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Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor offers a wide range of advice on improving the way you navigate life with others. Whether at home, work or play, dealing with humans can be tricky. Learn how to do it well and increase your love, trust and emotional intimacy for more fulfilling relationships.

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Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show. Expert guests & tips for getting along with the humans you care about.


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor offers a wide range of advice on improving the way you navigate life with others. Whether at home, work or play, dealing with humans can be tricky. Learn how to do it well and increase your love, trust and emotional intimacy for more fulfilling relationships.

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with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


HOW TO KEEP YOURSELF SAFE: VERBALLY, PHYSICALLY, EMOTIONALLY - Episode 40


GUEST: Susan Harrow, Creator of TRUE SHIELD: Verbal Self-Defense For Girls


DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Do people respect you? Or, do they take you for granted? Maybe, there are only one or two people who get your knickers in a twist in that way, and this needs straightening out right away.


Don't feel like a victim. There's no need. You can do something about it.


You might have "Boundary-itis!" Dr. Shaler talks about how you can empower yourself by clarifying, expressing, and maintaining your boundaries...and WHY that's essential to your well-being!


Sure, you know that setting boundaries is a good thing, but this information is SO compelling that you'll want to listen so you can put it in place right away!



GUEST: Susan Harrow, CEO of PRSecrets.com and creator of TRUE SHIELD: Verbal Self-Defense For Girls


Susan Harrow is a world renowned media coach and martial artist. She has a black belt in Aikido and is author of the best-selling book, Sell Yourself Without Selling Your Soul (HarperCollins). For the past 28 years she's run Harrow Communications, a media consultancy, where she's media trained thousands of people in verbal and non-verbal communications.


She’s created a course called True Shield: Verbal Self-Defense For Girls that teaches young women 12-24 how to protect themselves in 10 of life’s most difficult and dangerous situations that they’ll likely encounter — and stay safe. Her newest offering is a woman’s empowerment course that helps prevent sexual harassment in the workplace, in social situations and at school. Women can get free training in her Prevent Sexual Assault Vault + #NotMe Movement


In this empowering episode with Susan, we covered some new areas of keeping yourself safe. I asked Susan why she thinks we need to be empowered. Interesting answer.


Here's some interview highlights:


  • Why you need to set boundaries that send a clear message and head off sexual harassment, sexual assault, tough challenges, unwanted flirtation or invasion of your space
  • How you can set up situations properly to prevent arguing about your boundaries, rules, or standards
  • Responding appropriately--and effectively--to intimidation
  • How Susan found Akido a key to empowering herself and the girls she teaches
  • Using language as self-defense to prevent an attack


And, she helps you understand how to create physical distance in threatening situations, too.


HER FREE GIFT: The 100 word email that can get the media calling you for interviews. CLICK HERE


CONNECT WITH SUSAN HARROW:

Website: PRSecrets.com

Twitter: @SoundBiteSiren

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/susanharrow

Facebook: Facebook.com/susanharrow


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


HOW TO KEEP YOURSELF SAFE: VERBALLY, PHYSICALLY, EMOTIONALLY - Episode 40


GUEST: Susan Harrow, Creator of TRUE SHIELD: Verbal Self-Defense For Girls


DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Do people respect you? Or, do they take you for granted? Maybe, there are only one or two people who get your knickers in a twist in that way, and this needs straightening out right away.


Don't feel like a victim. There's no need. You can do something about it.


You might have "Boundary-itis!" Dr. Shaler talks about how you can empower yourself by clarifying, expressing, and maintaining your boundaries...and WHY that's essential to your well-being!


Sure, you know that setting boundaries is a good thing, but this information is SO compelling that you'll want to listen so you can put it in place right away!



GUEST: Susan Harrow, CEO of PRSecrets.com and creator of TRUE SHIELD: Verbal Self-Defense For Girls


Susan Harrow is a world renowned media coach and martial artist. She has a black belt in Aikido and is author of the best-selling book, Sell Yourself Without Selling Your Soul (HarperCollins). For the past 28 years she's run Harrow Communications, a media consultancy, where she's media trained thousands of people in verbal and non-verbal communications.


She’s created a course called True Shield: Verbal Self-Defense For Girls that teaches young women 12-24 how to protect themselves in 10 of life’s most difficult and dangerous situations that they’ll likely encounter — and stay safe. Her newest offering is a woman’s empowerment course that helps prevent sexual harassment in the workplace, in social situations and at school. Women can get free training in her Prevent Sexual Assault Vault + #NotMe Movement


In this empowering episode with Susan, we covered some new areas of keeping yourself safe. I asked Susan why she thinks we need to be empowered. Interesting answer.


Here's some interview highlights:


  • Why you need to set boundaries that send a clear message and head off sexual harassment, sexual assault, tough challenges, unwanted flirtation or invasion of your space
  • How you can set up situations properly to prevent arguing about your boundaries, rules, or standards
  • Responding appropriately--and effectively--to intimidation
  • How Susan found Akido a key to empowering herself and the girls she teaches
  • Using language as self-defense to prevent an attack


And, she helps you understand how to create physical distance in threatening situations, too.


HER FREE GIFT: The 100 word email that can get the media calling you for interviews. CLICK HERE


CONNECT WITH SUSAN HARROW:

Website: PRSecrets.com

Twitter: @SoundBiteSiren

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/susanharrow

Facebook: Facebook.com/susanharrow


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

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<![CDATA[How to Leave a Hijackal With Your Spiritual Self Intact ]]> Tue, 08 May 2018 19:08:51 GMT 39:29 5af1f602a205167f4c62d73a no full 4 39 EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


HOW TO LEAVE A HIJACKAL WITH YOUR SPIRITUAL SELF INTACT - Episode 38


GUEST: Lily Sanders, Author of Truth to Triumph: A Spiritual Guide to Finding Your Truth


DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

You've likely not happy when you blurt something out, and think better of it later, right?

You want to have the presence of mind to be your best self, even in the face of irrationality, rudeness, and toxicity.


Today's show begins with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler sharing how to be able to respond, rather than react, even in difficult circumstances, with difficult, toxic people. You can bring your best self forward, even in those moments.Using these tips can significantly increase your self-confidence, too.



GUEST: Lily Sanders

Lily Sander's life experiences with domestic violence, co-parenting, and intense compassion have gifted her a purpose to write, influence and coach others. She specializes in transition and spiritual guidance. She teaches others how to stop seeing themselves as a victim, and instead, learn how to use these experiences to become an empowered expression of love and truth.


Being held captive by a relentlessly difficult, unpredictable partner is frightening. And, it gets worse when you have children! Today's guest, Lily Sanders, walked through this, and she shares her journey and the wisdom she gained from the experience. You may be in a similar situation, and her story can light your path to a safer future. A few things we discussed:

  • How to get ready to face the truth of a long-term difficult relationship
  • What is takes to recognize what's happening as abuse
  • How "guarding your thoughts" applies to parenting
  • Key things you can change in your life to experience inner peace



CONNECT WITH LILY SANDERS:

Website: LilySanders.live

Twitter: @LilySanders11

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/lilyproject1415

Facebook: Facebook.com/lilysanders.live


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


HOW TO LEAVE A HIJACKAL WITH YOUR SPIRITUAL SELF INTACT - Episode 38


GUEST: Lily Sanders, Author of Truth to Triumph: A Spiritual Guide to Finding Your Truth


DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

You've likely not happy when you blurt something out, and think better of it later, right?

You want to have the presence of mind to be your best self, even in the face of irrationality, rudeness, and toxicity.


Today's show begins with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler sharing how to be able to respond, rather than react, even in difficult circumstances, with difficult, toxic people. You can bring your best self forward, even in those moments.Using these tips can significantly increase your self-confidence, too.



GUEST: Lily Sanders

Lily Sander's life experiences with domestic violence, co-parenting, and intense compassion have gifted her a purpose to write, influence and coach others. She specializes in transition and spiritual guidance. She teaches others how to stop seeing themselves as a victim, and instead, learn how to use these experiences to become an empowered expression of love and truth.


Being held captive by a relentlessly difficult, unpredictable partner is frightening. And, it gets worse when you have children! Today's guest, Lily Sanders, walked through this, and she shares her journey and the wisdom she gained from the experience. You may be in a similar situation, and her story can light your path to a safer future. A few things we discussed:

  • How to get ready to face the truth of a long-term difficult relationship
  • What is takes to recognize what's happening as abuse
  • How "guarding your thoughts" applies to parenting
  • Key things you can change in your life to experience inner peace



CONNECT WITH LILY SANDERS:

Website: LilySanders.live

Twitter: @LilySanders11

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/lilyproject1415

Facebook: Facebook.com/lilysanders.live


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

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<![CDATA[How To Live With Few Regrets & Move Towards Success]]> Wed, 04 Apr 2018 01:00:00 GMT 58:28 5acc1ff90f06e6a660f6d20e no full 3 38 The Relationship Help Show with Dr Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


HOW TO LIVE WITH FEW REGRETS AND MOVE TOWARDS SUCCESS


Highlights:


Dr. Shaler talks about "Are You Mistaking Activity for Progress?"


Guest: Scott Kimbro, Author of SubmUrgency: How To Live & Die Without Regrets


Dr. Shaler offers her own tricks on how to stop wasting time on regrets

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Moving towards success is never a straightforward path...at least, not for most people. There are curves, sidelines, and setbacks. Sometimes, we're derailed. Sometimes, though, we derail ourselves. Dr. Shaler starts today's show off by talking about "Are You Mistaking Activity for Progress?" It's a very important question to consider.


So easy to fool yourself. As long as you're busy, you're doing the right thing. Not actually true, right? You can get quite caught up in finding out if there really are 1000 staples in that little box while you're actively putting off finishing a project!


Do you know your high-value activities, and do them first? Your productivity--and your self-esteem--will rise when you stop mistaking activity for progress.


Today's guest, Scott Kimbro, is the author of SubmUrgency: How to Live and Die Without Regret . ​You define success for yourself. No matter what that is, you'll need to be able to trust yourself to make good decisions.


Scott and Dr. Rhoberta Shaler talk about empowering yourself to confidently step up and live fully. Even if things are difficult--or have been--you can feel good about how you respond to life, and the results you create. It's possible to not recognize how urgent something really is. That's a good starting place.


In submUrgency, Scott defines three kinds of urgency in life:


" Obvious Urgency - A situation that demands immediate attention that usually has negative consequences if not addressed.

Limited/Optional Urgency - A situation that one can choose to embrace or ignore; however, if it is embraced and fulfilled with a high degree of urgency, it can have amazing results.

Hidden Urgency or SubmUrgency - A situation that is right in front of us but is not readily seen unless we are taught how to find it."


Scott Kimbro offered this wonderful quote from Pablo Picasso:


"Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone."


Wow! That's a wake-up call, isn't it? Whether that's a call to your mother, kissing your partner, or finishing your book, only you know what you want to do, and how you want to use your time. We discuss this more fully in today's show.


And, more about living without regrets from Dr. Shaler. There are a few things you can think through that will help you make decisions without regrets. She offers one big thing to think about that can help you feel good about your decisions, and reduce the likelihood of regretting your choices in life and relationships.


Learn more about the finer points of seeing and responding to these levels of urgency, and moving forward towards the life and relationships you want during today's show.


Click here for more About Scott Kimbro:

I am Scott Kimbro, a man who loves to teach. I am a Christian, husband, father, author, inspirational speaker and teacher. I, my wife, and our two daughters live in Spring Hill, Tennessee. My professional background includes accounting, banking, various managerial positions and entrepreneur of both traditional and network marketing companies.

In traditional business, I was the Chief Operating Officer of Kimbro Oil Company in Nashville, Tennessee. In the network marketing space my wife and I became Diamond Executives with a wellness company.


Click here for more About Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent & ongoing care for relationships in crisis. She awakens listeners to recognize--and stop tolerating abuse from--the relentlessly difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals®. Author: 16 books. Host of The Relationship Help Show. She works with clients worldwide through video conferencing. You can schedule a free consultation at https://ForRelationshipHelp.com/free-consult


Dr. Shaler website: https://forRelationshipHelp.com

Subscribe to her YouTube Channel: https://YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp



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The Relationship Help Show with Dr Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


HOW TO LIVE WITH FEW REGRETS AND MOVE TOWARDS SUCCESS


Highlights:


Dr. Shaler talks about "Are You Mistaking Activity for Progress?"


Guest: Scott Kimbro, Author of SubmUrgency: How To Live & Die Without Regrets


Dr. Shaler offers her own tricks on how to stop wasting time on regrets

__________________________________________________________________________________________


Moving towards success is never a straightforward path...at least, not for most people. There are curves, sidelines, and setbacks. Sometimes, we're derailed. Sometimes, though, we derail ourselves. Dr. Shaler starts today's show off by talking about "Are You Mistaking Activity for Progress?" It's a very important question to consider.


So easy to fool yourself. As long as you're busy, you're doing the right thing. Not actually true, right? You can get quite caught up in finding out if there really are 1000 staples in that little box while you're actively putting off finishing a project!


Do you know your high-value activities, and do them first? Your productivity--and your self-esteem--will rise when you stop mistaking activity for progress.


Today's guest, Scott Kimbro, is the author of SubmUrgency: How to Live and Die Without Regret . ​You define success for yourself. No matter what that is, you'll need to be able to trust yourself to make good decisions.


Scott and Dr. Rhoberta Shaler talk about empowering yourself to confidently step up and live fully. Even if things are difficult--or have been--you can feel good about how you respond to life, and the results you create. It's possible to not recognize how urgent something really is. That's a good starting place.


In submUrgency, Scott defines three kinds of urgency in life:


" Obvious Urgency - A situation that demands immediate attention that usually has negative consequences if not addressed.

Limited/Optional Urgency - A situation that one can choose to embrace or ignore; however, if it is embraced and fulfilled with a high degree of urgency, it can have amazing results.

Hidden Urgency or SubmUrgency - A situation that is right in front of us but is not readily seen unless we are taught how to find it."


Scott Kimbro offered this wonderful quote from Pablo Picasso:


"Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone."


Wow! That's a wake-up call, isn't it? Whether that's a call to your mother, kissing your partner, or finishing your book, only you know what you want to do, and how you want to use your time. We discuss this more fully in today's show.


And, more about living without regrets from Dr. Shaler. There are a few things you can think through that will help you make decisions without regrets. She offers one big thing to think about that can help you feel good about your decisions, and reduce the likelihood of regretting your choices in life and relationships.


Learn more about the finer points of seeing and responding to these levels of urgency, and moving forward towards the life and relationships you want during today's show.


Click here for more About Scott Kimbro:

I am Scott Kimbro, a man who loves to teach. I am a Christian, husband, father, author, inspirational speaker and teacher. I, my wife, and our two daughters live in Spring Hill, Tennessee. My professional background includes accounting, banking, various managerial positions and entrepreneur of both traditional and network marketing companies.

In traditional business, I was the Chief Operating Officer of Kimbro Oil Company in Nashville, Tennessee. In the network marketing space my wife and I became Diamond Executives with a wellness company.


Click here for more About Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent & ongoing care for relationships in crisis. She awakens listeners to recognize--and stop tolerating abuse from--the relentlessly difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals®. Author: 16 books. Host of The Relationship Help Show. She works with clients worldwide through video conferencing. You can schedule a free consultation at https://ForRelationshipHelp.com/free-consult


Dr. Shaler website: https://forRelationshipHelp.com

Subscribe to her YouTube Channel: https://YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp



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<![CDATA[Is Your Family History Ruining Your Relationship Life?]]> Wed, 28 Mar 2018 01:00:00 GMT 59:52 5acc1f47043e12b4333a2961 no full 3 37 Relationship Help Show with Dr Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


Dr. Shaler opens the show with thoughts on things you might believe about yourself if you were raised by a Hijackal®


​Guest, Johanna Lynn, Clinical Hypnotherapist

All that happened to you in life affects everything that is currently happening in your life. If you are not getting the results in life and relationships that you want, then, you want to listen to this episode for sure. 


Dr. Shaler talks about a common issue: hoping someone will bring up a difficult situation so you don't have to.


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Raised by a Hijackal®? You Might Believe This Deep Down...and It's a Lie! 

Unless you've had a reason or taken the time to think deeply about the home your grew up in, you might not recognize that you had a relentlessly difficult, toxic parent. If you did, the things you learned before you even could walk are affecting everything, on auto-pilot. That Hijackal parent taught you who you were and what to expect from life, and that parent lied to you. Really! Listen in. 


When you recognize what you were raised in, and who you were raised by, you'll recognize the need for help to change a few things that can make your life and relationships so much more fulfilling.


Schedule a free consultation with Dr. Shaler: https://ForRelationshipHelp.com/free-consult

Enjoy her videos on YouTube: httsp://youtube.com/forrelationshiphelp


GUEST: Johanna Lynn Part 1 Inherited Family Ties and Traits


Why are you comfortable being treated in ways that make you uncomfortable? Learn how your nervous system learned this, and may be settling for taking crumbs from the family table.


Families share operating systems, family patterns, family traits. Learn how your inner images of yourself and your family play out in your life now. Epigenetic patterns. 


GUEST Johanna Lynn Part 2 Inherited Family Ties and Traits


Did you have an emotionally unavailable parent? Did you have an absent parent? The loss that this created is part of your "emotional body."


Trust. Where did you learn to trust, or why not to trust? Your family! Listen as Johanna and Dr. Shaler share the impact of your family on your daily life today. 


It's easy to say to yourself, "Yes, I know. My family was tough, and I'm doing OK." You like are. The thing is, if you take the time to dive into some beliefs you have that you might not even be aware of, you can unleash the power within you to have the life, love, and success you want. Discover where you may have been shut down early on. This can limit you, and it's not necessary.


Johanna Lynn spoke of her process:


"The first thing I do is I want to take a little bit of family history from both sides so that we can make sense of what is pretty much dysfunctional of where it feels familiar, why it feels right or or common in the body to feel disrespected, to be spoken to poorly, whatever the the need and want kind of ratio that push pull between a couple can be that are immersed in high conflict, so a lot of times when we can get a little bit of family history, we can step beyond the story."



Learn more about Johann Lynn HERE


Are You Waiting For Someone Else To Go First?


Are you afraid to bring up issues, or talk about a conflict, a need, or your feelings? Many people hope their partners will bring up problems. That doesn't work well.


Dr. Shaler give you some insights into what's really going on when these are the dynamics of a relationship. More importantly, she helps you know how to approach a problem, and how to talk it through. Feel confident bringing up difficult things, and increase your chances of solving problems. Be assertive. Then, you won't be afraid of becoming aggressive.


Stay in touch. Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's TIPS FOR RELATIONSHIPS: https://forrelationshiphelp.com/subscribe

 

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Relationship Help Show with Dr Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


Dr. Shaler opens the show with thoughts on things you might believe about yourself if you were raised by a Hijackal®


​Guest, Johanna Lynn, Clinical Hypnotherapist

All that happened to you in life affects everything that is currently happening in your life. If you are not getting the results in life and relationships that you want, then, you want to listen to this episode for sure. 


Dr. Shaler talks about a common issue: hoping someone will bring up a difficult situation so you don't have to.


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Raised by a Hijackal®? You Might Believe This Deep Down...and It's a Lie! 

Unless you've had a reason or taken the time to think deeply about the home your grew up in, you might not recognize that you had a relentlessly difficult, toxic parent. If you did, the things you learned before you even could walk are affecting everything, on auto-pilot. That Hijackal parent taught you who you were and what to expect from life, and that parent lied to you. Really! Listen in. 


When you recognize what you were raised in, and who you were raised by, you'll recognize the need for help to change a few things that can make your life and relationships so much more fulfilling.


Schedule a free consultation with Dr. Shaler: https://ForRelationshipHelp.com/free-consult

Enjoy her videos on YouTube: httsp://youtube.com/forrelationshiphelp


GUEST: Johanna Lynn Part 1 Inherited Family Ties and Traits


Why are you comfortable being treated in ways that make you uncomfortable? Learn how your nervous system learned this, and may be settling for taking crumbs from the family table.


Families share operating systems, family patterns, family traits. Learn how your inner images of yourself and your family play out in your life now. Epigenetic patterns. 


GUEST Johanna Lynn Part 2 Inherited Family Ties and Traits


Did you have an emotionally unavailable parent? Did you have an absent parent? The loss that this created is part of your "emotional body."


Trust. Where did you learn to trust, or why not to trust? Your family! Listen as Johanna and Dr. Shaler share the impact of your family on your daily life today. 


It's easy to say to yourself, "Yes, I know. My family was tough, and I'm doing OK." You like are. The thing is, if you take the time to dive into some beliefs you have that you might not even be aware of, you can unleash the power within you to have the life, love, and success you want. Discover where you may have been shut down early on. This can limit you, and it's not necessary.


Johanna Lynn spoke of her process:


"The first thing I do is I want to take a little bit of family history from both sides so that we can make sense of what is pretty much dysfunctional of where it feels familiar, why it feels right or or common in the body to feel disrespected, to be spoken to poorly, whatever the the need and want kind of ratio that push pull between a couple can be that are immersed in high conflict, so a lot of times when we can get a little bit of family history, we can step beyond the story."



Learn more about Johann Lynn HERE


Are You Waiting For Someone Else To Go First?


Are you afraid to bring up issues, or talk about a conflict, a need, or your feelings? Many people hope their partners will bring up problems. That doesn't work well.


Dr. Shaler give you some insights into what's really going on when these are the dynamics of a relationship. More importantly, she helps you know how to approach a problem, and how to talk it through. Feel confident bringing up difficult things, and increase your chances of solving problems. Be assertive. Then, you won't be afraid of becoming aggressive.


Stay in touch. Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's TIPS FOR RELATIONSHIPS: https://forrelationshiphelp.com/subscribe

 

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<![CDATA[How to Manage Uncertainty, Ambiguity and Chaos in Relationships]]> Wed, 21 Mar 2018 01:00:00 GMT 59:04 5acc1e4c0f06e6a660f6d20d no full 3 36 The Relationship Help Show with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


HOW TO MANAGE UNCERTAINTY, AMBIGUITY & CHAOS IN RELATIONSHIPS


Toxic people thrive on--and, therefore create--uncertainty, ambiguity and chaos. That's how they gain power and control over people, conversations, and circumstances. Today's show will help you see where and how you are being controlled by uncertainty...even when you don't think it's possible.


Dr. Rhoberta Shaler gives you strategies for safely saying what you mean, at the time it needs to be said.


​Guest, Dr Dennis Merritt-Jones, author of The Art of Uncertainty, offers a definition of uncertainty and why it can be a good thing. Who knew? Dr. Shaler asks him a whole lot of questions about this! For instance, can you be fully present and detached at the same time?


Q & A Today: My partner left me. Should I take my partner back?


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How To Learn To Say What You Mean - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

You're often taught to bite your tongue, right? Somehow, speaking your truth is discouraged, almost as though what you have to say has no value and doesn't matter. Then, you get in the way of not speaking up when you are discounted, degraded, or verbally abused. That leads to emotional abuse. So, these insights can help you find your voice...and use it! 


GUEST: Dr. Dennis Merritt-Jones, author of The Art of Uncertainty 

Hijackals®, those toxic people who are impossible to please and difficult to live with make it their life's work to keep you in uncertainty and second-guessing yourself. Dennis gives another view of uncertainty that is much more positive and appealing. He offers spiritual views for dealing with practical matters in a refreshing way. 


Dennis says that,

"The whole point of this book is that you'd have no control over the future. You have absolutely no control over your next breath in the present moment. So the the choice should be: how are you going to choose to experience this moment? Because it is a choice we have when we can understand that we can deal with fear differently than perhaps we have in the past. It doesn't mean fears going to go away, but it means we develop a new relationship with fear that allows us to be in charge of our experience in the moment."



Would you like to know how to know when to let go of wrongs, worries, fears, and pain? In this segment, we talk about four important pillars: choice, faith, curiosity, and action. All help you to create a life that moves in positive directions and towards manifesting the relationships and dreams you most want. 


Q&A: Should I Take My Partner Back Again? 

So many times, Hijackals® leave in a fit of righteousness to punish you. Hijackals must be right...always. You've likely noticed that. Then, they want to come back. They "love bomb" you: saying and doing all the right, loving things you've been longing to hear. Here's why you have to think clearly, remember well, and stand your ground. 


Much more for you on Dr. Shaler's website: https://ForRelationshipHelp.com

Enjoy Dr. Shaler's videos on YouTube: https://youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

Subscribe to her Tips for Relationships Newsletter: http://forrelationshiphelp.com/subscribe

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The Relationship Help Show with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


HOW TO MANAGE UNCERTAINTY, AMBIGUITY & CHAOS IN RELATIONSHIPS


Toxic people thrive on--and, therefore create--uncertainty, ambiguity and chaos. That's how they gain power and control over people, conversations, and circumstances. Today's show will help you see where and how you are being controlled by uncertainty...even when you don't think it's possible.


Dr. Rhoberta Shaler gives you strategies for safely saying what you mean, at the time it needs to be said.


​Guest, Dr Dennis Merritt-Jones, author of The Art of Uncertainty, offers a definition of uncertainty and why it can be a good thing. Who knew? Dr. Shaler asks him a whole lot of questions about this! For instance, can you be fully present and detached at the same time?


Q & A Today: My partner left me. Should I take my partner back?


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How To Learn To Say What You Mean - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

You're often taught to bite your tongue, right? Somehow, speaking your truth is discouraged, almost as though what you have to say has no value and doesn't matter. Then, you get in the way of not speaking up when you are discounted, degraded, or verbally abused. That leads to emotional abuse. So, these insights can help you find your voice...and use it! 


GUEST: Dr. Dennis Merritt-Jones, author of The Art of Uncertainty 

Hijackals®, those toxic people who are impossible to please and difficult to live with make it their life's work to keep you in uncertainty and second-guessing yourself. Dennis gives another view of uncertainty that is much more positive and appealing. He offers spiritual views for dealing with practical matters in a refreshing way. 


Dennis says that,

"The whole point of this book is that you'd have no control over the future. You have absolutely no control over your next breath in the present moment. So the the choice should be: how are you going to choose to experience this moment? Because it is a choice we have when we can understand that we can deal with fear differently than perhaps we have in the past. It doesn't mean fears going to go away, but it means we develop a new relationship with fear that allows us to be in charge of our experience in the moment."



Would you like to know how to know when to let go of wrongs, worries, fears, and pain? In this segment, we talk about four important pillars: choice, faith, curiosity, and action. All help you to create a life that moves in positive directions and towards manifesting the relationships and dreams you most want. 


Q&A: Should I Take My Partner Back Again? 

So many times, Hijackals® leave in a fit of righteousness to punish you. Hijackals must be right...always. You've likely noticed that. Then, they want to come back. They "love bomb" you: saying and doing all the right, loving things you've been longing to hear. Here's why you have to think clearly, remember well, and stand your ground. 


Much more for you on Dr. Shaler's website: https://ForRelationshipHelp.com

Enjoy Dr. Shaler's videos on YouTube: https://youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

Subscribe to her Tips for Relationships Newsletter: http://forrelationshiphelp.com/subscribe

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<![CDATA[Is That Passive-Aggressive? ]]> Wed, 14 Mar 2018 01:00:00 GMT 1:00:04 5acc1da4043e12b4333a2960 no full 3 35 Is the behavior you're upset about passive-aggressive? Dr. Shaler gives you tips.


Guest: Dr. Ganz Ferrance talks about men and his book, The ME Factor: Your Systematic Guide to Getting What the Hell You Want.


#1 Introduction to Episode 35#2 What is Passive-Aggressive Behavior? 

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler helps you recognize passive-aggressive traits. Her book, Stop! That's Crazy-Making! How To Quit Playing the Passive-Aggressive Game, is also a big help for you to know how to respond in healthier and more effective ways to the sneaky nature of passive-aggressive behavior. 

 

#3 GUEST: Dr. Ganz Ferrance Part 1

Dr. Ganz wrote his book, The ME Factor, to focus on men--particularly men thirty to fifty years old--and why their stress often goes unnoticed, and why it's important for them to focus on reducing it as early as possible. Cultural conditioning has much to do with it, however, awareness can be the biggest factor. Learn what you need to do to reduce stress--physical, emotional, relationship, career stress, 

 

#4 GUEST: Dr. Ganz Ferrance Part 2 

How do you strike a balance in life? How can men, in particular, find balance between taking care of themselves and their families and careers? What are the pitfalls? How do you avoid them? What do you need to be aware of to have the life you want?#5 How to Stop Second Guessing Yourself - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

If you were raised by Hijackals® or were in relationship with one, you are going to be confused. And, the Hijackal is going to do his or her best to keep you confused, uncertain, and preferably, living in emotional chaos. The point: to keep you second-guessing yourself. Learn how to stop now. It can save your sanity!  

 

#6 Closing 

AFFIRMATION FOR THE WEEK 

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's YouTube Channel

Subscribe to Tips For Relationships newsletter




Dr. Ganz Ferrance is a Speaker, Author and Registered Psychologist.


For over twenty-five years, Dr. Ganz has been helping individuals, couples, families, and corporations reduce their stress, improve their relationships, and enjoy more success.


Dr. Ganz presents his information in a straightforward, down-to- earth, no-nonsense way and does not present anything that he has not personally put his blood, sweat, and tears into. This approach has made him sought-after in media and as a public speaker. He has been interviewed on Good Morning Canada, and in Psychology Today, Ebony magazines as well as many other radio, TV shows and publications.

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Is the behavior you're upset about passive-aggressive? Dr. Shaler gives you tips.


Guest: Dr. Ganz Ferrance talks about men and his book, The ME Factor: Your Systematic Guide to Getting What the Hell You Want.


#1 Introduction to Episode 35#2 What is Passive-Aggressive Behavior? 

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler helps you recognize passive-aggressive traits. Her book, Stop! That's Crazy-Making! How To Quit Playing the Passive-Aggressive Game, is also a big help for you to know how to respond in healthier and more effective ways to the sneaky nature of passive-aggressive behavior. 

 

#3 GUEST: Dr. Ganz Ferrance Part 1

Dr. Ganz wrote his book, The ME Factor, to focus on men--particularly men thirty to fifty years old--and why their stress often goes unnoticed, and why it's important for them to focus on reducing it as early as possible. Cultural conditioning has much to do with it, however, awareness can be the biggest factor. Learn what you need to do to reduce stress--physical, emotional, relationship, career stress, 

 

#4 GUEST: Dr. Ganz Ferrance Part 2 

How do you strike a balance in life? How can men, in particular, find balance between taking care of themselves and their families and careers? What are the pitfalls? How do you avoid them? What do you need to be aware of to have the life you want?#5 How to Stop Second Guessing Yourself - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

If you were raised by Hijackals® or were in relationship with one, you are going to be confused. And, the Hijackal is going to do his or her best to keep you confused, uncertain, and preferably, living in emotional chaos. The point: to keep you second-guessing yourself. Learn how to stop now. It can save your sanity!  

 

#6 Closing 

AFFIRMATION FOR THE WEEK 

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's YouTube Channel

Subscribe to Tips For Relationships newsletter




Dr. Ganz Ferrance is a Speaker, Author and Registered Psychologist.


For over twenty-five years, Dr. Ganz has been helping individuals, couples, families, and corporations reduce their stress, improve their relationships, and enjoy more success.


Dr. Ganz presents his information in a straightforward, down-to- earth, no-nonsense way and does not present anything that he has not personally put his blood, sweat, and tears into. This approach has made him sought-after in media and as a public speaker. He has been interviewed on Good Morning Canada, and in Psychology Today, Ebony magazines as well as many other radio, TV shows and publications.

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<![CDATA[Do Hijackals Become Wonderful With A New Partner?]]> Wed, 07 Mar 2018 02:00:00 GMT 57:15 5acc1ce51397989e374e59be no full 3 34 HOW CAN I LEARN TO TRUST? Part 2


Today. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler offers further insights into learning to trust, and learning to trust AGAIN.


Trust is such an essential element in a healthy relationship. You may have had previous experiences with folks in your life where you sadly learned you could not trust them. This tends to color your new relationships. Dr. Shaler offers insights to help you gain a new perspective on building trust, a new way of thinking about it that can offer help and hope.


If you missed Part 1, listen to Episode 33.


DO HIJACKALS BECOME WONDERFUL WHEN THEY GET A NEW LOVE?


GUEST: Bree Bonchay, MSW, LCSW


What is up with the Hijackal leaving you after being verbally and emotionally abusive, and taking up with a new partner, all sweetness and light? Can a Hijackal really change? And, that quickly?


Does a new partner bring out the best in a Hijackal? It often seems that way, doesn't it? And, then, you wonder, "If s/he can be that happy, laughing and loving, with someone new, was it me? Was I inadequate?"


And, you know what, that's exactly what the Hijackal delights in you thinking. That's because--wait for it--everything was your fault, right?


Bree Bonchay and I take a loaded psychological phrase that is really helpful in understanding why this is all so confusing and we unpack it. You'll understand better why you have the misgivings, and why and how you can set them to rest now.


In Part 2 of the interview, interesting insights into attitude and agreeableness. You'll want to hear about this agreeableness, and it's not what you think.


Very helpful interview to understand why you have such mixed emotions when leaving a Hijackal, and then, when the Hijackal finds new "supply" and seems to be so different from the person you last knew. Listen in.


Why does it seem that the Hijackal® has become an amazing, wonderful person with the new love of their life. Is it real? Today's show will help you to see what's really going on. You need to know.


Bree Bonchay is licensed psychotherapist with almost two decades of experience working in the field of mental health and trauma recovery. She specializes in helping people recover from toxic relationships, and shares her insights about Narcissistic Personality Disorder and psychopathy in her blog FreeFromToxic. Her articles have been featured in major online magazines, she is the founder World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day, (WNAAD), which is celebrated every 1st of June, and she is on the Board of Directors for The Association for NPD/Psychopathy Educators & Survivor Treatment More About Bree Bonchay, LCSW, psychotherapist 


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care relationships in crisis. She particularly helps the partners, exes, adult children & co-workers of the crazy-making, relentlessly difficult people she calls “Hijackals®.” She helps them save their sanity and stop the crazy-making. Even the United States Marines have called on her for help!

A relationship expert, mediator, speaker & author of sixteen books, Dr. Shaler consults with clients worldwide through the convenience of the internet. She is the host of two podcasts: Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show, and Save Your Sanity! Help for Handling Hijackals.   More About Dr. Rhoberta Shaler



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HOW CAN I LEARN TO TRUST? Part 2


Today. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler offers further insights into learning to trust, and learning to trust AGAIN.


Trust is such an essential element in a healthy relationship. You may have had previous experiences with folks in your life where you sadly learned you could not trust them. This tends to color your new relationships. Dr. Shaler offers insights to help you gain a new perspective on building trust, a new way of thinking about it that can offer help and hope.


If you missed Part 1, listen to Episode 33.


DO HIJACKALS BECOME WONDERFUL WHEN THEY GET A NEW LOVE?


GUEST: Bree Bonchay, MSW, LCSW


What is up with the Hijackal leaving you after being verbally and emotionally abusive, and taking up with a new partner, all sweetness and light? Can a Hijackal really change? And, that quickly?


Does a new partner bring out the best in a Hijackal? It often seems that way, doesn't it? And, then, you wonder, "If s/he can be that happy, laughing and loving, with someone new, was it me? Was I inadequate?"


And, you know what, that's exactly what the Hijackal delights in you thinking. That's because--wait for it--everything was your fault, right?


Bree Bonchay and I take a loaded psychological phrase that is really helpful in understanding why this is all so confusing and we unpack it. You'll understand better why you have the misgivings, and why and how you can set them to rest now.


In Part 2 of the interview, interesting insights into attitude and agreeableness. You'll want to hear about this agreeableness, and it's not what you think.


Very helpful interview to understand why you have such mixed emotions when leaving a Hijackal, and then, when the Hijackal finds new "supply" and seems to be so different from the person you last knew. Listen in.


Why does it seem that the Hijackal® has become an amazing, wonderful person with the new love of their life. Is it real? Today's show will help you to see what's really going on. You need to know.


Bree Bonchay is licensed psychotherapist with almost two decades of experience working in the field of mental health and trauma recovery. She specializes in helping people recover from toxic relationships, and shares her insights about Narcissistic Personality Disorder and psychopathy in her blog FreeFromToxic. Her articles have been featured in major online magazines, she is the founder World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day, (WNAAD), which is celebrated every 1st of June, and she is on the Board of Directors for The Association for NPD/Psychopathy Educators & Survivor Treatment More About Bree Bonchay, LCSW, psychotherapist 


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care relationships in crisis. She particularly helps the partners, exes, adult children & co-workers of the crazy-making, relentlessly difficult people she calls “Hijackals®.” She helps them save their sanity and stop the crazy-making. Even the United States Marines have called on her for help!

A relationship expert, mediator, speaker & author of sixteen books, Dr. Shaler consults with clients worldwide through the convenience of the internet. She is the host of two podcasts: Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show, and Save Your Sanity! Help for Handling Hijackals.   More About Dr. Rhoberta Shaler



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<![CDATA[How to Get Over Betrayal and Trauma to Trust Again]]> Wed, 28 Feb 2018 02:00:00 GMT 57:11 5acc1c181397989e374e59bd no full 3 33 How Can I Trust? Recovering from Relationship Trauma & Betrayal


Guest: Michael Wayne Regier, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist/Marriage Therapist


Dr. Michael Wayne Regier received his PhD from the California School of Professional psychology. Early in his career he was on the faculty in the department of psychiatry at the Johns Hopkins School of medicine. He did a post doctoral internship in couples group psychotherapy with Dr. Judy Coche in Philadelphia.


He is currently the founder and Director of The Center for Relational Excellence in Visalia where he works full time as an Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist.


He and his wife Paula have written a book for couples called Emotional Connection: The Story and Science of Preventing Conflict and Creating Lifetime Love.


Dr. Regier works with couples in crisis and toxic relationships. Many couples have traumatic injuries due to relationship betrayals. Often couples come in on the verge of divorce looking for some way to escape their destructive cycle and rediscover the love that brought them together.

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How Can I Trust? Recovering from Relationship Trauma & Betrayal


Guest: Michael Wayne Regier, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist/Marriage Therapist


Dr. Michael Wayne Regier received his PhD from the California School of Professional psychology. Early in his career he was on the faculty in the department of psychiatry at the Johns Hopkins School of medicine. He did a post doctoral internship in couples group psychotherapy with Dr. Judy Coche in Philadelphia.


He is currently the founder and Director of The Center for Relational Excellence in Visalia where he works full time as an Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist.


He and his wife Paula have written a book for couples called Emotional Connection: The Story and Science of Preventing Conflict and Creating Lifetime Love.


Dr. Regier works with couples in crisis and toxic relationships. Many couples have traumatic injuries due to relationship betrayals. Often couples come in on the verge of divorce looking for some way to escape their destructive cycle and rediscover the love that brought them together.

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<![CDATA[Learn to Say NO! to Toxic People]]> Wed, 21 Feb 2018 02:00:00 GMT 1:07:34 5acc1b9d0f06e6a660f6d20b no full 3 32 New insights on how to find love and support within yourself, to commit to creating and maintaining your healthy, safe life with other humans. 


Do You Want to Feel Showered with Appreciation?

Do these things. Insights from Dr. Rhoberta Shaler


Guest Conversation with Laura Rubinstein -

 Learn to Say No. What it Takes and Why We're Reluctant to Do It


Toxic people, difficult people, push you to do what they want you to do. Learn to say no. 

They will shame you, blame you, and game you into it…or, at least try.


And, when you allow the manipulation, you feel one of two things:

  1. hopeful that, if you do what they want, they will like you more, or treat you better, or
  2. defeated, and ashamed or sorry, that you once again are giving in to them.


Neither of those feelings is helpful when you are in a relationship with a Hijackal®, right? Either way, you are disempowered.

You want to be in control of what you do, think, feel, and want. That's your right!


Toxic people will even go so far as to tell you what you feel or think, or at a minimum, what they think you should do, think feel, and want. You’ve noticed that, I’m sure. Don’t let them do that. They want to define your reality for you. If you let them, they will take over your life.


Focus on saying YES! to yourself.

  • What do you want?
  • What do you value?
  • What is OK with you?
  • How do you want to be treated?
  • What is your vision for your life?
  • How do you want to feel in relationships?
  • What do you believe and how are you demonstrating that?


You have the absolute right to do your life your way! Therefore, you need to learn to say no to others sometimes, and learn to say yes to yourself more often. That's usually what's required to regain your balance.


MORE ABOUT LAURA RUBINSTEIN:

Laura Rubinstein is a Certified Hypnotherapist, Master Leadership Coach, Bestselling Author, and award winning Social Media and Marketing Strategist. She is the creator the Savvy Social Media Success course, and founder of Social Buzz Club. During the past 20+ years, Laura has optimized brand marketing strategies for over 1,000 businesses. She is the author of the bestselling book Social Media Myths Busted, Transform Your Body in the Mental Gym and the Feminine Power Cards (endorsed by John Gray, PhD of Mars Venus). These wisdom cards offer practical tools that allow people to make profound shifts in their relationships and professional life. Laura’s writings are featured in a variety of publications including the Amazon bestselling books Women Living Consciously and Journey to Joy, as well as on genConnect.com, YourTango.com and her popular TransformToday.com blog.


Website: https://TransformToday.com

Facebook: https://fb.com/CoachLauraR

Twitter: https://twitter.com/CoachLaura

LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/LauraRubinstein


MORE ABOUT DR.RHOBERTA SHALER:

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care relationships in crisis. She particularly helps the partners, exes, adult children & co-workers of the crazy-making, relentlessly difficult people she calls “Hijackals®.” She helps them save their sanity and stop the crazy-making. Even the United States Marines have called on her for help!

 A relationship expert, mediator, speaker & author of sixteen books, Dr. Shaler consults with clients worldwide through the magic of the internet. She is the host of two podcasts: Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show, and Save Your Sanity! Help for Handling Hijackals. 


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

TwitterTwitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedInLinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

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New insights on how to find love and support within yourself, to commit to creating and maintaining your healthy, safe life with other humans. 


Do You Want to Feel Showered with Appreciation?

Do these things. Insights from Dr. Rhoberta Shaler


Guest Conversation with Laura Rubinstein -

 Learn to Say No. What it Takes and Why We're Reluctant to Do It


Toxic people, difficult people, push you to do what they want you to do. Learn to say no. 

They will shame you, blame you, and game you into it…or, at least try.


And, when you allow the manipulation, you feel one of two things:

  1. hopeful that, if you do what they want, they will like you more, or treat you better, or
  2. defeated, and ashamed or sorry, that you once again are giving in to them.


Neither of those feelings is helpful when you are in a relationship with a Hijackal®, right? Either way, you are disempowered.

You want to be in control of what you do, think, feel, and want. That's your right!


Toxic people will even go so far as to tell you what you feel or think, or at a minimum, what they think you should do, think feel, and want. You’ve noticed that, I’m sure. Don’t let them do that. They want to define your reality for you. If you let them, they will take over your life.


Focus on saying YES! to yourself.

  • What do you want?
  • What do you value?
  • What is OK with you?
  • How do you want to be treated?
  • What is your vision for your life?
  • How do you want to feel in relationships?
  • What do you believe and how are you demonstrating that?


You have the absolute right to do your life your way! Therefore, you need to learn to say no to others sometimes, and learn to say yes to yourself more often. That's usually what's required to regain your balance.


MORE ABOUT LAURA RUBINSTEIN:

Laura Rubinstein is a Certified Hypnotherapist, Master Leadership Coach, Bestselling Author, and award winning Social Media and Marketing Strategist. She is the creator the Savvy Social Media Success course, and founder of Social Buzz Club. During the past 20+ years, Laura has optimized brand marketing strategies for over 1,000 businesses. She is the author of the bestselling book Social Media Myths Busted, Transform Your Body in the Mental Gym and the Feminine Power Cards (endorsed by John Gray, PhD of Mars Venus). These wisdom cards offer practical tools that allow people to make profound shifts in their relationships and professional life. Laura’s writings are featured in a variety of publications including the Amazon bestselling books Women Living Consciously and Journey to Joy, as well as on genConnect.com, YourTango.com and her popular TransformToday.com blog.


Website: https://TransformToday.com

Facebook: https://fb.com/CoachLauraR

Twitter: https://twitter.com/CoachLaura

LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/LauraRubinstein


MORE ABOUT DR.RHOBERTA SHALER:

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care relationships in crisis. She particularly helps the partners, exes, adult children & co-workers of the crazy-making, relentlessly difficult people she calls “Hijackals®.” She helps them save their sanity and stop the crazy-making. Even the United States Marines have called on her for help!

 A relationship expert, mediator, speaker & author of sixteen books, Dr. Shaler consults with clients worldwide through the magic of the internet. She is the host of two podcasts: Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show, and Save Your Sanity! Help for Handling Hijackals. 


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

TwitterTwitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedInLinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

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<![CDATA[Love Yourself, Tune Up Your Self-Confidence, & Step Out! ]]> Wed, 14 Feb 2018 02:57:00 GMT 1:04:48 5acc1add1397989e374e59bc no full 3 31 Valentine's Day Show: It All Starts With Loving Yourself.

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler gives you insights, wisdom, and great tips for jumpstarting self-confidence. 


It Happened To Me - True Stories: Wendy Newman - Dating a Wealthy Man and Oops!


Do you really need a new love story? It starts with you.


What You Really Need to Have a Great Relationship


Tune In and Turn Up Your Self-Confidence,

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Valentine's Day Show: It All Starts With Loving Yourself.

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler gives you insights, wisdom, and great tips for jumpstarting self-confidence. 


It Happened To Me - True Stories: Wendy Newman - Dating a Wealthy Man and Oops!


Do you really need a new love story? It starts with you.


What You Really Need to Have a Great Relationship


Tune In and Turn Up Your Self-Confidence,

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<![CDATA[CHANGES: Is It Time to Change?]]> Wed, 07 Feb 2018 02:00:00 GMT 1:04:54 5acbf81a747e3479106d77e2 no full 3 30 CHANGES: Do You Need to Change To Have the Life & Relationship You Want? What Needs to Change? 


Guest: Filippo Voltaggio, Life Coach / Author / Radio Host


Filippo's work as a Life Coach, Speaker, Author, Workshop Creator and Leader, and as Host of The LIFE CHANGES Show, revolves around change, and the wholeness and expansion of The Self.


From early childhood Filippo Voltaggio never believed in pigeonholing himself into any one thing. When asked, “what he wanted to be when he grew up,” he would proclaim, “I want to be Filippo.”


Filippo grew up to be Filippo, and his career path and life experiences have been unique to only him.


From early childhood to adulthood he acted and sang on stages from small to large, local to International, in plays, musicals, operas and his own concerts, including he and his music being in a handful of Hollywood Films and CDs played on international radio stations.


Early on as a business professional he worked as a Junior Manager at IBM, a Fortune 500 Company, in the number three slot, at the time.


From business to life coach, radio host and...


Filippo has been recognized with several awards. Most notably, he received two awards from President Barack Obama, one in his first term, “The President’s Call to Service Award,” and one at the end of his second term, “The President’s Lifetime Achievement Award.” He also received the “Master Award” from the Save The World Foundation.

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CHANGES: Do You Need to Change To Have the Life & Relationship You Want? What Needs to Change? 


Guest: Filippo Voltaggio, Life Coach / Author / Radio Host


Filippo's work as a Life Coach, Speaker, Author, Workshop Creator and Leader, and as Host of The LIFE CHANGES Show, revolves around change, and the wholeness and expansion of The Self.


From early childhood Filippo Voltaggio never believed in pigeonholing himself into any one thing. When asked, “what he wanted to be when he grew up,” he would proclaim, “I want to be Filippo.”


Filippo grew up to be Filippo, and his career path and life experiences have been unique to only him.


From early childhood to adulthood he acted and sang on stages from small to large, local to International, in plays, musicals, operas and his own concerts, including he and his music being in a handful of Hollywood Films and CDs played on international radio stations.


Early on as a business professional he worked as a Junior Manager at IBM, a Fortune 500 Company, in the number three slot, at the time.


From business to life coach, radio host and...


Filippo has been recognized with several awards. Most notably, he received two awards from President Barack Obama, one in his first term, “The President’s Call to Service Award,” and one at the end of his second term, “The President’s Lifetime Achievement Award.” He also received the “Master Award” from the Save The World Foundation.

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<![CDATA[BULLYING: At Home, at work, at School. ]]> Wed, 31 Jan 2018 02:00:00 GMT 1:07:46 5acbf7731397989e374e59b9 no full 3 29 BULLYING. It could be happening to you, at home or at work. It could be happening to your child. Timely, practical insights into how to make it stop.


Guest: Dr. Nekeshia Hammond talks with Dr. Shaler about how you can help your children deal with bullying, ADHD, and school issues. Learn how to respond well and speak up effectively. 


Dr. Nekeshia Hammond was raised in Orlando, Florida and now resides in the Tampa Bay area with her spouse and 5-year-old son. When not working, she greatly enjoys spending time with her family and learning about the joys of life through the eyes of her young son.


Dr. Hammond is the owner of Hammond Psychology & Associates, a private practice designed to help children, teens, families, and adults. She has over a decade of experience working in the field of psychology. She has also been featured in various TV, radio, and magazines throughout the country, and she is the TV host of Parenting Explained with Dr. Hammond. The show features parenting experts who provide their knowledge about different parenting issues, such as education, mental health, family bonding, and self-care, to name a few, and episodes will begin airing in early 2018. To learn more about the shows, please visit: DrHammondShow.com.


Dr. Hammond is the author of The Practical Guide to Raising Emotionally Healthy Children; Finding Balance in a Stressful World: A Short Guide for Today's Busy Mom; as well as ADHD Explained: What Every Parent Needs to Know (to be released on May 8, 2018).

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BULLYING. It could be happening to you, at home or at work. It could be happening to your child. Timely, practical insights into how to make it stop.


Guest: Dr. Nekeshia Hammond talks with Dr. Shaler about how you can help your children deal with bullying, ADHD, and school issues. Learn how to respond well and speak up effectively. 


Dr. Nekeshia Hammond was raised in Orlando, Florida and now resides in the Tampa Bay area with her spouse and 5-year-old son. When not working, she greatly enjoys spending time with her family and learning about the joys of life through the eyes of her young son.


Dr. Hammond is the owner of Hammond Psychology & Associates, a private practice designed to help children, teens, families, and adults. She has over a decade of experience working in the field of psychology. She has also been featured in various TV, radio, and magazines throughout the country, and she is the TV host of Parenting Explained with Dr. Hammond. The show features parenting experts who provide their knowledge about different parenting issues, such as education, mental health, family bonding, and self-care, to name a few, and episodes will begin airing in early 2018. To learn more about the shows, please visit: DrHammondShow.com.


Dr. Hammond is the author of The Practical Guide to Raising Emotionally Healthy Children; Finding Balance in a Stressful World: A Short Guide for Today's Busy Mom; as well as ADHD Explained: What Every Parent Needs to Know (to be released on May 8, 2018).

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<![CDATA[Call It What It Is: Abuse! ]]> Wed, 24 Jan 2018 02:00:00 GMT 1:01:56 5acbf552747e3479106d77e1 no full 3 28 <![CDATA[Attachment: What Happens When It Goes Sideways]]> Wed, 17 Jan 2018 02:00:00 GMT 1:10:50 5ac9c6d882cc21353715601e no full 3 27 Guest: Gary Salyer


More about Dr. Gary Salyer

Dr. Gary Salyer speaks to audiences across the country as a featured expert, inspirational speaker on how to create the love we all deserve. He is an expert in Attachment Theory, the science of relationships, Bert Hellinger's Family Systems approach and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). As a master transformational relationship coach, Dr. Gary helps people re-write the rules for love in their brains.


Dr. Salyer is the creator of the Safe to Love Again™ Workshop and the Extraordinary Couples™ and Extraordinary Singles™ Retreats. He is also a highly sought after guest on various podcasts, TV and radio shows such as The Aware Show on Hay House Radio.

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Guest: Gary Salyer


More about Dr. Gary Salyer

Dr. Gary Salyer speaks to audiences across the country as a featured expert, inspirational speaker on how to create the love we all deserve. He is an expert in Attachment Theory, the science of relationships, Bert Hellinger's Family Systems approach and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). As a master transformational relationship coach, Dr. Gary helps people re-write the rules for love in their brains.


Dr. Salyer is the creator of the Safe to Love Again™ Workshop and the Extraordinary Couples™ and Extraordinary Singles™ Retreats. He is also a highly sought after guest on various podcasts, TV and radio shows such as The Aware Show on Hay House Radio.

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<![CDATA[ Intuition, Loving Yourself and New Beginnings ]]> Wed, 10 Jan 2018 02:00:00 GMT 59:16 5ac9c5cdef7a4c2376786f18 no full 3 26 Guest: Liberty Forrest What It Takes To Trust Your Gut and Intuition


More about Liberty Forrest

Liberty Forrest is an award-winning author, a columnist and Huffington Post contributor. She's written articles for numerous publications in several countries and has written several books. Previously, she specialised in non-fiction inspirational self-help books but she now focuses on family saga fiction with a paranormal element.


Liberty's professional background is in social work and counselling, later adding hypnosis to her bag of tricks to further help her clients.


Drawing on her own turbulent life and healing journey, which had its roots in childhood abuse, she combines her personal and professional experiences with her passion for writing, resulting in gripping, compelling stories that readers say they can't put down.

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Guest: Liberty Forrest What It Takes To Trust Your Gut and Intuition


More about Liberty Forrest

Liberty Forrest is an award-winning author, a columnist and Huffington Post contributor. She's written articles for numerous publications in several countries and has written several books. Previously, she specialised in non-fiction inspirational self-help books but she now focuses on family saga fiction with a paranormal element.


Liberty's professional background is in social work and counselling, later adding hypnosis to her bag of tricks to further help her clients.


Drawing on her own turbulent life and healing journey, which had its roots in childhood abuse, she combines her personal and professional experiences with her passion for writing, resulting in gripping, compelling stories that readers say they can't put down.

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<![CDATA[Hijackals, Conflict and Tough Conversations ]]> Wed, 03 Jan 2018 02:00:00 GMT 57:55 5ac9c5170c3456504c56d1bf no full 3 24 Guest: Charmaine Hammond


More about Charmaine Hammond

Charmaine Hammond, CSP, expert in communication, collaboration & conflict resolution has facilitated the resolution of some of the most complex workplace and family conflicts. She is a professional speaker, author and is passionate about building more kindness in workplaces, and communities. She now works with businesses and entrepreneurs to help them build relationships and successful collaborations.


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Guest: Charmaine Hammond


More about Charmaine Hammond

Charmaine Hammond, CSP, expert in communication, collaboration & conflict resolution has facilitated the resolution of some of the most complex workplace and family conflicts. She is a professional speaker, author and is passionate about building more kindness in workplaces, and communities. She now works with businesses and entrepreneurs to help them build relationships and successful collaborations.


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<![CDATA[Stop the Toxic Dance]]> Tue, 26 Dec 2017 15:00:00 GMT 58:17 no full 2 24 Seg. 1: How to Spot a Hijackal & Stop the Toxic Dance

Seg. 2: Love-Bombing: It's Not as Desirable As It Sounds

Seg 3: 12 Signs Your Are in a Love/Hate Relationship That Needs Help

Seg 4: Recognize Verbal Abuse For What It Is Now

Seg 5: Q & A: My mother is always finding fault and I can't stand it another minute. "

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Seg. 1: How to Spot a Hijackal & Stop the Toxic Dance

Seg. 2: Love-Bombing: It's Not as Desirable As It Sounds

Seg 3: 12 Signs Your Are in a Love/Hate Relationship That Needs Help

Seg 4: Recognize Verbal Abuse For What It Is Now

Seg 5: Q & A: My mother is always finding fault and I can't stand it another minute. "

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<![CDATA[Hijackals & Spirituality]]> Tue, 19 Dec 2017 09:44:00 GMT 55:28 no full 2 23 "Guest, Dr. Dennis Merritt-Jones


Intro - Hijackals, Power, and Spirituality

Unconditional Love Can Be a Very Dangerous Myth with a Hijackal in Your Life

GUEST:

Dr. Dennis Merritt-Jones - Part 1 Becoming Who You Were Born to Be

Dr. Dennis Merritt-Jones - Part 2 Spirituality is Not About Having Power Over People


Dr. Rhoberta Shaler - Spirituality, Hijackals, and You. What To Do.



About Dennis Merritt-Jones

Throughout his lifetime, Dennis Merritt Jones has been on a quest to inspire and lift people to a higher expression of life. His personal vision is to guide people to their purpose, knowing that when one fully awakens to who they are and why they are on the planet, they begin to naturally share their gift with humankind and, in the process, create an enriching life for themselves and the world around them. 

In addition to his books, Dennis is a columnist for the Huffington Post and for Science of Mind magazine. He is also a member of the Leadership Council for the Association for Global New Thought (AGNT), an organization whose mission is to consciously bring forth the evolving human and an awakened world through the practice of universal spiritual principles and the energy of unconditional love.

Dennis believes we each have the capacity and, ultimately, the responsibility to contribute something positive to this world, leaving it a better place than it was when we arrived. His teachings promote a contemporary, life-affirming, spiritually logical and positive outlook on life, which are reflected in his writings.

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"Guest, Dr. Dennis Merritt-Jones


Intro - Hijackals, Power, and Spirituality

Unconditional Love Can Be a Very Dangerous Myth with a Hijackal in Your Life

GUEST:

Dr. Dennis Merritt-Jones - Part 1 Becoming Who You Were Born to Be

Dr. Dennis Merritt-Jones - Part 2 Spirituality is Not About Having Power Over People


Dr. Rhoberta Shaler - Spirituality, Hijackals, and You. What To Do.



About Dennis Merritt-Jones

Throughout his lifetime, Dennis Merritt Jones has been on a quest to inspire and lift people to a higher expression of life. His personal vision is to guide people to their purpose, knowing that when one fully awakens to who they are and why they are on the planet, they begin to naturally share their gift with humankind and, in the process, create an enriching life for themselves and the world around them. 

In addition to his books, Dennis is a columnist for the Huffington Post and for Science of Mind magazine. He is also a member of the Leadership Council for the Association for Global New Thought (AGNT), an organization whose mission is to consciously bring forth the evolving human and an awakened world through the practice of universal spiritual principles and the energy of unconditional love.

Dennis believes we each have the capacity and, ultimately, the responsibility to contribute something positive to this world, leaving it a better place than it was when we arrived. His teachings promote a contemporary, life-affirming, spiritually logical and positive outlook on life, which are reflected in his writings.

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<![CDATA[Relationship Predators]]> Wed, 13 Dec 2017 02:00:00 GMT 56:29 no full 2 22 Have You Become the Unwitting Prey of a HIjackal® Predator?


SEG 2 - Jan: I Knew Better But I Married Him Anyway


SEG 3 - Hijackals are Predators - Pt 1. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler


SEG 4 - Hijackals are Predators - Pt 2 Dr. Rhoberta Shaler


SEG 5 - Dating Red Flags That Mean Long-Term Relationship Trouble

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Have You Become the Unwitting Prey of a HIjackal® Predator?


SEG 2 - Jan: I Knew Better But I Married Him Anyway


SEG 3 - Hijackals are Predators - Pt 1. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler


SEG 4 - Hijackals are Predators - Pt 2 Dr. Rhoberta Shaler


SEG 5 - Dating Red Flags That Mean Long-Term Relationship Trouble

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<![CDATA[Co-Parenting and Keeping Your Sanity]]> Wed, 06 Dec 2017 02:00:00 GMT 57:57 no full 2 21 Guest, Karen Covy


Divorcing A Hijackal® When Children Are Involved


Karen Covy, divorce adviser, attorney, coach. Effective Co-Parenting with A Difficult Ex - Part 1

Karen Covy: Effective Divorce Agreements for Co-Parenting, Part 2


What You Need To Do For Your Kids When Co-Parenting With A Hijackal® Ex


More about Karen Covy

I help people get through their divorce with dignity and confidence so that, when their divorce ends, they are ready to begin again, and create a life that they love. I am a divorce attorney, mediator, Collaborative Divorce professional, arbitrator, consultant and coach. I have spent decades helping people get divorced in every way that there is to do that. So, at this point, I know what works and what doesn't. I'm dedicated to sharing that information with those thinking about or facing divorce so that they can get through their divorce with less destruction.

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Guest, Karen Covy


Divorcing A Hijackal® When Children Are Involved


Karen Covy, divorce adviser, attorney, coach. Effective Co-Parenting with A Difficult Ex - Part 1

Karen Covy: Effective Divorce Agreements for Co-Parenting, Part 2


What You Need To Do For Your Kids When Co-Parenting With A Hijackal® Ex


More about Karen Covy

I help people get through their divorce with dignity and confidence so that, when their divorce ends, they are ready to begin again, and create a life that they love. I am a divorce attorney, mediator, Collaborative Divorce professional, arbitrator, consultant and coach. I have spent decades helping people get divorced in every way that there is to do that. So, at this point, I know what works and what doesn't. I'm dedicated to sharing that information with those thinking about or facing divorce so that they can get through their divorce with less destruction.

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<![CDATA[How to See Red Flags ]]> Tue, 28 Nov 2017 14:00:00 GMT 58:13 no full 2 20 Guest, Lorna Poole


Going from Dating Disaster to Finding Long-Time Love


How's Your Dating Radar? Dr. Rhoberta Shaler helps you see why you may be missing red flags


Guest, Dating Coach Lorna Poole, talks candidly how dating disasters woke her up to what she really wanted and how she found long-time love and what it took to get it.



More about Lorna Poole

She is the Founder & CEO of Lorna Poole, Magnet For Love Coaching. After her own love disaster; she decided it was time to get it right. She realized she kept attracting the wrong guys and knew if she never took her love life seriously, she would never meet her Mr. Right. Luckily for Lorna, she is now in a loving relationship with her “great guy”.

Lorna Poole is an associated certified coach (ACC) through the International Coach Federation (ICG) as well as an Energy Leadership Index Assessment Master Practitioner (ELI-MP). She is podcast show host for Magnet For Love Podcast and professional speaker passionate about empowering women to move beyond the fear, pain, and regret that has held them back from attracting the partner they truly want and deserve.

She has been featured on Goodmanproject, YourTango, Thoughtcatalog Eharmony, TodayFM & Newstalk Ireland, telesumits and podcasts alike.

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Guest, Lorna Poole


Going from Dating Disaster to Finding Long-Time Love


How's Your Dating Radar? Dr. Rhoberta Shaler helps you see why you may be missing red flags


Guest, Dating Coach Lorna Poole, talks candidly how dating disasters woke her up to what she really wanted and how she found long-time love and what it took to get it.



More about Lorna Poole

She is the Founder & CEO of Lorna Poole, Magnet For Love Coaching. After her own love disaster; she decided it was time to get it right. She realized she kept attracting the wrong guys and knew if she never took her love life seriously, she would never meet her Mr. Right. Luckily for Lorna, she is now in a loving relationship with her “great guy”.

Lorna Poole is an associated certified coach (ACC) through the International Coach Federation (ICG) as well as an Energy Leadership Index Assessment Master Practitioner (ELI-MP). She is podcast show host for Magnet For Love Podcast and professional speaker passionate about empowering women to move beyond the fear, pain, and regret that has held them back from attracting the partner they truly want and deserve.

She has been featured on Goodmanproject, YourTango, Thoughtcatalog Eharmony, TodayFM & Newstalk Ireland, telesumits and podcasts alike.

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<![CDATA[Hijackals at Work]]> Wed, 22 Nov 2017 02:00:00 GMT 50:47 no full 2 19 Workplace bullying is a top cause of stress, and a leading cause of quitting. It creates a hostile and toxic environment, often because the bullies are allowed to get away with their behavior. In this episode we discuss how to effectively deal with these types of people in your workplace, so you can get on with enjoying your job, and lowering your stress levels.


Intro: Difficult People at work

How to Deal with Difficult People at Work

Judy Hoberman Pt 1 - First impressions: Important, Accurate or Not

Judy Hoberman Pt 2 - How to distance yourself from difficult people and succeed in the work world

What to do with a bully at work


More about Judy Hoberman

Judy Hoberman, President of Selling In A Skirt- International Speaker, Trainer, Coach and Mentor. Her 30 years in sales has given her both the knowledge and sense of humor about how men and women sell, work and live differently will enlighten you in learning how both genders can support each other’s successes in a more productive way.


Her audiences, from 10 to 10,000 are engaged with details wrapped in memorable stories that are easily implemented that same day. In 2016 she was a TEDx speaker talking about pre-judging people, something we all do without even thinking. She is the author of “Selling In A Skirt”, “Famous Isn’t Enough”, “Pure Wealth” and her latest book on Women Who Lead will be released shortly.


Judy’s mission…to help her clients live the S.K.I.R.T. philosophy-Standing Out, Keys to Success, Inspiring Others, Results Oriented and Time Management…while having fun

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Workplace bullying is a top cause of stress, and a leading cause of quitting. It creates a hostile and toxic environment, often because the bullies are allowed to get away with their behavior. In this episode we discuss how to effectively deal with these types of people in your workplace, so you can get on with enjoying your job, and lowering your stress levels.


Intro: Difficult People at work

How to Deal with Difficult People at Work

Judy Hoberman Pt 1 - First impressions: Important, Accurate or Not

Judy Hoberman Pt 2 - How to distance yourself from difficult people and succeed in the work world

What to do with a bully at work


More about Judy Hoberman

Judy Hoberman, President of Selling In A Skirt- International Speaker, Trainer, Coach and Mentor. Her 30 years in sales has given her both the knowledge and sense of humor about how men and women sell, work and live differently will enlighten you in learning how both genders can support each other’s successes in a more productive way.


Her audiences, from 10 to 10,000 are engaged with details wrapped in memorable stories that are easily implemented that same day. In 2016 she was a TEDx speaker talking about pre-judging people, something we all do without even thinking. She is the author of “Selling In A Skirt”, “Famous Isn’t Enough”, “Pure Wealth” and her latest book on Women Who Lead will be released shortly.


Judy’s mission…to help her clients live the S.K.I.R.T. philosophy-Standing Out, Keys to Success, Inspiring Others, Results Oriented and Time Management…while having fun

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<![CDATA[Hooked on Hope & Hijackals]]> Tue, 14 Nov 2017 14:00:00 GMT 54:00 no full 2 18 Seg 1 - Intro - Hooked on Hope & Hijackals

Seg 2 - Verbal Abuse is Too Common

Seg 3 - Shirlene Reeves Part 1 - How Hijackals Changed My Life

Seg 4 - Shirlene Reeves Part 2 - How I left. What I learned. Being Hijackal-free.

Seg 5 - Too much drama



More about Shirlene Reeves

Shirlene Reeves, one of only 253 Certified Financial Educators in the US, a web TV show host and a syndicated radio host on BBS Radio, publisher of Wealthy Woman Magazine and the author of Selling Through Your Heart - Empowering You To Build Relationships For Financial Freedom. Shirlene is an in-demand international keynote speaker specializing in educating coaches, authors and entrepreneurs with answers for transforming their businesses by selling with heart, developing confidence, and stepping onto stages, web TV, podcasts and radio for massive, marketing visibility.

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Seg 1 - Intro - Hooked on Hope & Hijackals

Seg 2 - Verbal Abuse is Too Common

Seg 3 - Shirlene Reeves Part 1 - How Hijackals Changed My Life

Seg 4 - Shirlene Reeves Part 2 - How I left. What I learned. Being Hijackal-free.

Seg 5 - Too much drama



More about Shirlene Reeves

Shirlene Reeves, one of only 253 Certified Financial Educators in the US, a web TV show host and a syndicated radio host on BBS Radio, publisher of Wealthy Woman Magazine and the author of Selling Through Your Heart - Empowering You To Build Relationships For Financial Freedom. Shirlene is an in-demand international keynote speaker specializing in educating coaches, authors and entrepreneurs with answers for transforming their businesses by selling with heart, developing confidence, and stepping onto stages, web TV, podcasts and radio for massive, marketing visibility.

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<![CDATA[Signs of Abuse]]> Tue, 07 Nov 2017 14:00:00 GMT 57:16 no full 2 17 How do you know if you're actually experiencing verbal abuse? What can you do to stop it? How best to respond?


GUEST: Dr. Lee Baucom, creator of the Save The Marriage System. We'll discuss when and what marriages can be saved, and how to know when it's time to part ways.


More about Dr. Lee Baucom:

Dr. Lee Baucom is the creator of the internet marriage program, Save The Marriage. Dr. Baucom has over a quarter of a century of experience helping couples and individuals learn to thrive. Dr. Baucom is trained as a therapist and life coach. In addition to therapy and coaching, Dr. Baucom has provided consultation for organizations and businesses. Dr. Baucom is also a popular speaker on a number of topics relating to thriving.


Dr. Baucom is happily married, having just celebrated a 28th anniversary. He and his wife have two children. In his spare time, Dr. Baucom scuba dives, paddleboards, and trail runs.

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How do you know if you're actually experiencing verbal abuse? What can you do to stop it? How best to respond?


GUEST: Dr. Lee Baucom, creator of the Save The Marriage System. We'll discuss when and what marriages can be saved, and how to know when it's time to part ways.


More about Dr. Lee Baucom:

Dr. Lee Baucom is the creator of the internet marriage program, Save The Marriage. Dr. Baucom has over a quarter of a century of experience helping couples and individuals learn to thrive. Dr. Baucom is trained as a therapist and life coach. In addition to therapy and coaching, Dr. Baucom has provided consultation for organizations and businesses. Dr. Baucom is also a popular speaker on a number of topics relating to thriving.


Dr. Baucom is happily married, having just celebrated a 28th anniversary. He and his wife have two children. In his spare time, Dr. Baucom scuba dives, paddleboards, and trail runs.

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<![CDATA[Difficult or Dangerous?]]> Wed, 01 Nov 2017 01:00:00 GMT 54:14 no full 2 16 A new season begins! New format, new guests!


Seg 1 - 6 minutes Intro to Episode

Seg 2 - Q & A Filed for Divorce

Seg 3 - What's up? Power in Positions - Harvey Weinstein

Seg 4 - Is Your Relationship Difficult or Dangerous?

Seg 5 - Have You Given Up Your Boundaries?

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A new season begins! New format, new guests!


Seg 1 - 6 minutes Intro to Episode

Seg 2 - Q & A Filed for Divorce

Seg 3 - What's up? Power in Positions - Harvey Weinstein

Seg 4 - Is Your Relationship Difficult or Dangerous?

Seg 5 - Have You Given Up Your Boundaries?

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<![CDATA[Trauma-Bonding. What and How.]]> Wed, 25 Oct 2017 18:00:00 GMT 55:06 no full 1 15 Are you so attached to someone that you are "hooked on hope" that one day they will treat you better? Today, we talk about trauma-bonding and why you need to know about it.


Guest, Dr. Gary Salyer, talks about the six rights you have in life, and how having or not having them will make all the difference in creating healthy relationships. Dr. Salyer is the author of Safe to Love Again, a book you absolutely need if you've ever been deeply hurt by a relationship.


More about Dr. Gary Salyer

Dr. Gary Salyer speaks to audiences across the country as a featured expert, inspirational speaker on how to create the love we all deserve. He is an expert in Attachment Theory, the science of relationships, Bert Hellinger's Family Systems approach and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). As a master transformational relationship coach, Dr. Gary helps people re-write the rules for love in their brains.


Dr. Salyer is the creator of the Safe to Love Again™ Workshop and the Extraordinary Couples™ and Extraordinary Singles™ Retreats. He is also a highly sought after guest on various podcasts, TV and radio shows such as The Aware Show on Hay House Radio.


Smart, savvy, professional women in their thirties, forties and fifties who are tired of the heartache in their love lives are resonating with the message of ‘safe to love again.’ Gary’s biggest passion is to help both singles and couples discover how they can have a loving sweetheart lying beside them at night, rather than a lonely pillow or a frustrated, distant partner.

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Are you so attached to someone that you are "hooked on hope" that one day they will treat you better? Today, we talk about trauma-bonding and why you need to know about it.


Guest, Dr. Gary Salyer, talks about the six rights you have in life, and how having or not having them will make all the difference in creating healthy relationships. Dr. Salyer is the author of Safe to Love Again, a book you absolutely need if you've ever been deeply hurt by a relationship.


More about Dr. Gary Salyer

Dr. Gary Salyer speaks to audiences across the country as a featured expert, inspirational speaker on how to create the love we all deserve. He is an expert in Attachment Theory, the science of relationships, Bert Hellinger's Family Systems approach and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). As a master transformational relationship coach, Dr. Gary helps people re-write the rules for love in their brains.


Dr. Salyer is the creator of the Safe to Love Again™ Workshop and the Extraordinary Couples™ and Extraordinary Singles™ Retreats. He is also a highly sought after guest on various podcasts, TV and radio shows such as The Aware Show on Hay House Radio.


Smart, savvy, professional women in their thirties, forties and fifties who are tired of the heartache in their love lives are resonating with the message of ‘safe to love again.’ Gary’s biggest passion is to help both singles and couples discover how they can have a loving sweetheart lying beside them at night, rather than a lonely pillow or a frustrated, distant partner.

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<![CDATA[Are You Emotionally Safe?]]> Wed, 18 Oct 2017 18:00:00 GMT 54:57 no full 1 14 Are you emotionally safe in your relationships? You may not have been, even with your parents. In this episode, Dr. Shaler talks about how to recognize and create emotional safety.


Guest, Antia Boyd, of MagnetizeTheMan.com emphasizes that the ability--and safety--to be vulnerable in your primary relationship is paramount.


Don't miss this.



More about Antia Boyd

Antia Boyd struggled for years with fear, wasting time and attracting emotionally unavailable men before she finally broke through, hired a dating coach and met her loving, spiritual and supportive husband! She has now helped thousands of single women all over the world to start finding the right man for them to share their life with & have a loving relationship quickly without lack of trust, poor communication or old issues getting in the way for over 11+ years.

Antia studied Personality Psychology at U.C. Berkeley, has spoken at Google and on hundreds of stages and radio shows all over the world, and for over a decade studied everything that she could get her hands on in the areas of men, dating & attracting a happy, long-term & safe relationship with the right man effectively without the fear of vulnerability, sadness or anxiety. She now lives in the beautiful San Diego area of California with her open, handsome and honest husband Brody.

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Are you emotionally safe in your relationships? You may not have been, even with your parents. In this episode, Dr. Shaler talks about how to recognize and create emotional safety.


Guest, Antia Boyd, of MagnetizeTheMan.com emphasizes that the ability--and safety--to be vulnerable in your primary relationship is paramount.


Don't miss this.



More about Antia Boyd

Antia Boyd struggled for years with fear, wasting time and attracting emotionally unavailable men before she finally broke through, hired a dating coach and met her loving, spiritual and supportive husband! She has now helped thousands of single women all over the world to start finding the right man for them to share their life with & have a loving relationship quickly without lack of trust, poor communication or old issues getting in the way for over 11+ years.

Antia studied Personality Psychology at U.C. Berkeley, has spoken at Google and on hundreds of stages and radio shows all over the world, and for over a decade studied everything that she could get her hands on in the areas of men, dating & attracting a happy, long-term & safe relationship with the right man effectively without the fear of vulnerability, sadness or anxiety. She now lives in the beautiful San Diego area of California with her open, handsome and honest husband Brody.

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<![CDATA[Building Self Confidence]]> Wed, 11 Oct 2017 18:00:00 GMT 56:07 no full 1 13 Would you like to feel more self-confident? Able to speak up and show up as strong and empowered? Today's show is all about the how-to's for that.


Guest, Betsy Chasse, embodies an empowered life. An award-winning filmmaker, author, and entrepreneur, Betsy openly shares the ups and downs she's experienced and how she boldly treads forward...confidently.


More about Betsy Chasse

Betsy is an award winning filmmaker (What The Bleep Do We Know?!, Song of The New Earth, Pregnant In America) and a Best-Selling Author (Tipping Sacred Cows, Dancing In The Unknown (new), It Came out of My Vagina, Now What?! (A book on Conscious Parenting). She recently launched a new web series Radical Dating which follows 5 singles over 40 as they embark on a journey to finally find lasting love.

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Would you like to feel more self-confident? Able to speak up and show up as strong and empowered? Today's show is all about the how-to's for that.


Guest, Betsy Chasse, embodies an empowered life. An award-winning filmmaker, author, and entrepreneur, Betsy openly shares the ups and downs she's experienced and how she boldly treads forward...confidently.


More about Betsy Chasse

Betsy is an award winning filmmaker (What The Bleep Do We Know?!, Song of The New Earth, Pregnant In America) and a Best-Selling Author (Tipping Sacred Cows, Dancing In The Unknown (new), It Came out of My Vagina, Now What?! (A book on Conscious Parenting). She recently launched a new web series Radical Dating which follows 5 singles over 40 as they embark on a journey to finally find lasting love.

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<![CDATA[Perils of the People Pleaser]]> Wed, 04 Oct 2017 18:00:00 GMT 56:54 no full 1 12 Do you notice that you feel somehow obligated to meet the needs of other people? Why is that?


In this episode, we talk about that, and my guest, Filippo Voltaggio, talks about why some people find it so difficult to say "No." Recognizing that, as an adult, you can choose to change your mindsets and patterns, he talks about his work, The Recalibration.


More about Filippo Voltaggio

Filippo's work as a Life Coach, Speaker, Author, Workshop Creator and Leader, and as Host of The LIFE CHANGES Show, revolves around change, and the wholeness and expansion of The Self.


From early childhood Filippo Voltaggio never believed in pigeonholing himself into any one thing. When asked, “what he wanted to be when he grew up,” he would proclaim, “I want to be Filippo.”


From business to life coach, radio host and...


Filippo has been recognized with several awards. Most notably, he received two awards from President Barack Obama, one in his first term, “The President’s Call to Service Award,” and one at the end of his second term, “The President’s Lifetime Achievement Award.” He also received the “Master Award” from the Save The World Foundation.


Filippo's lifelong interests in the Esoteric Sciences have also lead him to pursue and achieve certifications in many of the Sciences.

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Do you notice that you feel somehow obligated to meet the needs of other people? Why is that?


In this episode, we talk about that, and my guest, Filippo Voltaggio, talks about why some people find it so difficult to say "No." Recognizing that, as an adult, you can choose to change your mindsets and patterns, he talks about his work, The Recalibration.


More about Filippo Voltaggio

Filippo's work as a Life Coach, Speaker, Author, Workshop Creator and Leader, and as Host of The LIFE CHANGES Show, revolves around change, and the wholeness and expansion of The Self.


From early childhood Filippo Voltaggio never believed in pigeonholing himself into any one thing. When asked, “what he wanted to be when he grew up,” he would proclaim, “I want to be Filippo.”


From business to life coach, radio host and...


Filippo has been recognized with several awards. Most notably, he received two awards from President Barack Obama, one in his first term, “The President’s Call to Service Award,” and one at the end of his second term, “The President’s Lifetime Achievement Award.” He also received the “Master Award” from the Save The World Foundation.


Filippo's lifelong interests in the Esoteric Sciences have also lead him to pursue and achieve certifications in many of the Sciences.

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<![CDATA[Is OK Great Enough?]]> Wed, 27 Sep 2017 18:00:00 GMT 55:11 no full 1 11 Do you feel good about yourself? Are you OK with where you are in life? Or, have you been caught up in the endless push to be more, do more, have more? Where did you learn this?


Guest, Jonathan Mitchell, talks about unleashing greatness within yourself. Is it a must, a push, a realistic expectation? Or, is it hype? Listen in.


More about Jonathan Mitchell

Jonathan is a certified life, success, and emotional health mentor. He is also an award winning songwriter, singer, and producer with his songs being featured on FOX Sports and Mood Media. He is passionate about assisting others in bringing out their passion and greatness. He has coached thousands of people from one on one clients to group coaching both on and offline. He also has created his own coaching certification process to assist those who want to know how to coach more effectively using his methods.

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Do you feel good about yourself? Are you OK with where you are in life? Or, have you been caught up in the endless push to be more, do more, have more? Where did you learn this?


Guest, Jonathan Mitchell, talks about unleashing greatness within yourself. Is it a must, a push, a realistic expectation? Or, is it hype? Listen in.


More about Jonathan Mitchell

Jonathan is a certified life, success, and emotional health mentor. He is also an award winning songwriter, singer, and producer with his songs being featured on FOX Sports and Mood Media. He is passionate about assisting others in bringing out their passion and greatness. He has coached thousands of people from one on one clients to group coaching both on and offline. He also has created his own coaching certification process to assist those who want to know how to coach more effectively using his methods.

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<![CDATA[Compassionate Communication]]> Wed, 20 Sep 2017 01:00:00 GMT 55:25 no full 1 10 Were you ever told to "be nice" or to "play nicely?"


Any chance that turned into negating what you wanted in order to make other people happy?


This show focuses on what you may be losing in life if you're still following that early "Be nice!" admonition.


Guest, Laura Jack, author of The Compassion Code, joins in to discuss the distinctions between being compassionate and living up to the expectations of others. Big difference!


Laura Jack teaches compassionate communication and how we can relate to one another more effectively during the challenging moments in life. Her mission is to cultivate a culture of compassion, starting with self, and to create a better understanding of loss and its accompanying grief.


Her book The Compassion Code: How to say the right thing when the wrong thing happens is available here.

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Were you ever told to "be nice" or to "play nicely?"


Any chance that turned into negating what you wanted in order to make other people happy?


This show focuses on what you may be losing in life if you're still following that early "Be nice!" admonition.


Guest, Laura Jack, author of The Compassion Code, joins in to discuss the distinctions between being compassionate and living up to the expectations of others. Big difference!


Laura Jack teaches compassionate communication and how we can relate to one another more effectively during the challenging moments in life. Her mission is to cultivate a culture of compassion, starting with self, and to create a better understanding of loss and its accompanying grief.


Her book The Compassion Code: How to say the right thing when the wrong thing happens is available here.

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<![CDATA[Intimacy is important]]> Wed, 13 Sep 2017 18:00:00 GMT 55:55 no full To keep yourself safe in any relationship it is SO important to know yourself, your values, needs, and wants, so well that you can set and maintain strong boundaries. That means you have to be assertive.


Today, we talked about what it means to have and manage sexual boundaries with guest, Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey, from London, UK. A sex and intimacy coach, Dr. Lori had some very interesting insights on how to get across what's all right with you and to be clear about what's not!


More about Dr. Bisbey

Dr Lori Beth is a Sex & Intimacy coach and psychologist who has worked with individuals, couples and polyamorous groups for the past 30 years to help them explore their sexuality, discover a deeper level of sexual congruence, heal from past sexual trauma as well as create more pleasurable, exciting, meaningful, authentic sexual relationships. On a mission to create more open dialogue about sex, sexual identity and self-expression, she hosts two popular podcasts The A to Z of Sex and Sex Spoken Here. She is also a passionate speaker, dynamic workshop facilitator and sought after expert in the media on the topics of sex, sexuality, intimacy, relationships and sexual trauma. Dr Lori Beth is polyamory and kink knowledgable and works with all genders and sexual orientations.

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To keep yourself safe in any relationship it is SO important to know yourself, your values, needs, and wants, so well that you can set and maintain strong boundaries. That means you have to be assertive.


Today, we talked about what it means to have and manage sexual boundaries with guest, Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey, from London, UK. A sex and intimacy coach, Dr. Lori had some very interesting insights on how to get across what's all right with you and to be clear about what's not!


More about Dr. Bisbey

Dr Lori Beth is a Sex & Intimacy coach and psychologist who has worked with individuals, couples and polyamorous groups for the past 30 years to help them explore their sexuality, discover a deeper level of sexual congruence, heal from past sexual trauma as well as create more pleasurable, exciting, meaningful, authentic sexual relationships. On a mission to create more open dialogue about sex, sexual identity and self-expression, she hosts two popular podcasts The A to Z of Sex and Sex Spoken Here. She is also a passionate speaker, dynamic workshop facilitator and sought after expert in the media on the topics of sex, sexuality, intimacy, relationships and sexual trauma. Dr Lori Beth is polyamory and kink knowledgable and works with all genders and sexual orientations.

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<![CDATA[Focus in Relationships]]> Wed, 06 Sep 2017 18:00:00 GMT 54:41 no full 1 8 Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, host of The Relationship Help Show, wrote a book, What You Pay Attention To Expands. She helps you to look at your thought habits, and how they help or hinder.


Guest, Laura Rubinstein, a hypnotherapist and Social Media Maven, provides insights into why it matters so much where you are placing your energy, time, and focus and about what you might be doing that you don't know you're doing and how it's secretly getting in your way.


More about Laura Rubinstein

Laura Rubinstein is a Certified Hypnotherapist, Master Leadership Coach, Bestselling Author, and award winning Social Media and Marketing Strategist. She is the creator the Savvy Social Media Success course, and founder of Social Buzz Club. During the past 20+ years, Laura has optimized brand marketing strategies for over 1,000 businesses. She is the author of the bestselling book Social Media Myths Busted, Transform Your Body in the Mental Gym and the Feminine Power Cards (endorsed by John Gray, PhD of Mars Venus). These wisdom cards offer practical tools that allow people to make profound shifts in their relationships and professional life. Laura’s writings are featured in a variety of publications including the Amazon bestselling books Women Living Consciously and Journey to Joy, as well as on genConnect.com, YourTango.com and her popular TransformToday.com blog.

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Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, host of The Relationship Help Show, wrote a book, What You Pay Attention To Expands. She helps you to look at your thought habits, and how they help or hinder.


Guest, Laura Rubinstein, a hypnotherapist and Social Media Maven, provides insights into why it matters so much where you are placing your energy, time, and focus and about what you might be doing that you don't know you're doing and how it's secretly getting in your way.


More about Laura Rubinstein

Laura Rubinstein is a Certified Hypnotherapist, Master Leadership Coach, Bestselling Author, and award winning Social Media and Marketing Strategist. She is the creator the Savvy Social Media Success course, and founder of Social Buzz Club. During the past 20+ years, Laura has optimized brand marketing strategies for over 1,000 businesses. She is the author of the bestselling book Social Media Myths Busted, Transform Your Body in the Mental Gym and the Feminine Power Cards (endorsed by John Gray, PhD of Mars Venus). These wisdom cards offer practical tools that allow people to make profound shifts in their relationships and professional life. Laura’s writings are featured in a variety of publications including the Amazon bestselling books Women Living Consciously and Journey to Joy, as well as on genConnect.com, YourTango.com and her popular TransformToday.com blog.

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<![CDATA[Teens: Finding the Joy, Facing the Challenges.]]> Wed, 23 Aug 2017 18:00:00 GMT 56:25 no full 1 7 Did you have a trying time raising teens? Maybe, you're doing it right now. Teen's brains are still developing, and we often don't understand what that means. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler helps you know what it means for teens to "have no remote."


Guest, Donovan Dreyer, creator of the Solving Our Stress tool, shows why we need different approaches to talking with teens, and how to help them articulate the stresses they are under.


More about Donovan Dreyer

High School Counselor

Coach of The Teen Team

Founder of Get Ready Coaching

Donovan's refusal to settle for less than his true calling moved him from a plan to be a pilot, through the family business, past stock trading to school counseling. The next step in the evolution of his passionate plan is to leverage all that he has learned in 16 years as a school counselor to make the most powerfully profound difference possible as a life coach. He helps create trusted teen teams that groove new healthy routines so teens are fueled for takeoff toward Destination Dream.

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Did you have a trying time raising teens? Maybe, you're doing it right now. Teen's brains are still developing, and we often don't understand what that means. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler helps you know what it means for teens to "have no remote."


Guest, Donovan Dreyer, creator of the Solving Our Stress tool, shows why we need different approaches to talking with teens, and how to help them articulate the stresses they are under.


More about Donovan Dreyer

High School Counselor

Coach of The Teen Team

Founder of Get Ready Coaching

Donovan's refusal to settle for less than his true calling moved him from a plan to be a pilot, through the family business, past stock trading to school counseling. The next step in the evolution of his passionate plan is to leverage all that he has learned in 16 years as a school counselor to make the most powerfully profound difference possible as a life coach. He helps create trusted teen teams that groove new healthy routines so teens are fueled for takeoff toward Destination Dream.

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<![CDATA[How do you know that it's actually abuse?]]> Wed, 16 Aug 2017 18:00:00 GMT 55:27 no full 1 6 Abuse is a strong word. Too many people don't want to recognize that that is what is going on in their relationships. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler shares ways you can know if what's really going on in your relationship is abusive.


Guest, Susan Ball, author of Courage & Grace, helps women heal from divorce and toxic relationships. A very candid discussion of what it feels like to be in an emotionally abusive relationship, and what it takes to get out of one.


More about Susan Ball

Susan Ball is the founder & CEO of Broken to Blissful™. She is an author and sought after international speaker, sharing her message of building joy on the journey from victim to survivor to thriver. She brings her experience, insights, and proven strategies to her work much to her clients’ delight.


In a nutshell, Susan helps women heal. Whether a woman is in need of support following a divorce or toxic relationship or recovering from an abusive relationship, Susan welcomes everyone and works with them using the tools and concepts from her ground-breaking book: Courage and Grace, From Broken to Blissful, The Journey of Building Joy During Your Recovery From Abuse

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Abuse is a strong word. Too many people don't want to recognize that that is what is going on in their relationships. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler shares ways you can know if what's really going on in your relationship is abusive.


Guest, Susan Ball, author of Courage & Grace, helps women heal from divorce and toxic relationships. A very candid discussion of what it feels like to be in an emotionally abusive relationship, and what it takes to get out of one.


More about Susan Ball

Susan Ball is the founder & CEO of Broken to Blissful™. She is an author and sought after international speaker, sharing her message of building joy on the journey from victim to survivor to thriver. She brings her experience, insights, and proven strategies to her work much to her clients’ delight.


In a nutshell, Susan helps women heal. Whether a woman is in need of support following a divorce or toxic relationship or recovering from an abusive relationship, Susan welcomes everyone and works with them using the tools and concepts from her ground-breaking book: Courage and Grace, From Broken to Blissful, The Journey of Building Joy During Your Recovery From Abuse

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<![CDATA[How Hijackals evade your radar...]]> Wed, 09 Aug 2017 18:00:00 GMT 55:52 no full 1 5 You can be unwittingly attracted to a person who will repeatedly hurt you. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler calls these folks "Hijackals™." They are relentlessly difficult people who are their worst at home or in their romantic relationships. Hijackals are attracted by people who accept their self-focused behaviors, and even take the blame for them. This is cycle of destruction that needs to stop.


Listen in as my guest, Michelle Ann Owens, opens up about her relationship with a Hijackal, and we candidly discuss why it went the way it did.


More about Michelle Ann Owens

MICHELLE ANN OWENS is an audio/video host, voiceover talent, vocalist and songwriter. She has stamped her business, creative & actual voice across multiple industries, including corporate business development and marketing, composing music for television, commercial advertising, and the world of podcasting. Michelle is the owner of Ladyfox Entertainment, LLC and is currently the hostess and producer of Nothing Off Limits (NOL) on iTunes.


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You can be unwittingly attracted to a person who will repeatedly hurt you. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler calls these folks "Hijackals™." They are relentlessly difficult people who are their worst at home or in their romantic relationships. Hijackals are attracted by people who accept their self-focused behaviors, and even take the blame for them. This is cycle of destruction that needs to stop.


Listen in as my guest, Michelle Ann Owens, opens up about her relationship with a Hijackal, and we candidly discuss why it went the way it did.


More about Michelle Ann Owens

MICHELLE ANN OWENS is an audio/video host, voiceover talent, vocalist and songwriter. She has stamped her business, creative & actual voice across multiple industries, including corporate business development and marketing, composing music for television, commercial advertising, and the world of podcasting. Michelle is the owner of Ladyfox Entertainment, LLC and is currently the hostess and producer of Nothing Off Limits (NOL) on iTunes.


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<![CDATA[Settling? or Finding Ideal Partner?]]> Wed, 02 Aug 2017 18:00:00 GMT 55:58 no full 1 4 No one wants to "settle" in a relationship. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler talks about dating expectations and the consequences of having too few or too many.


Guest, Lori Peters, creator of the Happiness Hangout show, shares her story of looking for Mr. Right and what happened that took so long to find him. Lori got married just shortly before the show. It all worked out. Listen in.


More about Lori Peters

Lori Peters is a writer who has been published and featured in several media outlets including Huffington Post, Your Tango, Brides, Fox News Magazine and more. Lori’s first book, Getting Married At Last: My Journey From Hopelessness To Happiness is now available on Amazon in paperback and Kindle.


She also provides numerous professional and fun presentations around happiness and well-being for various types of audiences. Her Happiness Hangout® Radio Show on bbsradio has gained thousands of listeners as she and her guests dive into deep and interesting topics around personal relationship happiness.

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No one wants to "settle" in a relationship. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler talks about dating expectations and the consequences of having too few or too many.


Guest, Lori Peters, creator of the Happiness Hangout show, shares her story of looking for Mr. Right and what happened that took so long to find him. Lori got married just shortly before the show. It all worked out. Listen in.


More about Lori Peters

Lori Peters is a writer who has been published and featured in several media outlets including Huffington Post, Your Tango, Brides, Fox News Magazine and more. Lori’s first book, Getting Married At Last: My Journey From Hopelessness To Happiness is now available on Amazon in paperback and Kindle.


She also provides numerous professional and fun presentations around happiness and well-being for various types of audiences. Her Happiness Hangout® Radio Show on bbsradio has gained thousands of listeners as she and her guests dive into deep and interesting topics around personal relationship happiness.

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<![CDATA[Divorcing a Difficult Person]]> Wed, 26 Jul 2017 18:00:00 GMT 55:38 no full 1 Divorcing is never easy, even when it's not hard. But when you're divorcing a Hijackal®, it can feel particularly crazy-making. This episode will help those thinking about or facing divorce, so that they can get through their divorce with less destruction.


Guest, Dr. Karen Covy, an experienced divorce coach, and Dr. Rhoberta Shaler talk about everything from co-parenting to dating in your post-divorce world.


More about Karen Covy

I help people get through their divorce with dignity and confidence so that, when their divorce ends, they are ready to begin again, and create a life that they love. I am a divorce attorney, mediator, Collaborative Divorce professional, arbitrator, consultant and coach. I have spent decades helping people get divorced in every way that there is to do that. So, at this point, I know what works and what doesn't. I'm dedicated to sharing that information with those thinking about or facing divorce so that they can get through their divorce with less destruction.

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Divorcing is never easy, even when it's not hard. But when you're divorcing a Hijackal®, it can feel particularly crazy-making. This episode will help those thinking about or facing divorce, so that they can get through their divorce with less destruction.


Guest, Dr. Karen Covy, an experienced divorce coach, and Dr. Rhoberta Shaler talk about everything from co-parenting to dating in your post-divorce world.


More about Karen Covy

I help people get through their divorce with dignity and confidence so that, when their divorce ends, they are ready to begin again, and create a life that they love. I am a divorce attorney, mediator, Collaborative Divorce professional, arbitrator, consultant and coach. I have spent decades helping people get divorced in every way that there is to do that. So, at this point, I know what works and what doesn't. I'm dedicated to sharing that information with those thinking about or facing divorce so that they can get through their divorce with less destruction.

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<![CDATA[Recognize the Indelible Marks of Adverse Childhood Experiences, ACEs ]]> Wed, 19 Jul 2017 18:00:00 GMT 56:49 no full 1 2 So many people have had difficulties in their childhood, and resulting from their childhoods. Adverse Childhood Experiences, ACEs, is a thing. It's real. It's today topic.


You may not realize how much of an impact your early life has had on your every thought about yourself, others, relationships, rights, and expectations if you have had ACEs. Here's a definition from the Minnesota Department of Health:


"An adverse childhood experience (ACE) describes a traumatic experience in a person's life occurring before the age of 18 that the person remembers as an adult.


The nine ACEs are:

  • physical abuse
  • sexual abuse
  • emotional abuse
  • mental illness of a household member
  • problematic drinking or alcoholism of a household member
  • illegal street or prescription drug use by a household member
  • divorce or separation of a parent
  • domestic violence towards a parent
  • incarceration of a household member"


Now, you can see that this is a too common occurrence and it may have impacted your life. Listen to today's program and learn more.


Guest, Christine Baumgartner of The Perfect Catch, and Dr. Rhoberta Shaler of For Relationship Help discuss the affects of ACEs on their own lives and lives they touch in their work. It could be what you've experienced, and you need to know it now. Knowing can help you see clearly where you have been hurt, and where you need to heal. Even when you think you're coping well--and, you well may be--life CAN get better.


More about Christine Baumgartner

Christine works with singles who are ready to finally have a loving partner in their life and are willing to tackle what’s been keeping that love away so they’ll finally attract the committed loving relationship they desire and deserve.


Christine’s coaching capitalizes on over 25 years as a wedding planner where she witnessed the benefits of people meeting and marrying “The Perfect Catch” (and the huge challenges that arose when they didn't).


This inspired her to focus on what happens BEFORE the marriage, which ultimately contributed to her to becoming a dating and relationship coach.


Christine then became a top coach for John Gray and by combining this coaching experience with her own personal dating experience she created her Transform Your Dating Life system.


Learn more about Dr. Rhoberta Shaler's work at ForRelationshipHelp.com

Subscribe to her YouTube channel , ForRelationshipHelp

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So many people have had difficulties in their childhood, and resulting from their childhoods. Adverse Childhood Experiences, ACEs, is a thing. It's real. It's today topic.


You may not realize how much of an impact your early life has had on your every thought about yourself, others, relationships, rights, and expectations if you have had ACEs. Here's a definition from the Minnesota Department of Health:


"An adverse childhood experience (ACE) describes a traumatic experience in a person's life occurring before the age of 18 that the person remembers as an adult.


The nine ACEs are:

  • physical abuse
  • sexual abuse
  • emotional abuse
  • mental illness of a household member
  • problematic drinking or alcoholism of a household member
  • illegal street or prescription drug use by a household member
  • divorce or separation of a parent
  • domestic violence towards a parent
  • incarceration of a household member"


Now, you can see that this is a too common occurrence and it may have impacted your life. Listen to today's program and learn more.


Guest, Christine Baumgartner of The Perfect Catch, and Dr. Rhoberta Shaler of For Relationship Help discuss the affects of ACEs on their own lives and lives they touch in their work. It could be what you've experienced, and you need to know it now. Knowing can help you see clearly where you have been hurt, and where you need to heal. Even when you think you're coping well--and, you well may be--life CAN get better.


More about Christine Baumgartner

Christine works with singles who are ready to finally have a loving partner in their life and are willing to tackle what’s been keeping that love away so they’ll finally attract the committed loving relationship they desire and deserve.


Christine’s coaching capitalizes on over 25 years as a wedding planner where she witnessed the benefits of people meeting and marrying “The Perfect Catch” (and the huge challenges that arose when they didn't).


This inspired her to focus on what happens BEFORE the marriage, which ultimately contributed to her to becoming a dating and relationship coach.


Christine then became a top coach for John Gray and by combining this coaching experience with her own personal dating experience she created her Transform Your Dating Life system.


Learn more about Dr. Rhoberta Shaler's work at ForRelationshipHelp.com

Subscribe to her YouTube channel , ForRelationshipHelp

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<![CDATA[What It Takes to Divorce a Difficult Toxic Person: A Hijackal®! ]]> Wed, 12 Jul 2017 18:00:00 GMT 51:04 no full 1 1 The first show! The Relationship Help Show: Move from Pain to Power is here to help you recognize and remedy relationships within yourself, and with the people in your life...especially with the relentlessly difficult people Dr. Shaler calls Hijackals®.


In this episode, the conversation is about divorce. Yes, for some people, it comes to that: divorce. And, it's a very big decision, especially if you don't clearly see and understand the traits, patterns and cycles of the difficult, toxic people, the Hijackals.


You may think that all that is going on is your fault. That's very common when you're with a Hijackal, s/he will make sure you hear constantly that everything is your fault. When you realize that's not the truth, often, there has been too much pain, and too many destructive things that have happened in your relationship. You know you cannot go back, and divorce is what's required to move forward.


Divorce is not a thing you plan on, but it sure is something you need to plan FOR.


What do you need to recognize to decide whether to stay or leave?


How do you decide what is enough? When is enough? Whether the relationship can be fixed? Or, when it's time for a divorce, or, at least, a separation? Big questions that you cannot take lightly, especially if you have children. This decision affects much in your life and planning is important.


Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor, and her guest, Dr. Karen Finn, a divorce coach, discuss what it takes to leave a relentlessly difficult person, a Hijackal®. It will help you understand your next best steps.



CLICK HERE to learn More about Dr. Karen Finn


Dr. Karen Finn is a divorce coach. She works with individuals who are wondering if divorce is the best answer for them and their family, who need support in navigating the divorce process, or who want guidance with everything from co-parenting to dating as they embark on their life post-divorce.


Making life decisions like these aren't easy. In fact, they're some of the most difficult you'll ever face. But you have to make a decision because if you don’t, you’re going to stay stuck in exactly the same place you are in today. And I can guess that where you are today isn’t a good place to be.


Dr. Rhoberta Shaler's website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Subscribe to her Tips for Relationships

Watch her YouTube Channel

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The first show! The Relationship Help Show: Move from Pain to Power is here to help you recognize and remedy relationships within yourself, and with the people in your life...especially with the relentlessly difficult people Dr. Shaler calls Hijackals®.


In this episode, the conversation is about divorce. Yes, for some people, it comes to that: divorce. And, it's a very big decision, especially if you don't clearly see and understand the traits, patterns and cycles of the difficult, toxic people, the Hijackals.


You may think that all that is going on is your fault. That's very common when you're with a Hijackal, s/he will make sure you hear constantly that everything is your fault. When you realize that's not the truth, often, there has been too much pain, and too many destructive things that have happened in your relationship. You know you cannot go back, and divorce is what's required to move forward.


Divorce is not a thing you plan on, but it sure is something you need to plan FOR.


What do you need to recognize to decide whether to stay or leave?


How do you decide what is enough? When is enough? Whether the relationship can be fixed? Or, when it's time for a divorce, or, at least, a separation? Big questions that you cannot take lightly, especially if you have children. This decision affects much in your life and planning is important.


Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor, and her guest, Dr. Karen Finn, a divorce coach, discuss what it takes to leave a relentlessly difficult person, a Hijackal®. It will help you understand your next best steps.



CLICK HERE to learn More about Dr. Karen Finn


Dr. Karen Finn is a divorce coach. She works with individuals who are wondering if divorce is the best answer for them and their family, who need support in navigating the divorce process, or who want guidance with everything from co-parenting to dating as they embark on their life post-divorce.


Making life decisions like these aren't easy. In fact, they're some of the most difficult you'll ever face. But you have to make a decision because if you don’t, you’re going to stay stuck in exactly the same place you are in today. And I can guess that where you are today isn’t a good place to be.


Dr. Rhoberta Shaler's website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Subscribe to her Tips for Relationships

Watch her YouTube Channel

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