you some new perspectives--and effective words to say--when people treat you in ways you do not appreciate.


For many listeners, "ways I do not appreciate" usually come from one particular person, a #Hijackal®. Whether that is true for you or not, you want to feel and be confident that you can trust yourself to speak up when someone says something rude, wrong, or abusive, without concern that you will turn into a blaming, shaming, or abusive person yourself. That's the goal of my segment today.


Learning to respond from your best self rather than lose it and react is a skill! The ideas I've shared here really work. I hope you find them useful immediately for dealing with unexpected hostility, rudeness, and the desire of a Hijackal to squish you like a gnat!


(If you enjoy this topic, please go to my show page on Facebook and let me know, or leave feedback or ask questions about any topic I've covered there. I'll see it, and respond. I promise. Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpShow )


GUEST: MICKIE ZADA, Advocate for women who have escaped emotional abuse.


Mickie Zada, lived in domestic abuse for thirty-four years. In spite of enduring emotional, financial, and physical abuse, for twenty-three years she pretended her life was "normal." Even after admitting her reality, it took eleven more years to leave.


Mickie got help from both an experienced counselor, and a psychologist who understood the issues and depth of domestic abuse, who realized and recognized the verbal abuse, emotional abuse, AND the domestic abuse she lived with. She wisely gave herself five years of time to gather, embrace, and apply personal growth insights, understanding that, if she didn't change, she would return to her abuser or attract another abuser.


Sixteen years later, Mickie is now a content creator, catalyst, and advocate for women who have escaped domestic abuse. Her business, Surviving Abuse Network, includes weekly podcasts, live videos, and articles created to support and inspire women who have escaped.


Mickie's first book, Looking Behind Closed Doors: Domestic Abuse - If You Don't Change, Nothing Changes, is available on Kindle through Amazon


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • Why it took so long to believe it was abuse
  • What to do when the thought that you've allowed this to happen paralyzes you
  • The important of a "getaway" plan
  • How Mickie created that "getaway" plan
  • What to do when you're so afraid of your abuser
  • Why it's not a good idea to broadcast the idea that you're leaving to your abuser, or to anyone who will tell him or her



CONNECT WITH MICKIE ZADA

Website: SurvivingAbuseNetwork.com

Twitter: https://twitter.com/mickie_Zada

Facebook: Facebook.com/SurvivingAbuseNetwork

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/mickiezada

Instagram: https://instagram.com/mickie.survivingabusenetwork


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®


NEWFINDING MY CONTENT USEFUL? SUPPORT MY WORK ON PATREON AND GET FURTHER GREAT BENEFITS

...like access to a Secret Facebook Group, my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy program, and monthly "Ask Me Anything" calls.

Patreon.com/RhobertaShaler


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #leadership #Hijackals #narcissisticabuse #healingtrauma #survivingabusenetwork #speakingup

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What About Mediation? And, Debunking Divorce As Failing or Not Good For the Kids GUEST: Anthony Diaz What About Mediation? And, Debunking Divorce As Failing or Not Good For the Kids GUEST: Anthony Diaz Wed, 31 Oct 2018 01:52:35 GMT 51:57 5bd8e048a0f2bd0d34400533 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/about-mediation-debunking-divorce-as-failing-anthony-diaz full 5 59 In today's episode, I give you five solid reasons why mediation is a good choice...and, why it may not work well with a #Hijackal! There are several important things to know about mediation. Some folks don't know about them, and I wanted to be sure you did. It's important when deciding how to proceed to resolve differences in partnerships of any kind, and relationships of all kinds.


I've mediated in workplace settings, in primary family relationships, with estranged sisters in two parts of the country, with parents who have been alienated from their children for quite a while, and, of course, I've mediated many, many divorces. And, mediation is, in my opinion, the best way to go when both parties want a fair--or, even somewhat fair--settlement so they can move on with life with less stress and angst.


Things can go well, or go south, though, when mediating where one person is a relentlessly difficult person. No surprise, right?


Enjoy this segment, and learn why mediation may be the best first strategy for you.


(If you enjoy this topic, please go to my show page on Facebook and let me know, or leave feedback or ask questions about any topic I've covered there. I'll see it, and respond. I promise. Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpShow )


GUEST: ANTHONY DIAZ, THE PEACE CATALYST


Anthony Diaz, Esq. is a family law attorney and mediator specializing in resolving disputes easily, effortlessly, and amicably. In his practice, he is known as the Peacemaker. He is also a Licensed Practitioner with the Centers of Spiritual Living. As a coach, attorney, and mediator, Anthony utilizes his spiritual practices to guide others from pain to peace. He is also an international speaker whose passion, mission, and purpose are to help those in pain to move on from their divorce with dignity to co-create the life they were meant to live.


Your kids are watching! You know that, and I'm sure it worries you when you and your partner are often arguing, or worse, right? One big thing a parent has to always keep in mind is, that even at your worst moments, you are being a model for your children. We talk about that today. It's a big deal!


What about the practical things? Like coming to agree, or not? What can you expect? Anthony gives you the inside look at mediation, and what you can expect, realistically. Of course, sometimes, things just don't get resolved, and we talk about that, too.



HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • Why being a model for your children needs to be a high-priority conscious act
  • What to do in the face of resistance
  • How do you choose between attorney's and a mediator
  • Is it "spiritual" to divorce?
  • How you can know if it's time to quit a relationship
  • What is Collaborative Divorce?



CONNECT WITH ANTHONY DIAZ

Website: AnthonyJDiaz.com

Twitter:  @The1PeaceMaker

Facebook: Facebook.com/AJDCPA

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/the1peacemaker

Instagram: Instagram.com/the1peace_maker


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


NEWFINDING MY CONTENT USEFUL? SUPPORT MY WORK ON PATREON AND GET FURTHER GREAT BENEFITS

...like access to a Secret Facebook Group, my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy program, and monthly "Ask Me Anything" calls.

Patreon.com/RhobertaShaler


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #leadership #Hijackals #narcissisticabuse #healingtrauma #mediation #AnthonyJDiaz

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In today's episode, I give you five solid reasons why mediation is a good choice...and, why it may not work well with a #Hijackal! There are several important things to know about mediation. Some folks don't know about them, and I wanted to be sure you did. It's important when deciding how to proceed to resolve differences in partnerships of any kind, and relationships of all kinds.


I've mediated in workplace settings, in primary family relationships, with estranged sisters in two parts of the country, with parents who have been alienated from their children for quite a while, and, of course, I've mediated many, many divorces. And, mediation is, in my opinion, the best way to go when both parties want a fair--or, even somewhat fair--settlement so they can move on with life with less stress and angst.


Things can go well, or go south, though, when mediating where one person is a relentlessly difficult person. No surprise, right?


Enjoy this segment, and learn why mediation may be the best first strategy for you.


(If you enjoy this topic, please go to my show page on Facebook and let me know, or leave feedback or ask questions about any topic I've covered there. I'll see it, and respond. I promise. Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpShow )


GUEST: ANTHONY DIAZ, THE PEACE CATALYST


Anthony Diaz, Esq. is a family law attorney and mediator specializing in resolving disputes easily, effortlessly, and amicably. In his practice, he is known as the Peacemaker. He is also a Licensed Practitioner with the Centers of Spiritual Living. As a coach, attorney, and mediator, Anthony utilizes his spiritual practices to guide others from pain to peace. He is also an international speaker whose passion, mission, and purpose are to help those in pain to move on from their divorce with dignity to co-create the life they were meant to live.


Your kids are watching! You know that, and I'm sure it worries you when you and your partner are often arguing, or worse, right? One big thing a parent has to always keep in mind is, that even at your worst moments, you are being a model for your children. We talk about that today. It's a big deal!


What about the practical things? Like coming to agree, or not? What can you expect? Anthony gives you the inside look at mediation, and what you can expect, realistically. Of course, sometimes, things just don't get resolved, and we talk about that, too.



HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • Why being a model for your children needs to be a high-priority conscious act
  • What to do in the face of resistance
  • How do you choose between attorney's and a mediator
  • Is it "spiritual" to divorce?
  • How you can know if it's time to quit a relationship
  • What is Collaborative Divorce?



CONNECT WITH ANTHONY DIAZ

Website: AnthonyJDiaz.com

Twitter:  @The1PeaceMaker

Facebook: Facebook.com/AJDCPA

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/the1peacemaker

Instagram: Instagram.com/the1peace_maker


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


NEWFINDING MY CONTENT USEFUL? SUPPORT MY WORK ON PATREON AND GET FURTHER GREAT BENEFITS

...like access to a Secret Facebook Group, my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy program, and monthly "Ask Me Anything" calls.

Patreon.com/RhobertaShaler


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #leadership #Hijackals #narcissisticabuse #healingtrauma #mediation #AnthonyJDiaz

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<![CDATA[Finding Yourself Again After Trauma, Grief & Loss GUEST: Dr. Sherry Cormier]]> Wed, 24 Oct 2018 03:27:48 GMT 53:02 5bcf7b30ce19a954167223c7 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/overcoming-trauma-grief-loss-dr-sherry-cormier full 5 58 In today's episode, I talk about steps you can take to manage the pain of trauma or loss. You've experienced these things, no matter when in your life they occurred. Until you work them through, they will interfere with your health and the health of your current relationships, as well as with your perspective on life.


You don't want to be carrying past issues into current relationships. That's often a primary cause of marriages not working: partners bring the pains of previous relationships, and are on guard for them showing up in the new relationship. That's not helpful to getting the love, respect, trust, and support you want in life!


Consider these steps I outline in today's episode to find emotional freedom to engage in the present. It will help you heal.


(If you enjoy this topic, please go to my show page on Facebook and let me know, or leave feedback or ask questions about any topic I've covered there. I'll see it, and respond. I promise. Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpShow )



GUEST: Dr. Sherry Cormier, Psychologist and Professor Emerita at West Virginia University, author of Author of Sweet Sorrow: Finding Enduring Wholeness After Loss and Grief


Dr. Sherry Cormier is a licensed psychologist and Professor Emerita in the Department of Counseling, Rehabilitation Counseling, and Counseling Psychology at West Virginia University. She was in private practice in adult psychotherapy in Morgantown, WV, and was a former faculty member at the University of Tennessee. She is a certified bereavement trauma specialist, the author of two textbooks, and lives now in a Chesapeake Bay community where she engages in public speaking, training, and consulting.


Wow! Dr. Sherry brings a great deal of experience and expertise to today's conversation!


Clearly, what's trauma to one person can be trivial to another. That's what makes it difficult. Each person has a different home life growing up, different experiences, and different nervous systems, too. That's why communication in primary relationships is SO important: you need to understand where each other is coming from--and WANT to understand!


Dr. Sherry Cormier wrote this:


"1. There is a continuum of grief and loss elicits many emotions. At the more severe end, loss can be traumatic and can become complicated grief and require professional treatment.

2. Loss is a universal human experience; our reactions to it vary greatly and depend upon what and whom we lost. If we lost someone precious to us, as I did, we learn that death is a transition not a disappearance.

3. To heal from traumatic loss, we have to re establish attachment bonds and make connections with a tribe or social network that can provide support and comfort."


When you experience trauma, grief, or loss, you need to be able to gauge what's going on within you or the other person. That happens by reflecting on what you know about them, who you know them to be, and your willingness to communicate with them.


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • What to do when you "can't get it out of your head" or "cannot believe it is gone"
  • Know how to gauge if your grieving process is healthy
  • How to know if you need professional help
  • What the difference is between secure attachment and insecure attachment and why it matters
  • The components of resilience
  • How to recognize and overcome the isolation of grief



CONNECT WITH DR. SHERRY CORMIER

Website: SherryCormierAuthor.com

Twitter:  

Facebook: Facebook.com/sherry.cormier.9

LinkedIn:

Instagram: Instagram.com/Cormier1749


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


NEWFINDING MY CONTENT USEFUL? SUPPORT MY WORK ON PATREON AND GET FURTHER GREAT BENEFITS

...like access to a Secret Facebook Group, my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy program, and monthly "Ask Me Anything" calls.

Patreon.com/RhobertaShaler


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #leadership #Hijackals #overcominggrief #bereavement #narcissisticabuse #healingtrauma

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In today's episode, I talk about steps you can take to manage the pain of trauma or loss. You've experienced these things, no matter when in your life they occurred. Until you work them through, they will interfere with your health and the health of your current relationships, as well as with your perspective on life.


You don't want to be carrying past issues into current relationships. That's often a primary cause of marriages not working: partners bring the pains of previous relationships, and are on guard for them showing up in the new relationship. That's not helpful to getting the love, respect, trust, and support you want in life!


Consider these steps I outline in today's episode to find emotional freedom to engage in the present. It will help you heal.


(If you enjoy this topic, please go to my show page on Facebook and let me know, or leave feedback or ask questions about any topic I've covered there. I'll see it, and respond. I promise. Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpShow )



GUEST: Dr. Sherry Cormier, Psychologist and Professor Emerita at West Virginia University, author of Author of Sweet Sorrow: Finding Enduring Wholeness After Loss and Grief


Dr. Sherry Cormier is a licensed psychologist and Professor Emerita in the Department of Counseling, Rehabilitation Counseling, and Counseling Psychology at West Virginia University. She was in private practice in adult psychotherapy in Morgantown, WV, and was a former faculty member at the University of Tennessee. She is a certified bereavement trauma specialist, the author of two textbooks, and lives now in a Chesapeake Bay community where she engages in public speaking, training, and consulting.


Wow! Dr. Sherry brings a great deal of experience and expertise to today's conversation!


Clearly, what's trauma to one person can be trivial to another. That's what makes it difficult. Each person has a different home life growing up, different experiences, and different nervous systems, too. That's why communication in primary relationships is SO important: you need to understand where each other is coming from--and WANT to understand!


Dr. Sherry Cormier wrote this:


"1. There is a continuum of grief and loss elicits many emotions. At the more severe end, loss can be traumatic and can become complicated grief and require professional treatment.

2. Loss is a universal human experience; our reactions to it vary greatly and depend upon what and whom we lost. If we lost someone precious to us, as I did, we learn that death is a transition not a disappearance.

3. To heal from traumatic loss, we have to re establish attachment bonds and make connections with a tribe or social network that can provide support and comfort."


When you experience trauma, grief, or loss, you need to be able to gauge what's going on within you or the other person. That happens by reflecting on what you know about them, who you know them to be, and your willingness to communicate with them.


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • What to do when you "can't get it out of your head" or "cannot believe it is gone"
  • Know how to gauge if your grieving process is healthy
  • How to know if you need professional help
  • What the difference is between secure attachment and insecure attachment and why it matters
  • The components of resilience
  • How to recognize and overcome the isolation of grief



CONNECT WITH DR. SHERRY CORMIER

Website: SherryCormierAuthor.com

Twitter:  

Facebook: Facebook.com/sherry.cormier.9

LinkedIn:

Instagram: Instagram.com/Cormier1749


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


NEWFINDING MY CONTENT USEFUL? SUPPORT MY WORK ON PATREON AND GET FURTHER GREAT BENEFITS

...like access to a Secret Facebook Group, my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy program, and monthly "Ask Me Anything" calls.

Patreon.com/RhobertaShaler


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #leadership #Hijackals #overcominggrief #bereavement #narcissisticabuse #healingtrauma

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<![CDATA[Believe Behavior! Why Narcissists Exploit & Laugh at Your Vulnerabilities GUEST - Kim Saeed]]> Tue, 16 Oct 2018 19:23:43 GMT 42:20 5bc4e3199fce11593ebfa189 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/believe-behavior-narcissists-vulnerability-kim-saeed full 5 57 In today's episode, I talk about something that is SO important to keep top of mind.


Too many people readily believe the words a person speaks, even when their behavior is screaming the opposite. Why do they do that? Why do you? It's an interesting, though detrimental, habit.


Yes, it's a habit, one that you learned as a child. Today, I give you some very good reasons why it is not serving you--or your relationships--well, and what to replace it with. This can change EVERYTHING in the way you approach life, too.


You may not want to believe it's true, but IT IS!


Get this one right down to your toes, and your life will be SO much better. I promise!


(If you enjoy this topic, please go to my show page on Facebook and let me know, or leave feedback or ask questions about any topic I've covered there. I'll see it, and respond. I promise. Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpShow )


GUEST: KimSaeed of LetMeReach.com


Kim Saeed is an internationally respected self-help author and educator specializing in recovery and rebuilding after toxic relationships. She is the founder of Let Me Reach, a life transformation site that teaches people to flourish after narcissistic abuse.


Kim is the author of the Kindle bestseller, How to Do No Contact Like a Boss! and is currently writing an upcoming book, The Way of the Warrior.


"During the detox from a toxic relationship, it's very common for those in recover to ruminate obsessively over their EX and the events that led to the disintegration of the relationships. This results from addiction to the reward-and-punishment peptides that the victim's brain formed during the course of the relationship.


Obsessive thinking is often the result of your subconscious mind's attempt to re-abuse you in the absence of your toxic partner, simply in order to get those peptides flowing again." ~ from Kim's ebook, How to Do No Contact Like a Boss.


And, why do Hijackals® exploit you, and laugh at you, especially after you've shared a vulnerability? Listen in, and learn a new way.


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • Learn three kinds of empathy that can help with understanding the Hijackal behavior
  • How Hijackals learn what to do to get what they want from you
  • Why Hijackals are scornful of your vulnerabilities--even though they encourage you to share them
  • What the biggest misconceptions about Hijackals--including those narcissists--is



KIM SAEED'S GIFT FOR YOU: The Beginner's Healing Toolkit GET IT HERE!


CONNECT WITH KIM SAEED

Website: LetMeReach.com

Twitter:  @KimSaeed

Facebook: Facebook.com/LetMeReachwithKimSaeed

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


NEWFINDING MY CONTENT USEFUL? SUPPORT MY WORK ON PATREON AND GET FURTHER GREAT BENEFITS

...like access to a Secret Facebook Group, my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy program, and monthly "Ask Me Anything" calls.

Patreon.com/RhobertaShaler


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #leadership #Hijackals #listeningtoyourintuition #angels #intuitiveleadership #KimSaeed #exploitingvulnerabilities #narcissisticabuse

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In today's episode, I talk about something that is SO important to keep top of mind.


Too many people readily believe the words a person speaks, even when their behavior is screaming the opposite. Why do they do that? Why do you? It's an interesting, though detrimental, habit.


Yes, it's a habit, one that you learned as a child. Today, I give you some very good reasons why it is not serving you--or your relationships--well, and what to replace it with. This can change EVERYTHING in the way you approach life, too.


You may not want to believe it's true, but IT IS!


Get this one right down to your toes, and your life will be SO much better. I promise!


(If you enjoy this topic, please go to my show page on Facebook and let me know, or leave feedback or ask questions about any topic I've covered there. I'll see it, and respond. I promise. Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpShow )


GUEST: KimSaeed of LetMeReach.com


Kim Saeed is an internationally respected self-help author and educator specializing in recovery and rebuilding after toxic relationships. She is the founder of Let Me Reach, a life transformation site that teaches people to flourish after narcissistic abuse.


Kim is the author of the Kindle bestseller, How to Do No Contact Like a Boss! and is currently writing an upcoming book, The Way of the Warrior.


"During the detox from a toxic relationship, it's very common for those in recover to ruminate obsessively over their EX and the events that led to the disintegration of the relationships. This results from addiction to the reward-and-punishment peptides that the victim's brain formed during the course of the relationship.


Obsessive thinking is often the result of your subconscious mind's attempt to re-abuse you in the absence of your toxic partner, simply in order to get those peptides flowing again." ~ from Kim's ebook, How to Do No Contact Like a Boss.


And, why do Hijackals® exploit you, and laugh at you, especially after you've shared a vulnerability? Listen in, and learn a new way.


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • Learn three kinds of empathy that can help with understanding the Hijackal behavior
  • How Hijackals learn what to do to get what they want from you
  • Why Hijackals are scornful of your vulnerabilities--even though they encourage you to share them
  • What the biggest misconceptions about Hijackals--including those narcissists--is



KIM SAEED'S GIFT FOR YOU: The Beginner's Healing Toolkit GET IT HERE!


CONNECT WITH KIM SAEED

Website: LetMeReach.com

Twitter:  @KimSaeed

Facebook: Facebook.com/LetMeReachwithKimSaeed

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


NEWFINDING MY CONTENT USEFUL? SUPPORT MY WORK ON PATREON AND GET FURTHER GREAT BENEFITS

...like access to a Secret Facebook Group, my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy program, and monthly "Ask Me Anything" calls.

Patreon.com/RhobertaShaler


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #leadership #Hijackals #listeningtoyourintuition #angels #intuitiveleadership #KimSaeed #exploitingvulnerabilities #narcissisticabuse

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Are You Spiritually-Minded? What About Intuition? GUEST - Terry Wildemann Are You Spiritually-Minded? What About Intuition? GUEST - Terry Wildemann Tue, 09 Oct 2018 14:00:36 GMT 43:48 5bbc1d667534f3d911c173b4 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/spiritually-minded-intuition-leaders-angels-terry-wildemann Having Emotional Savvy means understanding yourself physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. You cannot separate these out. Today, we talk about the connection between the mind and what we can create. It applies to relationships, too! full 5 56 In today's episode, DR. RHOBERTA SHALER asks: "Are you spiritually-minded?"


Being spiritually-minded is not simply having an interest in spiritual things. It's much more than that.


Are you basing your thinking on the spiritual principles you hold dear? That's the real question.


What about the mind? Your mind? Can you point to it? Can it be surgically isolated? Even though you cannot indicate its physical whereabouts, you do understand that you have a mind, or, more precisely, that you use one. It's more than your brain, isn't it?


Your mind is creative. When I wrote my book, What You Pay Attention to Expands, I was writing about the very things I'm introducing into the conversation today on Emotional Savvy. It's impossible to have a "mind by-pass" so it's important to think about how you're using your mind every day.


In today's episode, as something completely new, I talk about the difference between the objective, conscious mind, and the subjective, sub-conscious mind. An introduction.


If you enjoy this topic, please go to my show page on Facebook and let me know, or leave feedback or ask questions about any topic I've covered there. I'll see it, and respond. I promise. Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpShow


GUEST: Terry Wildemann, of IntuitiveLeadership.com


Terry Wildemann is a high performance coach, helping socially conscious small business owners and leaders to accelerate their businesses with intuition, speed, and ease. She's know for the speed with which she helps her clients achieve results, and the ease with which they do it. No more burning out, she says. No more spinning your wheels. No more wondering how to grow your business quickly.


So, what's this talk of intuition, angels, and other spiritual ideas? Terry uses all these in the effective work she does with clients. As you listen, you'll clearly see how she integrates and intertwines these ideas with high-level business and interpersonal practices to create success.


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • What's the difference between intuition and guidance?
  • Why is intuition important in business?
  • Does everyone have it?
  • What stops people from using intuition?
  • What is the relevance of intuition to leadership?
  • How does that apply in your own life?



TERRY WILDEMANN'S FREE GIFT FOR YOU: Use this technique to shift into your heart and get grounded in the moment. Gift is available in both English and Spanish QuickShiftZone.com


CONNECT WITH TERRY WILDEMANN

Website: IntuitiveLeadership.com

Twitter:  @TerryWildemann

Facebook: Facebook.com/TerryWildemann

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/TerryWildemann


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


NEW! FINDING MY CONTENT USEFUL? SUPPORT MY WORK ON PATREON AND GET FURTHER GREAT BENEFITS

...like access to a Secret Facebook Group, my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy program, and monthly "Ask Me Anything" calls.

Patreon.com/RhobertaShaler


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #leadership #Hijackals #listeningtoyourintuition #angels #intuitiveleadership

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In today's episode, DR. RHOBERTA SHALER asks: "Are you spiritually-minded?"


Being spiritually-minded is not simply having an interest in spiritual things. It's much more than that.


Are you basing your thinking on the spiritual principles you hold dear? That's the real question.


What about the mind? Your mind? Can you point to it? Can it be surgically isolated? Even though you cannot indicate its physical whereabouts, you do understand that you have a mind, or, more precisely, that you use one. It's more than your brain, isn't it?


Your mind is creative. When I wrote my book, What You Pay Attention to Expands, I was writing about the very things I'm introducing into the conversation today on Emotional Savvy. It's impossible to have a "mind by-pass" so it's important to think about how you're using your mind every day.


In today's episode, as something completely new, I talk about the difference between the objective, conscious mind, and the subjective, sub-conscious mind. An introduction.


If you enjoy this topic, please go to my show page on Facebook and let me know, or leave feedback or ask questions about any topic I've covered there. I'll see it, and respond. I promise. Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpShow


GUEST: Terry Wildemann, of IntuitiveLeadership.com


Terry Wildemann is a high performance coach, helping socially conscious small business owners and leaders to accelerate their businesses with intuition, speed, and ease. She's know for the speed with which she helps her clients achieve results, and the ease with which they do it. No more burning out, she says. No more spinning your wheels. No more wondering how to grow your business quickly.


So, what's this talk of intuition, angels, and other spiritual ideas? Terry uses all these in the effective work she does with clients. As you listen, you'll clearly see how she integrates and intertwines these ideas with high-level business and interpersonal practices to create success.


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • What's the difference between intuition and guidance?
  • Why is intuition important in business?
  • Does everyone have it?
  • What stops people from using intuition?
  • What is the relevance of intuition to leadership?
  • How does that apply in your own life?



TERRY WILDEMANN'S FREE GIFT FOR YOU: Use this technique to shift into your heart and get grounded in the moment. Gift is available in both English and Spanish QuickShiftZone.com


CONNECT WITH TERRY WILDEMANN

Website: IntuitiveLeadership.com

Twitter:  @TerryWildemann

Facebook: Facebook.com/TerryWildemann

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/TerryWildemann


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


NEW! FINDING MY CONTENT USEFUL? SUPPORT MY WORK ON PATREON AND GET FURTHER GREAT BENEFITS

...like access to a Secret Facebook Group, my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy program, and monthly "Ask Me Anything" calls.

Patreon.com/RhobertaShaler


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #leadership #Hijackals #listeningtoyourintuition #angels #intuitiveleadership

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The Impact of Emotional Abuse on Children and The Adults They Become. GUEST: Dr. Jonice Webb The Impact of Emotional Abuse on Children and The Adults They Become. GUEST: Dr. Jonice Webb Wed, 03 Oct 2018 04:57:07 GMT 41:23 5bb4463d2ca97e344b1f3cc8 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/childhood-emotional-abuse-jonice-webb full 5 55 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


UNDERSTANDING THE IMPACT OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE AND NEGLECT ON CHILDREN...AND ON THE ADULTS THEY BECOME.


GUEST: DR. JONICE WEBB, Author of the first book written on Childhood Emotional Neglect ( CEN )


In today's episode, DR. RHOBERTA SHALER asks:

"Do you recognize what emotional abuse of children is? It's much more than you might think."


Abuse is any behavior that is designed to control or dominate another person. Whether that is through fear, humiliation, intimidation, isolation, guilt, blaming, manipulation or denial. Therefore, emotional abuse is simply any abuse that is emotional rather than physical.


It can include belittling, discounting, manipulating the emotions of another and constant criticism. It can be less obvious than that, such as continuous disapproval, or the refusal to ever be pleased by another in any way.


It can be engaging children in age-inappropriate behavior, or engaging in age-inappropriate confidences. When a parent tries to engage a child to take his/her side against the other parent, this is emotional abuse.


Emotional abuse of children is often more subtle than the systematic wearing away of their self-esteem and self-confidence. Emotional abuse cuts to the core of their being, creating scars, impressions and perceptions that are far deeper and longer-lasting than physical ones. An attempt to distort or undermine a child’s perception of the world is emotional abuse.  


In today's episode, I've given a very clear example of a situation that might not sound abusive on first hearing, but, once you've listened to this, you'll see things differently!


GUEST: Dr. Jonice Webb, author of the first books ever on Childhood Emotional Neglect


Jonice Webb, PhD, is a licensed psychologist, speaker, blogger, and best-selling author. Dr. Webb wrote the first book ever written about Childhood Emotional Neglect, and is recognized worldwide as the pioneer of Childhood Emotional Neglect, CEN .


Dr. Webb is dedicated to bringing awareness of the power of Childhood Emotional Neglect to people everywhere. She is the author of Running On Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect, and Running On Empty No More: Transform Your Relationships.


Were you ever shamed for having emotions in your early life? That's a prime example of a type of Childhood Emotional Neglect. You may never have thought about it in those terms, and today's episode will bring much more than this to light for you.



HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • Wondering why you may downplay your own needs and not ask for much?
  • If you've experienced Childhood Emotional Neglect, how do you become more confident?
  • Why you may still be tamping down your anger?
  • What is the connection between Childhood Emotional Neglect, and troubles in relationships?
  • How can a person who has experienced CEN begin to get in greater touch with their emotions?
  • What are the likely impacts of CEN in an adult's life?



DR. WEBB'S FREE GIFT FOR YOU: Take her Childhood Emotional Neglect Questionnaire


CONNECT WITH DR. JONICE WEBB

Website: DrJoniceWebb.com

Twitter:  @JWebbPhD

Facebook: Facebook.com/JWebbPHD/


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


NEW! FINDING MY CONTENT USEFUL? SUPPORT MY WORK ON PATREON AND GET FURTHER GREAT BENEFITS

...like access to a Secret Facebook Group, my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy program, and monthly "Ask Me Anything" calls.

Patreon.com/RhobertaShaler


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #leadership #Hijackals #ChildhoodEmotionalNeglect #CED #JWebbPhD

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


UNDERSTANDING THE IMPACT OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE AND NEGLECT ON CHILDREN...AND ON THE ADULTS THEY BECOME.


GUEST: DR. JONICE WEBB, Author of the first book written on Childhood Emotional Neglect ( CEN )


In today's episode, DR. RHOBERTA SHALER asks:

"Do you recognize what emotional abuse of children is? It's much more than you might think."


Abuse is any behavior that is designed to control or dominate another person. Whether that is through fear, humiliation, intimidation, isolation, guilt, blaming, manipulation or denial. Therefore, emotional abuse is simply any abuse that is emotional rather than physical.


It can include belittling, discounting, manipulating the emotions of another and constant criticism. It can be less obvious than that, such as continuous disapproval, or the refusal to ever be pleased by another in any way.


It can be engaging children in age-inappropriate behavior, or engaging in age-inappropriate confidences. When a parent tries to engage a child to take his/her side against the other parent, this is emotional abuse.


Emotional abuse of children is often more subtle than the systematic wearing away of their self-esteem and self-confidence. Emotional abuse cuts to the core of their being, creating scars, impressions and perceptions that are far deeper and longer-lasting than physical ones. An attempt to distort or undermine a child’s perception of the world is emotional abuse.  


In today's episode, I've given a very clear example of a situation that might not sound abusive on first hearing, but, once you've listened to this, you'll see things differently!


GUEST: Dr. Jonice Webb, author of the first books ever on Childhood Emotional Neglect


Jonice Webb, PhD, is a licensed psychologist, speaker, blogger, and best-selling author. Dr. Webb wrote the first book ever written about Childhood Emotional Neglect, and is recognized worldwide as the pioneer of Childhood Emotional Neglect, CEN .


Dr. Webb is dedicated to bringing awareness of the power of Childhood Emotional Neglect to people everywhere. She is the author of Running On Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect, and Running On Empty No More: Transform Your Relationships.


Were you ever shamed for having emotions in your early life? That's a prime example of a type of Childhood Emotional Neglect. You may never have thought about it in those terms, and today's episode will bring much more than this to light for you.



HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • Wondering why you may downplay your own needs and not ask for much?
  • If you've experienced Childhood Emotional Neglect, how do you become more confident?
  • Why you may still be tamping down your anger?
  • What is the connection between Childhood Emotional Neglect, and troubles in relationships?
  • How can a person who has experienced CEN begin to get in greater touch with their emotions?
  • What are the likely impacts of CEN in an adult's life?



DR. WEBB'S FREE GIFT FOR YOU: Take her Childhood Emotional Neglect Questionnaire


CONNECT WITH DR. JONICE WEBB

Website: DrJoniceWebb.com

Twitter:  @JWebbPhD

Facebook: Facebook.com/JWebbPHD/


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


NEW! FINDING MY CONTENT USEFUL? SUPPORT MY WORK ON PATREON AND GET FURTHER GREAT BENEFITS

...like access to a Secret Facebook Group, my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy program, and monthly "Ask Me Anything" calls.

Patreon.com/RhobertaShaler


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #leadership #Hijackals #ChildhoodEmotionalNeglect #CED #JWebbPhD

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Go for the Gold. Be a Leader in Your Own Life. GUEST: Lisa Marie Platske Go for the Gold. Be a Leader in Your Own Life. GUEST: Lisa Marie Platske Wed, 26 Sep 2018 00:14:45 GMT 41:14 5baa91c09375881652f0a33d no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/leadership-presence-lisa-marie-platske Knowing how to overcome toxicity and disengage from difficult people gives you self-confidence. Build on that with the insights in this valuable conversation. How can you create more mercy, justice, and protection, too? Lisa Marie Platske and I share thoughts on how to be more fully present in your own life, and for others. full 5 54 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


GO FOR THE GOLD. BE A LEADER IN YOUR OWN LIFE


GUEST: LISA MARIE PLATSKE, AWARD-WINNING LEADERSHIP EXPERT



DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Four Important Principles To Achieve the Results You Want


Today, I'm sharing four important--actually essential--principles to grow your business, increase your effectiveness, and create relationships you most want. Tall order...and, these work!


You've heard that "attitude is everything." There's truth in that, and we also need focus, attention, and intention, too. There really is method in the madness of achieving the success in life that you want, on all levels. AND, I want to encourage you to create success on your own terms. Not success based on "shoulds" or societal expectations. Success based on who you are, what you value and believe, and what you feel called to create.


These four principles are the keys to conscious creation. Use them daily.


GUEST: Lisa Marie Platske, CEO of UpsideThinking, and award-winning leadership, connection, and positioning expert


Lisa Marie Platske is an award-winning leadership expert and a #1 international best-selling author of Designing Your Destiny and Turn Possibilities into Realities. She uses her law enforcement journey. which began on the piers of New York and ended post 9/11, and shares what exceptional leaders do differently and how to be positioned as an expert in order to seize big opportunities. She understands how to develop the skills, mindsets, and abilities to be a leader worth following!


Lisa Marie shares how she overcame toxicity in her own life, and her strategies for staying toxic-free. A big part of that journey is arriving at the clarity required. Listen for those tips.



HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • Why it's so important to know and live your values
  • How to get clarity on your goals and purposes
  • What it requires to be present--truly present--to someone's pain
  • Why is it essential to recognize the facts of an experience, and not just the emotional components.
  • What does it mean to be a leader, and a leader in your own life


Lisa Marie helps leaders in business develop themselves to live and express their values and vision. Being congruent in these ways is an amazing foundation for being a wildly successful, influential leader, no matter the size of the community you lead.


CONNECT WITH LISA MARIE PLATSKE

Website: UpsideThinking.com

Twitter: @UpsideThinking

Facebook: Facebook.com/Lisa.Marie.Platske


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


NEW! FINDING MY CONTENT USEFUL? SUPPORT MY WORK ON PATREON AND GET FURTHER GREAT BENEFITS

...like access to a Secret Facebook Group, my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy program, and monthly "Ask Me Anything" calls.

Patreon.com/RhobertaShaler


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #leadership #Hijackals #bepresent #LisaMariePlatske #connection

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


GO FOR THE GOLD. BE A LEADER IN YOUR OWN LIFE


GUEST: LISA MARIE PLATSKE, AWARD-WINNING LEADERSHIP EXPERT



DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Four Important Principles To Achieve the Results You Want


Today, I'm sharing four important--actually essential--principles to grow your business, increase your effectiveness, and create relationships you most want. Tall order...and, these work!


You've heard that "attitude is everything." There's truth in that, and we also need focus, attention, and intention, too. There really is method in the madness of achieving the success in life that you want, on all levels. AND, I want to encourage you to create success on your own terms. Not success based on "shoulds" or societal expectations. Success based on who you are, what you value and believe, and what you feel called to create.


These four principles are the keys to conscious creation. Use them daily.


GUEST: Lisa Marie Platske, CEO of UpsideThinking, and award-winning leadership, connection, and positioning expert


Lisa Marie Platske is an award-winning leadership expert and a #1 international best-selling author of Designing Your Destiny and Turn Possibilities into Realities. She uses her law enforcement journey. which began on the piers of New York and ended post 9/11, and shares what exceptional leaders do differently and how to be positioned as an expert in order to seize big opportunities. She understands how to develop the skills, mindsets, and abilities to be a leader worth following!


Lisa Marie shares how she overcame toxicity in her own life, and her strategies for staying toxic-free. A big part of that journey is arriving at the clarity required. Listen for those tips.



HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • Why it's so important to know and live your values
  • How to get clarity on your goals and purposes
  • What it requires to be present--truly present--to someone's pain
  • Why is it essential to recognize the facts of an experience, and not just the emotional components.
  • What does it mean to be a leader, and a leader in your own life


Lisa Marie helps leaders in business develop themselves to live and express their values and vision. Being congruent in these ways is an amazing foundation for being a wildly successful, influential leader, no matter the size of the community you lead.


CONNECT WITH LISA MARIE PLATSKE

Website: UpsideThinking.com

Twitter: @UpsideThinking

Facebook: Facebook.com/Lisa.Marie.Platske


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


NEW! FINDING MY CONTENT USEFUL? SUPPORT MY WORK ON PATREON AND GET FURTHER GREAT BENEFITS

...like access to a Secret Facebook Group, my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy program, and monthly "Ask Me Anything" calls.

Patreon.com/RhobertaShaler


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #leadership #Hijackals #bepresent #LisaMariePlatske #connection

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Relieving the Mess of Chronic Stress in Toxic Relationships GUEST: Dr. Ganz Ferrance Relieving the Mess of Chronic Stress in Toxic Relationships GUEST: Dr. Ganz Ferrance Tue, 04 Sep 2018 15:30:33 GMT 50:17 5b8dd7dda48076b66389a84a no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/relieving-the-stress-of-chronic-stress-in-toxic-relationship full 4 53 In today's episode, DR. RHOBERTA SHALER talks about 'Clearing Your Head When Chronic Stress and Anxiety Have Clouded Your Thinking.'


Much research has been done that shows the effects of chronic stress coupled with chronic anxiety. When you're in a troubling or toxic relationship, you have that combination of stress and anxiety. It has been shown to lead to chronic illness, and seems very likely to produce inflammation and autoimmune issues, particularly. Of course, each body is different, and each will react differently as well.


Your brain changes with chronic stress and anxiety. Your hippocampus in your brain shrinks, causing fuzzy thinking and reduced ability to remember things well. Your amygdala enlarges and you become more prone to fear-based anxiety. The amygdala triggers the sympathetic nervous system, and your body goes on the alert. Living like that--hyper-vigilant--is very hard on the body.


Today, Dr. Shaler talks about what goes on in your brain when you're living with the chronic stress and anxiety of toxic people. YOU NEED TO KNOW THIS!


GUEST: Dr. Ganz Ferrance, Expert on Stress Management in Relationships


Dr. Ganz Ferrance is a speaker, author, and registered psychologist from Edmonton, Alberta. For more than twenty-five years, Dr. Ganz has been helping individuals, couples, families, and corporations reduce their stress, improve their relationships, and enjoy more success.


Today, Dr. Shaler taps his thinking to focus on overcoming chronic stress...and all that it takes to do it!


So many times, particularly when you're with a Hijackal®, you will try to keep yourself safe by trying to appease him or her. That won't work, and you'll understand why when you listen to this episode.


Dr. Ganz has been on Emotional Savvy before, and he brought great insights and wisdom. Be sure to listen to the other episodes with him.


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • What "sneaky stress" is and how it affects you
  • How you fool yourself into thinking that you have no stress
  • The sad effects of a toxic relationship on your body
  • Where to find your hidden stressors
  • How, as Dr. Ganz says, "stress affects your state"

This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy to help you understand why it is essential to your health to get away from the troublesome combination of chronic stress AND chronic anxiety.


The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!



CONNECT WITH DR. GANZ

Website: DrGanz.com

Twitter: @DrGanzFerrance

Facebook: Facebook.com/GanzFerrance


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #mindbodyconnection #chronicstress #effectsofchronicstress #GanzFerrance

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In today's episode, DR. RHOBERTA SHALER talks about 'Clearing Your Head When Chronic Stress and Anxiety Have Clouded Your Thinking.'


Much research has been done that shows the effects of chronic stress coupled with chronic anxiety. When you're in a troubling or toxic relationship, you have that combination of stress and anxiety. It has been shown to lead to chronic illness, and seems very likely to produce inflammation and autoimmune issues, particularly. Of course, each body is different, and each will react differently as well.


Your brain changes with chronic stress and anxiety. Your hippocampus in your brain shrinks, causing fuzzy thinking and reduced ability to remember things well. Your amygdala enlarges and you become more prone to fear-based anxiety. The amygdala triggers the sympathetic nervous system, and your body goes on the alert. Living like that--hyper-vigilant--is very hard on the body.


Today, Dr. Shaler talks about what goes on in your brain when you're living with the chronic stress and anxiety of toxic people. YOU NEED TO KNOW THIS!


GUEST: Dr. Ganz Ferrance, Expert on Stress Management in Relationships


Dr. Ganz Ferrance is a speaker, author, and registered psychologist from Edmonton, Alberta. For more than twenty-five years, Dr. Ganz has been helping individuals, couples, families, and corporations reduce their stress, improve their relationships, and enjoy more success.


Today, Dr. Shaler taps his thinking to focus on overcoming chronic stress...and all that it takes to do it!


So many times, particularly when you're with a Hijackal®, you will try to keep yourself safe by trying to appease him or her. That won't work, and you'll understand why when you listen to this episode.


Dr. Ganz has been on Emotional Savvy before, and he brought great insights and wisdom. Be sure to listen to the other episodes with him.


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • What "sneaky stress" is and how it affects you
  • How you fool yourself into thinking that you have no stress
  • The sad effects of a toxic relationship on your body
  • Where to find your hidden stressors
  • How, as Dr. Ganz says, "stress affects your state"

This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy to help you understand why it is essential to your health to get away from the troublesome combination of chronic stress AND chronic anxiety.


The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!



CONNECT WITH DR. GANZ

Website: DrGanz.com

Twitter: @DrGanzFerrance

Facebook: Facebook.com/GanzFerrance


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #mindbodyconnection #chronicstress #effectsofchronicstress #GanzFerrance

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Got Energy Leaks? Procrastination? Denial? Resentment? Forgiveness? GUEST: Brenda Adelman Got Energy Leaks? Procrastination? Denial? Resentment? Forgiveness? GUEST: Brenda Adelman Wed, 29 Aug 2018 21:38:35 GMT 45:12 5b86e5351b11ebe12fb55923 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/energy-leaks-procrastination-denial-resentment-forgiveness full 4 52 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


Stop Emotional Energy Leaks! What About Forgiveness?


GUEST: Brenda Adelman, Acclaimed Actor. Author. Recipient of Hero of Forgiveness Award.


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DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Do You Have Unfinished Business from Emotional Energy Leaks?


What are emotional energy leaks?

  • procrastination
  • denial
  • resentments
  • grudges
  • unresolved relationship issues

for a few! Which ones are plaguing you?


Rhoberta gives you insights into why you may be keeping these leaks in place, and why you need to get rid of them now. You are holding yourself back, creating obstacles, and preventing your growth towards satisfying goals in life.



GUEST: Brenda Adelman. Author of My Father Killed My Mother and Married My Aunt: Forgiving the Unforgivable


Brenda is an award-winning actor, a recipient of a Hero of Forgiveness award, and a sought after guest. She's performed her critically-acclaimed one-woman show, My Brooklyn Hamlet, about the power of forgiving the unforgivable for over 12,000 people worldwide, including women prisoners, youth-at-risk, domestic violence coalitions, spiritual communities, and the US Military.


Brenda teaches mission-drive entrepreneurs how to use their story to heal themselves, inspire others, and be memorable on stage and video.


Today, Brenda offers her three-step, proven forgiveness process to help you on your journey to ending your energy leaks!


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • Brenda tells her horrific story of loss and how she came to forgive her father for killing her mother
  • What is forgiveness?
  • Why we should engage with it when the pain is still there
  • What needs to change in your thinking to make forgiveness possible
  • What people find most challenging about forgiveness...and why
  • What to do to forgive now.


This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on the practical and spiritual aspects of forgiveness, even in the most seeming impossible circumstance.


The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!



HIS FREE GIFT: Brenda offers you her ebook. CLICK HERE


CONNECT WITH BRENDA ADELMAN

Website: ForgivenessandFreedom.com

Twitter: @BrendaAAdelman

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/BrendaAAdelman

Facebook: Facebook.com/BrendaAAdelman


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #mindbodyconnection #forgiveness

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


Stop Emotional Energy Leaks! What About Forgiveness?


GUEST: Brenda Adelman, Acclaimed Actor. Author. Recipient of Hero of Forgiveness Award.


---------------------------------------------


DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Do You Have Unfinished Business from Emotional Energy Leaks?


What are emotional energy leaks?

  • procrastination
  • denial
  • resentments
  • grudges
  • unresolved relationship issues

for a few! Which ones are plaguing you?


Rhoberta gives you insights into why you may be keeping these leaks in place, and why you need to get rid of them now. You are holding yourself back, creating obstacles, and preventing your growth towards satisfying goals in life.



GUEST: Brenda Adelman. Author of My Father Killed My Mother and Married My Aunt: Forgiving the Unforgivable


Brenda is an award-winning actor, a recipient of a Hero of Forgiveness award, and a sought after guest. She's performed her critically-acclaimed one-woman show, My Brooklyn Hamlet, about the power of forgiving the unforgivable for over 12,000 people worldwide, including women prisoners, youth-at-risk, domestic violence coalitions, spiritual communities, and the US Military.


Brenda teaches mission-drive entrepreneurs how to use their story to heal themselves, inspire others, and be memorable on stage and video.


Today, Brenda offers her three-step, proven forgiveness process to help you on your journey to ending your energy leaks!


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • Brenda tells her horrific story of loss and how she came to forgive her father for killing her mother
  • What is forgiveness?
  • Why we should engage with it when the pain is still there
  • What needs to change in your thinking to make forgiveness possible
  • What people find most challenging about forgiveness...and why
  • What to do to forgive now.


This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on the practical and spiritual aspects of forgiveness, even in the most seeming impossible circumstance.


The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!



HIS FREE GIFT: Brenda offers you her ebook. CLICK HERE


CONNECT WITH BRENDA ADELMAN

Website: ForgivenessandFreedom.com

Twitter: @BrendaAAdelman

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/BrendaAAdelman

Facebook: Facebook.com/BrendaAAdelman


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #mindbodyconnection #forgiveness

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What About Toxic Shame? Powerful Strategies to Help With Addiction in the Family GUEST: Jeff Jones What About Toxic Shame? Powerful Strategies to Help With Addiction in the Family GUEST: Jeff Jones Wed, 22 Aug 2018 02:00:16 GMT 46:39 5b7cbd6e7fcf6ace13c633e7 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/guilt-toxic-shame-strategies-to-help-with-addiction Recognizing and Healing Toxic Shame with Dr. Shaler. Addiction and Family Recovery coach, Jeff Jones brings invaluable insights and strategies to use when there is addiction within the family. So practical! full 4 51 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


What About Toxic Shame? Powerful Strategies to Help With Addiction in the Family G


GUEST: Jeff Jones, therapist, addiction counselor, interventionist, and family recovery coach.


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DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: How to Give Up, Give Back, and Recover From Shame


Have you ever felt shame? Been shamed? If you haven't, you've been extremely fortunate. Most people have. Shame is when someone does their best to make you feel small, unimportant, unworthy, and a waste of space and breath. Nasty behavior!


You've been guilty of something, for sure. You did put your hand in the cookie jar, right?


Guilt, in my books, is simply a verdict. NOT A FEELING! Turning it into a feeling, to my mind, is something that was "invented" to allow some people to have power over you. To keep you feeling "less than," wrong, not good enough.


Guilt? You are guilty of doing something, or you're not. You're sorry, or you're not. You fix it if you can. You regret it if you cannot. Then, DROP IT!


Shame, though, is when someone else suggests YOU are a mistake. Know this, for sure, that it had nothing to do with you. A person who shames another is a person who is very insecure, sometimes unstable, and definitely experiencing needs for power and control. S/he likely feels badly about themselves, but takes it out on you. IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT!


Toxic shame, though, is when you take up repeating the words of a toxic shamer and repeating--and unfortunately, believing--that they are true. You take up where the shamer left off, and you never ever give yourself a break! Fortunately, you can stop this.


In today's episode, Dr. Shaler gives you insights and strategies for dumping guilt and stopping shame, and recovering well from it to have your best life, and relationships, possible. Listen! Don't go another minute being hard on yourself.



GUEST: Jeff Jones, Licensed Professional Counselor, Addiction Counselor, and Certified Intervention Professional


Jeff is a therapist, addiction counselor, interventionists, and family recovery coach working online with families with an addicted loved one. He's expanded the context of addiction and created a three-phase program that empowers families to safeguard their loved one in an addictive cycle or recovery, while they engage in a process to stop the addiction cycle in this generation.


After putting it online and wrapping a user-friendly online community around it, Jeff is moving towards his goal of empowering families to connect with like-minded people, family-specific resources, and expertise when they are ready.


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • Why timing is such a big issue in the recovery process
  • Why a "recovery message" is important to create
  • Understanding how not to marginalize or isolate the person in recovery
  • The importance of knowing the natural recovery process
  • How to be aware of warning signs of addiction


Listen to understand why Jeff says, "I'd rather see you sit in an AA/NA meeting in resistance than not being in the room at all."


This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on abundance, prosperity, and the links to health on every level.


The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!



HIS FREE GIFT: Contact Jeff at his website for his 3 Tips to Ensure Your Loved One's Recovery


CONNECT WITH JEFF JONES

Website: TheFamilyRecoverySolution.com

Twitter: 

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/jeff-jones-0303834/

Facebook: Facebook.com/JeffJones.792740


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #mindbodyconnection #shame #addiction #toxicshame #recoveryprocess

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


What About Toxic Shame? Powerful Strategies to Help With Addiction in the Family G


GUEST: Jeff Jones, therapist, addiction counselor, interventionist, and family recovery coach.


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DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: How to Give Up, Give Back, and Recover From Shame


Have you ever felt shame? Been shamed? If you haven't, you've been extremely fortunate. Most people have. Shame is when someone does their best to make you feel small, unimportant, unworthy, and a waste of space and breath. Nasty behavior!


You've been guilty of something, for sure. You did put your hand in the cookie jar, right?


Guilt, in my books, is simply a verdict. NOT A FEELING! Turning it into a feeling, to my mind, is something that was "invented" to allow some people to have power over you. To keep you feeling "less than," wrong, not good enough.


Guilt? You are guilty of doing something, or you're not. You're sorry, or you're not. You fix it if you can. You regret it if you cannot. Then, DROP IT!


Shame, though, is when someone else suggests YOU are a mistake. Know this, for sure, that it had nothing to do with you. A person who shames another is a person who is very insecure, sometimes unstable, and definitely experiencing needs for power and control. S/he likely feels badly about themselves, but takes it out on you. IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT!


Toxic shame, though, is when you take up repeating the words of a toxic shamer and repeating--and unfortunately, believing--that they are true. You take up where the shamer left off, and you never ever give yourself a break! Fortunately, you can stop this.


In today's episode, Dr. Shaler gives you insights and strategies for dumping guilt and stopping shame, and recovering well from it to have your best life, and relationships, possible. Listen! Don't go another minute being hard on yourself.



GUEST: Jeff Jones, Licensed Professional Counselor, Addiction Counselor, and Certified Intervention Professional


Jeff is a therapist, addiction counselor, interventionists, and family recovery coach working online with families with an addicted loved one. He's expanded the context of addiction and created a three-phase program that empowers families to safeguard their loved one in an addictive cycle or recovery, while they engage in a process to stop the addiction cycle in this generation.


After putting it online and wrapping a user-friendly online community around it, Jeff is moving towards his goal of empowering families to connect with like-minded people, family-specific resources, and expertise when they are ready.


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • Why timing is such a big issue in the recovery process
  • Why a "recovery message" is important to create
  • Understanding how not to marginalize or isolate the person in recovery
  • The importance of knowing the natural recovery process
  • How to be aware of warning signs of addiction


Listen to understand why Jeff says, "I'd rather see you sit in an AA/NA meeting in resistance than not being in the room at all."


This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on abundance, prosperity, and the links to health on every level.


The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!



HIS FREE GIFT: Contact Jeff at his website for his 3 Tips to Ensure Your Loved One's Recovery


CONNECT WITH JEFF JONES

Website: TheFamilyRecoverySolution.com

Twitter: 

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/jeff-jones-0303834/

Facebook: Facebook.com/JeffJones.792740


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #mindbodyconnection #shame #addiction #toxicshame #recoveryprocess

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<![CDATA[Abundance, Prosperity & Tapping Into The Body-Mind Connection GUEST: Jolen Philbrook]]> Tue, 14 Aug 2018 17:03:06 GMT 53:55 5b7304eb002183e80c693e27 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/abundance-prosperity-tapping-into-the-body-mind-connection-g full EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


Abundance, Prosperity & Tapping Into The Body-Mind Connection


GUEST: Jolen Philbrook, Abundant Mindset Expert


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DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Prosperity Starts Between Your Ears


Sometimes, people are surprised when I talk about prosperity and relationship in the same sentence or breath. They simply haven't connected the two. Today, I'm talking about where prosperity is actually created: between your ears. And, then, how that actually plays out in your daily life.


Prosperity is much more than money or success, right? So is abundance! I'm offering you some clear examples and strategies you can use immediately to create prosperity in your life, AND, in your relationships.


Do you know what you actually want? What would make you happy? Or, are you focused on what isn't working, and is making you miserable? These mindset shifts that help you create the prosperity you want are ones you can make immediately. Really!


You are powerful--no matter what some Hijackal has tried to tell you--and what you think most about is what you will create more of. That's why I wrote What You Pay Attention to Expands in 2002. It's still available on Amazon, too.


Gather these insights, and use these strategies. Use the one's from today's guest, Jolen Philbrook, to create powerful shifts in your body and in your life.


In today's episode, Dr. Shaler gives you clear reasons, encouragement, and practical strategies to create more of what you want in your life: prosperity on every level.



GUEST: Jolen Philbrook, Abundant Mindset Expert, author of From Tears to Triumph


Jolen Philbrook is known as the abundant mindset expert who intuitively clears prosperity blocks. Her specialty is shifting the inner game and releasing stuck negative emotions to attract more success, prosperity, and happiness in your life.


In 2008, Jolen survived a rare type of breast cancer, went through a custody suit with no income. Then, one year later, she survived kidney cancer. Now, she shares her wisdom so that you can find your inner strength, prosperity, and happiness to live your greatest life.


She is the author of 365 Days of Gratitude, Reflections, and From Tears to Triumph.


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • Why it's important to know precisely what you want in your life
  • What to do when you recognize you are suffering from the resentment you're carrying
  • How an abundant mindset can help you deal with toxic people, #Hijackals
  • How Jolen dealt with someone who was always attacking her
  • The vital connections between what you are thinking and what you are creating in life
  • How Jolen successfully dealt with two bouts with cancer


This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on abundance, prosperity, and the links to health on every level.


The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!



HER FREE GIFT:Are You Stressed About Money? GET IT HERE.


CONNECT WITH JOLEN PHILBROOK

Website: JolenPhilbrook.com

Twitter: @Julen_Philbrook

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/jolen-philbrook-bb004b50

Facebook: Facebook.com/JolenPhilbrook


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #mindbodyconnection #abundance #prosperity

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


Abundance, Prosperity & Tapping Into The Body-Mind Connection


GUEST: Jolen Philbrook, Abundant Mindset Expert


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DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Prosperity Starts Between Your Ears


Sometimes, people are surprised when I talk about prosperity and relationship in the same sentence or breath. They simply haven't connected the two. Today, I'm talking about where prosperity is actually created: between your ears. And, then, how that actually plays out in your daily life.


Prosperity is much more than money or success, right? So is abundance! I'm offering you some clear examples and strategies you can use immediately to create prosperity in your life, AND, in your relationships.


Do you know what you actually want? What would make you happy? Or, are you focused on what isn't working, and is making you miserable? These mindset shifts that help you create the prosperity you want are ones you can make immediately. Really!


You are powerful--no matter what some Hijackal has tried to tell you--and what you think most about is what you will create more of. That's why I wrote What You Pay Attention to Expands in 2002. It's still available on Amazon, too.


Gather these insights, and use these strategies. Use the one's from today's guest, Jolen Philbrook, to create powerful shifts in your body and in your life.


In today's episode, Dr. Shaler gives you clear reasons, encouragement, and practical strategies to create more of what you want in your life: prosperity on every level.



GUEST: Jolen Philbrook, Abundant Mindset Expert, author of From Tears to Triumph


Jolen Philbrook is known as the abundant mindset expert who intuitively clears prosperity blocks. Her specialty is shifting the inner game and releasing stuck negative emotions to attract more success, prosperity, and happiness in your life.


In 2008, Jolen survived a rare type of breast cancer, went through a custody suit with no income. Then, one year later, she survived kidney cancer. Now, she shares her wisdom so that you can find your inner strength, prosperity, and happiness to live your greatest life.


She is the author of 365 Days of Gratitude, Reflections, and From Tears to Triumph.


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • Why it's important to know precisely what you want in your life
  • What to do when you recognize you are suffering from the resentment you're carrying
  • How an abundant mindset can help you deal with toxic people, #Hijackals
  • How Jolen dealt with someone who was always attacking her
  • The vital connections between what you are thinking and what you are creating in life
  • How Jolen successfully dealt with two bouts with cancer


This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on abundance, prosperity, and the links to health on every level.


The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!



HER FREE GIFT:Are You Stressed About Money? GET IT HERE.


CONNECT WITH JOLEN PHILBROOK

Website: JolenPhilbrook.com

Twitter: @Julen_Philbrook

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/jolen-philbrook-bb004b50

Facebook: Facebook.com/JolenPhilbrook


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #mindbodyconnection #abundance #prosperity

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Love, Dump, Or...? What About Radical Acceptance? GUEST: Andrea Miller Love, Dump, Or...? What About Radical Acceptance? GUEST: Andrea Miller Thu, 09 Aug 2018 18:28:04 GMT 53:50 5b6b86e821f672617c78190d no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/love-dump-radical-acceptance-guest-andrea-miller-yourtango Author of Radical Acceptance, Andrea Miller is the CEO of YourTango.com This is a compelling, refreshing look at relationship decision-making. full 4 49 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


Love, Dump, Or, ...? What About Radical Acceptance?


GUEST: Andrea Miller, CEO of YourTango.com, author of Radical Acceptance


DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: How Do You Create and Experience Acceptance in Your LIfe?


You want to be seen, heard, known, acknowledged, appreciated, and accepted in life. By your parents. By your partner. By others in your world. Not everyone is willing or capable of doing that. I've written about this more in my book, Kaizen for Couples.


Where does that acceptance that you long for come from? In today's episode, I'm talking about finding acceptance for yourself, within. That's where it starts as a adult. Hopefully, you received it as a child, but many people simply didn't. Your brain was somewhat undeveloped, and you took in ideas about yourself and your worth from people who could not see you, in all your beauty. Maybe, they had problems of their own.


Now is the time to become your own best friend, and I give you insights into how to become accepting of yourself so that you feel secure and feel confident within yourself every day. It begins with acceptance.


When you begin to experience it from within, you'll be surprised how things can change in your world. Listen to these vital ideas. Yes, vital! They keep you feeling alive!



GUEST: GUEST: Andrea Miller, CEO of YourTango.com, author of Radical Acceptance


Andrea Miller is the founder and CEO of YourTango.com, the leading digital publisher dedicated to love, relationships, and self-empowerment. Andrea recently made her debut as an author with her first book, Radical Acceptance: The Secret to Happy, Lasting Love, published by Simon and Schuster. Quite an accomplishment for a first time author!


"You can't cherry pick the qualities you like or love in someone," she says, "It's the whole package. You have to make peace with those challenging qualities and attempt to extend empathy and compassion to them, or get out. You cannot be in a healthy relationship where you are constantly trying to change someone."


Of course, I asked Andrea if she was suggesting you can just decide to love someone unconditionally, no matter how badly they behave. There are folks who actually believe that, you know. You'll want to hear her answer!


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • What should you do if you are in a toxic relationship and feel you are to blame?
  • How do you know when to terminate a relationship?
  • How do you know when you love enough about a person to accept what you don't love?
  • What can I do about toxic people at work? (Remember, Andrea runs a large enterprise, and she knows!)
  • I'm told about unconditional love, and now I'm confused. How do I get clear?
  • How does Radical Acceptance help someone in a difficult, toxic relationship?


This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on creating enriching, healthy, empowering relationships.


Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show: A new voice, A new vision. Enjoy!



CONNECT WITH ANDREA MILLER:

Website: RadicalAcceptance.love

Twitter: @YourTango

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/Andrea-Miller-94238

Facebook: Facebook.com/YourTango


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #radicalacceptance

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


Love, Dump, Or, ...? What About Radical Acceptance?


GUEST: Andrea Miller, CEO of YourTango.com, author of Radical Acceptance


DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: How Do You Create and Experience Acceptance in Your LIfe?


You want to be seen, heard, known, acknowledged, appreciated, and accepted in life. By your parents. By your partner. By others in your world. Not everyone is willing or capable of doing that. I've written about this more in my book, Kaizen for Couples.


Where does that acceptance that you long for come from? In today's episode, I'm talking about finding acceptance for yourself, within. That's where it starts as a adult. Hopefully, you received it as a child, but many people simply didn't. Your brain was somewhat undeveloped, and you took in ideas about yourself and your worth from people who could not see you, in all your beauty. Maybe, they had problems of their own.


Now is the time to become your own best friend, and I give you insights into how to become accepting of yourself so that you feel secure and feel confident within yourself every day. It begins with acceptance.


When you begin to experience it from within, you'll be surprised how things can change in your world. Listen to these vital ideas. Yes, vital! They keep you feeling alive!



GUEST: GUEST: Andrea Miller, CEO of YourTango.com, author of Radical Acceptance


Andrea Miller is the founder and CEO of YourTango.com, the leading digital publisher dedicated to love, relationships, and self-empowerment. Andrea recently made her debut as an author with her first book, Radical Acceptance: The Secret to Happy, Lasting Love, published by Simon and Schuster. Quite an accomplishment for a first time author!


"You can't cherry pick the qualities you like or love in someone," she says, "It's the whole package. You have to make peace with those challenging qualities and attempt to extend empathy and compassion to them, or get out. You cannot be in a healthy relationship where you are constantly trying to change someone."


Of course, I asked Andrea if she was suggesting you can just decide to love someone unconditionally, no matter how badly they behave. There are folks who actually believe that, you know. You'll want to hear her answer!


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • What should you do if you are in a toxic relationship and feel you are to blame?
  • How do you know when to terminate a relationship?
  • How do you know when you love enough about a person to accept what you don't love?
  • What can I do about toxic people at work? (Remember, Andrea runs a large enterprise, and she knows!)
  • I'm told about unconditional love, and now I'm confused. How do I get clear?
  • How does Radical Acceptance help someone in a difficult, toxic relationship?


This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on creating enriching, healthy, empowering relationships.


Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show: A new voice, A new vision. Enjoy!



CONNECT WITH ANDREA MILLER:

Website: RadicalAcceptance.love

Twitter: @YourTango

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/Andrea-Miller-94238

Facebook: Facebook.com/YourTango


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #radicalacceptance

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Intimacy, Pleasure, and How to Get More of Both GUEST: Rabbi Manis Friedman Intimacy, Pleasure, and How to Get More of Both GUEST: Rabbi Manis Friedman Thu, 02 Aug 2018 18:33:50 GMT 46:42 5b6142a6600cac970ff34cdc no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/intimacy-pleasure-and-how-to-get-more-rabbi-manis-friedman Refreshing, delightful, thought-provoking new perspective on love, sex, pleasure, and intimacy in marriage. Hold on to your hat! full 4 48 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


Intimacy, Pleasure, and How to Get More of Both


GUEST: Rabbi Manis Friedman, author of The Joy of Intimacy, and Doesn't Anyone Blush Anymore?


DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:  Creating and Enriching Emotional Intimacy with your Partner


"The deepest principle of human nature is the craving to be appreciated." ~ William James


Emotional intimacy allows you to feel appreciated--and known, seen, heard, accepted, and acknowledged, too. When that is not present in a relationship, you don't feel fully connected and secure. There is insufficient emotional intimacy.


The first--and most important--step towards creating emotional intimacy is to know yourself well. That means spending time with yourself and digging deep.


"As long as we are looking outside ourselves for intimacy, we will never have it and we will never be able to share it. In order to be intimate with another person, we have to know who we are, what we feel, what we think, what our values are, what is important to us, and what we want. If we do not know these things about ourselves, we can never share them with another person." ~ Ann Wilson Shaef


In today's episode, Dr. Shaler offers insights into creating emotional intimacy, and how to make it safe to be emotionally intimate.



GUEST: Rabbi Manis Friedman, author of The Joy of Intimacy, and Doesn't Anyone Blush Anymore?


Rabbi Friedman is a world-renouwned author, counselor, teacher, and speaker, well-known for his provocative and incisive wit and wisdom. His international speaking tour, seminars, and retreats take him around the world. He has been featured in many publications, such as The New York Times, Rolling Stone, and Publishers Weekly.


Rabbi Friedman is the author of the new book, The Joy of Intimacy: A Soulful Guide to Love, Sexuality, and Marriage. He has been counseling and teaching about relationships and marriage to audiences around the world for more than forty years, and he is here for you today.


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • What is intimacy and how is it developed?
  • How can it be enriched?
  • If you're in a troubled relationship, how do you know to leave?
  • What about unconditional love?
  • What about the idea that love is a decision?
  • How can you get more pleasure in your relationship?


This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on intimacy. The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!



HIS FREE GIFTRabbi Friedman's ebook: Doesn't Anyone Blush Anymore? - GET IT HERE.


CONNECT WITH RABBI MANIS FRIEDMAN

Website: TheJoyOfIntimacy.com

Twitter: @ManisFriedman

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/Manis-Friedman

Facebook: Facebook.com/ManisFriedman


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


Intimacy, Pleasure, and How to Get More of Both


GUEST: Rabbi Manis Friedman, author of The Joy of Intimacy, and Doesn't Anyone Blush Anymore?


DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:  Creating and Enriching Emotional Intimacy with your Partner


"The deepest principle of human nature is the craving to be appreciated." ~ William James


Emotional intimacy allows you to feel appreciated--and known, seen, heard, accepted, and acknowledged, too. When that is not present in a relationship, you don't feel fully connected and secure. There is insufficient emotional intimacy.


The first--and most important--step towards creating emotional intimacy is to know yourself well. That means spending time with yourself and digging deep.


"As long as we are looking outside ourselves for intimacy, we will never have it and we will never be able to share it. In order to be intimate with another person, we have to know who we are, what we feel, what we think, what our values are, what is important to us, and what we want. If we do not know these things about ourselves, we can never share them with another person." ~ Ann Wilson Shaef


In today's episode, Dr. Shaler offers insights into creating emotional intimacy, and how to make it safe to be emotionally intimate.



GUEST: Rabbi Manis Friedman, author of The Joy of Intimacy, and Doesn't Anyone Blush Anymore?


Rabbi Friedman is a world-renouwned author, counselor, teacher, and speaker, well-known for his provocative and incisive wit and wisdom. His international speaking tour, seminars, and retreats take him around the world. He has been featured in many publications, such as The New York Times, Rolling Stone, and Publishers Weekly.


Rabbi Friedman is the author of the new book, The Joy of Intimacy: A Soulful Guide to Love, Sexuality, and Marriage. He has been counseling and teaching about relationships and marriage to audiences around the world for more than forty years, and he is here for you today.


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:


  • What is intimacy and how is it developed?
  • How can it be enriched?
  • If you're in a troubled relationship, how do you know to leave?
  • What about unconditional love?
  • What about the idea that love is a decision?
  • How can you get more pleasure in your relationship?


This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on intimacy. The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!



HIS FREE GIFTRabbi Friedman's ebook: Doesn't Anyone Blush Anymore? - GET IT HERE.


CONNECT WITH RABBI MANIS FRIEDMAN

Website: TheJoyOfIntimacy.com

Twitter: @ManisFriedman

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/Manis-Friedman

Facebook: Facebook.com/ManisFriedman


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy

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What About Unconditional Love and Creating Peace? GUEST: Swami Sadashiva Tirtha What About Unconditional Love and Creating Peace? GUEST: Swami Sadashiva Tirtha Wed, 25 Jul 2018 00:48:29 GMT 37:43 5b57c0f7aa14024e4768244a no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/unconditional-love-creating-peace-guest-swami-tirtha Is unconditional love possible? Is it dangerous in some situations? Great insights into thinking through the idea of unconditional love in new ways...especially around toxic people. full 4 47 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


What About Unconditional Love and Creating Peace in Relationships?


GUEST: Swami Sadashiva Tirtha, The Orange Cowboy, host of the TV show, Talking with Our Angels


DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Four Scary Reasons Unconditional Love May be a Dangerous Myth


"Wait! Don't run away. I'm not taking away the idea of unconditional love. Hear me out...please. "

~ Dr. Rhoberta Shaler


In today's episode, Dr. Shaler steps way out to talk about something you may have thought about in this way: unconditional love. You might immediately think,


"Why is she talking about unconditional love as a possibly dangerous myth? I love the idea of unconditional love." Yes, so does she, however, in the contexts she is talking about it is really worthwhile to re-think the idea, and understand it more fully.


Unconditional love can be both beautifully freeing, and sadly entrapping. So important to recognize these possibilities. Ask yourself,


"Has anyone ever blamed me or tried to make me feel guilty for something I may or may not have said or done by saying to me 'You're so judgmental. I thought you believed in unconditional love?'"


That is VERY telling...especially if they succeeded and you felt guilty! So, please hear Dr. Shaler out on this to see what you might take from this short segment.



GUEST: Swami Sadashina Tirtha, The Orange Cowboy, Host of Talking With Our Angles, Best-selling author of the Ayurveda Encyclopedia


Swami 's speaking clients include the White House Alternative Medicine Commission, and Johns Hopkins University. Swami has more than four decades of teaching wellness and consciousness.


At the age of ten, he began having spiritual experiences that altered his live in divine ways. Swami survived a devastating tragedy at the age of seventeen by seeking spiritual pathways, which led him to discover his mission of spreading joy.


He is sought after by conscious leaders and their teams. How he helps is by strengthening leaders' connection with their angels. Clients report rediscovering their joy, authenticity, and better decision-making. Swami's mission is to help create world peace. He is targeting his first movie--a comedy about listening to your heart and trusting your authenticity--to have global impact.


Swami teaches people how to communicate with their inner voice, or God, or angels--which ever word you prefer. The first relationship is the one with yourself. When you love yourself and hear your highest guidance, all other relationships and career visions flow smoothly.


This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!



HIS FREE GIFTSwami Tirtha's free gift for you is a beautiful meditation with Tibetan Bells - GET IT HERE.


CONNECT WITH SWAMI SADASHIVA TIRTHA:

Website: OrangeCowboy.com

Twitter: @MonkMedium

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/MonkMedium

Facebook: Facebook.com/swamisadashivatirtha


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


What About Unconditional Love and Creating Peace in Relationships?


GUEST: Swami Sadashiva Tirtha, The Orange Cowboy, host of the TV show, Talking with Our Angels


DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Four Scary Reasons Unconditional Love May be a Dangerous Myth


"Wait! Don't run away. I'm not taking away the idea of unconditional love. Hear me out...please. "

~ Dr. Rhoberta Shaler


In today's episode, Dr. Shaler steps way out to talk about something you may have thought about in this way: unconditional love. You might immediately think,


"Why is she talking about unconditional love as a possibly dangerous myth? I love the idea of unconditional love." Yes, so does she, however, in the contexts she is talking about it is really worthwhile to re-think the idea, and understand it more fully.


Unconditional love can be both beautifully freeing, and sadly entrapping. So important to recognize these possibilities. Ask yourself,


"Has anyone ever blamed me or tried to make me feel guilty for something I may or may not have said or done by saying to me 'You're so judgmental. I thought you believed in unconditional love?'"


That is VERY telling...especially if they succeeded and you felt guilty! So, please hear Dr. Shaler out on this to see what you might take from this short segment.



GUEST: Swami Sadashina Tirtha, The Orange Cowboy, Host of Talking With Our Angles, Best-selling author of the Ayurveda Encyclopedia


Swami 's speaking clients include the White House Alternative Medicine Commission, and Johns Hopkins University. Swami has more than four decades of teaching wellness and consciousness.


At the age of ten, he began having spiritual experiences that altered his live in divine ways. Swami survived a devastating tragedy at the age of seventeen by seeking spiritual pathways, which led him to discover his mission of spreading joy.


He is sought after by conscious leaders and their teams. How he helps is by strengthening leaders' connection with their angels. Clients report rediscovering their joy, authenticity, and better decision-making. Swami's mission is to help create world peace. He is targeting his first movie--a comedy about listening to your heart and trusting your authenticity--to have global impact.


Swami teaches people how to communicate with their inner voice, or God, or angels--which ever word you prefer. The first relationship is the one with yourself. When you love yourself and hear your highest guidance, all other relationships and career visions flow smoothly.


This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!



HIS FREE GIFTSwami Tirtha's free gift for you is a beautiful meditation with Tibetan Bells - GET IT HERE.


CONNECT WITH SWAMI SADASHIVA TIRTHA:

Website: OrangeCowboy.com

Twitter: @MonkMedium

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/MonkMedium

Facebook: Facebook.com/swamisadashivatirtha


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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Creating a Safe Place to Love Yourself GUEST: Pernilla Lillarose Creating a Safe Place to Love Yourself GUEST: Pernilla Lillarose Wed, 18 Jul 2018 00:03:53 GMT 49:13 5b4e7bff82d3c1a31efdea14 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/creating-a-safe-place-to-love-yourself-pernilla-lillarose Understanding the meaning and power of self-love, and how to love yourself enough to have the best life possible full 4 46 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


Creating A Safe Place To Love Yourself...and Doing It


GUEST: Pernilla Lillarose, Hakomi Therapist, Self-Love Mentor, and Founder of Young Women Empowerment Circle


DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:


In today's episode, Dr. Shaler talks about what the term, "self-love" really means. We hear it spoken of so frequently that we may not think about what it actually means. It's not about being vain, arrogant, conceited, or self-centered. It's a very positive thing...when done in the light of what Rhoberta says today!


"I remember when I would say anything positive, or good about myself. My mother would say, "That's conceited. Don't brag." I was left to wonder if it was some terrible sin to say I did well on a science test. Am I not supposed to mention anything I do well? I wondered how this all worked. Maybe you were raised with that big question, too. Very confusing!"


If this is at all familiar, listen in to recognize and realize that's all changed. It's healthy to have self-love, and it's the only thing that can help you find and enjoy healthy relationships, too. There is a new way of looking at self-love, and it's important to see it, enjoy it, and live fully expressing as a result.



GUEST: Pernilla Lillarose, Hakomi Therapist


Pernilla shows women who feel unfulfilled inside how to stop compromising themselves and pleasing others. She helps them trust what they already know, so they can act from wisdom and power and step out of situations where they are not living their own deepest truth.


She is a Certified Hakomi Therapist, Self Love Mentor and Meditation Teacher and founder of Young Women Empowerment Circle. She is the author of numerous books relating to Self Love, Kindness and living in alignment with you who truly are. She also offers online classes about the global impact of True Self Love.


During this episode, Pernilla talks about the importance of feeling love vs. hearing someone say they love you. That's HUGE!


From a difficult childhood, Pernilla learned what it takes to actually feel loved, and to allow yourself to be loved, too.


Here's some interview highlights:


  • What is the distinction between hearing "I love you" and actually feeling loved
  • What does it take to "feel filled up" with love
  • Why listening to yourself is essential to loving self-care
  • Is it possible you're not allowing yourself to have your feelings, and truly feel into them?
  • How anger can be your ally



HER FREE GIFTPernilla Lillarose's free ebook Get it HERE.


CONNECT WITH TRACY MALONE:

Website: NarcissistAbuseSupport.com

Twitter: @TracyAMalone

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/TracyAMalone

Facebook: Facebook.com/groups/188681268196044


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


Creating A Safe Place To Love Yourself...and Doing It


GUEST: Pernilla Lillarose, Hakomi Therapist, Self-Love Mentor, and Founder of Young Women Empowerment Circle


DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:


In today's episode, Dr. Shaler talks about what the term, "self-love" really means. We hear it spoken of so frequently that we may not think about what it actually means. It's not about being vain, arrogant, conceited, or self-centered. It's a very positive thing...when done in the light of what Rhoberta says today!


"I remember when I would say anything positive, or good about myself. My mother would say, "That's conceited. Don't brag." I was left to wonder if it was some terrible sin to say I did well on a science test. Am I not supposed to mention anything I do well? I wondered how this all worked. Maybe you were raised with that big question, too. Very confusing!"


If this is at all familiar, listen in to recognize and realize that's all changed. It's healthy to have self-love, and it's the only thing that can help you find and enjoy healthy relationships, too. There is a new way of looking at self-love, and it's important to see it, enjoy it, and live fully expressing as a result.



GUEST: Pernilla Lillarose, Hakomi Therapist


Pernilla shows women who feel unfulfilled inside how to stop compromising themselves and pleasing others. She helps them trust what they already know, so they can act from wisdom and power and step out of situations where they are not living their own deepest truth.


She is a Certified Hakomi Therapist, Self Love Mentor and Meditation Teacher and founder of Young Women Empowerment Circle. She is the author of numerous books relating to Self Love, Kindness and living in alignment with you who truly are. She also offers online classes about the global impact of True Self Love.


During this episode, Pernilla talks about the importance of feeling love vs. hearing someone say they love you. That's HUGE!


From a difficult childhood, Pernilla learned what it takes to actually feel loved, and to allow yourself to be loved, too.


Here's some interview highlights:


  • What is the distinction between hearing "I love you" and actually feeling loved
  • What does it take to "feel filled up" with love
  • Why listening to yourself is essential to loving self-care
  • Is it possible you're not allowing yourself to have your feelings, and truly feel into them?
  • How anger can be your ally



HER FREE GIFTPernilla Lillarose's free ebook Get it HERE.


CONNECT WITH TRACY MALONE:

Website: NarcissistAbuseSupport.com

Twitter: @TracyAMalone

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/TracyAMalone

Facebook: Facebook.com/groups/188681268196044


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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How Personal Trauma Gave Rise to Strength, Courage, and Empowering Others GUEST: Tracy Malone How Personal Trauma Gave Rise to Strength, Courage, and Empowering Others GUEST: Tracy Malone Tue, 10 Jul 2018 23:18:19 GMT 43:27 5b4535873055f8224caa0990 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/how-personal-trauma-gave-rise-to-strength-courage-and-empowe Gaslighting, Personal Trauma, Learning the Hard Way, and Lemons Out of Lemonade. full 4 45 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


How Personal Trauma Gave Rise to Strength, Courage, and Empowering Others


GUEST: Tracy Malone, All around amazing woman, and founder of NarcissistAbuseSupport.com


DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:


In today's episode, Dr. Shaler talks about "Gaslighting." It's a real thing. When someone else wants to tell you what you think, feel, intend, or have done, and they insist they are right, there's a very good chance that they are gaslighting you.


Gaslighting leads to second-guessing yourself, and questioning your sanity.


  • "Can I be mistaken about what actually happened to me?"
  • "Do I remember that incident so wrongly/"
  • "What's happening to my mind? I swear it didn't happen that way?"
  • "I think you're re-writing my history, and it's confusing."


Ever felt that way? Thought those things? You may have been gaslighted by a toxic, manipulative person looking for power over you. Learn the finer points of this is today's episode.


GUEST: Tracy Malone, All around amazing woman, and founder of NarcissistAbuseSupport.com


A traumatic series of life events─including being thoughtlessly discarded by her partner─thrust Tracy Malone into a personal downward spiral. As she sought the answer to, “Why me?”, she discovered that she had been a victim of narcissist


Like many, before that moment, Tracy had no idea about the personality disorder known as narcissism. So she began to study it voraciously. Today, passionate about raising awareness on the subject, she is excited to share the empowering story of how she turned her life around in an effort to help others do the same. Tracy’s inspirational and humorous presentations leave your audience with a deeper understanding of narcissistic behaviors and how they can thrive after experiencing such difficult and troubled relationships.

An expert on destructive relationships, Tracy’s Narcissist Abuse Support website offers resources to victims from more than 145 countries


Realizing that you attracted a Hijackal® and, although you didn't like his behavior, it somehow seemed familiar, is a common story among many. You become the "unwitting prey" of Hijackal predators. When you begin to realize that your family set a pattern of behavior and expectations, and you didn't see it before, it's a HUGE WAKE-UP CALL!


During this interview, we discuss the distinctions between being helpful and enabling. BIG!


So many points you are wise to recognize; seeing the red flags that were somehow excused earlier in the relationship.We talk about why they can be easy to miss, and how we rationalize and excuse them. THEN, what it takes to step away, and see all this from a more empowering, wise perspective. Tracy certainly had to do that when the reality of the behavior of her ex made escaping these realizations impossible.


Here's some interview highlights:


  • How do you deal with the "new supply" that a narcissistic person requires?
  • What role does co-dependency play in the Hijackal equation?
  • How gaslighting plays out in real life situations
  • How do you know when you're helping someone, OR are actually enabling bad behavior
  • Why narcissists are on the look out for people-pleasers


HER FREE GIFTTracy Malone's RED FLAG CHECKLIST Get it HERE.


CONNECT WITH TRACY MALONE:

Website: NarcissistAbuseSupport.com

Twitter: @TracyAMalone

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/TracyAMalone

Facebook: Facebook.com/groups/188681268196044


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


How Personal Trauma Gave Rise to Strength, Courage, and Empowering Others


GUEST: Tracy Malone, All around amazing woman, and founder of NarcissistAbuseSupport.com


DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:


In today's episode, Dr. Shaler talks about "Gaslighting." It's a real thing. When someone else wants to tell you what you think, feel, intend, or have done, and they insist they are right, there's a very good chance that they are gaslighting you.


Gaslighting leads to second-guessing yourself, and questioning your sanity.


  • "Can I be mistaken about what actually happened to me?"
  • "Do I remember that incident so wrongly/"
  • "What's happening to my mind? I swear it didn't happen that way?"
  • "I think you're re-writing my history, and it's confusing."


Ever felt that way? Thought those things? You may have been gaslighted by a toxic, manipulative person looking for power over you. Learn the finer points of this is today's episode.


GUEST: Tracy Malone, All around amazing woman, and founder of NarcissistAbuseSupport.com


A traumatic series of life events─including being thoughtlessly discarded by her partner─thrust Tracy Malone into a personal downward spiral. As she sought the answer to, “Why me?”, she discovered that she had been a victim of narcissist


Like many, before that moment, Tracy had no idea about the personality disorder known as narcissism. So she began to study it voraciously. Today, passionate about raising awareness on the subject, she is excited to share the empowering story of how she turned her life around in an effort to help others do the same. Tracy’s inspirational and humorous presentations leave your audience with a deeper understanding of narcissistic behaviors and how they can thrive after experiencing such difficult and troubled relationships.

An expert on destructive relationships, Tracy’s Narcissist Abuse Support website offers resources to victims from more than 145 countries


Realizing that you attracted a Hijackal® and, although you didn't like his behavior, it somehow seemed familiar, is a common story among many. You become the "unwitting prey" of Hijackal predators. When you begin to realize that your family set a pattern of behavior and expectations, and you didn't see it before, it's a HUGE WAKE-UP CALL!


During this interview, we discuss the distinctions between being helpful and enabling. BIG!


So many points you are wise to recognize; seeing the red flags that were somehow excused earlier in the relationship.We talk about why they can be easy to miss, and how we rationalize and excuse them. THEN, what it takes to step away, and see all this from a more empowering, wise perspective. Tracy certainly had to do that when the reality of the behavior of her ex made escaping these realizations impossible.


Here's some interview highlights:


  • How do you deal with the "new supply" that a narcissistic person requires?
  • What role does co-dependency play in the Hijackal equation?
  • How gaslighting plays out in real life situations
  • How do you know when you're helping someone, OR are actually enabling bad behavior
  • Why narcissists are on the look out for people-pleasers


HER FREE GIFTTracy Malone's RED FLAG CHECKLIST Get it HERE.


CONNECT WITH TRACY MALONE:

Website: NarcissistAbuseSupport.com

Twitter: @TracyAMalone

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/TracyAMalone

Facebook: Facebook.com/groups/188681268196044


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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How to Speak Up Powerfully When You Want Things to Change GUEST: Tina Dietz How to Speak Up Powerfully When You Want Things to Change GUEST: Tina Dietz Tue, 19 Jun 2018 21:43:20 GMT 44:27 5b292c74fafdc8ec7db4aec9 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/how-to-speak-up-powerfully-when-you-want-things-to-change What stops you from speaking up? Strategies to help you be confident, assertive, and clear. full 4 44 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


How to Speak Up Powerfully When You Want Things to Change - Episode 44


GUEST: Tina Dietz, Speaker, Audiobook Publisher, Podcast Producer, Content Marketing Expert


DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:


In today's episode, Dr. Shaler shares compelling ideas about how you can be keeping yourself from having the life and relationships you most want.


What's getting in your way? What's stopping you? Do you know? Stop and think about it...seriously.


How are you with reasons, rationalizations, justifications, and plain ol' excuses? Maybe, it's time to think them through and see how they are serving you. Listen in for insights and inspiration for moving forward more powerfully.


You deserve to take up space and draw breath, so, why not take stock and see if you're making the most of it? There is no right way to be, and you are at your best when you are examining, and re-examining your focus, your goals, and your desired results. Rhoberta will help you think that through today. Listen in and be inspired to move in the direction of the life and love you want.


GUEST: Tina Dietz, Speaker, Audiobook Publisher, Podcast Producer, Content Marketing Expert


Tina Dietz is an award-winning and internationally acclaimed speaker, audiobook publisher, podcast producer, and content marketing expert who has been featured on media outlets including ABC. Inc.com, Huffington Post, and Forbes. Tina's podcast, The Start Something Show, was named by INC magazine as one of the top 35 podcasts for entrepreneurs. Tina's company, StartSomething Creative Business Solutions, connects leaders, entrepreneurs and experts with larger audiences, resulting in expanded influence and income. Tina divides her time between the US and Cost Rica, where she is part of a leadership team building a conscious community called Vista Mundo.


Tina knows some big things about speaking up! In fact, you could say she's outspoken...lol! With her support, so many people have found their voice and created their businesses, including podcasts. She helps them to become outspoken, too, to give the world the power of their insights, learning, and strategies for growth.


How does someone's voice affect you? Are you aware of its effect on you? You actually are calibrating another person's voice without even realizing...and so is everyone else!


How does your voice affect others? Your voice speaks volume--even before the impact of your words!


Your early life set you up for how you listen, what you pick up, and what you ignore or deny. What did you take on, and how is it serving me now?


Tina Dietz help people express themselves in the world through audio publishing. In Part Two of today's episode, Tina shared her entrepreneurial journey, and how she came to her current work. She is an international expert at helping her clients turn their books and ideas, into audio books and products.


How to ask good questions is imperative to interviewing others. Big talking points about this today!


So many turns and twists in this episode through life stories, Hijackals, and creating a wonderful business. You'll enjoy this, I think!


Here's some interview highlights:


  • Do you realize how you use your listening to navigate your life and relationships?
  • Are you in tune with it?
  • Why is it that you can hear your name spoken, even in a crowded room?
  • What did you learn early in life about who you are, and how intuitive you are?


Tina gives you insights into why this is and what the impact of it is on how you create your life, relationships, and business.


HER FREE GIFTTina's ebook, Launch Your Audio Book. Get it HERE.


CONNECT WITH TINA DIETZ:

Website: StartSomethingCreativeBizSolutions.com

Twitter: @TheSuperStarter

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/TinaDietz

Facebook: Facebook.com/StartSomethingBusinessSolutions


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


How to Speak Up Powerfully When You Want Things to Change - Episode 44


GUEST: Tina Dietz, Speaker, Audiobook Publisher, Podcast Producer, Content Marketing Expert


DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:


In today's episode, Dr. Shaler shares compelling ideas about how you can be keeping yourself from having the life and relationships you most want.


What's getting in your way? What's stopping you? Do you know? Stop and think about it...seriously.


How are you with reasons, rationalizations, justifications, and plain ol' excuses? Maybe, it's time to think them through and see how they are serving you. Listen in for insights and inspiration for moving forward more powerfully.


You deserve to take up space and draw breath, so, why not take stock and see if you're making the most of it? There is no right way to be, and you are at your best when you are examining, and re-examining your focus, your goals, and your desired results. Rhoberta will help you think that through today. Listen in and be inspired to move in the direction of the life and love you want.


GUEST: Tina Dietz, Speaker, Audiobook Publisher, Podcast Producer, Content Marketing Expert


Tina Dietz is an award-winning and internationally acclaimed speaker, audiobook publisher, podcast producer, and content marketing expert who has been featured on media outlets including ABC. Inc.com, Huffington Post, and Forbes. Tina's podcast, The Start Something Show, was named by INC magazine as one of the top 35 podcasts for entrepreneurs. Tina's company, StartSomething Creative Business Solutions, connects leaders, entrepreneurs and experts with larger audiences, resulting in expanded influence and income. Tina divides her time between the US and Cost Rica, where she is part of a leadership team building a conscious community called Vista Mundo.


Tina knows some big things about speaking up! In fact, you could say she's outspoken...lol! With her support, so many people have found their voice and created their businesses, including podcasts. She helps them to become outspoken, too, to give the world the power of their insights, learning, and strategies for growth.


How does someone's voice affect you? Are you aware of its effect on you? You actually are calibrating another person's voice without even realizing...and so is everyone else!


How does your voice affect others? Your voice speaks volume--even before the impact of your words!


Your early life set you up for how you listen, what you pick up, and what you ignore or deny. What did you take on, and how is it serving me now?


Tina Dietz help people express themselves in the world through audio publishing. In Part Two of today's episode, Tina shared her entrepreneurial journey, and how she came to her current work. She is an international expert at helping her clients turn their books and ideas, into audio books and products.


How to ask good questions is imperative to interviewing others. Big talking points about this today!


So many turns and twists in this episode through life stories, Hijackals, and creating a wonderful business. You'll enjoy this, I think!


Here's some interview highlights:


  • Do you realize how you use your listening to navigate your life and relationships?
  • Are you in tune with it?
  • Why is it that you can hear your name spoken, even in a crowded room?
  • What did you learn early in life about who you are, and how intuitive you are?


Tina gives you insights into why this is and what the impact of it is on how you create your life, relationships, and business.


HER FREE GIFTTina's ebook, Launch Your Audio Book. Get it HERE.


CONNECT WITH TINA DIETZ:

Website: StartSomethingCreativeBizSolutions.com

Twitter: @TheSuperStarter

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/TinaDietz

Facebook: Facebook.com/StartSomethingBusinessSolutions


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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<![CDATA[Change Your Life with Powerful Self-Talk & Heart-Centered Focus GUEST: Candy Barone]]> Wed, 13 Jun 2018 15:17:29 GMT 45:31 5b209be2e018fcf645ce928b no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/change-your-life-with-powerful-self-talk-heart-centered You are powerful. What you say to yourself is the starting point of success. full 4 43 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


Change Your Life with Powerful Self-Talk & Heart-Centered Focus - Episode 43


GUEST: Candy Barone of You Empowered Strong: YES! Catalyst and change agent


DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:


In today's episode, Dr. Shaler shares compelling ideas about how you can be keeping yourself from having the life and relationships you most want.


What's getting in your way? What's stopping you? Do you know? Stop and think about it...seriously.


How are you with reasons, rationalizations, justifications, and plain ol' excuses? Maybe, it's time to think them through and see how they are serving you. Listen in for insights and inspiration for moving forward more powerfully.


You deserve to take up space and draw breath, so, why not take stock and see if you're making the most of it? There is no right way to be, and you are at your best when you are examining, and re-examining your focus, your goals, and your desired results. Rhoberta will help you think that through today. Listen in and be inspired to move in the direction of the life and love you want.


GUEST: Candy Barone of You Empowered Strong: YES!


Candy Barone is a leadership expert, a trainer, and executive coach. As a catalyst and change agent, she works with executives and emerging leaders to help bring "heart" back to leadership while feeding the soul of their business. With twenty years in corporate, she is a master at building exceptional, high-performing teams, maximizing and leveraging ROI, growing emerging leaders, and catapulting individuals to achieve explosive growth.


No matter where you are in life--home or work--you're going to experience some difficult conversations. You'll meet some conflict, and some unreasonably folks, too. To be effective--and to feel really good about yourself--you start with the conversations you're having with yourself...especially the ones you don't want to examine.


Candy shares insights on knowing if your inner dialogue needs a tune-up. If it's not working for you, or it's not sufficiently empowering, you are settling for less in life.


Great tips on more empowering ways to talk to yourself and why it's important for having the life and career you say you want. Self-talk is the beginning of everything in your life.


What does it mean to be a leader in your own life? What does it take to be a leader...anywhere?


Knowing how to have what Candy calls "courageous, connected conversations" makes a huge difference in your potential for growth. You need to get comfortable having difficult conversations, to learn to have healthy conversations about conflict.


Are you ready? It might be daunting and difficult at first, but the rewards are HUGE!


Listen in and get these tips and insights to empower yourself to have a better, courageous, connected day!


Here's some interview highlights:


  • How does your language have to change to be more empowering when you're speaking to yourself
  • What strategies will work when you walk towards difficult conversations, rather than shy away
  • Why it is imperative to give up fear of conflict, and develop confidence
  • What gets in the way of most folks and how they prevent themselves from having what they want



HER FREE GIFT: Take Candy Barone's "Say YES!" quiz HERE.


CONNECT WITH CANDY BARONE:

Website: CandyBaroneInternational.com

Twitter: @Candy_Barone

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/candybarone

Facebook: Facebook.com/YouEmpoweredStrong

Instagram: Instagram.com/candy_barone


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


Change Your Life with Powerful Self-Talk & Heart-Centered Focus - Episode 43


GUEST: Candy Barone of You Empowered Strong: YES! Catalyst and change agent


DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:


In today's episode, Dr. Shaler shares compelling ideas about how you can be keeping yourself from having the life and relationships you most want.


What's getting in your way? What's stopping you? Do you know? Stop and think about it...seriously.


How are you with reasons, rationalizations, justifications, and plain ol' excuses? Maybe, it's time to think them through and see how they are serving you. Listen in for insights and inspiration for moving forward more powerfully.


You deserve to take up space and draw breath, so, why not take stock and see if you're making the most of it? There is no right way to be, and you are at your best when you are examining, and re-examining your focus, your goals, and your desired results. Rhoberta will help you think that through today. Listen in and be inspired to move in the direction of the life and love you want.


GUEST: Candy Barone of You Empowered Strong: YES!


Candy Barone is a leadership expert, a trainer, and executive coach. As a catalyst and change agent, she works with executives and emerging leaders to help bring "heart" back to leadership while feeding the soul of their business. With twenty years in corporate, she is a master at building exceptional, high-performing teams, maximizing and leveraging ROI, growing emerging leaders, and catapulting individuals to achieve explosive growth.


No matter where you are in life--home or work--you're going to experience some difficult conversations. You'll meet some conflict, and some unreasonably folks, too. To be effective--and to feel really good about yourself--you start with the conversations you're having with yourself...especially the ones you don't want to examine.


Candy shares insights on knowing if your inner dialogue needs a tune-up. If it's not working for you, or it's not sufficiently empowering, you are settling for less in life.


Great tips on more empowering ways to talk to yourself and why it's important for having the life and career you say you want. Self-talk is the beginning of everything in your life.


What does it mean to be a leader in your own life? What does it take to be a leader...anywhere?


Knowing how to have what Candy calls "courageous, connected conversations" makes a huge difference in your potential for growth. You need to get comfortable having difficult conversations, to learn to have healthy conversations about conflict.


Are you ready? It might be daunting and difficult at first, but the rewards are HUGE!


Listen in and get these tips and insights to empower yourself to have a better, courageous, connected day!


Here's some interview highlights:


  • How does your language have to change to be more empowering when you're speaking to yourself
  • What strategies will work when you walk towards difficult conversations, rather than shy away
  • Why it is imperative to give up fear of conflict, and develop confidence
  • What gets in the way of most folks and how they prevent themselves from having what they want



HER FREE GIFT: Take Candy Barone's "Say YES!" quiz HERE.


CONNECT WITH CANDY BARONE:

Website: CandyBaroneInternational.com

Twitter: @Candy_Barone

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/candybarone

Facebook: Facebook.com/YouEmpoweredStrong

Instagram: Instagram.com/candy_barone


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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<![CDATA[Mental Health: Know What To Do When It's Slipping Into Anxiety, Depression, or More GUEST: Kristin Walker]]> Tue, 05 Jun 2018 22:26:55 GMT 43:42 5b16eddee0f4961b76e5326d no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/mental-health-know-what-to-do-anxiety-depression-bipolar One in Five Adults in the U.S. Will Experience Mental Illness this Year. It Happens! full 4 42 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


Mental Health: Know What To Do When It's Slipping Into Anxiety, Depression, and More - Episode 42


GUEST: Kristin Walker, CEO of Mental Health News Radio Network


DR. RHOBERTA SHALER'S TOPIC: Mental Illness Scares Us More Than A Broken Leg


Today, Dr. Shaler talks about the prevalence of mental health issues in our world, and why it is so essential to remove any stigma from it.


People feel sorry for you, and behave in understanding ways, when you have heart surgery and a twelve-week recovery. Why do people not recognize, and be compassionate, when someone has a twelve-week period of depression, or a day or two of extreme anxiety? It scares them!


The American Psychiatric Association at Psychiatry.org tells us:


"Mental illnesses are health conditions involving changes in thinking, emotion or behavior (or a combination of these). Mental illnesses are associated with distress and/or problems functioning in social, work or family activities.


Mental illness is common. In a given year:

  • nearly one in five (19 percent) US adults experience some form of mental illness
  • one in 24 (4.1 percent) has a serious mental illness
  • one in 12 (8.5 percent) has a substance use disorder


Mental illness is treatable. The vast majority of individuals with mental illness continue to function in their daily lives."


So, let's get real. Mental illness happens to folks around us. Let's be compassionate. Let's not be afraid. Let's not tell them to "snap out of it." Let's help them get the help they need to recover.


GUEST: Kristin Walker, CEO of Mental Health News Radio Network


Kristin's news network was born from her popular podcast downloaded in over 170 countries. It has been on air for four years and has over one million listens. She now produces additional podcasts for others in the field of behavioral health as well as organizations such as McLean Hospital in Boston, Springbrook Behavioral Health in Greenville, SC, and many others. Currently, Kristin's organization is producing over eighteen additional podcasts on the network, all dedicated to eradication of stigma around mental health and addiction disorders.


Kristin is also the CEO of EverythingEHR, a behavioral health consulting firm.


The stigma of mental illness is prevalent, and we need to shift that. Kristin had a Hijackal® home, and the too frequent first marriage to a Hijackal as a result. She knows what we talk about here on Emotional Savvy, and on my sister podcast, Save Your Sanity: Help for Handling Hijackals.


Kristin is all too familiar with the challenges of mental health. I loved what she said about Hijackals:


"They use you as a waste receptacle for their unhealed wounds. Then, dump on you to get a vacation from their waste." Familiar? It was to me!


Kristin shares with us her refreshing look at why we don't recognize how we've been drained without knowing it and what we need to do to refill ourselves...in healthy ways.


Here's some interview highlights:


  • How can early childhood sexual abuse set you up for having toxic people in your life as an adult
  • How you can remove yourself from narcissistic relationships
  • What steps you can take to move out of co-dependent relationships


CONNECT WITH KRISTIN WALKER:

Website: MentalHealthNewsRadio.com

Twitter: @mhnrnetwork

Instagram: @kristinsunanta


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


Mental Health: Know What To Do When It's Slipping Into Anxiety, Depression, and More - Episode 42


GUEST: Kristin Walker, CEO of Mental Health News Radio Network


DR. RHOBERTA SHALER'S TOPIC: Mental Illness Scares Us More Than A Broken Leg


Today, Dr. Shaler talks about the prevalence of mental health issues in our world, and why it is so essential to remove any stigma from it.


People feel sorry for you, and behave in understanding ways, when you have heart surgery and a twelve-week recovery. Why do people not recognize, and be compassionate, when someone has a twelve-week period of depression, or a day or two of extreme anxiety? It scares them!


The American Psychiatric Association at Psychiatry.org tells us:


"Mental illnesses are health conditions involving changes in thinking, emotion or behavior (or a combination of these). Mental illnesses are associated with distress and/or problems functioning in social, work or family activities.


Mental illness is common. In a given year:

  • nearly one in five (19 percent) US adults experience some form of mental illness
  • one in 24 (4.1 percent) has a serious mental illness
  • one in 12 (8.5 percent) has a substance use disorder


Mental illness is treatable. The vast majority of individuals with mental illness continue to function in their daily lives."


So, let's get real. Mental illness happens to folks around us. Let's be compassionate. Let's not be afraid. Let's not tell them to "snap out of it." Let's help them get the help they need to recover.


GUEST: Kristin Walker, CEO of Mental Health News Radio Network


Kristin's news network was born from her popular podcast downloaded in over 170 countries. It has been on air for four years and has over one million listens. She now produces additional podcasts for others in the field of behavioral health as well as organizations such as McLean Hospital in Boston, Springbrook Behavioral Health in Greenville, SC, and many others. Currently, Kristin's organization is producing over eighteen additional podcasts on the network, all dedicated to eradication of stigma around mental health and addiction disorders.


Kristin is also the CEO of EverythingEHR, a behavioral health consulting firm.


The stigma of mental illness is prevalent, and we need to shift that. Kristin had a Hijackal® home, and the too frequent first marriage to a Hijackal as a result. She knows what we talk about here on Emotional Savvy, and on my sister podcast, Save Your Sanity: Help for Handling Hijackals.


Kristin is all too familiar with the challenges of mental health. I loved what she said about Hijackals:


"They use you as a waste receptacle for their unhealed wounds. Then, dump on you to get a vacation from their waste." Familiar? It was to me!


Kristin shares with us her refreshing look at why we don't recognize how we've been drained without knowing it and what we need to do to refill ourselves...in healthy ways.


Here's some interview highlights:


  • How can early childhood sexual abuse set you up for having toxic people in your life as an adult
  • How you can remove yourself from narcissistic relationships
  • What steps you can take to move out of co-dependent relationships


CONNECT WITH KRISTIN WALKER:

Website: MentalHealthNewsRadio.com

Twitter: @mhnrnetwork

Instagram: @kristinsunanta


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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Help! What About the Money When Thinking About Divorce? GUEST: Michelle Jacobik Help! What About the Money When Thinking About Divorce? GUEST: Michelle Jacobik Wed, 30 May 2018 00:18:08 GMT 44:28 5b0d7ad37b67904376d52011 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/help-what-about-the-money-when-thinking-about-divorce Prosperity and Divorce? Sometimes that seems like an oxymoron. Learn how to straighten things out now. full 4 41 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


HELP! What About The Money When Thinking About Divorce - Episode 41


GUEST: Michelle Jacobik, author of Prosperity After Divorce


DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:


In this episode, Dr. Shaler introduces a new topic: prosperity. This is the first time she's addressed this.


As you know, Dr. Shaler has written many books, and one called "What You Pay Attention To Expands" offers the keys to understanding how powerful your mind is. Today, she talks about how you can purposefully and intentionally use it because, as she says, "Prosperity begins between your ears."


Prosperity is the state of thriving. Today's tips on how to draw prosperity to you--whether that is relationships, health, success, career, family, whatever kind of prosperity--can help you make shifts in your mindset that will make significant changes in your world.


GUEST: Michelle Jacobik, author of Prosperity After Divorce


Money? It's a big consideration when the topic of divorce comes up. In fact, it keeps people from actually divorcing, sometimes, for a long time! Each time they think of divorcing, they step back because of money issues. Does that sound familiar?


On the back of Michelle's book, Prosperity After Divorce, she wrote,


"Money is linked to our deepest identification with security, fulfillment, stability, and freedom." So, it's quite possible that before we even had a difficult relationship with a partner, we already had a difficult relationship with money. True?


Of course, money is a huge part of every divorce negotiation. And, it's best if you've been used to talking about money with your partner BEFORE YOU DIVORCE. But, if that has not been the case, you need the mindset, skills, and insights that Michelle is sharing in this episode.


Do you know what "compensatory spending" is?" You need to know that, and we discuss it during the episode.


Here's some interview highlights:


  • How facing your money issues increase your self-confidence
  • How to keep from feeling like you're free-falling financially
  • Why you were always told that budgets are good ideas
  • Insights into debt reduction planning, and saving...even if there is no rainy day in sight


HER FREE GIFT: Free chapter of Michelle's book, Prosperity After Divorce CLICK HERE


CONNECT WITH MICHELLE JACOBIK:

Website: MichelleJacobik.com

Twitter: @MichelleJacobik

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/michellejacobik

Facebook: Facebook.com/prosperityafterdivorce


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


HELP! What About The Money When Thinking About Divorce - Episode 41


GUEST: Michelle Jacobik, author of Prosperity After Divorce


DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:


In this episode, Dr. Shaler introduces a new topic: prosperity. This is the first time she's addressed this.


As you know, Dr. Shaler has written many books, and one called "What You Pay Attention To Expands" offers the keys to understanding how powerful your mind is. Today, she talks about how you can purposefully and intentionally use it because, as she says, "Prosperity begins between your ears."


Prosperity is the state of thriving. Today's tips on how to draw prosperity to you--whether that is relationships, health, success, career, family, whatever kind of prosperity--can help you make shifts in your mindset that will make significant changes in your world.


GUEST: Michelle Jacobik, author of Prosperity After Divorce


Money? It's a big consideration when the topic of divorce comes up. In fact, it keeps people from actually divorcing, sometimes, for a long time! Each time they think of divorcing, they step back because of money issues. Does that sound familiar?


On the back of Michelle's book, Prosperity After Divorce, she wrote,


"Money is linked to our deepest identification with security, fulfillment, stability, and freedom." So, it's quite possible that before we even had a difficult relationship with a partner, we already had a difficult relationship with money. True?


Of course, money is a huge part of every divorce negotiation. And, it's best if you've been used to talking about money with your partner BEFORE YOU DIVORCE. But, if that has not been the case, you need the mindset, skills, and insights that Michelle is sharing in this episode.


Do you know what "compensatory spending" is?" You need to know that, and we discuss it during the episode.


Here's some interview highlights:


  • How facing your money issues increase your self-confidence
  • How to keep from feeling like you're free-falling financially
  • Why you were always told that budgets are good ideas
  • Insights into debt reduction planning, and saving...even if there is no rainy day in sight


HER FREE GIFT: Free chapter of Michelle's book, Prosperity After Divorce CLICK HERE


CONNECT WITH MICHELLE JACOBIK:

Website: MichelleJacobik.com

Twitter: @MichelleJacobik

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/michellejacobik

Facebook: Facebook.com/prosperityafterdivorce


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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How to Keep Yourself Safe: Verbally, Physically, Emotionally GUEST: Susan Harrow How to Keep Yourself Safe: Verbally, Physically, Emotionally GUEST: Susan Harrow Thu, 17 May 2018 23:20:57 GMT 1:23:54 5afdcc6968b677fd5919e80e no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/how-to-keep-yourself-safe-verbally-physically-emotionally Increase Your Confidence in Your Ability to Stand Up for Yourself full 4 40 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


HOW TO KEEP YOURSELF SAFE: VERBALLY, PHYSICALLY, EMOTIONALLY - Episode 40


GUEST: Susan Harrow, Creator of TRUE SHIELD: Verbal Self-Defense For Girls


DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Do people respect you? Or, do they take you for granted? Maybe, there are only one or two people who get your knickers in a twist in that way, and this needs straightening out right away.


Don't feel like a victim. There's no need. You can do something about it.


You might have "Boundary-itis!" Dr. Shaler talks about how you can empower yourself by clarifying, expressing, and maintaining your boundaries...and WHY that's essential to your well-being!


Sure, you know that setting boundaries is a good thing, but this information is SO compelling that you'll want to listen so you can put it in place right away!



GUEST: Susan Harrow, CEO of PRSecrets.com and creator of TRUE SHIELD: Verbal Self-Defense For Girls


Susan Harrow is a world renowned media coach and martial artist. She has a black belt in Aikido and is author of the best-selling book, Sell Yourself Without Selling Your Soul (HarperCollins). For the past 28 years she's run Harrow Communications, a media consultancy, where she's media trained thousands of people in verbal and non-verbal communications.


She’s created a course called True Shield: Verbal Self-Defense For Girls that teaches young women 12-24 how to protect themselves in 10 of life’s most difficult and dangerous situations that they’ll likely encounter — and stay safe. Her newest offering is a woman’s empowerment course that helps prevent sexual harassment in the workplace, in social situations and at school. Women can get free training in her Prevent Sexual Assault Vault + #NotMe Movement


In this empowering episode with Susan, we covered some new areas of keeping yourself safe. I asked Susan why she thinks we need to be empowered. Interesting answer.


Here's some interview highlights:


  • Why you need to set boundaries that send a clear message and head off sexual harassment, sexual assault, tough challenges, unwanted flirtation or invasion of your space
  • How you can set up situations properly to prevent arguing about your boundaries, rules, or standards
  • Responding appropriately--and effectively--to intimidation
  • How Susan found Akido a key to empowering herself and the girls she teaches
  • Using language as self-defense to prevent an attack


And, she helps you understand how to create physical distance in threatening situations, too.


HER FREE GIFT: The 100 word email that can get the media calling you for interviews. CLICK HERE


CONNECT WITH SUSAN HARROW:

Website: PRSecrets.com

Twitter: @SoundBiteSiren

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/susanharrow

Facebook: Facebook.com/susanharrow


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


HOW TO KEEP YOURSELF SAFE: VERBALLY, PHYSICALLY, EMOTIONALLY - Episode 40


GUEST: Susan Harrow, Creator of TRUE SHIELD: Verbal Self-Defense For Girls


DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Do people respect you? Or, do they take you for granted? Maybe, there are only one or two people who get your knickers in a twist in that way, and this needs straightening out right away.


Don't feel like a victim. There's no need. You can do something about it.


You might have "Boundary-itis!" Dr. Shaler talks about how you can empower yourself by clarifying, expressing, and maintaining your boundaries...and WHY that's essential to your well-being!


Sure, you know that setting boundaries is a good thing, but this information is SO compelling that you'll want to listen so you can put it in place right away!



GUEST: Susan Harrow, CEO of PRSecrets.com and creator of TRUE SHIELD: Verbal Self-Defense For Girls


Susan Harrow is a world renowned media coach and martial artist. She has a black belt in Aikido and is author of the best-selling book, Sell Yourself Without Selling Your Soul (HarperCollins). For the past 28 years she's run Harrow Communications, a media consultancy, where she's media trained thousands of people in verbal and non-verbal communications.


She’s created a course called True Shield: Verbal Self-Defense For Girls that teaches young women 12-24 how to protect themselves in 10 of life’s most difficult and dangerous situations that they’ll likely encounter — and stay safe. Her newest offering is a woman’s empowerment course that helps prevent sexual harassment in the workplace, in social situations and at school. Women can get free training in her Prevent Sexual Assault Vault + #NotMe Movement


In this empowering episode with Susan, we covered some new areas of keeping yourself safe. I asked Susan why she thinks we need to be empowered. Interesting answer.


Here's some interview highlights:


  • Why you need to set boundaries that send a clear message and head off sexual harassment, sexual assault, tough challenges, unwanted flirtation or invasion of your space
  • How you can set up situations properly to prevent arguing about your boundaries, rules, or standards
  • Responding appropriately--and effectively--to intimidation
  • How Susan found Akido a key to empowering herself and the girls she teaches
  • Using language as self-defense to prevent an attack


And, she helps you understand how to create physical distance in threatening situations, too.


HER FREE GIFT: The 100 word email that can get the media calling you for interviews. CLICK HERE


CONNECT WITH SUSAN HARROW:

Website: PRSecrets.com

Twitter: @SoundBiteSiren

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/susanharrow

Facebook: Facebook.com/susanharrow


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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How to Leave a Hijackal With Your Spiritual Self Intact GUEST: Lily Sanders How to Leave a Hijackal With Your Spiritual Self Intact GUEST: Lily Sanders Tue, 08 May 2018 19:08:51 GMT 39:29 5af1f602a205167f4c62d73a no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/how-to-leave-a-hijackal-with-your-spiritual-self-intact Being Your Best Self in Difficult Conversations without being trampled, abused, or feeling as though you sold out. full 4 39 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


HOW TO LEAVE A HIJACKAL WITH YOUR SPIRITUAL SELF INTACT - Episode 38


GUEST: Lily Sanders, Author of Truth to Triumph: A Spiritual Guide to Finding Your Truth


DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

You've likely not happy when you blurt something out, and think better of it later, right?

You want to have the presence of mind to be your best self, even in the face of irrationality, rudeness, and toxicity.


Today's show begins with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler sharing how to be able to respond, rather than react, even in difficult circumstances, with difficult, toxic people. You can bring your best self forward, even in those moments.Using these tips can significantly increase your self-confidence, too.



GUEST: Lily Sanders

Lily Sander's life experiences with domestic violence, co-parenting, and intense compassion have gifted her a purpose to write, influence and coach others. She specializes in transition and spiritual guidance. She teaches others how to stop seeing themselves as a victim, and instead, learn how to use these experiences to become an empowered expression of love and truth.


Being held captive by a relentlessly difficult, unpredictable partner is frightening. And, it gets worse when you have children! Today's guest, Lily Sanders, walked through this, and she shares her journey and the wisdom she gained from the experience. You may be in a similar situation, and her story can light your path to a safer future. A few things we discussed:

  • How to get ready to face the truth of a long-term difficult relationship
  • What is takes to recognize what's happening as abuse
  • How "guarding your thoughts" applies to parenting
  • Key things you can change in your life to experience inner peace



CONNECT WITH LILY SANDERS:

Website: LilySanders.live

Twitter: @LilySanders11

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/lilyproject1415

Facebook: Facebook.com/lilysanders.live


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


HOW TO LEAVE A HIJACKAL WITH YOUR SPIRITUAL SELF INTACT - Episode 38


GUEST: Lily Sanders, Author of Truth to Triumph: A Spiritual Guide to Finding Your Truth


DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

You've likely not happy when you blurt something out, and think better of it later, right?

You want to have the presence of mind to be your best self, even in the face of irrationality, rudeness, and toxicity.


Today's show begins with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler sharing how to be able to respond, rather than react, even in difficult circumstances, with difficult, toxic people. You can bring your best self forward, even in those moments.Using these tips can significantly increase your self-confidence, too.



GUEST: Lily Sanders

Lily Sander's life experiences with domestic violence, co-parenting, and intense compassion have gifted her a purpose to write, influence and coach others. She specializes in transition and spiritual guidance. She teaches others how to stop seeing themselves as a victim, and instead, learn how to use these experiences to become an empowered expression of love and truth.


Being held captive by a relentlessly difficult, unpredictable partner is frightening. And, it gets worse when you have children! Today's guest, Lily Sanders, walked through this, and she shares her journey and the wisdom she gained from the experience. You may be in a similar situation, and her story can light your path to a safer future. A few things we discussed:

  • How to get ready to face the truth of a long-term difficult relationship
  • What is takes to recognize what's happening as abuse
  • How "guarding your thoughts" applies to parenting
  • Key things you can change in your life to experience inner peace



CONNECT WITH LILY SANDERS:

Website: LilySanders.live

Twitter: @LilySanders11

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/lilyproject1415

Facebook: Facebook.com/lilysanders.live


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

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<![CDATA[How To Live With Few Regrets & Move Towards Success GUEST: Scott Kimbro]]> Wed, 04 Apr 2018 01:00:00 GMT 58:28 5acc1ff90f06e6a660f6d20e no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/how-to-live-with-few-regrets-move-towards-success Empower yourself to confidently step up and live fully engaged and on purpose with your mission. full 3 38 The Relationship Help Show with Dr Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


HOW TO LIVE WITH FEW REGRETS AND MOVE TOWARDS SUCCESS


Highlights:


Dr. Shaler talks about "Are You Mistaking Activity for Progress?"


Guest: Scott Kimbro, Author of SubmUrgency: How To Live & Die Without Regrets


Dr. Shaler offers her own tricks on how to stop wasting time on regrets

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Moving towards success is never a straightforward path...at least, not for most people. There are curves, sidelines, and setbacks. Sometimes, we're derailed. Sometimes, though, we derail ourselves. Dr. Shaler starts today's show off by talking about "Are You Mistaking Activity for Progress?" It's a very important question to consider.


So easy to fool yourself. As long as you're busy, you're doing the right thing. Not actually true, right? You can get quite caught up in finding out if there really are 1000 staples in that little box while you're actively putting off finishing a project!


Do you know your high-value activities, and do them first? Your productivity--and your self-esteem--will rise when you stop mistaking activity for progress.


Today's guest, Scott Kimbro, is the author of SubmUrgency: How to Live and Die Without Regret . ​You define success for yourself. No matter what that is, you'll need to be able to trust yourself to make good decisions.


Scott and Dr. Rhoberta Shaler talk about empowering yourself to confidently step up and live fully. Even if things are difficult--or have been--you can feel good about how you respond to life, and the results you create. It's possible to not recognize how urgent something really is. That's a good starting place.


In submUrgency, Scott defines three kinds of urgency in life:


" Obvious Urgency - A situation that demands immediate attention that usually has negative consequences if not addressed.

Limited/Optional Urgency - A situation that one can choose to embrace or ignore; however, if it is embraced and fulfilled with a high degree of urgency, it can have amazing results.

Hidden Urgency or SubmUrgency - A situation that is right in front of us but is not readily seen unless we are taught how to find it."


Scott Kimbro offered this wonderful quote from Pablo Picasso:


"Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone."


Wow! That's a wake-up call, isn't it? Whether that's a call to your mother, kissing your partner, or finishing your book, only you know what you want to do, and how you want to use your time. We discuss this more fully in today's show.


And, more about living without regrets from Dr. Shaler. There are a few things you can think through that will help you make decisions without regrets. She offers one big thing to think about that can help you feel good about your decisions, and reduce the likelihood of regretting your choices in life and relationships.


Learn more about the finer points of seeing and responding to these levels of urgency, and moving forward towards the life and relationships you want during today's show.


Click here for more About Scott Kimbro:

I am Scott Kimbro, a man who loves to teach. I am a Christian, husband, father, author, inspirational speaker and teacher. I, my wife, and our two daughters live in Spring Hill, Tennessee. My professional background includes accounting, banking, various managerial positions and entrepreneur of both traditional and network marketing companies.

In traditional business, I was the Chief Operating Officer of Kimbro Oil Company in Nashville, Tennessee. In the network marketing space my wife and I became Diamond Executives with a wellness company.


Click here for more About Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent & ongoing care for relationships in crisis. She awakens listeners to recognize--and stop tolerating abuse from--the relentlessly difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals®. Author: 16 books. Host of The Relationship Help Show. She works with clients worldwide through video conferencing. You can schedule a free consultation at https://ForRelationshipHelp.com/free-consult


Dr. Shaler website: https://forRelationshipHelp.com

Subscribe to her YouTube Channel: https://YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 



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The Relationship Help Show with Dr Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


HOW TO LIVE WITH FEW REGRETS AND MOVE TOWARDS SUCCESS


Highlights:


Dr. Shaler talks about "Are You Mistaking Activity for Progress?"


Guest: Scott Kimbro, Author of SubmUrgency: How To Live & Die Without Regrets


Dr. Shaler offers her own tricks on how to stop wasting time on regrets

__________________________________________________________________________________________


Moving towards success is never a straightforward path...at least, not for most people. There are curves, sidelines, and setbacks. Sometimes, we're derailed. Sometimes, though, we derail ourselves. Dr. Shaler starts today's show off by talking about "Are You Mistaking Activity for Progress?" It's a very important question to consider.


So easy to fool yourself. As long as you're busy, you're doing the right thing. Not actually true, right? You can get quite caught up in finding out if there really are 1000 staples in that little box while you're actively putting off finishing a project!


Do you know your high-value activities, and do them first? Your productivity--and your self-esteem--will rise when you stop mistaking activity for progress.


Today's guest, Scott Kimbro, is the author of SubmUrgency: How to Live and Die Without Regret . ​You define success for yourself. No matter what that is, you'll need to be able to trust yourself to make good decisions.


Scott and Dr. Rhoberta Shaler talk about empowering yourself to confidently step up and live fully. Even if things are difficult--or have been--you can feel good about how you respond to life, and the results you create. It's possible to not recognize how urgent something really is. That's a good starting place.


In submUrgency, Scott defines three kinds of urgency in life:


" Obvious Urgency - A situation that demands immediate attention that usually has negative consequences if not addressed.

Limited/Optional Urgency - A situation that one can choose to embrace or ignore; however, if it is embraced and fulfilled with a high degree of urgency, it can have amazing results.

Hidden Urgency or SubmUrgency - A situation that is right in front of us but is not readily seen unless we are taught how to find it."


Scott Kimbro offered this wonderful quote from Pablo Picasso:


"Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone."


Wow! That's a wake-up call, isn't it? Whether that's a call to your mother, kissing your partner, or finishing your book, only you know what you want to do, and how you want to use your time. We discuss this more fully in today's show.


And, more about living without regrets from Dr. Shaler. There are a few things you can think through that will help you make decisions without regrets. She offers one big thing to think about that can help you feel good about your decisions, and reduce the likelihood of regretting your choices in life and relationships.


Learn more about the finer points of seeing and responding to these levels of urgency, and moving forward towards the life and relationships you want during today's show.


Click here for more About Scott Kimbro:

I am Scott Kimbro, a man who loves to teach. I am a Christian, husband, father, author, inspirational speaker and teacher. I, my wife, and our two daughters live in Spring Hill, Tennessee. My professional background includes accounting, banking, various managerial positions and entrepreneur of both traditional and network marketing companies.

In traditional business, I was the Chief Operating Officer of Kimbro Oil Company in Nashville, Tennessee. In the network marketing space my wife and I became Diamond Executives with a wellness company.


Click here for more About Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent & ongoing care for relationships in crisis. She awakens listeners to recognize--and stop tolerating abuse from--the relentlessly difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals®. Author: 16 books. Host of The Relationship Help Show. She works with clients worldwide through video conferencing. You can schedule a free consultation at https://ForRelationshipHelp.com/free-consult


Dr. Shaler website: https://forRelationshipHelp.com

Subscribe to her YouTube Channel: https://YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 



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Is Your Family History Ruining Your Relationship Life? GUEST: Johanna Lynn Is Your Family History Ruining Your Relationship Life? GUEST: Johanna Lynn Wed, 28 Mar 2018 01:00:00 GMT 59:52 5acc1f47043e12b4333a2961 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/is-your-family-history-ruining-your-relationship-life How is Your Past Impacting Your Now? Have you thought it through in specific details? full 3 37 Relationship Help Show with Dr Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


Dr. Shaler opens the show with thoughts on things you might believe about yourself if you were raised by a Hijackal®


​Guest, Johanna Lynn, Clinical Hypnotherapist

All that happened to you in life affects everything that is currently happening in your life. If you are not getting the results in life and relationships that you want, then, you want to listen to this episode for sure. 


Dr. Shaler talks about a common issue: hoping someone will bring up a difficult situation so you don't have to.


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Raised by a Hijackal®? You Might Believe This Deep Down...and It's a Lie! 

Unless you've had a reason or taken the time to think deeply about the home your grew up in, you might not recognize that you had a relentlessly difficult, toxic parent. If you did, the things you learned before you even could walk are affecting everything, on auto-pilot. That Hijackal parent taught you who you were and what to expect from life, and that parent lied to you. Really! Listen in. 


When you recognize what you were raised in, and who you were raised by, you'll recognize the need for help to change a few things that can make your life and relationships so much more fulfilling.


Schedule a free consultation with Dr. Shaler: https://ForRelationshipHelp.com/free-consult

Enjoy her videos on YouTube: httsp://youtube.com/forrelationshiphelp


GUEST: Johanna Lynn Part 1 Inherited Family Ties and Traits


Why are you comfortable being treated in ways that make you uncomfortable? Learn how your nervous system learned this, and may be settling for taking crumbs from the family table.


Families share operating systems, family patterns, family traits. Learn how your inner images of yourself and your family play out in your life now. Epigenetic patterns. 


GUEST Johanna Lynn Part 2 Inherited Family Ties and Traits


Did you have an emotionally unavailable parent? Did you have an absent parent? The loss that this created is part of your "emotional body."


Trust. Where did you learn to trust, or why not to trust? Your family! Listen as Johanna and Dr. Shaler share the impact of your family on your daily life today. 


It's easy to say to yourself, "Yes, I know. My family was tough, and I'm doing OK." You like are. The thing is, if you take the time to dive into some beliefs you have that you might not even be aware of, you can unleash the power within you to have the life, love, and success you want. Discover where you may have been shut down early on. This can limit you, and it's not necessary.


Johanna Lynn spoke of her process:


"The first thing I do is I want to take a little bit of family history from both sides so that we can make sense of what is pretty much dysfunctional of where it feels familiar, why it feels right or or common in the body to feel disrespected, to be spoken to poorly, whatever the the need and want kind of ratio that push pull between a couple can be that are immersed in high conflict, so a lot of times when we can get a little bit of family history, we can step beyond the story."



Learn more about Johann Lynn HERE


Are You Waiting For Someone Else To Go First?


Are you afraid to bring up issues, or talk about a conflict, a need, or your feelings? Many people hope their partners will bring up problems. That doesn't work well.


Dr. Shaler give you some insights into what's really going on when these are the dynamics of a relationship. More importantly, she helps you know how to approach a problem, and how to talk it through. Feel confident bringing up difficult things, and increase your chances of solving problems. Be assertive. Then, you won't be afraid of becoming aggressive.


Stay in touch. Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's TIPS FOR RELATIONSHIPS: https://forrelationshiphelp.com/subscribe


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

 

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Relationship Help Show with Dr Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


Dr. Shaler opens the show with thoughts on things you might believe about yourself if you were raised by a Hijackal®


​Guest, Johanna Lynn, Clinical Hypnotherapist

All that happened to you in life affects everything that is currently happening in your life. If you are not getting the results in life and relationships that you want, then, you want to listen to this episode for sure. 


Dr. Shaler talks about a common issue: hoping someone will bring up a difficult situation so you don't have to.


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Raised by a Hijackal®? You Might Believe This Deep Down...and It's a Lie! 

Unless you've had a reason or taken the time to think deeply about the home your grew up in, you might not recognize that you had a relentlessly difficult, toxic parent. If you did, the things you learned before you even could walk are affecting everything, on auto-pilot. That Hijackal parent taught you who you were and what to expect from life, and that parent lied to you. Really! Listen in. 


When you recognize what you were raised in, and who you were raised by, you'll recognize the need for help to change a few things that can make your life and relationships so much more fulfilling.


Schedule a free consultation with Dr. Shaler: https://ForRelationshipHelp.com/free-consult

Enjoy her videos on YouTube: httsp://youtube.com/forrelationshiphelp


GUEST: Johanna Lynn Part 1 Inherited Family Ties and Traits


Why are you comfortable being treated in ways that make you uncomfortable? Learn how your nervous system learned this, and may be settling for taking crumbs from the family table.


Families share operating systems, family patterns, family traits. Learn how your inner images of yourself and your family play out in your life now. Epigenetic patterns. 


GUEST Johanna Lynn Part 2 Inherited Family Ties and Traits


Did you have an emotionally unavailable parent? Did you have an absent parent? The loss that this created is part of your "emotional body."


Trust. Where did you learn to trust, or why not to trust? Your family! Listen as Johanna and Dr. Shaler share the impact of your family on your daily life today. 


It's easy to say to yourself, "Yes, I know. My family was tough, and I'm doing OK." You like are. The thing is, if you take the time to dive into some beliefs you have that you might not even be aware of, you can unleash the power within you to have the life, love, and success you want. Discover where you may have been shut down early on. This can limit you, and it's not necessary.


Johanna Lynn spoke of her process:


"The first thing I do is I want to take a little bit of family history from both sides so that we can make sense of what is pretty much dysfunctional of where it feels familiar, why it feels right or or common in the body to feel disrespected, to be spoken to poorly, whatever the the need and want kind of ratio that push pull between a couple can be that are immersed in high conflict, so a lot of times when we can get a little bit of family history, we can step beyond the story."



Learn more about Johann Lynn HERE


Are You Waiting For Someone Else To Go First?


Are you afraid to bring up issues, or talk about a conflict, a need, or your feelings? Many people hope their partners will bring up problems. That doesn't work well.


Dr. Shaler give you some insights into what's really going on when these are the dynamics of a relationship. More importantly, she helps you know how to approach a problem, and how to talk it through. Feel confident bringing up difficult things, and increase your chances of solving problems. Be assertive. Then, you won't be afraid of becoming aggressive.


Stay in touch. Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's TIPS FOR RELATIONSHIPS: https://forrelationshiphelp.com/subscribe


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

 

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How to Manage Uncertainty, Ambiguity and Chaos in Relationships GUEST: Dr. Dennis Merritt-Jones How to Manage Uncertainty, Ambiguity and Chaos in Relationships GUEST: Dr. Dennis Merritt-Jones Wed, 21 Mar 2018 01:00:00 GMT 59:04 5acc1e4c0f06e6a660f6d20d no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/how-to-manage-uncertainty-in-relationships Start with yourself. Be Empowered. Step up and stop tolerating chaos. full 3 36 The Relationship Help Show with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


HOW TO MANAGE UNCERTAINTY, AMBIGUITY & CHAOS IN RELATIONSHIPS


Toxic people thrive on--and, therefore create--uncertainty, ambiguity and chaos. That's how they gain power and control over people, conversations, and circumstances. Today's show will help you see where and how you are being controlled by uncertainty...even when you don't think it's possible.


Dr. Rhoberta Shaler gives you strategies for safely saying what you mean, at the time it needs to be said.


​Guest, Dr Dennis Merritt-Jones, author of The Art of Uncertainty, offers a definition of uncertainty and why it can be a good thing. Who knew? Dr. Shaler asks him a whole lot of questions about this! For instance, can you be fully present and detached at the same time?


Q & A Today: My partner left me. Should I take my partner back?


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How To Learn To Say What You Mean - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

You're often taught to bite your tongue, right? Somehow, speaking your truth is discouraged, almost as though what you have to say has no value and doesn't matter. Then, you get in the way of not speaking up when you are discounted, degraded, or verbally abused. That leads to emotional abuse. So, these insights can help you find your voice...and use it! 


GUEST: Dr. Dennis Merritt-Jones, author of The Art of Uncertainty 

Hijackals®, those toxic people who are impossible to please and difficult to live with make it their life's work to keep you in uncertainty and second-guessing yourself. Dennis gives another view of uncertainty that is much more positive and appealing. He offers spiritual views for dealing with practical matters in a refreshing way. 


Dennis says that,

"The whole point of this book is that you'd have no control over the future. You have absolutely no control over your next breath in the present moment. So the the choice should be: how are you going to choose to experience this moment? Because it is a choice we have when we can understand that we can deal with fear differently than perhaps we have in the past. It doesn't mean fears going to go away, but it means we develop a new relationship with fear that allows us to be in charge of our experience in the moment."



Would you like to know how to know when to let go of wrongs, worries, fears, and pain? In this segment, we talk about four important pillars: choice, faith, curiosity, and action. All help you to create a life that moves in positive directions and towards manifesting the relationships and dreams you most want. 


Q&A: Should I Take My Partner Back Again? 

So many times, Hijackals® leave in a fit of righteousness to punish you. Hijackals must be right...always. You've likely noticed that. Then, they want to come back. They "love bomb" you: saying and doing all the right, loving things you've been longing to hear. Here's why you have to think clearly, remember well, and stand your ground. 


Much more for you on Dr. Shaler's website: https://ForRelationshipHelp.com

Enjoy Dr. Shaler's videos on YouTube: https://youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

Subscribe to her Tips for Relationships Newsletter: http://forrelationshiphelp.com/subscribe


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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The Relationship Help Show with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


HOW TO MANAGE UNCERTAINTY, AMBIGUITY & CHAOS IN RELATIONSHIPS


Toxic people thrive on--and, therefore create--uncertainty, ambiguity and chaos. That's how they gain power and control over people, conversations, and circumstances. Today's show will help you see where and how you are being controlled by uncertainty...even when you don't think it's possible.


Dr. Rhoberta Shaler gives you strategies for safely saying what you mean, at the time it needs to be said.


​Guest, Dr Dennis Merritt-Jones, author of The Art of Uncertainty, offers a definition of uncertainty and why it can be a good thing. Who knew? Dr. Shaler asks him a whole lot of questions about this! For instance, can you be fully present and detached at the same time?


Q & A Today: My partner left me. Should I take my partner back?


----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

How To Learn To Say What You Mean - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

You're often taught to bite your tongue, right? Somehow, speaking your truth is discouraged, almost as though what you have to say has no value and doesn't matter. Then, you get in the way of not speaking up when you are discounted, degraded, or verbally abused. That leads to emotional abuse. So, these insights can help you find your voice...and use it! 


GUEST: Dr. Dennis Merritt-Jones, author of The Art of Uncertainty 

Hijackals®, those toxic people who are impossible to please and difficult to live with make it their life's work to keep you in uncertainty and second-guessing yourself. Dennis gives another view of uncertainty that is much more positive and appealing. He offers spiritual views for dealing with practical matters in a refreshing way. 


Dennis says that,

"The whole point of this book is that you'd have no control over the future. You have absolutely no control over your next breath in the present moment. So the the choice should be: how are you going to choose to experience this moment? Because it is a choice we have when we can understand that we can deal with fear differently than perhaps we have in the past. It doesn't mean fears going to go away, but it means we develop a new relationship with fear that allows us to be in charge of our experience in the moment."



Would you like to know how to know when to let go of wrongs, worries, fears, and pain? In this segment, we talk about four important pillars: choice, faith, curiosity, and action. All help you to create a life that moves in positive directions and towards manifesting the relationships and dreams you most want. 


Q&A: Should I Take My Partner Back Again? 

So many times, Hijackals® leave in a fit of righteousness to punish you. Hijackals must be right...always. You've likely noticed that. Then, they want to come back. They "love bomb" you: saying and doing all the right, loving things you've been longing to hear. Here's why you have to think clearly, remember well, and stand your ground. 


Much more for you on Dr. Shaler's website: https://ForRelationshipHelp.com

Enjoy Dr. Shaler's videos on YouTube: https://youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

Subscribe to her Tips for Relationships Newsletter: http://forrelationshiphelp.com/subscribe


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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Is That Passive-Aggressive? GUEST: Dr. Ganz Ferrance Is That Passive-Aggressive? GUEST: Dr. Ganz Ferrance Wed, 14 Mar 2018 01:00:00 GMT 1:00:04 5acc1da4043e12b4333a2960 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/is-that-passive-aggressive-men-relationships-having-it-all full 3 35 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


Is the behavior you're upset about passive-aggressive? Dr. Shaler gives you tips for recognizing and managing passive-aggressive behaviors. They can be so frustrating and infuriating. Respond well to passive-aggressive behavior. If you don't, it will continue, and the relationship will stay stuck!


Guest: Dr. Ganz Ferrance talks about men and his book, The ME Factor: Your Systematic Guide to Getting What the Hell You Want.


#1 Introduction to Episode 35#2 What is Passive-Aggressive Behavior? 

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler helps you recognize passive-aggressive traits. Her book, Stop! That's Crazy-Making! How To Quit Playing the Passive-Aggressive Game, is also a big help for you to know how to respond in healthier and more effective ways to the sneaky nature of passive-aggressive behavior. 

 

#3 GUEST: Dr. Ganz Ferrance Part 1

Dr. Ganz wrote his book, The ME Factor, to focus on men--particularly men thirty to fifty years old--and why their stress often goes unnoticed, and why it's important for them to focus on reducing it as early as possible. Cultural conditioning has much to do with it, however, awareness can be the biggest factor. Learn what you need to do to reduce stress--physical, emotional, relationship, career stress, 

 

#4 GUEST: Dr. Ganz Ferrance Part 2 

How do you strike a balance in life? How can men, in particular, find balance between taking care of themselves and their families and careers? What are the pitfalls? How do you avoid them? What do you need to be aware of to have the life you want?#5 How to Stop Second Guessing Yourself - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

If you were raised by Hijackals® or were in relationship with one, you are going to be confused. And, the Hijackal is going to do his or her best to keep you confused, uncertain, and preferably, living in emotional chaos. The point: to keep you second-guessing yourself. Learn how to stop now. It can save your sanity!  

 

#6 Closing 

AFFIRMATION FOR THE WEEK 

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Dr. Ganz Ferrance is a Speaker, Author and Registered Psychologist.


For over twenty-five years, Dr. Ganz has been helping individuals, couples, families, and corporations reduce their stress, improve their relationships, and enjoy more success.


Dr. Ganz presents his information in a straightforward, down-to- earth, no-nonsense way and does not present anything that he has not personally put his blood, sweat, and tears into. This approach has made him sought-after in media and as a public speaker. He has been interviewed on Good Morning Canada, and in Psychology Today, Ebony magazines as well as many other radio, TV shows and publications.


CONNECT WITH DR. GANZ FERRANCE

Website: DoctorGanz.com


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


Is the behavior you're upset about passive-aggressive? Dr. Shaler gives you tips for recognizing and managing passive-aggressive behaviors. They can be so frustrating and infuriating. Respond well to passive-aggressive behavior. If you don't, it will continue, and the relationship will stay stuck!


Guest: Dr. Ganz Ferrance talks about men and his book, The ME Factor: Your Systematic Guide to Getting What the Hell You Want.


#1 Introduction to Episode 35#2 What is Passive-Aggressive Behavior? 

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler helps you recognize passive-aggressive traits. Her book, Stop! That's Crazy-Making! How To Quit Playing the Passive-Aggressive Game, is also a big help for you to know how to respond in healthier and more effective ways to the sneaky nature of passive-aggressive behavior. 

 

#3 GUEST: Dr. Ganz Ferrance Part 1

Dr. Ganz wrote his book, The ME Factor, to focus on men--particularly men thirty to fifty years old--and why their stress often goes unnoticed, and why it's important for them to focus on reducing it as early as possible. Cultural conditioning has much to do with it, however, awareness can be the biggest factor. Learn what you need to do to reduce stress--physical, emotional, relationship, career stress, 

 

#4 GUEST: Dr. Ganz Ferrance Part 2 

How do you strike a balance in life? How can men, in particular, find balance between taking care of themselves and their families and careers? What are the pitfalls? How do you avoid them? What do you need to be aware of to have the life you want?#5 How to Stop Second Guessing Yourself - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

If you were raised by Hijackals® or were in relationship with one, you are going to be confused. And, the Hijackal is going to do his or her best to keep you confused, uncertain, and preferably, living in emotional chaos. The point: to keep you second-guessing yourself. Learn how to stop now. It can save your sanity!  

 

#6 Closing 

AFFIRMATION FOR THE WEEK 

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Dr. Ganz Ferrance is a Speaker, Author and Registered Psychologist.


For over twenty-five years, Dr. Ganz has been helping individuals, couples, families, and corporations reduce their stress, improve their relationships, and enjoy more success.


Dr. Ganz presents his information in a straightforward, down-to- earth, no-nonsense way and does not present anything that he has not personally put his blood, sweat, and tears into. This approach has made him sought-after in media and as a public speaker. He has been interviewed on Good Morning Canada, and in Psychology Today, Ebony magazines as well as many other radio, TV shows and publications.


CONNECT WITH DR. GANZ FERRANCE

Website: DoctorGanz.com


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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Do Hijackals Become Wonderful With A New Partner? GUEST: Bree Bonchay Do Hijackals Become Wonderful With A New Partner? GUEST: Bree Bonchay Wed, 07 Mar 2018 02:00:00 GMT 57:15 5acc1ce51397989e374e59be no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/do-hijackals-become-wonderful-in-a-new-relationship full 3 34 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


HOW CAN I LEARN TO TRUST? Part 2


Today. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler offers further insights into learning to trust, and learning to trust AGAIN.


Trust is such an essential element in a healthy relationship. You may have had previous experiences with folks in your life where you sadly learned you could not trust them. This tends to color your new relationships. Dr. Shaler offers insights to help you gain a new perspective on building trust, a new way of thinking about it that can offer help and hope.


If you missed Part 1, listen to Episode 33.


DO HIJACKALS BECOME WONDERFUL WHEN THEY GET A NEW LOVE?


GUEST: Bree Bonchay, MSW, LCSW


Can a toxic partner really change? A Hijackal®?


What is up with the Hijackal leaving you after being verbally and emotionally abusive, and taking up with a new partner, all sweetness and light? Can a Hijackal really change? And, that quickly?


Does a new partner bring out the best in a narcissist? It often seems that way, doesn't it? And, then, you wonder,


"If s/he can be that happy, laughing and loving, with someone new, was it me? Was I inadequate?"


And, you know what, that's exactly what the Hijackal delights in you thinking. That's because--wait for it--everything was your fault, right?


Bree Bonchay and I take a loaded psychological phrase that is really helpful in understanding why this is all so confusing and we unpack it. You'll understand better why you have the misgivings, and why and how you can set them to rest now.


In Part 2 of the interview, interesting insights into attitude and agreeableness. You'll want to hear about this agreeableness, and it's not what you think.


Very helpful interview to understand why you have such mixed emotions when leaving a Hijackal, and then, when the Hijackal finds new "supply" and seems to be so different from the person you last knew. Listen in.


Why does it seem that the Hijackal® has become an amazing, wonderful person with the new love of their life. Is it real? Today's show will help you to see what's really going on. You need to know.


Bree Bonchay is licensed psychotherapist with almost two decades of experience working in the field of mental health and trauma recovery. She specializes in helping people recover from toxic relationships, and shares her insights about Narcissistic Personality Disorder and psychopathy in her blog FreeFromToxic. Her articles have been featured in major online magazines, she is the founder World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day, (WNAAD), which is celebrated every 1st of June, and she is on the Board of Directors for The Association for NPD/Psychopathy Educators & Survivor Treatment More About Bree Bonchay, LCSW, psychotherapist 


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care relationships in crisis. She particularly helps the partners, exes, adult children & co-workers of the crazy-making, relentlessly difficult people she calls “Hijackals®.” She helps them save their sanity and stop the crazy-making. Even the United States Marines have called on her for help!

A relationship expert, mediator, speaker & author of sixteen books, Dr. Shaler consults with clients worldwide through the convenience of the internet. She is the host of two podcasts: Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show, and Save Your Sanity! Help for Handling Hijackals.  More About Dr. Rhoberta Shaler


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


HOW CAN I LEARN TO TRUST? Part 2


Today. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler offers further insights into learning to trust, and learning to trust AGAIN.


Trust is such an essential element in a healthy relationship. You may have had previous experiences with folks in your life where you sadly learned you could not trust them. This tends to color your new relationships. Dr. Shaler offers insights to help you gain a new perspective on building trust, a new way of thinking about it that can offer help and hope.


If you missed Part 1, listen to Episode 33.


DO HIJACKALS BECOME WONDERFUL WHEN THEY GET A NEW LOVE?


GUEST: Bree Bonchay, MSW, LCSW


Can a toxic partner really change? A Hijackal®?


What is up with the Hijackal leaving you after being verbally and emotionally abusive, and taking up with a new partner, all sweetness and light? Can a Hijackal really change? And, that quickly?


Does a new partner bring out the best in a narcissist? It often seems that way, doesn't it? And, then, you wonder,


"If s/he can be that happy, laughing and loving, with someone new, was it me? Was I inadequate?"


And, you know what, that's exactly what the Hijackal delights in you thinking. That's because--wait for it--everything was your fault, right?


Bree Bonchay and I take a loaded psychological phrase that is really helpful in understanding why this is all so confusing and we unpack it. You'll understand better why you have the misgivings, and why and how you can set them to rest now.


In Part 2 of the interview, interesting insights into attitude and agreeableness. You'll want to hear about this agreeableness, and it's not what you think.


Very helpful interview to understand why you have such mixed emotions when leaving a Hijackal, and then, when the Hijackal finds new "supply" and seems to be so different from the person you last knew. Listen in.


Why does it seem that the Hijackal® has become an amazing, wonderful person with the new love of their life. Is it real? Today's show will help you to see what's really going on. You need to know.


Bree Bonchay is licensed psychotherapist with almost two decades of experience working in the field of mental health and trauma recovery. She specializes in helping people recover from toxic relationships, and shares her insights about Narcissistic Personality Disorder and psychopathy in her blog FreeFromToxic. Her articles have been featured in major online magazines, she is the founder World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day, (WNAAD), which is celebrated every 1st of June, and she is on the Board of Directors for The Association for NPD/Psychopathy Educators & Survivor Treatment More About Bree Bonchay, LCSW, psychotherapist 


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care relationships in crisis. She particularly helps the partners, exes, adult children & co-workers of the crazy-making, relentlessly difficult people she calls “Hijackals®.” She helps them save their sanity and stop the crazy-making. Even the United States Marines have called on her for help!

A relationship expert, mediator, speaker & author of sixteen books, Dr. Shaler consults with clients worldwide through the convenience of the internet. She is the host of two podcasts: Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show, and Save Your Sanity! Help for Handling Hijackals.  More About Dr. Rhoberta Shaler


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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How to Get Over Betrayal and Trauma to Trust Again How to Get Over Betrayal and Trauma to Trust Again Wed, 28 Feb 2018 02:00:00 GMT 57:11 5acc1c181397989e374e59bd no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/how-to-get-over-betrayal-and-trauma-to-trust-again full 3 33 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


How Can I Trust? Recovering from Relationship Trauma & Betrayal


Guest: Michael Wayne Regier, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist/Marriage Therapist


Dr. Michael Wayne Regier received his PhD from the California School of Professional psychology. Early in his career he was on the faculty in the department of psychiatry at the Johns Hopkins School of medicine. He did a post doctoral internship in couples group psychotherapy with Dr. Judy Coche in Philadelphia.


He is currently the founder and Director of The Center for Relational Excellence in Visalia where he works full time as an Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist.


He and his wife Paula have written a book for couples called Emotional Connection: The Story and Science of Preventing Conflict and Creating Lifetime Love.


Dr. Regier works with couples in crisis and toxic relationships. Many couples have traumatic injuries due to relationship betrayals. Often couples come in on the verge of divorce looking for some way to escape their destructive cycle and rediscover the love that brought them together.


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


How Can I Trust? Recovering from Relationship Trauma & Betrayal


Guest: Michael Wayne Regier, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist/Marriage Therapist


Dr. Michael Wayne Regier received his PhD from the California School of Professional psychology. Early in his career he was on the faculty in the department of psychiatry at the Johns Hopkins School of medicine. He did a post doctoral internship in couples group psychotherapy with Dr. Judy Coche in Philadelphia.


He is currently the founder and Director of The Center for Relational Excellence in Visalia where he works full time as an Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist.


He and his wife Paula have written a book for couples called Emotional Connection: The Story and Science of Preventing Conflict and Creating Lifetime Love.


Dr. Regier works with couples in crisis and toxic relationships. Many couples have traumatic injuries due to relationship betrayals. Often couples come in on the verge of divorce looking for some way to escape their destructive cycle and rediscover the love that brought them together.


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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Learn to Say NO! to Toxic People GUEST: Laura Rubinstein Learn to Say NO! to Toxic People GUEST: Laura Rubinstein Wed, 21 Feb 2018 02:00:00 GMT 1:07:34 5acc1b9d0f06e6a660f6d20b no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/learning-to-say-no-to-toxic-people ... It Requires Saying YES! to Yourself. How to do that? Listen in. full 3 32 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


New insights on how to find love and support within yourself, to commit to creating and maintaining your healthy, safe life with other humans. 


Do You Want to Feel Showered with Appreciation?

Do these things. Insights from Dr. Rhoberta Shaler


Guest Conversation with Laura Rubinstein -

Learn to Say No. What it Takes and Why We're Reluctant to Do It


Toxic people, difficult people, push you to do what they want you to do. Learn to say no. 

They will shame you, blame you, and game you into it…or, at least try.


And, when you allow the manipulation, you feel one of two things:

  1. hopeful that, if you do what they want, they will like you more, or treat you better, or
  2. defeated, and ashamed or sorry, that you once again are giving in to them.


Neither of those feelings is helpful when you are in a relationship with a Hijackal®, right? Either way, you are disempowered.

You want to be in control of what you do, think, feel, and want. That's your right!


Toxic people will even go so far as to tell you what you feel or think, or at a minimum, what they think you should do, think feel, and want. You’ve noticed that, I’m sure. Don’t let them do that. They want to define your reality for you. If you let them, they will take over your life.


Focus on saying YES! to yourself.

  • What do you want?
  • What do you value?
  • What is OK with you?
  • How do you want to be treated?
  • What is your vision for your life?
  • How do you want to feel in relationships?
  • What do you believe and how are you demonstrating that?


You have the absolute right to do your life your way! Therefore, you need to learn to say no to others sometimes, and learn to say yes to yourself more often. That's usually what's required to regain your balance.


MORE ABOUT LAURA RUBINSTEIN:

Laura Rubinstein is a Certified Hypnotherapist, Master Leadership Coach, Bestselling Author, and award winning Social Media and Marketing Strategist. She is the creator the Savvy Social Media Success course, and founder of Social Buzz Club. During the past 20+ years, Laura has optimized brand marketing strategies for over 1,000 businesses. She is the author of the bestselling book Social Media Myths Busted, Transform Your Body in the Mental Gym and the Feminine Power Cards (endorsed by John Gray, PhD of Mars Venus). These wisdom cards offer practical tools that allow people to make profound shifts in their relationships and professional life. Laura’s writings are featured in a variety of publications including the Amazon bestselling books Women Living Consciously and Journey to Joy, as well as on genConnect.com, YourTango.com and her popular TransformToday.com blog.


Website: https://TransformToday.com

Facebook: https://fb.com/CoachLauraR

Twitter: https://twitter.com/CoachLaura

LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/LauraRubinstein


MORE ABOUT DR.RHOBERTA SHALER:

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care relationships in crisis. She particularly helps the partners, exes, adult children & co-workers of the crazy-making, relentlessly difficult people she calls “Hijackals®.” She helps them save their sanity and stop the crazy-making. Even the United States Marines have called on her for help!

 A relationship expert, mediator, speaker & author of sixteen books, Dr. Shaler consults with clients worldwide through the magic of the internet. She is the host of two podcasts: Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show, and Save Your Sanity! Help for Handling Hijackals. 


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


New insights on how to find love and support within yourself, to commit to creating and maintaining your healthy, safe life with other humans. 


Do You Want to Feel Showered with Appreciation?

Do these things. Insights from Dr. Rhoberta Shaler


Guest Conversation with Laura Rubinstein -

Learn to Say No. What it Takes and Why We're Reluctant to Do It


Toxic people, difficult people, push you to do what they want you to do. Learn to say no. 

They will shame you, blame you, and game you into it…or, at least try.


And, when you allow the manipulation, you feel one of two things:

  1. hopeful that, if you do what they want, they will like you more, or treat you better, or
  2. defeated, and ashamed or sorry, that you once again are giving in to them.


Neither of those feelings is helpful when you are in a relationship with a Hijackal®, right? Either way, you are disempowered.

You want to be in control of what you do, think, feel, and want. That's your right!


Toxic people will even go so far as to tell you what you feel or think, or at a minimum, what they think you should do, think feel, and want. You’ve noticed that, I’m sure. Don’t let them do that. They want to define your reality for you. If you let them, they will take over your life.


Focus on saying YES! to yourself.

  • What do you want?
  • What do you value?
  • What is OK with you?
  • How do you want to be treated?
  • What is your vision for your life?
  • How do you want to feel in relationships?
  • What do you believe and how are you demonstrating that?


You have the absolute right to do your life your way! Therefore, you need to learn to say no to others sometimes, and learn to say yes to yourself more often. That's usually what's required to regain your balance.


MORE ABOUT LAURA RUBINSTEIN:

Laura Rubinstein is a Certified Hypnotherapist, Master Leadership Coach, Bestselling Author, and award winning Social Media and Marketing Strategist. She is the creator the Savvy Social Media Success course, and founder of Social Buzz Club. During the past 20+ years, Laura has optimized brand marketing strategies for over 1,000 businesses. She is the author of the bestselling book Social Media Myths Busted, Transform Your Body in the Mental Gym and the Feminine Power Cards (endorsed by John Gray, PhD of Mars Venus). These wisdom cards offer practical tools that allow people to make profound shifts in their relationships and professional life. Laura’s writings are featured in a variety of publications including the Amazon bestselling books Women Living Consciously and Journey to Joy, as well as on genConnect.com, YourTango.com and her popular TransformToday.com blog.


Website: https://TransformToday.com

Facebook: https://fb.com/CoachLauraR

Twitter: https://twitter.com/CoachLaura

LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/LauraRubinstein


MORE ABOUT DR.RHOBERTA SHALER:

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care relationships in crisis. She particularly helps the partners, exes, adult children & co-workers of the crazy-making, relentlessly difficult people she calls “Hijackals®.” She helps them save their sanity and stop the crazy-making. Even the United States Marines have called on her for help!

 A relationship expert, mediator, speaker & author of sixteen books, Dr. Shaler consults with clients worldwide through the magic of the internet. She is the host of two podcasts: Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show, and Save Your Sanity! Help for Handling Hijackals. 


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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<![CDATA[Love Yourself, Tune Up Your Self-Confidence, & Step Out! Dr. Rhoberta Shaler]]> Wed, 14 Feb 2018 02:57:00 GMT 1:04:48 5acc1add1397989e374e59bc no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/love-yourself-tune-up-your-self-confidence-step-out full 3 31 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


Valentine's Day Show: It All Starts With Loving Yourself.


Dr. Rhoberta Shaler gives you insights, wisdom, and great tips for jumpstarting self-confidence. 


It Happened To Me - True Stories: Wendy Newman - Dating a Wealthy Man and Oops!


Do you really need a new love story? It starts with you.


What You Really Need to Have a Great Relationship


Tune In and Turn Up Your Self-Confidence.


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


Valentine's Day Show: It All Starts With Loving Yourself.


Dr. Rhoberta Shaler gives you insights, wisdom, and great tips for jumpstarting self-confidence. 


It Happened To Me - True Stories: Wendy Newman - Dating a Wealthy Man and Oops!


Do you really need a new love story? It starts with you.


What You Really Need to Have a Great Relationship


Tune In and Turn Up Your Self-Confidence.


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


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CHANGES: Is It Time to Change? GUEST: Filippo Voltaggio CHANGES: Is It Time to Change? GUEST: Filippo Voltaggio Wed, 07 Feb 2018 02:00:00 GMT 1:04:54 5acbf81a747e3479106d77e2 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/is-it-time-to-change Change Yourself? Your Approach? Your Relationships? How? Listen in for insights and exercises to help. full 3 30 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


CHANGES: Do You Need to Change To Have the Life & Relationship You Want? What Needs to Change? 


Guest: Filippo Voltaggio, Life Coach / Author / Radio Host


Filippo's work as a Life Coach, Speaker, Author, Workshop Creator and Leader, and as Host of The LIFE CHANGES Show, revolves around change, and the wholeness and expansion of The Self.


From early childhood Filippo Voltaggio never believed in pigeonholing himself into any one thing. When asked, “what he wanted to be when he grew up,” he would proclaim, “I want to be Filippo.”


Filippo grew up to be Filippo, and his career path and life experiences have been unique to only him.


From early childhood to adulthood he acted and sang on stages from small to large, local to International, in plays, musicals, operas and his own concerts, including he and his music being in a handful of Hollywood Films and CDs played on international radio stations.


Early on as a business professional he worked as a Junior Manager at IBM, a Fortune 500 Company, in the number three slot, at the time.


From business to life coach, radio host and...


Filippo has been recognized with several awards. Most notably, he received two awards from President Barack Obama, one in his first term, “The President’s Call to Service Award,” and one at the end of his second term, “The President’s Lifetime Achievement Award.” He also received the “Master Award” from the Save The World Foundation.


CONNECT WITH FILLIPPO at FilippoVoltaggio.com


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

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YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

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If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


CHANGES: Do You Need to Change To Have the Life & Relationship You Want? What Needs to Change? 


Guest: Filippo Voltaggio, Life Coach / Author / Radio Host


Filippo's work as a Life Coach, Speaker, Author, Workshop Creator and Leader, and as Host of The LIFE CHANGES Show, revolves around change, and the wholeness and expansion of The Self.


From early childhood Filippo Voltaggio never believed in pigeonholing himself into any one thing. When asked, “what he wanted to be when he grew up,” he would proclaim, “I want to be Filippo.”


Filippo grew up to be Filippo, and his career path and life experiences have been unique to only him.


From early childhood to adulthood he acted and sang on stages from small to large, local to International, in plays, musicals, operas and his own concerts, including he and his music being in a handful of Hollywood Films and CDs played on international radio stations.


Early on as a business professional he worked as a Junior Manager at IBM, a Fortune 500 Company, in the number three slot, at the time.


From business to life coach, radio host and...


Filippo has been recognized with several awards. Most notably, he received two awards from President Barack Obama, one in his first term, “The President’s Call to Service Award,” and one at the end of his second term, “The President’s Lifetime Achievement Award.” He also received the “Master Award” from the Save The World Foundation.


CONNECT WITH FILLIPPO at FilippoVoltaggio.com


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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BULLYING: At Home, at work, at School. GUEST: Dr. Nekeshia Hammond BULLYING: At Home, at work, at School. GUEST: Dr. Nekeshia Hammond Wed, 31 Jan 2018 02:00:00 GMT 1:07:46 5acbf7731397989e374e59b9 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/bullying-at-home-at-work-at-school Recognizing Bullying, subtle and over. Know what to do, how to speak up. Very important topic. full 3 29 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


BULLYING. It could be happening to you, at home or at work. It could be happening to your child. Timely, practical insights into how to make it stop.


Guest: Dr. Nekeshia Hammond talks with Dr. Shaler about how you can help your children deal with bullying, ADHD, and school issues. Learn how to respond well and speak up effectively. 


Dr. Nekeshia Hammond was raised in Orlando, Florida and now resides in the Tampa Bay area with her spouse and 5-year-old son. When not working, she greatly enjoys spending time with her family and learning about the joys of life through the eyes of her young son.


Dr. Hammond is the owner of Hammond Psychology & Associates, a private practice designed to help children, teens, families, and adults. She has over a decade of experience working in the field of psychology. She has also been featured in various TV, radio, and magazines throughout the country, and she is the TV host of Parenting Explained with Dr. Hammond. The show features parenting experts who provide their knowledge about different parenting issues, such as education, mental health, family bonding, and self-care, to name a few, and episodes will begin airing in early 2018. To learn more about the shows, please visit: DrHammondShow.com.


Dr. Hammond is the author of The Practical Guide to Raising Emotionally Healthy Children; Finding Balance in a Stressful World: A Short Guide for Today's Busy Mom; as well as ADHD Explained: What Every Parent Needs to Know (to be released on May 8, 2018).


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


BULLYING. It could be happening to you, at home or at work. It could be happening to your child. Timely, practical insights into how to make it stop.


Guest: Dr. Nekeshia Hammond talks with Dr. Shaler about how you can help your children deal with bullying, ADHD, and school issues. Learn how to respond well and speak up effectively. 


Dr. Nekeshia Hammond was raised in Orlando, Florida and now resides in the Tampa Bay area with her spouse and 5-year-old son. When not working, she greatly enjoys spending time with her family and learning about the joys of life through the eyes of her young son.


Dr. Hammond is the owner of Hammond Psychology & Associates, a private practice designed to help children, teens, families, and adults. She has over a decade of experience working in the field of psychology. She has also been featured in various TV, radio, and magazines throughout the country, and she is the TV host of Parenting Explained with Dr. Hammond. The show features parenting experts who provide their knowledge about different parenting issues, such as education, mental health, family bonding, and self-care, to name a few, and episodes will begin airing in early 2018. To learn more about the shows, please visit: DrHammondShow.com.


Dr. Hammond is the author of The Practical Guide to Raising Emotionally Healthy Children; Finding Balance in a Stressful World: A Short Guide for Today's Busy Mom; as well as ADHD Explained: What Every Parent Needs to Know (to be released on May 8, 2018).


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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Call It What It Is: Abuse! US Olympic gymnasts. GUESTS: Liberty Forrest and Christine Baumgartner Call It What It Is: Abuse! US Olympic gymnasts. GUESTS: Liberty Forrest and Christine Baumgartner Wed, 24 Jan 2018 02:00:00 GMT 1:01:56 5acbf552747e3479106d77e1 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/it-is-abuse Verbal, Emotional, Physical, Spiritual, Sexual, Mental - they all count, and they all matter full 3 28 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


URGENT TOPIC! Dr. Shaler has convened two insightful women to join her In a timely response to the court statements of Aly Raisman of US Gymnastics Team to her accused abuser, Dr. Larry Nassar.


ABUSE! Systemic abuse! Why doesn't anyone listen to the victims? Is it because they are children? OUTRAGEOUS!


Guests Liberty Forrest and Christine Baumgartner discuss how to recognize all kinds of abuse...and call it what it is! 


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


URGENT TOPIC! Dr. Shaler has convened two insightful women to join her In a timely response to the court statements of Aly Raisman of US Gymnastics Team to her accused abuser, Dr. Larry Nassar.


ABUSE! Systemic abuse! Why doesn't anyone listen to the victims? Is it because they are children? OUTRAGEOUS!


Guests Liberty Forrest and Christine Baumgartner discuss how to recognize all kinds of abuse...and call it what it is! 


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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Attachment: What Happens When It Goes Sideways. Guest: Dr. Gary Salyer Attachment: What Happens When It Goes Sideways. Guest: Dr. Gary Salyer Wed, 17 Jan 2018 02:00:00 GMT 1:10:50 5ac9c6d882cc21353715601e no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/attachment-what-happens-when-it-goes-sideways ... and Why That Matters full 3 27 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


ATTACHMENT: WHAT HAPPENS WHEN IT GOES SIDEWAYS AND WHY THAT MATTERS


Guest: Gary Salyer, PhD, author of Safe To Love Again


More about Dr. Gary Salyer

Dr. Gary Salyer speaks to audiences across the country as a featured expert, inspirational speaker on how to create the love we all deserve. He is an expert in Attachment Theory, the science of relationships, Bert Hellinger's Family Systems approach and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). As a master transformational relationship coach, Dr. Gary helps people re-write the rules for love in their brains.


Dr. Salyer is the creator of the Safe to Love Again™ Workshop and the Extraordinary Couples™ and Extraordinary Singles™ Retreats. He is also a highly sought after guest on various podcasts, TV and radio shows such as The Aware Show on Hay House Radio.


CONNECT WITH DR. GARY SALYER at GarySalyer.com


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


ATTACHMENT: WHAT HAPPENS WHEN IT GOES SIDEWAYS AND WHY THAT MATTERS


Guest: Gary Salyer, PhD, author of Safe To Love Again


More about Dr. Gary Salyer

Dr. Gary Salyer speaks to audiences across the country as a featured expert, inspirational speaker on how to create the love we all deserve. He is an expert in Attachment Theory, the science of relationships, Bert Hellinger's Family Systems approach and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). As a master transformational relationship coach, Dr. Gary helps people re-write the rules for love in their brains.


Dr. Salyer is the creator of the Safe to Love Again™ Workshop and the Extraordinary Couples™ and Extraordinary Singles™ Retreats. He is also a highly sought after guest on various podcasts, TV and radio shows such as The Aware Show on Hay House Radio.


CONNECT WITH DR. GARY SALYER at GarySalyer.com


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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Intuition, Loving Yourself and New Beginnings. Guest: Liberty Forrest Intuition, Loving Yourself and New Beginnings. Guest: Liberty Forrest Wed, 10 Jan 2018 02:00:00 GMT 59:16 5ac9c5cdef7a4c2376786f18 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/intuition-loving-yourself-and-new-beginnings full 3 26 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


Guest: Liberty Forrest -  What It Takes To Trust Your Gut and Intuition


More about Liberty Forrest

Liberty Forrest is an award-winning author, a columnist and Huffington Post contributor. She's written articles for numerous publications in several countries and has written several books. Previously, she specialised in non-fiction inspirational self-help books but she now focuses on family saga fiction with a paranormal element.


Liberty's professional background is in social work and counselling, later adding hypnosis to her bag of tricks to further help her clients.


Drawing on her own turbulent life and healing journey, which had its roots in childhood abuse, she combines her personal and professional experiences with her passion for writing, resulting in gripping, compelling stories that readers say they can't put down.


CONNECT WITH LIBERTY FORREST at LibertyForrest.com


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


Guest: Liberty Forrest -  What It Takes To Trust Your Gut and Intuition


More about Liberty Forrest

Liberty Forrest is an award-winning author, a columnist and Huffington Post contributor. She's written articles for numerous publications in several countries and has written several books. Previously, she specialised in non-fiction inspirational self-help books but she now focuses on family saga fiction with a paranormal element.


Liberty's professional background is in social work and counselling, later adding hypnosis to her bag of tricks to further help her clients.


Drawing on her own turbulent life and healing journey, which had its roots in childhood abuse, she combines her personal and professional experiences with her passion for writing, resulting in gripping, compelling stories that readers say they can't put down.


CONNECT WITH LIBERTY FORREST at LibertyForrest.com


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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Hijackals, Conflict and Tough Conversations. Guest: Charmaine Hammond Hijackals, Conflict and Tough Conversations. Guest: Charmaine Hammond Wed, 03 Jan 2018 02:00:00 GMT 57:55 5ac9c5170c3456504c56d1bf no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/hijackals-conflict-and-tough-conversations Figuring it out at Home and Work full 3 24 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


Guest: Charmaine Hammond, Communication, Collaboration, Conflict Resolution Expert


More about Charmaine Hammond

Charmaine Hammond, CSP, expert in communication, collaboration & conflict resolution has facilitated the resolution of some of the most complex workplace and family conflicts. She is a professional speaker, author and is passionate about building more kindness in workplaces, and communities. She now works with businesses and entrepreneurs to help them build relationships and successful collaborations.


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


Guest: Charmaine Hammond, Communication, Collaboration, Conflict Resolution Expert


More about Charmaine Hammond

Charmaine Hammond, CSP, expert in communication, collaboration & conflict resolution has facilitated the resolution of some of the most complex workplace and family conflicts. She is a professional speaker, author and is passionate about building more kindness in workplaces, and communities. She now works with businesses and entrepreneurs to help them build relationships and successful collaborations.


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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Stop the Toxic Dance and Recognize Hijackals® with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler Stop the Toxic Dance and Recognize Hijackals® with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler Tue, 26 Dec 2017 15:00:00 GMT 58:17 d2b9baf4-7db6-d013-deaa-22273d98fec9 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/stop-the-toxic-dance Spotting the Hijackals early is key. Hijackals: Difficult, Toxic People full 2 24 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


Today's episode is all Dr. Shaler. She created the non-clinical term, Hijackals®, to give everyone a way to talk about the patterns, traits, and cycles of people with tendencies towards personality disorders.


It's important to recognize when you're with a Hijackal. If you don't, you will think that everything in the relationship is your fault, because that's what the Hijackal tells you. You'll soon be making yourself into a people-pleasing pretzel, trying to be good enough. And, it's not your fault.


THIS IS AN IMPORTANT EPISODE. Listen.


Seg. 1: How to Spot a Hijackal & Stop the Toxic Dance

Seg. 2: Love-Bombing: It's Not as Desirable As It Sounds

Seg 3: 12 Signs Your Are in a Love/Hate Relationship That Needs Help

Seg 4: Recognize Verbal Abuse For What It Is Now

Seg 5: Q & A: My mother is always finding fault and I can't stand it another minute. "


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


Today's episode is all Dr. Shaler. She created the non-clinical term, Hijackals®, to give everyone a way to talk about the patterns, traits, and cycles of people with tendencies towards personality disorders.


It's important to recognize when you're with a Hijackal. If you don't, you will think that everything in the relationship is your fault, because that's what the Hijackal tells you. You'll soon be making yourself into a people-pleasing pretzel, trying to be good enough. And, it's not your fault.


THIS IS AN IMPORTANT EPISODE. Listen.


Seg. 1: How to Spot a Hijackal & Stop the Toxic Dance

Seg. 2: Love-Bombing: It's Not as Desirable As It Sounds

Seg 3: 12 Signs Your Are in a Love/Hate Relationship That Needs Help

Seg 4: Recognize Verbal Abuse For What It Is Now

Seg 5: Q & A: My mother is always finding fault and I can't stand it another minute. "


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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<![CDATA[Hijackals & Spirituality. Guest: Dr. Dennis Merritt-Jones]]> Tue, 19 Dec 2017 09:44:00 GMT 55:28 f6cf0ec4-8da0-712b-c059-71683f8a7ea4 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/hijackals-spirituality Hijackals Have a Love/Hate Relationship with Church and Spirituality full 2 23 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


Guest, Dr. Dennis Merritt-Jones


Intro - Hijackals, Power, and Spirituality

Unconditional Love Can Be a Very Dangerous Myth with a Hijackal in Your Life

GUEST:

Dr. Dennis Merritt-Jones - Part 1 Becoming Who You Were Born to Be

Dr. Dennis Merritt-Jones - Part 2 Spirituality is Not About Having Power Over People


Dr. Rhoberta Shaler - Spirituality, Hijackals, and You. What To Do.



About Dennis Merritt-Jones

Throughout his lifetime, Dennis Merritt Jones has been on a quest to inspire and lift people to a higher expression of life. His personal vision is to guide people to their purpose, knowing that when one fully awakens to who they are and why they are on the planet, they begin to naturally share their gift with humankind and, in the process, create an enriching life for themselves and the world around them. 


In addition to his books, Dennis is a columnist for the Huffington Post and for Science of Mind magazine. He is also a member of the Leadership Council for the Association for Global New Thought (AGNT), an organization whose mission is to consciously bring forth the evolving human and an awakened world through the practice of universal spiritual principles and the energy of unconditional love.


Dennis believes we each have the capacity and, ultimately, the responsibility to contribute something positive to this world, leaving it a better place than it was when we arrived. His teachings promote a contemporary, life-affirming, spiritually logical and positive outlook on life, which are reflected in his writings.


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


Guest, Dr. Dennis Merritt-Jones


Intro - Hijackals, Power, and Spirituality

Unconditional Love Can Be a Very Dangerous Myth with a Hijackal in Your Life

GUEST:

Dr. Dennis Merritt-Jones - Part 1 Becoming Who You Were Born to Be

Dr. Dennis Merritt-Jones - Part 2 Spirituality is Not About Having Power Over People


Dr. Rhoberta Shaler - Spirituality, Hijackals, and You. What To Do.



About Dennis Merritt-Jones

Throughout his lifetime, Dennis Merritt Jones has been on a quest to inspire and lift people to a higher expression of life. His personal vision is to guide people to their purpose, knowing that when one fully awakens to who they are and why they are on the planet, they begin to naturally share their gift with humankind and, in the process, create an enriching life for themselves and the world around them. 


In addition to his books, Dennis is a columnist for the Huffington Post and for Science of Mind magazine. He is also a member of the Leadership Council for the Association for Global New Thought (AGNT), an organization whose mission is to consciously bring forth the evolving human and an awakened world through the practice of universal spiritual principles and the energy of unconditional love.


Dennis believes we each have the capacity and, ultimately, the responsibility to contribute something positive to this world, leaving it a better place than it was when we arrived. His teachings promote a contemporary, life-affirming, spiritually logical and positive outlook on life, which are reflected in his writings.


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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Recognizing Relationship Predators: Dr. Rhoberta Shaler Recognizing Relationship Predators: Dr. Rhoberta Shaler Wed, 13 Dec 2017 02:00:00 GMT 56:29 371a9bcd-795b-f47b-0f1c-edf6a44e573d no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/relationship-predators full 2 22 Have You Become the Unwitting Prey of a HIjackal® Predator?


SEG 2 - Jan: I Knew Better But I Married Him Anyway


SEG 3 - Hijackals are Predators - Pt 1. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler


SEG 4 - Hijackals are Predators - Pt 2 Dr. Rhoberta Shaler


SEG 5 - Dating Red Flags That Mean Long-Term Relationship Trouble


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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Have You Become the Unwitting Prey of a HIjackal® Predator?


SEG 2 - Jan: I Knew Better But I Married Him Anyway


SEG 3 - Hijackals are Predators - Pt 1. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler


SEG 4 - Hijackals are Predators - Pt 2 Dr. Rhoberta Shaler


SEG 5 - Dating Red Flags That Mean Long-Term Relationship Trouble


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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Co-Parenting and Keeping Your Sanity. Guest: Karen Covy Co-Parenting and Keeping Your Sanity. Guest: Karen Covy Wed, 06 Dec 2017 02:00:00 GMT 57:57 0e1dc882-3d34-e5a7-439f-946fcfba1eb4 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/co-parenting-and-keeping-your-sanity Hijackals, Kids, Divorce and avoiding Destruction full 2 21 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


Guest, Karen Covy - Divorcing A Hijackal® When Children Are Involved


Karen Covy, divorce adviser, attorney, coach. It is imperative to know how to divorce a difficult person, a Hijackal, a toxic person. It is a different approach with different preparation. You have to know how to present things effectively to your attorney, and how to present yourself in court. SO much to know. That's the gift of today's episode.


Effective Co-Parenting with A Difficult Ex - Part 1


Effective Divorce Agreements for Co-Parenting, Part 2


What You Need To Do For Your Kids When Co-Parenting With A Hijackal® Ex


More about Karen Covy

I help people get through their divorce with dignity and confidence so that, when their divorce ends, they are ready to begin again, and create a life that they love. I am a divorce attorney, mediator, Collaborative Divorce professional, arbitrator, consultant and coach. I have spent decades helping people get divorced in every way that there is to do that. So, at this point, I know what works and what doesn't. I'm dedicated to sharing that information with those thinking about or facing divorce so that they can get through their divorce with less destruction.


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


Guest, Karen Covy - Divorcing A Hijackal® When Children Are Involved


Karen Covy, divorce adviser, attorney, coach. It is imperative to know how to divorce a difficult person, a Hijackal, a toxic person. It is a different approach with different preparation. You have to know how to present things effectively to your attorney, and how to present yourself in court. SO much to know. That's the gift of today's episode.


Effective Co-Parenting with A Difficult Ex - Part 1


Effective Divorce Agreements for Co-Parenting, Part 2


What You Need To Do For Your Kids When Co-Parenting With A Hijackal® Ex


More about Karen Covy

I help people get through their divorce with dignity and confidence so that, when their divorce ends, they are ready to begin again, and create a life that they love. I am a divorce attorney, mediator, Collaborative Divorce professional, arbitrator, consultant and coach. I have spent decades helping people get divorced in every way that there is to do that. So, at this point, I know what works and what doesn't. I'm dedicated to sharing that information with those thinking about or facing divorce so that they can get through their divorce with less destruction.


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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How to See Red Flags of Dating Disasters Guest: Lorna Poole How to See Red Flags of Dating Disasters Guest: Lorna Poole Tue, 28 Nov 2017 14:00:00 GMT 58:13 062edcd8-6795-ac89-3a9d-4369075f3e75 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/how-to-see-red-flags ...and Avoid Wasting Time, Energy, and Emotional Well-being full 2 20 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


Guest, Lorna Poole - Going from Dating Disaster to Finding Long-Time Love


How's Your Dating Radar? Dr. Rhoberta Shaler helps you see why you may be missing red flags


Guest, Dating Coach Lorna Poole, talks candidly how dating disasters woke her up to what she really wanted and how she found long-time love and what it took to get it.



More about Lorna Poole

She is the Founder & CEO of Lorna Poole, Magnet For Love Coaching. After her own love disaster; she decided it was time to get it right. She realized she kept attracting the wrong guys and knew if she never took her love life seriously, she would never meet her Mr. Right. Luckily for Lorna, she is now in a loving relationship with her “great guy”.


Lorna Poole is an associated certified coach (ACC) through the International Coach Federation (ICG) as well as an Energy Leadership Index Assessment Master Practitioner (ELI-MP). She is podcast show host for Magnet For Love Podcast and professional speaker passionate about empowering women to move beyond the fear, pain, and regret that has held them back from attracting the partner they truly want and deserve.

She has been featured on Good Men Project, YourTango, Thoughtcatalog Eharmony, TodayFM & Newstalk Ireland, telesummits and podcasts alike.


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


Guest, Lorna Poole - Going from Dating Disaster to Finding Long-Time Love


How's Your Dating Radar? Dr. Rhoberta Shaler helps you see why you may be missing red flags


Guest, Dating Coach Lorna Poole, talks candidly how dating disasters woke her up to what she really wanted and how she found long-time love and what it took to get it.



More about Lorna Poole

She is the Founder & CEO of Lorna Poole, Magnet For Love Coaching. After her own love disaster; she decided it was time to get it right. She realized she kept attracting the wrong guys and knew if she never took her love life seriously, she would never meet her Mr. Right. Luckily for Lorna, she is now in a loving relationship with her “great guy”.


Lorna Poole is an associated certified coach (ACC) through the International Coach Federation (ICG) as well as an Energy Leadership Index Assessment Master Practitioner (ELI-MP). She is podcast show host for Magnet For Love Podcast and professional speaker passionate about empowering women to move beyond the fear, pain, and regret that has held them back from attracting the partner they truly want and deserve.

She has been featured on Good Men Project, YourTango, Thoughtcatalog Eharmony, TodayFM & Newstalk Ireland, telesummits and podcasts alike.


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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Hijackals at Work: Workplace Bullying. Guest: Judy Hoberman Hijackals at Work: Workplace Bullying. Guest: Judy Hoberman Wed, 22 Nov 2017 02:00:00 GMT 50:47 6c2ee3ef-3fa2-7658-a8fa-2e27be17eb03 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/hijackals-at-work full 2 19 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


GUEST: Judy Hoberman, author of Walking on the Glass Floor on Workplace Bullying


Workplace bullying is a top cause of stress, and a leading cause of quitting. It creates a hostile and toxic environment, often because the bullies are allowed to get away with their behavior. In this episode we discuss how to effectively deal with these types of people in your workplace, so you can get on with enjoying your job, and lowering your stress levels.


Intro: Difficult People at work

How to Deal with Difficult People at Work

Judy Hoberman Pt 1 - First impressions: Important, Accurate or Not

Judy Hoberman Pt 2 - How to distance yourself from difficult people and succeed in the work world

What to do with a bully at work


More about Judy Hoberman

Judy Hoberman, President of Selling In A Skirt- International Speaker, Trainer, Coach and Mentor. Her 30 years in sales has given her both the knowledge and sense of humor about how men and women sell, work and live differently will enlighten you in learning how both genders can support each other’s successes in a more productive way.


Her audiences, from 10 to 10,000 are engaged with details wrapped in memorable stories that are easily implemented that same day. In 2016 she was a TEDx speaker talking about pre-judging people, something we all do without even thinking. She is the author of “Selling In A Skirt”, “Famous Isn’t Enough”, “Pure Wealth” and her latest book on Women Who Lead will be released shortly.


Judy’s mission…to help her clients live the S.K.I.R.T. philosophy-Standing Out, Keys to Success, Inspiring Others, Results Oriented and Time Management…while having fun.


CONNECT WITH JUDY HOBERMAN at SellinginaSkirt.com


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


GUEST: Judy Hoberman, author of Walking on the Glass Floor on Workplace Bullying


Workplace bullying is a top cause of stress, and a leading cause of quitting. It creates a hostile and toxic environment, often because the bullies are allowed to get away with their behavior. In this episode we discuss how to effectively deal with these types of people in your workplace, so you can get on with enjoying your job, and lowering your stress levels.


Intro: Difficult People at work

How to Deal with Difficult People at Work

Judy Hoberman Pt 1 - First impressions: Important, Accurate or Not

Judy Hoberman Pt 2 - How to distance yourself from difficult people and succeed in the work world

What to do with a bully at work


More about Judy Hoberman

Judy Hoberman, President of Selling In A Skirt- International Speaker, Trainer, Coach and Mentor. Her 30 years in sales has given her both the knowledge and sense of humor about how men and women sell, work and live differently will enlighten you in learning how both genders can support each other’s successes in a more productive way.


Her audiences, from 10 to 10,000 are engaged with details wrapped in memorable stories that are easily implemented that same day. In 2016 she was a TEDx speaker talking about pre-judging people, something we all do without even thinking. She is the author of “Selling In A Skirt”, “Famous Isn’t Enough”, “Pure Wealth” and her latest book on Women Who Lead will be released shortly.


Judy’s mission…to help her clients live the S.K.I.R.T. philosophy-Standing Out, Keys to Success, Inspiring Others, Results Oriented and Time Management…while having fun.


CONNECT WITH JUDY HOBERMAN at SellinginaSkirt.com


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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<![CDATA[Hooked on Hope & Hijackals. Guest: Shirlene Reeves]]> Tue, 14 Nov 2017 14:00:00 GMT 54:00 69b0e839-7fc1-617e-7e33-9c6ed39ed94c no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/hooked-on-hope-hijackals The Cycle that will wear you down - and how to stop it. full 2 18 Seg 1 - Intro - Hooked on Hope & Hijackals

Seg 2 - Verbal Abuse is Too Common

Seg 3 - Shirlene Reeves Part 1 - How Hijackals Changed My Life

Seg 4 - Shirlene Reeves Part 2 - How I left. What I learned. Being Hijackal-free.

Seg 5 - Too much drama



More about Shirlene Reeves

Shirlene Reeves, one of only 253 Certified Financial Educators in the US, a web TV show host and a syndicated radio host on BBS Radio, publisher of Wealthy Woman Magazine and the author of Selling Through Your Heart - Empowering You To Build Relationships For Financial Freedom. Shirlene is an in-demand international keynote speaker specializing in educating coaches, authors and entrepreneurs with answers for transforming their businesses by selling with heart, developing confidence, and stepping onto stages, web TV, podcasts and radio for massive, marketing visibility.

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Seg 1 - Intro - Hooked on Hope & Hijackals

Seg 2 - Verbal Abuse is Too Common

Seg 3 - Shirlene Reeves Part 1 - How Hijackals Changed My Life

Seg 4 - Shirlene Reeves Part 2 - How I left. What I learned. Being Hijackal-free.

Seg 5 - Too much drama



More about Shirlene Reeves

Shirlene Reeves, one of only 253 Certified Financial Educators in the US, a web TV show host and a syndicated radio host on BBS Radio, publisher of Wealthy Woman Magazine and the author of Selling Through Your Heart - Empowering You To Build Relationships For Financial Freedom. Shirlene is an in-demand international keynote speaker specializing in educating coaches, authors and entrepreneurs with answers for transforming their businesses by selling with heart, developing confidence, and stepping onto stages, web TV, podcasts and radio for massive, marketing visibility.

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Signs of Abuse. Guest: Dr. Lee Baucom Signs of Abuse. Guest: Dr. Lee Baucom Tue, 07 Nov 2017 14:00:00 GMT 57:16 04248a9c-78e5-8b92-d0f2-3e99e0f68dd7 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/signs-of-abuse full 2 17 How do you know if you're actually experiencing verbal abuse? What can you do to stop it? How best to respond?


GUEST: Dr. Lee Baucom, creator of the Save The Marriage System. We'll discuss when and what marriages can be saved, and how to know when it's time to part ways.


More about Dr. Lee Baucom:

Dr. Lee Baucom is the creator of the internet marriage program, Save The Marriage. Dr. Baucom has over a quarter of a century of experience helping couples and individuals learn to thrive. Dr. Baucom is trained as a therapist and life coach. In addition to therapy and coaching, Dr. Baucom has provided consultation for organizations and businesses. Dr. Baucom is also a popular speaker on a number of topics relating to thriving.


Dr. Baucom is happily married, having just celebrated a 28th anniversary. He and his wife have two children. In his spare time, Dr. Baucom scuba dives, paddleboards, and trail runs.

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How do you know if you're actually experiencing verbal abuse? What can you do to stop it? How best to respond?


GUEST: Dr. Lee Baucom, creator of the Save The Marriage System. We'll discuss when and what marriages can be saved, and how to know when it's time to part ways.


More about Dr. Lee Baucom:

Dr. Lee Baucom is the creator of the internet marriage program, Save The Marriage. Dr. Baucom has over a quarter of a century of experience helping couples and individuals learn to thrive. Dr. Baucom is trained as a therapist and life coach. In addition to therapy and coaching, Dr. Baucom has provided consultation for organizations and businesses. Dr. Baucom is also a popular speaker on a number of topics relating to thriving.


Dr. Baucom is happily married, having just celebrated a 28th anniversary. He and his wife have two children. In his spare time, Dr. Baucom scuba dives, paddleboards, and trail runs.

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Difficult or Dangerous? Dr. Rhoberta Shaler Difficult or Dangerous? Dr. Rhoberta Shaler Wed, 01 Nov 2017 01:00:00 GMT 54:14 d9ed8a0c-b1b9-69a5-3ce7-351ce9192104 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/difficult-or-dangerous full 2 16 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


A new season begins! New format, new guests!


Seg 1 - 6 minutes Intro to Episode

Seg 2 - Q & A Filed for Divorce

Seg 3 - What's up? Power in Positions - Harvey Weinstein

Seg 4 - Is Your Relationship Difficult or Dangerous?

Seg 5 - Have You Given Up Your Boundaries?


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


A new season begins! New format, new guests!


Seg 1 - 6 minutes Intro to Episode

Seg 2 - Q & A Filed for Divorce

Seg 3 - What's up? Power in Positions - Harvey Weinstein

Seg 4 - Is Your Relationship Difficult or Dangerous?

Seg 5 - Have You Given Up Your Boundaries?


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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Trauma-Bonding. What and How. Guest: Dr. Gary Salyer Trauma-Bonding. What and How. Guest: Dr. Gary Salyer Wed, 25 Oct 2017 18:00:00 GMT 55:06 e3a81113-52f4-fadf-c7b3-36d26e66abfa no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/trauma-bonding-what-and-how The Cycle of Violence in Relationships full 1 15 Are you so attached to someone that you are "hooked on hope" that one day they will treat you better? Today, we talk about trauma-bonding and why you need to know about it.


Guest, Dr. Gary Salyer, talks about the six rights you have in life, and how having or not having them will make all the difference in creating healthy relationships. Dr. Salyer is the author of Safe to Love Again, a book you absolutely need if you've ever been deeply hurt by a relationship.


More about Dr. Gary Salyer

Dr. Gary Salyer speaks to audiences across the country as a featured expert, inspirational speaker on how to create the love we all deserve. He is an expert in Attachment Theory, the science of relationships, Bert Hellinger's Family Systems approach and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). As a master transformational relationship coach, Dr. Gary helps people re-write the rules for love in their brains.


Dr. Salyer is the creator of the Safe to Love Again™ Workshop and the Extraordinary Couples™ and Extraordinary Singles™ Retreats. He is also a highly sought after guest on various podcasts, TV and radio shows such as The Aware Show on Hay House Radio.


Smart, savvy, professional women in their thirties, forties and fifties who are tired of the heartache in their love lives are resonating with the message of ‘safe to love again.’ Gary’s biggest passion is to help both singles and couples discover how they can have a loving sweetheart lying beside them at night, rather than a lonely pillow or a frustrated, distant partner.

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Are you so attached to someone that you are "hooked on hope" that one day they will treat you better? Today, we talk about trauma-bonding and why you need to know about it.


Guest, Dr. Gary Salyer, talks about the six rights you have in life, and how having or not having them will make all the difference in creating healthy relationships. Dr. Salyer is the author of Safe to Love Again, a book you absolutely need if you've ever been deeply hurt by a relationship.


More about Dr. Gary Salyer

Dr. Gary Salyer speaks to audiences across the country as a featured expert, inspirational speaker on how to create the love we all deserve. He is an expert in Attachment Theory, the science of relationships, Bert Hellinger's Family Systems approach and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). As a master transformational relationship coach, Dr. Gary helps people re-write the rules for love in their brains.


Dr. Salyer is the creator of the Safe to Love Again™ Workshop and the Extraordinary Couples™ and Extraordinary Singles™ Retreats. He is also a highly sought after guest on various podcasts, TV and radio shows such as The Aware Show on Hay House Radio.


Smart, savvy, professional women in their thirties, forties and fifties who are tired of the heartache in their love lives are resonating with the message of ‘safe to love again.’ Gary’s biggest passion is to help both singles and couples discover how they can have a loving sweetheart lying beside them at night, rather than a lonely pillow or a frustrated, distant partner.

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Are You Emotionally Safe? Guest, Antia Boyd Are You Emotionally Safe? Guest, Antia Boyd Wed, 18 Oct 2017 18:00:00 GMT 54:57 3326d492-ebb3-ae02-2b74-9e10db77ccb7 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/are-you-emotionally-safe full 1 14 Are you emotionally safe in your relationships? You may not have been, even with your parents. In this episode, Dr. Shaler talks about how to recognize and create emotional safety.


Guest, Antia Boyd, of MagnetizeTheMan.com emphasizes that the ability--and safety--to be vulnerable in your primary relationship is paramount.


Don't miss this.



More about Antia Boyd

Antia Boyd struggled for years with fear, wasting time and attracting emotionally unavailable men before she finally broke through, hired a dating coach and met her loving, spiritual and supportive husband! She has now helped thousands of single women all over the world to start finding the right man for them to share their life with & have a loving relationship quickly without lack of trust, poor communication or old issues getting in the way for over 11+ years.

Antia studied Personality Psychology at U.C. Berkeley, has spoken at Google and on hundreds of stages and radio shows all over the world, and for over a decade studied everything that she could get her hands on in the areas of men, dating & attracting a happy, long-term & safe relationship with the right man effectively without the fear of vulnerability, sadness or anxiety. She now lives in the beautiful San Diego area of California with her open, handsome and honest husband Brody.

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Are you emotionally safe in your relationships? You may not have been, even with your parents. In this episode, Dr. Shaler talks about how to recognize and create emotional safety.


Guest, Antia Boyd, of MagnetizeTheMan.com emphasizes that the ability--and safety--to be vulnerable in your primary relationship is paramount.


Don't miss this.



More about Antia Boyd

Antia Boyd struggled for years with fear, wasting time and attracting emotionally unavailable men before she finally broke through, hired a dating coach and met her loving, spiritual and supportive husband! She has now helped thousands of single women all over the world to start finding the right man for them to share their life with & have a loving relationship quickly without lack of trust, poor communication or old issues getting in the way for over 11+ years.

Antia studied Personality Psychology at U.C. Berkeley, has spoken at Google and on hundreds of stages and radio shows all over the world, and for over a decade studied everything that she could get her hands on in the areas of men, dating & attracting a happy, long-term & safe relationship with the right man effectively without the fear of vulnerability, sadness or anxiety. She now lives in the beautiful San Diego area of California with her open, handsome and honest husband Brody.

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Building Self Confidence - Guest Betsy Chasse Building Self Confidence - Guest Betsy Chasse Wed, 11 Oct 2017 18:00:00 GMT 56:07 4b783a3d-df3e-2a03-a4ec-9810a4907895 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/building-self-confidence Secrets to Stepping Up and Speaking Up full 1 13 Would you like to feel more self-confident? Able to speak up and show up as strong and empowered? Today's show is all about the how-to's for that.


Guest, Betsy Chasse, embodies an empowered life. An award-winning filmmaker, author, and entrepreneur, Betsy openly shares the ups and downs she's experienced and how she boldly treads forward...confidently.


More about Betsy Chasse

Betsy is an award winning filmmaker (What The Bleep Do We Know?!, Song of The New Earth, Pregnant In America) and a Best-Selling Author (Tipping Sacred Cows, Dancing In The Unknown (new), It Came out of My Vagina, Now What?! (A book on Conscious Parenting). She recently launched a new web series Radical Dating which follows 5 singles over 40 as they embark on a journey to finally find lasting love.

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Would you like to feel more self-confident? Able to speak up and show up as strong and empowered? Today's show is all about the how-to's for that.


Guest, Betsy Chasse, embodies an empowered life. An award-winning filmmaker, author, and entrepreneur, Betsy openly shares the ups and downs she's experienced and how she boldly treads forward...confidently.


More about Betsy Chasse

Betsy is an award winning filmmaker (What The Bleep Do We Know?!, Song of The New Earth, Pregnant In America) and a Best-Selling Author (Tipping Sacred Cows, Dancing In The Unknown (new), It Came out of My Vagina, Now What?! (A book on Conscious Parenting). She recently launched a new web series Radical Dating which follows 5 singles over 40 as they embark on a journey to finally find lasting love.

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Perils of the People Pleaser Guest: Filippo Voltaggio Perils of the People Pleaser Guest: Filippo Voltaggio Wed, 04 Oct 2017 18:00:00 GMT 56:54 073b3bdf-cb72-7795-a3af-e1f33aab0100 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/perils-of-the-people-pleaser Recalibrating Your Relationships full 1 12 Do you notice that you feel somehow obligated to meet the needs of other people? Why is that?


In this episode, we talk about that, and my guest, Filippo Voltaggio, talks about why some people find it so difficult to say "No." Recognizing that, as an adult, you can choose to change your mindsets and patterns, he talks about his work, The Recalibration.


More about Filippo Voltaggio

Filippo's work as a Life Coach, Speaker, Author, Workshop Creator and Leader, and as Host of The LIFE CHANGES Show, revolves around change, and the wholeness and expansion of The Self.


From early childhood Filippo Voltaggio never believed in pigeonholing himself into any one thing. When asked, “what he wanted to be when he grew up,” he would proclaim, “I want to be Filippo.”


From business to life coach, radio host and...


Filippo has been recognized with several awards. Most notably, he received two awards from President Barack Obama, one in his first term, “The President’s Call to Service Award,” and one at the end of his second term, “The President’s Lifetime Achievement Award.” He also received the “Master Award” from the Save The World Foundation.


Filippo's lifelong interests in the Esoteric Sciences have also lead him to pursue and achieve certifications in many of the Sciences.

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Do you notice that you feel somehow obligated to meet the needs of other people? Why is that?


In this episode, we talk about that, and my guest, Filippo Voltaggio, talks about why some people find it so difficult to say "No." Recognizing that, as an adult, you can choose to change your mindsets and patterns, he talks about his work, The Recalibration.


More about Filippo Voltaggio

Filippo's work as a Life Coach, Speaker, Author, Workshop Creator and Leader, and as Host of The LIFE CHANGES Show, revolves around change, and the wholeness and expansion of The Self.


From early childhood Filippo Voltaggio never believed in pigeonholing himself into any one thing. When asked, “what he wanted to be when he grew up,” he would proclaim, “I want to be Filippo.”


From business to life coach, radio host and...


Filippo has been recognized with several awards. Most notably, he received two awards from President Barack Obama, one in his first term, “The President’s Call to Service Award,” and one at the end of his second term, “The President’s Lifetime Achievement Award.” He also received the “Master Award” from the Save The World Foundation.


Filippo's lifelong interests in the Esoteric Sciences have also lead him to pursue and achieve certifications in many of the Sciences.

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Is OK Great Enough? Guest: Johnathan Mitchell Is OK Great Enough? Guest: Johnathan Mitchell Wed, 27 Sep 2017 18:00:00 GMT 55:11 7d58d0ed-fd4c-7a19-4093-46d1252d03e5 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/is-ok-great-enough full 1 11 Do you feel good about yourself? Are you OK with where you are in life? Or, have you been caught up in the endless push to be more, do more, have more? Where did you learn this?


Guest, Jonathan Mitchell, talks about unleashing greatness within yourself. Is it a must, a push, a realistic expectation? Or, is it hype? Listen in.


More about Jonathan Mitchell

Jonathan is a certified life, success, and emotional health mentor. He is also an award winning songwriter, singer, and producer with his songs being featured on FOX Sports and Mood Media. He is passionate about assisting others in bringing out their passion and greatness. He has coached thousands of people from one on one clients to group coaching both on and offline. He also has created his own coaching certification process to assist those who want to know how to coach more effectively using his methods.

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Do you feel good about yourself? Are you OK with where you are in life? Or, have you been caught up in the endless push to be more, do more, have more? Where did you learn this?


Guest, Jonathan Mitchell, talks about unleashing greatness within yourself. Is it a must, a push, a realistic expectation? Or, is it hype? Listen in.


More about Jonathan Mitchell

Jonathan is a certified life, success, and emotional health mentor. He is also an award winning songwriter, singer, and producer with his songs being featured on FOX Sports and Mood Media. He is passionate about assisting others in bringing out their passion and greatness. He has coached thousands of people from one on one clients to group coaching both on and offline. He also has created his own coaching certification process to assist those who want to know how to coach more effectively using his methods.

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Compassionate Communication. Guest: Laura Jack Compassionate Communication. Guest: Laura Jack Wed, 20 Sep 2017 01:00:00 GMT 55:25 063b2a18-caf8-c81c-3d9f-dbda357e08c4 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/compassionate-communication Maintaining your sense of self while living compassionately takes practice and attention. full 1 10 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


Guest: Laura Jack, author of The Compassion Code


Were you ever told to "be nice" or to "play nicely?"


Any chance that turned into negating what you wanted in order to make other people happy?


This show focuses on what you may be losing in life if you're still following that early "Be nice!" admonition.


Guest, Laura Jack, author of The Compassion Code, joins in to discuss the distinctions between being compassionate and living up to the expectations of others. Big difference!


Laura Jack teaches compassionate communication and how we can relate to one another more effectively during the challenging moments in life. Her mission is to cultivate a culture of compassion, starting with self, and to create a better understanding of loss and its accompanying grief.


Her book The Compassion Code: How to say the right thing when the wrong thing happens is available here.


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


Guest: Laura Jack, author of The Compassion Code


Were you ever told to "be nice" or to "play nicely?"


Any chance that turned into negating what you wanted in order to make other people happy?


This show focuses on what you may be losing in life if you're still following that early "Be nice!" admonition.


Guest, Laura Jack, author of The Compassion Code, joins in to discuss the distinctions between being compassionate and living up to the expectations of others. Big difference!


Laura Jack teaches compassionate communication and how we can relate to one another more effectively during the challenging moments in life. Her mission is to cultivate a culture of compassion, starting with self, and to create a better understanding of loss and its accompanying grief.


Her book The Compassion Code: How to say the right thing when the wrong thing happens is available here.


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships


If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.


#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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The Need for Intimacy Guest: Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey The Need for Intimacy Guest: Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey Wed, 13 Sep 2017 18:00:00 GMT 55:55 29729359-e24e-778c-5259-f1477dcf8c77 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/intimacy-is-important full To keep yourself safe in any relationship it is SO important to know yourself, your values, needs, and wants, so well that you can set and maintain strong boundaries. That means you have to be assertive.


Today, we talked about what it means to have and manage sexual boundaries with guest, Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey, from London, UK. A sex and intimacy coach, Dr. Lori had some very interesting insights on how to get across what's all right with you and to be clear about what's not!


More about Dr. Bisbey

Dr Lori Beth is a Sex & Intimacy coach and psychologist who has worked with individuals, couples and polyamorous groups for the past 30 years to help them explore their sexuality, discover a deeper level of sexual congruence, heal from past sexual trauma as well as create more pleasurable, exciting, meaningful, authentic sexual relationships. On a mission to create more open dialogue about sex, sexual identity and self-expression, she hosts two popular podcasts The A to Z of Sex and Sex Spoken Here. She is also a passionate speaker, dynamic workshop facilitator and sought after expert in the media on the topics of sex, sexuality, intimacy, relationships and sexual trauma. Dr Lori Beth is polyamory and kink knowledgable and works with all genders and sexual orientations.

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To keep yourself safe in any relationship it is SO important to know yourself, your values, needs, and wants, so well that you can set and maintain strong boundaries. That means you have to be assertive.


Today, we talked about what it means to have and manage sexual boundaries with guest, Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey, from London, UK. A sex and intimacy coach, Dr. Lori had some very interesting insights on how to get across what's all right with you and to be clear about what's not!


More about Dr. Bisbey

Dr Lori Beth is a Sex & Intimacy coach and psychologist who has worked with individuals, couples and polyamorous groups for the past 30 years to help them explore their sexuality, discover a deeper level of sexual congruence, heal from past sexual trauma as well as create more pleasurable, exciting, meaningful, authentic sexual relationships. On a mission to create more open dialogue about sex, sexual identity and self-expression, she hosts two popular podcasts The A to Z of Sex and Sex Spoken Here. She is also a passionate speaker, dynamic workshop facilitator and sought after expert in the media on the topics of sex, sexuality, intimacy, relationships and sexual trauma. Dr Lori Beth is polyamory and kink knowledgable and works with all genders and sexual orientations.

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Why Focus Matters in Relationships Guest: Laura Rubinstein Why Focus Matters in Relationships Guest: Laura Rubinstein Wed, 06 Sep 2017 18:00:00 GMT 54:41 69708796-e84f-3004-1277-560a70bcd88e no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/focus-in-relationships Why does intimacy matter, and how do you do it? full 1 8 Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, host of The Relationship Help Show, wrote a book, What You Pay Attention To Expands. She helps you to look at your thought habits, and how they help or hinder.


Guest, Laura Rubinstein, a hypnotherapist and Social Media Maven, provides insights into why it matters so much where you are placing your energy, time, and focus and about what you might be doing that you don't know you're doing and how it's secretly getting in your way.


More about Laura Rubinstein

Laura Rubinstein is a Certified Hypnotherapist, Master Leadership Coach, Bestselling Author, and award winning Social Media and Marketing Strategist. She is the creator the Savvy Social Media Success course, and founder of Social Buzz Club. During the past 20+ years, Laura has optimized brand marketing strategies for over 1,000 businesses. She is the author of the bestselling book Social Media Myths Busted, Transform Your Body in the Mental Gym and the Feminine Power Cards (endorsed by John Gray, PhD of Mars Venus). These wisdom cards offer practical tools that allow people to make profound shifts in their relationships and professional life. Laura’s writings are featured in a variety of publications including the Amazon bestselling books Women Living Consciously and Journey to Joy, as well as on genConnect.com, YourTango.com and her popular TransformToday.com blog.

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Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, host of The Relationship Help Show, wrote a book, What You Pay Attention To Expands. She helps you to look at your thought habits, and how they help or hinder.


Guest, Laura Rubinstein, a hypnotherapist and Social Media Maven, provides insights into why it matters so much where you are placing your energy, time, and focus and about what you might be doing that you don't know you're doing and how it's secretly getting in your way.


More about Laura Rubinstein

Laura Rubinstein is a Certified Hypnotherapist, Master Leadership Coach, Bestselling Author, and award winning Social Media and Marketing Strategist. She is the creator the Savvy Social Media Success course, and founder of Social Buzz Club. During the past 20+ years, Laura has optimized brand marketing strategies for over 1,000 businesses. She is the author of the bestselling book Social Media Myths Busted, Transform Your Body in the Mental Gym and the Feminine Power Cards (endorsed by John Gray, PhD of Mars Venus). These wisdom cards offer practical tools that allow people to make profound shifts in their relationships and professional life. Laura’s writings are featured in a variety of publications including the Amazon bestselling books Women Living Consciously and Journey to Joy, as well as on genConnect.com, YourTango.com and her popular TransformToday.com blog.

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Teens: Finding the Joy, Facing the Challenges Guest: Donovan Dreyer Teens: Finding the Joy, Facing the Challenges Guest: Donovan Dreyer Wed, 23 Aug 2017 18:00:00 GMT 56:25 38e19c40-8ff2-32ec-5e20-9f2bf3b9645f no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/teens-finding-the-joy-facing-the-challenges Letting teens make it to adulthood. full 1 7 Did you have a trying time raising teens? Maybe, you're doing it right now. Teen's brains are still developing, and we often don't understand what that means. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler helps you know what it means for teens to "have no remote."


Guest, Donovan Dreyer, creator of the Solving Our Stress tool, shows why we need different approaches to talking with teens, and how to help them articulate the stresses they are under.


More about Donovan Dreyer

High School Counselor

Coach of The Teen Team

Founder of Get Ready Coaching

Donovan's refusal to settle for less than his true calling moved him from a plan to be a pilot, through the family business, past stock trading to school counseling. The next step in the evolution of his passionate plan is to leverage all that he has learned in 16 years as a school counselor to make the most powerfully profound difference possible as a life coach. He helps create trusted teen teams that groove new healthy routines so teens are fueled for takeoff toward Destination Dream.

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Did you have a trying time raising teens? Maybe, you're doing it right now. Teen's brains are still developing, and we often don't understand what that means. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler helps you know what it means for teens to "have no remote."


Guest, Donovan Dreyer, creator of the Solving Our Stress tool, shows why we need different approaches to talking with teens, and how to help them articulate the stresses they are under.


More about Donovan Dreyer

High School Counselor

Coach of The Teen Team

Founder of Get Ready Coaching

Donovan's refusal to settle for less than his true calling moved him from a plan to be a pilot, through the family business, past stock trading to school counseling. The next step in the evolution of his passionate plan is to leverage all that he has learned in 16 years as a school counselor to make the most powerfully profound difference possible as a life coach. He helps create trusted teen teams that groove new healthy routines so teens are fueled for takeoff toward Destination Dream.

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<![CDATA[How do you know that it's actually abuse? Guest: Susan Ball]]> Wed, 16 Aug 2017 18:00:00 GMT 55:27 7035194b-25b7-6354-a62c-294f1f0d1ba1 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/how-do-you-know-that-its-actually-abuse There are some undeniable signs. full 1 6 Abuse is a strong word. Too many people don't want to recognize that that is what is going on in their relationships. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler shares ways you can know if what's really going on in your relationship is abusive.


Guest, Susan Ball, author of Courage & Grace, helps women heal from divorce and toxic relationships. A very candid discussion of what it feels like to be in an emotionally abusive relationship, and what it takes to get out of one.


More about Susan Ball

Susan Ball is the founder & CEO of Broken to Blissful™. She is an author and sought after international speaker, sharing her message of building joy on the journey from victim to survivor to thriver. She brings her experience, insights, and proven strategies to her work much to her clients’ delight.


In a nutshell, Susan helps women heal. Whether a woman is in need of support following a divorce or toxic relationship or recovering from an abusive relationship, Susan welcomes everyone and works with them using the tools and concepts from her ground-breaking book: Courage and Grace, From Broken to Blissful, The Journey of Building Joy During Your Recovery From Abuse

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Abuse is a strong word. Too many people don't want to recognize that that is what is going on in their relationships. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler shares ways you can know if what's really going on in your relationship is abusive.


Guest, Susan Ball, author of Courage & Grace, helps women heal from divorce and toxic relationships. A very candid discussion of what it feels like to be in an emotionally abusive relationship, and what it takes to get out of one.


More about Susan Ball

Susan Ball is the founder & CEO of Broken to Blissful™. She is an author and sought after international speaker, sharing her message of building joy on the journey from victim to survivor to thriver. She brings her experience, insights, and proven strategies to her work much to her clients’ delight.


In a nutshell, Susan helps women heal. Whether a woman is in need of support following a divorce or toxic relationship or recovering from an abusive relationship, Susan welcomes everyone and works with them using the tools and concepts from her ground-breaking book: Courage and Grace, From Broken to Blissful, The Journey of Building Joy During Your Recovery From Abuse

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How Hijackals Evade Your Radar Guest: Michelle Ann Owens How Hijackals Evade Your Radar Guest: Michelle Ann Owens Wed, 09 Aug 2017 18:00:00 GMT 55:52 938399ba-cf6b-e521-921f-49243a37e8bf no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/how-hijackals-evade-your-radar full 1 5 You can be unwittingly attracted to a person who will repeatedly hurt you. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler calls these folks "Hijackals™." They are relentlessly difficult people who are their worst at home or in their romantic relationships. Hijackals are attracted by people who accept their self-focused behaviors, and even take the blame for them. This is cycle of destruction that needs to stop.


Listen in as my guest, Michelle Ann Owens, opens up about her relationship with a Hijackal, and we candidly discuss why it went the way it did.


More about Michelle Ann Owens

MICHELLE ANN OWENS is an audio/video host, voiceover talent, vocalist and songwriter. She has stamped her business, creative & actual voice across multiple industries, including corporate business development and marketing, composing music for television, commercial advertising, and the world of podcasting. Michelle is the owner of Ladyfox Entertainment, LLC and is currently the hostess and producer of Nothing Off Limits (NOL) on iTunes.

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You can be unwittingly attracted to a person who will repeatedly hurt you. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler calls these folks "Hijackals™." They are relentlessly difficult people who are their worst at home or in their romantic relationships. Hijackals are attracted by people who accept their self-focused behaviors, and even take the blame for them. This is cycle of destruction that needs to stop.


Listen in as my guest, Michelle Ann Owens, opens up about her relationship with a Hijackal, and we candidly discuss why it went the way it did.


More about Michelle Ann Owens

MICHELLE ANN OWENS is an audio/video host, voiceover talent, vocalist and songwriter. She has stamped her business, creative & actual voice across multiple industries, including corporate business development and marketing, composing music for television, commercial advertising, and the world of podcasting. Michelle is the owner of Ladyfox Entertainment, LLC and is currently the hostess and producer of Nothing Off Limits (NOL) on iTunes.

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Settling? or Finding Ideal Partner? Guest: Lori Peters Settling? or Finding Ideal Partner? Guest: Lori Peters Wed, 02 Aug 2017 18:00:00 GMT 55:58 4494ce05-6341-73eb-d83d-1fdecf4e1a53 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/settling-or-finding-ideal-partner Settling is for Buildings; and Why Your Ideal Partner May be Eluding You, full 1 4 No one wants to "settle" in a relationship. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler talks about dating expectations and the consequences of having too few or too many.


Guest, Lori Peters, creator of the Happiness Hangout show, shares her story of looking for Mr. Right and what happened that took so long to find him. Lori got married just shortly before the show. It all worked out. Listen in.


More about Lori Peters

Lori Peters is a writer who has been published and featured in several media outlets including Huffington Post, Your Tango, Brides, Fox News Magazine and more. Lori’s first book, Getting Married At Last: My Journey From Hopelessness To Happiness is now available on Amazon in paperback and Kindle.


She also provides numerous professional and fun presentations around happiness and well-being for various types of audiences. Her Happiness Hangout® Radio Show on bbsradio has gained thousands of listeners as she and her guests dive into deep and interesting topics around personal relationship happiness.

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No one wants to "settle" in a relationship. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler talks about dating expectations and the consequences of having too few or too many.


Guest, Lori Peters, creator of the Happiness Hangout show, shares her story of looking for Mr. Right and what happened that took so long to find him. Lori got married just shortly before the show. It all worked out. Listen in.


More about Lori Peters

Lori Peters is a writer who has been published and featured in several media outlets including Huffington Post, Your Tango, Brides, Fox News Magazine and more. Lori’s first book, Getting Married At Last: My Journey From Hopelessness To Happiness is now available on Amazon in paperback and Kindle.


She also provides numerous professional and fun presentations around happiness and well-being for various types of audiences. Her Happiness Hangout® Radio Show on bbsradio has gained thousands of listeners as she and her guests dive into deep and interesting topics around personal relationship happiness.

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Divorcing a Difficult Person Guest: Karen Covy Divorcing a Difficult Person Guest: Karen Covy Wed, 26 Jul 2017 18:00:00 GMT 55:38 c9b907ef-a12c-717d-84d5-3c497da8164d no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/divorcing-a-difficult-person Advice To Help You Keep Your Sanity...and the other stuff you want full 1 Divorcing is never easy, even when it's not hard. But when you're divorcing a Hijackal®, it can feel particularly crazy-making. This episode will help those thinking about or facing divorce, so that they can get through their divorce with less destruction.


Guest, Dr. Karen Covy, an experienced divorce coach, and Dr. Rhoberta Shaler talk about everything from co-parenting to dating in your post-divorce world.


More about Karen Covy

I help people get through their divorce with dignity and confidence so that, when their divorce ends, they are ready to begin again, and create a life that they love. I am a divorce attorney, mediator, Collaborative Divorce professional, arbitrator, consultant and coach. I have spent decades helping people get divorced in every way that there is to do that. So, at this point, I know what works and what doesn't. I'm dedicated to sharing that information with those thinking about or facing divorce so that they can get through their divorce with less destruction.

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Divorcing is never easy, even when it's not hard. But when you're divorcing a Hijackal®, it can feel particularly crazy-making. This episode will help those thinking about or facing divorce, so that they can get through their divorce with less destruction.


Guest, Dr. Karen Covy, an experienced divorce coach, and Dr. Rhoberta Shaler talk about everything from co-parenting to dating in your post-divorce world.


More about Karen Covy

I help people get through their divorce with dignity and confidence so that, when their divorce ends, they are ready to begin again, and create a life that they love. I am a divorce attorney, mediator, Collaborative Divorce professional, arbitrator, consultant and coach. I have spent decades helping people get divorced in every way that there is to do that. So, at this point, I know what works and what doesn't. I'm dedicated to sharing that information with those thinking about or facing divorce so that they can get through their divorce with less destruction.

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Recognize the Indelible Marks of Adverse Childhood Experiences, ACEs Recognize the Indelible Marks of Adverse Childhood Experiences, ACEs Wed, 19 Jul 2017 18:00:00 GMT 56:49 b870bceb-5056-9676-3c9d-ee21f0758d49 no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/adverse-childhood-experiences When Bad Things Happen To Good Children full 1 2 So many people have had difficulties in their childhood, and resulting from their childhoods. Adverse Childhood Experiences, ACEs, is a thing. It's real. It's today topic.


You may not realize how much of an impact your early life has had on your every thought about yourself, others, relationships, rights, and expectations if you have had ACEs. Here's a definition from the Minnesota Department of Health:


"An adverse childhood experience (ACE) describes a traumatic experience in a person's life occurring before the age of 18 that the person remembers as an adult.


The nine ACEs are:

  • physical abuse
  • sexual abuse
  • emotional abuse
  • mental illness of a household member
  • problematic drinking or alcoholism of a household member
  • illegal street or prescription drug use by a household member
  • divorce or separation of a parent
  • domestic violence towards a parent
  • incarceration of a household member"


Now, you can see that this is a too common occurrence and it may have impacted your life. Listen to today's program and learn more.


Guest, Christine Baumgartner of The Perfect Catch, and Dr. Rhoberta Shaler of For Relationship Help discuss the affects of ACEs on their own lives and lives they touch in their work. It could be what you've experienced, and you need to know it now. Knowing can help you see clearly where you have been hurt, and where you need to heal. Even when you think you're coping well--and, you well may be--life CAN get better.


More about Christine Baumgartner

Christine works with singles who are ready to finally have a loving partner in their life and are willing to tackle what’s been keeping that love away so they’ll finally attract the committed loving relationship they desire and deserve.


Christine’s coaching capitalizes on over 25 years as a wedding planner where she witnessed the benefits of people meeting and marrying “The Perfect Catch” (and the huge challenges that arose when they didn't).


This inspired her to focus on what happens BEFORE the marriage, which ultimately contributed to her to becoming a dating and relationship coach.


Christine then became a top coach for John Gray and by combining this coaching experience with her own personal dating experience she created her Transform Your Dating Life system.


Learn more about Dr. Rhoberta Shaler's work at ForRelationshipHelp.com

Subscribe to her YouTube channel , ForRelationshipHelp

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So many people have had difficulties in their childhood, and resulting from their childhoods. Adverse Childhood Experiences, ACEs, is a thing. It's real. It's today topic.


You may not realize how much of an impact your early life has had on your every thought about yourself, others, relationships, rights, and expectations if you have had ACEs. Here's a definition from the Minnesota Department of Health:


"An adverse childhood experience (ACE) describes a traumatic experience in a person's life occurring before the age of 18 that the person remembers as an adult.


The nine ACEs are:

  • physical abuse
  • sexual abuse
  • emotional abuse
  • mental illness of a household member
  • problematic drinking or alcoholism of a household member
  • illegal street or prescription drug use by a household member
  • divorce or separation of a parent
  • domestic violence towards a parent
  • incarceration of a household member"


Now, you can see that this is a too common occurrence and it may have impacted your life. Listen to today's program and learn more.


Guest, Christine Baumgartner of The Perfect Catch, and Dr. Rhoberta Shaler of For Relationship Help discuss the affects of ACEs on their own lives and lives they touch in their work. It could be what you've experienced, and you need to know it now. Knowing can help you see clearly where you have been hurt, and where you need to heal. Even when you think you're coping well--and, you well may be--life CAN get better.


More about Christine Baumgartner

Christine works with singles who are ready to finally have a loving partner in their life and are willing to tackle what’s been keeping that love away so they’ll finally attract the committed loving relationship they desire and deserve.


Christine’s coaching capitalizes on over 25 years as a wedding planner where she witnessed the benefits of people meeting and marrying “The Perfect Catch” (and the huge challenges that arose when they didn't).


This inspired her to focus on what happens BEFORE the marriage, which ultimately contributed to her to becoming a dating and relationship coach.


Christine then became a top coach for John Gray and by combining this coaching experience with her own personal dating experience she created her Transform Your Dating Life system.


Learn more about Dr. Rhoberta Shaler's work at ForRelationshipHelp.com

Subscribe to her YouTube channel , ForRelationshipHelp

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What It Takes to Divorce a Difficult Toxic Person: A Hijackal®! What It Takes to Divorce a Difficult Toxic Person: A Hijackal®! Wed, 12 Jul 2017 18:00:00 GMT 51:04 e1615091-f3c5-eaa2-01f8-86d34d25be7e no https://shows.pippa.io/relationship-help-advice-podcast/dr-karen-finn-1 Guest: Dr. Karen Finn, divorce coach full 1 1 The first show! The Relationship Help Show: Move from Pain to Power is here to help you recognize and remedy relationships within yourself, and with the people in your life...especially with the relentlessly difficult people Dr. Shaler calls Hijackals®.


In this episode, the conversation is about divorce. Yes, for some people, it comes to that: divorce. And, it's a very big decision, especially if you don't clearly see and understand the traits, patterns and cycles of the difficult, toxic people, the Hijackals.


You may think that all that is going on is your fault. That's very common when you're with a Hijackal, s/he will make sure you hear constantly that everything is your fault. When you realize that's not the truth, often, there has been too much pain, and too many destructive things that have happened in your relationship. You know you cannot go back, and divorce is what's required to move forward.


Divorce is not a thing you plan on, but it sure is something you need to plan FOR.


What do you need to recognize to decide whether to stay or leave?


How do you decide what is enough? When is enough? Whether the relationship can be fixed? Or, when it's time for a divorce, or, at least, a separation? Big questions that you cannot take lightly, especially if you have children. This decision affects much in your life and planning is important.


Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor, and her guest, Dr. Karen Finn, a divorce coach, discuss what it takes to leave a relentlessly difficult person, a Hijackal®. It will help you understand your next best steps.



CLICK HERE to learn More about Dr. Karen Finn


Dr. Karen Finn is a divorce coach. She works with individuals who are wondering if divorce is the best answer for them and their family, who need support in navigating the divorce process, or who want guidance with everything from co-parenting to dating as they embark on their life post-divorce.


Making life decisions like these aren't easy. In fact, they're some of the most difficult you'll ever face. But you have to make a decision because if you don’t, you’re going to stay stuck in exactly the same place you are in today. And I can guess that where you are today isn’t a good place to be.


Dr. Rhoberta Shaler's website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Subscribe to her Tips for Relationships

Watch her YouTube Channel

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The first show! The Relationship Help Show: Move from Pain to Power is here to help you recognize and remedy relationships within yourself, and with the people in your life...especially with the relentlessly difficult people Dr. Shaler calls Hijackals®.


In this episode, the conversation is about divorce. Yes, for some people, it comes to that: divorce. And, it's a very big decision, especially if you don't clearly see and understand the traits, patterns and cycles of the difficult, toxic people, the Hijackals.


You may think that all that is going on is your fault. That's very common when you're with a Hijackal, s/he will make sure you hear constantly that everything is your fault. When you realize that's not the truth, often, there has been too much pain, and too many destructive things that have happened in your relationship. You know you cannot go back, and divorce is what's required to move forward.


Divorce is not a thing you plan on, but it sure is something you need to plan FOR.


What do you need to recognize to decide whether to stay or leave?


How do you decide what is enough? When is enough? Whether the relationship can be fixed? Or, when it's time for a divorce, or, at least, a separation? Big questions that you cannot take lightly, especially if you have children. This decision affects much in your life and planning is important.


Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor, and her guest, Dr. Karen Finn, a divorce coach, discuss what it takes to leave a relentlessly difficult person, a Hijackal®. It will help you understand your next best steps.



CLICK HERE to learn More about Dr. Karen Finn


Dr. Karen Finn is a divorce coach. She works with individuals who are wondering if divorce is the best answer for them and their family, who need support in navigating the divorce process, or who want guidance with everything from co-parenting to dating as they embark on their life post-divorce.


Making life decisions like these aren't easy. In fact, they're some of the most difficult you'll ever face. But you have to make a decision because if you don’t, you’re going to stay stuck in exactly the same place you are in today. And I can guess that where you are today isn’t a good place to be.


Dr. Rhoberta Shaler's website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Subscribe to her Tips for Relationships

Watch her YouTube Channel

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