60 pippa.io <![CDATA[Save Your Sanity]]> https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/ en Content here is owned and copyrighted by Dr. Rhoberta Shaler. Rhoberta Shaler, PhD The Save Your Sanity podcast offers episodes filled with the expert insights, validation, strategies, and support you need to recognize, manage, and recover from relationships with the relentlessly difficult, toxic--and often disturbing--people host, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, calls Hijackals®. 


Invaluable help to stop the second-guessing, undermining, and crazy-making traits, patterns, and cycles you have encountered. Understand the ways, whys, and hows that verbal abuse, emotional abuse, and spiritual abuse affect you over time. Whether the Hijackal is a partner, parent, ex, or colleague, what you will learn here will strengthen and empower you to step up, speak up, and stand up for yourself in healthy, assertive ways.


These insights will help you to make the changes--and good decisions--to move from pain to power, and that's exactly what you want to do! Listen now. 

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The Save Your Sanity podcast offers episodes filled with the expert insights, validation, strategies, and support you need to recognize, manage, and recover from relationships with the relentlessly difficult, toxic--and often disturbing--people host, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, calls Hijackals®. 


Invaluable help to stop the second-guessing, undermining, and crazy-making traits, patterns, and cycles you have encountered. Understand the ways, whys, and hows that verbal abuse, emotional abuse, and spiritual abuse affect you over time. Whether the Hijackal is a partner, parent, ex, or colleague, what you will learn here will strengthen and empower you to step up, speak up, and stand up for yourself in healthy, assertive ways.


These insights will help you to make the changes--and good decisions--to move from pain to power, and that's exactly what you want to do! Listen now. 

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with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


3 BIG REASONS WHY HIJACKALS® NEVER STOP AND WHY YOU MUST!


Hijackals put you down, wear you down, and tear you down. They have to, in their minds because, at deep levels, you are THE competition!


You are not, but they behave as though you are. And, no amount of assuring them, caring for them—or pandering to them—will change this. So, you have to change, because they won’t! 


Today, I'm giving you three reasons that you'll easily see in your relationship that the Hijackal is crushing you. You know this, and I want to put a spotlight on it for you.


Can you admit these to yourself? That's the first step. You need to be able to say a clear "Yes!" not a "Yes, but..." with an excuse, justification, or rationalization of the crazy-making behavior.


Are you ready to be free of this? To stop questioning your sanity and second-guessing yourself? GREAT!


Hijackals are toxic people who create toxic relationships! You are being poisoned. You are NOT the poison that the Hijackal insists you are.


I hope this help you see that more clearly.


If you need help with this, I'm here for you.


Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE for only $97.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


P.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


You can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.


#Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #relationshipsarenotcompetitions

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SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


3 BIG REASONS WHY HIJACKALS® NEVER STOP AND WHY YOU MUST!


Hijackals put you down, wear you down, and tear you down. They have to, in their minds because, at deep levels, you are THE competition!


You are not, but they behave as though you are. And, no amount of assuring them, caring for them—or pandering to them—will change this. So, you have to change, because they won’t! 


Today, I'm giving you three reasons that you'll easily see in your relationship that the Hijackal is crushing you. You know this, and I want to put a spotlight on it for you.


Can you admit these to yourself? That's the first step. You need to be able to say a clear "Yes!" not a "Yes, but..." with an excuse, justification, or rationalization of the crazy-making behavior.


Are you ready to be free of this? To stop questioning your sanity and second-guessing yourself? GREAT!


Hijackals are toxic people who create toxic relationships! You are being poisoned. You are NOT the poison that the Hijackal insists you are.


I hope this help you see that more clearly.


If you need help with this, I'm here for you.


Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE for only $97.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


P.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


You can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.


#Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #relationshipsarenotcompetitions

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<![CDATA[Is It Actually Competition That's Ruining Your Relationship?]]> Sat, 11 Aug 2018 17:14:38 GMT 15:00 5b6f16b0f4526ff454ab5cd7 no full SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


IS IT ACTUALLY COMPETITION THAT'S RUINING YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

ARE YOU MORE FRENEMIES THAN FRIENDS?


There's nothing attractive, compelling, or safe about competition in a relationship that is not on a playing field, in a pool, or a ring. It's destructive and exhausting. VERY IMPORTANT to recognize if competition is what's at the core of a relationship that doesn't feel safe.


Do you feel safe in your relationship? Are you relaxed and supported? You want to be, and need to be. If you're not, it could well be that there is subtle (or overt!) competition that is undermining the relationship, and YOU.


Are you and your partner a team? Can you, and do you, healthily rely on each other? You need to be able to!


What's your part in this? Time for self-reflection. These questions will help you clarify what part you might be playing to keep the competition going. It's always wise to start with self-reflection first. Here are the questions I gave you in this episode to go over and think deeply about:


  • Is there a way that I am inviting competition in my relationship by my words, my actions, my demeanor, or my stance in life, and in my relationship particularly?
  • Do I turn everything into a debate?
  • Is my first inclination to find fault, rather than see the good?
  • When I'm really honest with myself, do I have a big need to be right?
  • Am I only happy when I am winning?
  • Am I on guard and look for ways to prove my partner is wrong?
  • Do I have a glass half full or half empty outlook?
  • How much of the time am I focused on what I appreciate and love about my partner?
  • Is that enough?
  • Do I have my back up and something to prove that keeps me concerned, vigilant, and on edge?


VERY important questions. Maybe, you'll now see some areas you could work on, rather than start by what you want fixed in your partner. Will you do that?


Relationships are not competitions!


If you need help with this, I'm here for you. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.


Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE for only $97.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


You can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.


#Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #relationshipsarenotcompetitions

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SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


IS IT ACTUALLY COMPETITION THAT'S RUINING YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

ARE YOU MORE FRENEMIES THAN FRIENDS?


There's nothing attractive, compelling, or safe about competition in a relationship that is not on a playing field, in a pool, or a ring. It's destructive and exhausting. VERY IMPORTANT to recognize if competition is what's at the core of a relationship that doesn't feel safe.


Do you feel safe in your relationship? Are you relaxed and supported? You want to be, and need to be. If you're not, it could well be that there is subtle (or overt!) competition that is undermining the relationship, and YOU.


Are you and your partner a team? Can you, and do you, healthily rely on each other? You need to be able to!


What's your part in this? Time for self-reflection. These questions will help you clarify what part you might be playing to keep the competition going. It's always wise to start with self-reflection first. Here are the questions I gave you in this episode to go over and think deeply about:


  • Is there a way that I am inviting competition in my relationship by my words, my actions, my demeanor, or my stance in life, and in my relationship particularly?
  • Do I turn everything into a debate?
  • Is my first inclination to find fault, rather than see the good?
  • When I'm really honest with myself, do I have a big need to be right?
  • Am I only happy when I am winning?
  • Am I on guard and look for ways to prove my partner is wrong?
  • Do I have a glass half full or half empty outlook?
  • How much of the time am I focused on what I appreciate and love about my partner?
  • Is that enough?
  • Do I have my back up and something to prove that keeps me concerned, vigilant, and on edge?


VERY important questions. Maybe, you'll now see some areas you could work on, rather than start by what you want fixed in your partner. Will you do that?


Relationships are not competitions!


If you need help with this, I'm here for you. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.


Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE for only $97.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


You can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.


#Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #relationshipsarenotcompetitions

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<![CDATA[What If You Were Affected by Inherited Family Trauma? GUEST: Johanna Lynn]]> Sun, 05 Aug 2018 02:54:01 GMT 20:08 5b665fd9f1966ada6325990f no full SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


Special Conversation with ​ Johanna Lynn, Clinical Hypnotherapist


All that happened to you in life affects everything that is currently happening in your life. If you are not getting the results in life and relationships that you want, then, you want to listen to this episode for sure. 


Unless you've had a reason or taken the time to think deeply about the home your grew up in, you might not recognize that you had a relentlessly difficult, toxic parent. If you did, the things you learned before you even could walk are affecting everything, on auto-pilot. That Hijackal parent taught you who you were and what to expect from life, and that parent lied to you. Really! 


MY GUEST Johanna Lynn, Part 1 - Inherited Family Ties and Traits


Why are you comfortable being treated in ways that make you uncomfortable? Learn how your nervous system learned this. Families share operating systems, family patterns, family traits. Learn how your inner images of yourself and your family play out in your life now.


Epigenetic patterns are real. Our inner images of self and family play out without our awareness. You need to know about this important information! It can clear up a lot of what has happened to you!


Get Johanna's free gift ebook, Be Good to Yourself HERE


THEN, listen to Part 2 on the next episode of Save Your Sanity podcast when we'll discuss emotionally unavailable parents and the issues they cause deep within us. Good news: those issues can be healed, and we can create loving, healthy, emotionally intimate relationships that not only last, but grow deeper and riches over time.


If you need help with this, I'm here for you. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.


Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE for only $97. New clients only.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


CONNECT WITH JOHANNA LYNN:

Website: JohannaLynn.ca

Facebook: JohannaLynn.ca

Twitter: @johannalynn

LinkedIn: JohannaLynn

Instagram: connect_johanna


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


You can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.


#Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #inheritedtrauma #trauma

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SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


Special Conversation with ​ Johanna Lynn, Clinical Hypnotherapist


All that happened to you in life affects everything that is currently happening in your life. If you are not getting the results in life and relationships that you want, then, you want to listen to this episode for sure. 


Unless you've had a reason or taken the time to think deeply about the home your grew up in, you might not recognize that you had a relentlessly difficult, toxic parent. If you did, the things you learned before you even could walk are affecting everything, on auto-pilot. That Hijackal parent taught you who you were and what to expect from life, and that parent lied to you. Really! 


MY GUEST Johanna Lynn, Part 1 - Inherited Family Ties and Traits


Why are you comfortable being treated in ways that make you uncomfortable? Learn how your nervous system learned this. Families share operating systems, family patterns, family traits. Learn how your inner images of yourself and your family play out in your life now.


Epigenetic patterns are real. Our inner images of self and family play out without our awareness. You need to know about this important information! It can clear up a lot of what has happened to you!


Get Johanna's free gift ebook, Be Good to Yourself HERE


THEN, listen to Part 2 on the next episode of Save Your Sanity podcast when we'll discuss emotionally unavailable parents and the issues they cause deep within us. Good news: those issues can be healed, and we can create loving, healthy, emotionally intimate relationships that not only last, but grow deeper and riches over time.


If you need help with this, I'm here for you. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.


Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE for only $97. New clients only.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


CONNECT WITH JOHANNA LYNN:

Website: JohannaLynn.ca

Facebook: JohannaLynn.ca

Twitter: @johannalynn

LinkedIn: JohannaLynn

Instagram: connect_johanna


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


You can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.


#Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #inheritedtrauma #trauma

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<![CDATA[12 Damaging Ways Your Narcissistic Mother Lied to You About Who You Are]]> Sun, 29 Jul 2018 17:17:52 GMT 25:37 5b5df1fc8f25ed2939943cb8 no full 2 12 SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


12 DAMAGING WAYS YOUR NARCISSISTIC MOTHER LIED TO YOU ABOUT WHO YOU ARE


You don't have to wonder where your self-doubts came from if you were raised by a mother who had narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, or antisocial--Hijackal®--tendencies. She made sure you learned to walk on eggshells, second-guess yourself, and question your sanity! She would never let you feel good enough. Right?


In fact, she competed with you every second, on some level. And, she always HAD to win!


A narcissistic mother has to be at the top of the pile. She'll make sure she stays there, too. So, where does that leave you? At the bottom somewhere. Now, yes, you may be what is called her "Golden Child," the child who can do no wrong. She may haven one of those, especially if you have siblings. She may also choose on "Scapegoat Child," the one who can NEVER do anything right. And, the other siblings will be lost in the mix.


If your mom was like mine--and I was an only child--she just simple competed with me on every level all the time. So, how did she do that? By withholding approval, withholding acceptance, withholding affection, and withholding attention. It wasn't that she could play the piano or do other things I did. She didn't--and couldn't compete there--but, she simply ran hot and cold about my abilities. Such a Hijackal! One minute, she's telling the world about competitions I won and getting the credit for paying for all those music lessons, and the next, she's telling me that it's so annoying that I make so much noise practicing all the time. No-win situation!


Today, I'm talking about twelve ways your narcissistic mother, your borderline mother, your histrionic mother, or your antisocial mother will have lied to you about who you are. They cannot help it. They just have to do it. And, at deep levels, you had no choice but to take it in and believe it. It was, and is, emotional abuse!


Hijackals ® behave badly. They have an absolute need to have power and control over others. They are invested in keeping you down, controlled, and as powerless as possible. They feel they have done that when you are second-guessing yourself, and questioning your sanity.


When you've had a Hijackal mother, you have a lot of unpacking to do, to unearth and replace all the lies she told you about not being good enough, competent, capable, and more. Please take the time to do this. You matter, and your life can be so much more free, rewarding, and fulfilling when you don't believe the lies your mother told you. You can have healthy relationships that are emotionally intimate, once you stop believing her. She was wrong!


If you need help with this, I'm here for you. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.


Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE for only $97.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


You can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.


#Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


12 DAMAGING WAYS YOUR NARCISSISTIC MOTHER LIED TO YOU ABOUT WHO YOU ARE


You don't have to wonder where your self-doubts came from if you were raised by a mother who had narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, or antisocial--Hijackal®--tendencies. She made sure you learned to walk on eggshells, second-guess yourself, and question your sanity! She would never let you feel good enough. Right?


In fact, she competed with you every second, on some level. And, she always HAD to win!


A narcissistic mother has to be at the top of the pile. She'll make sure she stays there, too. So, where does that leave you? At the bottom somewhere. Now, yes, you may be what is called her "Golden Child," the child who can do no wrong. She may haven one of those, especially if you have siblings. She may also choose on "Scapegoat Child," the one who can NEVER do anything right. And, the other siblings will be lost in the mix.


If your mom was like mine--and I was an only child--she just simple competed with me on every level all the time. So, how did she do that? By withholding approval, withholding acceptance, withholding affection, and withholding attention. It wasn't that she could play the piano or do other things I did. She didn't--and couldn't compete there--but, she simply ran hot and cold about my abilities. Such a Hijackal! One minute, she's telling the world about competitions I won and getting the credit for paying for all those music lessons, and the next, she's telling me that it's so annoying that I make so much noise practicing all the time. No-win situation!


Today, I'm talking about twelve ways your narcissistic mother, your borderline mother, your histrionic mother, or your antisocial mother will have lied to you about who you are. They cannot help it. They just have to do it. And, at deep levels, you had no choice but to take it in and believe it. It was, and is, emotional abuse!


Hijackals ® behave badly. They have an absolute need to have power and control over others. They are invested in keeping you down, controlled, and as powerless as possible. They feel they have done that when you are second-guessing yourself, and questioning your sanity.


When you've had a Hijackal mother, you have a lot of unpacking to do, to unearth and replace all the lies she told you about not being good enough, competent, capable, and more. Please take the time to do this. You matter, and your life can be so much more free, rewarding, and fulfilling when you don't believe the lies your mother told you. You can have healthy relationships that are emotionally intimate, once you stop believing her. She was wrong!


If you need help with this, I'm here for you. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.


Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE for only $97.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


You can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.


#Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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<![CDATA[4 Questions To Ask Yourself To Not Miss Emotional Red Flags]]> Mon, 23 Jul 2018 01:08:28 GMT 17:52 5b54b14836dc55b3042e986c no full 2 11 SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


4 QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF TO NOT MISS EMOTIONAL RED FLAGS


Do you live on the edge, knowing that at any minute you could suffer from a stinger, a snide comment, or a cold shoulder from your partner, parent, or other difficult person?


Are disdain and disapproval always waiting in the wings?

Are you generally on-guard and waiting for the other shoe to drop?


Those are feelings you have when you are with a toxic person, a relentlessly difficult person, a narcissist, a borderline, or other antisocial person. That's why you NEED to listen to today's episode to learn more.


Today, I'm talking about four questions you need to ask yourself so that you will CLEARLY SEE RED FLAGS! Those flags can be infrequent, somewhat hidden, or some things you have unfortunately become too used to. Seeing them is the first step in making some big, positive changes to your relationship, first the one with yourself, and then with the partner. Do it to keep yourself away from emotional abuse, moving towards greater mental health!


Hijackals ® behave badly. They have an absolute need to have power and control over others. They are invested in keeping you down, controlled, and as powerless as possible. They feel they have done that when you are second-guessing yourself, and questioning your sanity. If that's happening to you, this episode can help you clearly see that it is time for you to change your perspective, your attitude, and your strategies. You deserve to be loved and treated well. Start now!


If you need help with this, I'm here for you. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.


Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE for only $97.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


You can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.


#Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


4 QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF TO NOT MISS EMOTIONAL RED FLAGS


Do you live on the edge, knowing that at any minute you could suffer from a stinger, a snide comment, or a cold shoulder from your partner, parent, or other difficult person?


Are disdain and disapproval always waiting in the wings?

Are you generally on-guard and waiting for the other shoe to drop?


Those are feelings you have when you are with a toxic person, a relentlessly difficult person, a narcissist, a borderline, or other antisocial person. That's why you NEED to listen to today's episode to learn more.


Today, I'm talking about four questions you need to ask yourself so that you will CLEARLY SEE RED FLAGS! Those flags can be infrequent, somewhat hidden, or some things you have unfortunately become too used to. Seeing them is the first step in making some big, positive changes to your relationship, first the one with yourself, and then with the partner. Do it to keep yourself away from emotional abuse, moving towards greater mental health!


Hijackals ® behave badly. They have an absolute need to have power and control over others. They are invested in keeping you down, controlled, and as powerless as possible. They feel they have done that when you are second-guessing yourself, and questioning your sanity. If that's happening to you, this episode can help you clearly see that it is time for you to change your perspective, your attitude, and your strategies. You deserve to be loved and treated well. Start now!


If you need help with this, I'm here for you. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.


Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE for only $97.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


You can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.


#Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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<![CDATA[3 Empowering Responses to Bullies, Backstabbers, Rhinos & Hijackals® ]]> Sat, 14 Jul 2018 21:17:24 GMT 16:33 5b4a47ab583afea8376c8a3d no full 4 10 SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


3 Empowering Responses to Backstabbers, Rhinos & Hijackals®


Some days, it's very tempting to not go to work because of the people who are there, right? When backstabbing, bullying, malicious gossip, and all the antics of toxic people are present, you have even more incentive to stay home.


Maybe, meetings take place surreptitiously, or are changed without adequate warning so that some people miss them is a way this shows up where you work. And, similar things happen at home when there are difficult, toxic people there, too.


Oh, yes, and Hijackals® and Rhinos like to take credit for things they did little or nothing to achieve, too! Sound familiar? What do you do then? Listen to these empowering strategies for ideas on your next best steps.


Bullies at work? Oh, yeah! They're there, and they wear you down and wear you out. You need these pro-active anti-bullying responses to feel safer around them...and more powerful. Because that's the issue, isn't it? They are there to make you believe they have power over you.


Of course, if they are the boss, they do. Speak up to those over your boss. Or, if that's not possible, you'll be looking for a safer place to work now, right?


When the bully is not the boss, though, you can first of all not tuck your tail between your legs and make yourself as invisible as possible. Yes, I know that might seem appealing--and with outrageous bullies that might be the only sane thing to do--however, when you make eye contact with them in a non-confronting way, you begin to take back your power.


Power games? Yes, and remember the "game" part. If you don't play, there is no game. If you can stay in "neutral" and not give an air of feeling intimated, it's a very good start.


Do you know the right path to speaking up about the bullying at work? Do you know what to say? Get good ideas and strategies in my Season 2, Episode 6 broadcast of 8 Strong Steps to Handle Bullies at Work.


It's common to feel intimidated by a bully at work. No one enjoys being around them! If you can rustle up some nonchalance, a good neutral stance, you'll feel better and be more effective.


You don't want to feel like a wuss, a doormat, or turn yourself into a pretzel around a toxic person at work, right? You want to have effective responses that reduce your stress. Really practice daily these three responses for the next month. It WILL help.


Think that bully might actually have bigger issues? Read my free ebook, How to Spot a Hijackal, at Hijackals.com and find out. If s/he is a HIjackal, you need more strategies and insights and they're there for you.


If you need help with this, I'm here for you. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.


Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial consultation HERE for only $97.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


You can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


3 Empowering Responses to Backstabbers, Rhinos & Hijackals®


Some days, it's very tempting to not go to work because of the people who are there, right? When backstabbing, bullying, malicious gossip, and all the antics of toxic people are present, you have even more incentive to stay home.


Maybe, meetings take place surreptitiously, or are changed without adequate warning so that some people miss them is a way this shows up where you work. And, similar things happen at home when there are difficult, toxic people there, too.


Oh, yes, and Hijackals® and Rhinos like to take credit for things they did little or nothing to achieve, too! Sound familiar? What do you do then? Listen to these empowering strategies for ideas on your next best steps.


Bullies at work? Oh, yeah! They're there, and they wear you down and wear you out. You need these pro-active anti-bullying responses to feel safer around them...and more powerful. Because that's the issue, isn't it? They are there to make you believe they have power over you.


Of course, if they are the boss, they do. Speak up to those over your boss. Or, if that's not possible, you'll be looking for a safer place to work now, right?


When the bully is not the boss, though, you can first of all not tuck your tail between your legs and make yourself as invisible as possible. Yes, I know that might seem appealing--and with outrageous bullies that might be the only sane thing to do--however, when you make eye contact with them in a non-confronting way, you begin to take back your power.


Power games? Yes, and remember the "game" part. If you don't play, there is no game. If you can stay in "neutral" and not give an air of feeling intimated, it's a very good start.


Do you know the right path to speaking up about the bullying at work? Do you know what to say? Get good ideas and strategies in my Season 2, Episode 6 broadcast of 8 Strong Steps to Handle Bullies at Work.


It's common to feel intimidated by a bully at work. No one enjoys being around them! If you can rustle up some nonchalance, a good neutral stance, you'll feel better and be more effective.


You don't want to feel like a wuss, a doormat, or turn yourself into a pretzel around a toxic person at work, right? You want to have effective responses that reduce your stress. Really practice daily these three responses for the next month. It WILL help.


Think that bully might actually have bigger issues? Read my free ebook, How to Spot a Hijackal, at Hijackals.com and find out. If s/he is a HIjackal, you need more strategies and insights and they're there for you.


If you need help with this, I'm here for you. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.


Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial consultation HERE for only $97.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


You can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[14 Questions To Ask To Know If It's Abuse]]> Sat, 07 Jul 2018 18:19:28 GMT 19:06 5b40fef4676fe3e3538fa53b no full 4 9 SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


14 Questions To Ask To Know If It's Abuse


As I mentioned in previous show notes, being in an abusive relationship--even minimally abusive--is a little like being part of that urban legend of cooking frogs: you don't notice the dysfunction and abuse because the heat is slowly turned up. And, then? You're cooked!


Coming to a place of recognizing abuse when it presents itself is a long journey for most people. Why? Because most people are good, willing to accept and go the extra mile, compassionate, and kind. When abusive behavior shows up, they are understanding at first. That's when it starts going sideways! And, if it happened in your home when you were a child, you didn't see it coming!


Yes, it is wise to wait and see the patterns, traits, and cycles to be clear that what you're experiencing is abusive. Many people can say one abusive thing, one time, in the heat of the moment. Abusive people do it WAY TOO FREQUENTLY!


So, you HAVE to recognize the difference between a person who is momentarily going through a difficult time and is cranky, and an abusive person who has no regard for who you are, how you feel, or what you think, need, or want.


In this episode, I list fourteen--fourteen!!!--questions you need to ask yourself? If the person you have in mind is doing any, or many, of these things, it's time to wake up and smell the herbal tea. This person is being ABUSIVE!


If you see patterns of behavior that are ones intended to dominate, control, or alienate others, these are signs of potential trouble. It only gets more serious from there.


Think about these fourteen questions. If you recognize that these fourteen are things that are consistent in your relationship, it's time to do something positive and healthy. You have likely been making excuses for them for awhile because they are confusing, and you want to err on the side of compassion. With Hijackals, that can only go so far. You can have compassion for them, but it is essential not to condone or enable their behaviors. For that to happen, you have to see the behaviors clearly for what they really are.


You cannot risk your well-being, or that of your children, a moment longer. This is REALLY IMPORTANT!


Read my free ebook, How to Spot a Hijackal, at Hijackals.com


If you need help with this, I'm here for you. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.


Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial consultation HERE for only $97.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


If you want my help, your first hour-long session as a new client is only $97, and available HERE.


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


14 Questions To Ask To Know If It's Abuse


As I mentioned in previous show notes, being in an abusive relationship--even minimally abusive--is a little like being part of that urban legend of cooking frogs: you don't notice the dysfunction and abuse because the heat is slowly turned up. And, then? You're cooked!


Coming to a place of recognizing abuse when it presents itself is a long journey for most people. Why? Because most people are good, willing to accept and go the extra mile, compassionate, and kind. When abusive behavior shows up, they are understanding at first. That's when it starts going sideways! And, if it happened in your home when you were a child, you didn't see it coming!


Yes, it is wise to wait and see the patterns, traits, and cycles to be clear that what you're experiencing is abusive. Many people can say one abusive thing, one time, in the heat of the moment. Abusive people do it WAY TOO FREQUENTLY!


So, you HAVE to recognize the difference between a person who is momentarily going through a difficult time and is cranky, and an abusive person who has no regard for who you are, how you feel, or what you think, need, or want.


In this episode, I list fourteen--fourteen!!!--questions you need to ask yourself? If the person you have in mind is doing any, or many, of these things, it's time to wake up and smell the herbal tea. This person is being ABUSIVE!


If you see patterns of behavior that are ones intended to dominate, control, or alienate others, these are signs of potential trouble. It only gets more serious from there.


Think about these fourteen questions. If you recognize that these fourteen are things that are consistent in your relationship, it's time to do something positive and healthy. You have likely been making excuses for them for awhile because they are confusing, and you want to err on the side of compassion. With Hijackals, that can only go so far. You can have compassion for them, but it is essential not to condone or enable their behaviors. For that to happen, you have to see the behaviors clearly for what they really are.


You cannot risk your well-being, or that of your children, a moment longer. This is REALLY IMPORTANT!


Read my free ebook, How to Spot a Hijackal, at Hijackals.com


If you need help with this, I'm here for you. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.


Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial consultation HERE for only $97.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


If you want my help, your first hour-long session as a new client is only $97, and available HERE.


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[Is Your Hijackal® Partner Difficult, or Actually Dangerous?]]> Sun, 01 Jul 2018 01:16:35 GMT 15:37 5b3687da88bf522965f0b765 no full 4 8 SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


Is Your Hijackal® Partner Difficult, Or Actually Dangerous?


Being with a Hijackal is a little like being part of that urban legend of cooking frogs: you don't notice the dysfunction and abuse because the heat is slowly turned up. And, then? You're cooked!


You want to believe that a Hijackal can change. In fact, most people in relationship with these difficult, toxic people are good people who want to believe that if they love, understand, be patient, nurture, and stand by these folks, things will get better. The likelihood of that happening is slim to none. Sure, it may happen for a week or two, but it won't stick!


So, you HAVE to recognize the difference between a difficult person, and a dangerous person. In this episode, I'm giving you six things that that you will have to do differently, and why that has to happen right now.


If you see patterns of behavior that are ones intended to dominate, control, or alienate others, these are signs of potential trouble. It only gets more serious from there.


Listen to learn about those critical six things. You have likely been making excuses for them for awhile because they are confusing, and you want to err on the side of compassion. With Hijackals, that can only go so far. You can have compassion for them, but it is essential not to condone or enable their behaviors. For that to happen, you have to see the behaviors clearly for what they really are.


You cannot risk your well-being, or that of your children, a moment longer. This is REALLY IMPORTANT!



Read my free ebook, How to Spot a Hijackal, at Hijackals.com


If you need help with this, I'm here for you. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.


Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule a free consultation HERE.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory one-hour session, $97.


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


Is Your Hijackal® Partner Difficult, Or Actually Dangerous?


Being with a Hijackal is a little like being part of that urban legend of cooking frogs: you don't notice the dysfunction and abuse because the heat is slowly turned up. And, then? You're cooked!


You want to believe that a Hijackal can change. In fact, most people in relationship with these difficult, toxic people are good people who want to believe that if they love, understand, be patient, nurture, and stand by these folks, things will get better. The likelihood of that happening is slim to none. Sure, it may happen for a week or two, but it won't stick!


So, you HAVE to recognize the difference between a difficult person, and a dangerous person. In this episode, I'm giving you six things that that you will have to do differently, and why that has to happen right now.


If you see patterns of behavior that are ones intended to dominate, control, or alienate others, these are signs of potential trouble. It only gets more serious from there.


Listen to learn about those critical six things. You have likely been making excuses for them for awhile because they are confusing, and you want to err on the side of compassion. With Hijackals, that can only go so far. You can have compassion for them, but it is essential not to condone or enable their behaviors. For that to happen, you have to see the behaviors clearly for what they really are.


You cannot risk your well-being, or that of your children, a moment longer. This is REALLY IMPORTANT!



Read my free ebook, How to Spot a Hijackal, at Hijackals.com


If you need help with this, I'm here for you. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.


Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule a free consultation HERE.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory one-hour session, $97.


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[5 Telling Things People Say That Show Their Passive-Aggressive Sides]]> Tue, 26 Jun 2018 03:39:16 GMT 11:44 5b2ebe8ef0adc89e2cef945b no full 4 7 SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


5 Telling Things People Say That Show Their Passive-Aggressive Sides


When you experience passive-aggressive behavior from someone, it messes with your head. You question yourself. You second-guess yourself. It's crazy-making.


A passive-aggressive behavior pattern in someone leaves you feeling confused, second-guessing yourself, and questioning your sanity. "Did I? Didn't I? I thought I did. I thought we agreed. Didn't we?" Sound familiar?


You know about Hijackals® from my books and podcasts. One thing for sure is that all Hijackals are passive-aggressive, but not all passive-aggressive people are Hijackals. That's important to note, because passive-aggression may be the only truly annoying this about the person.


Once you can put your finger on what's so annoying, you can set some boundaries, and communicate more clearly about what you need and want. That's important with a passive-aggressive person.


(If you're wondering if the person you have in mind is actually passive-aggressive, I have a free checklist for you at PassiveAggressiveChecklist.com )


These five things in today's episode are "tells." If someone does them more than once in a blue moon, you may be watching passive-aggression play out.


Read my ebook, Stop! That's Crazy-Making! How to Quit Playing the Passive-Aggressive Game.


Or, The Hijackal Trap: The Hidden Anger of Passive-Aggression . Both downloadable from Amazon.


If you need help with this, I'm here for you. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.


Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule a free consultation HERE.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


5 Telling Things People Say That Show Their Passive-Aggressive Sides


When you experience passive-aggressive behavior from someone, it messes with your head. You question yourself. You second-guess yourself. It's crazy-making.


A passive-aggressive behavior pattern in someone leaves you feeling confused, second-guessing yourself, and questioning your sanity. "Did I? Didn't I? I thought I did. I thought we agreed. Didn't we?" Sound familiar?


You know about Hijackals® from my books and podcasts. One thing for sure is that all Hijackals are passive-aggressive, but not all passive-aggressive people are Hijackals. That's important to note, because passive-aggression may be the only truly annoying this about the person.


Once you can put your finger on what's so annoying, you can set some boundaries, and communicate more clearly about what you need and want. That's important with a passive-aggressive person.


(If you're wondering if the person you have in mind is actually passive-aggressive, I have a free checklist for you at PassiveAggressiveChecklist.com )


These five things in today's episode are "tells." If someone does them more than once in a blue moon, you may be watching passive-aggression play out.


Read my ebook, Stop! That's Crazy-Making! How to Quit Playing the Passive-Aggressive Game.


Or, The Hijackal Trap: The Hidden Anger of Passive-Aggression . Both downloadable from Amazon.


If you need help with this, I'm here for you. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.


Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule a free consultation HERE.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[8 Strong Steps To Handle Bullies at Work]]> Sat, 16 Jun 2018 17:49:04 GMT 21:28 5b254a1ba11e77ef7eb0dc32 no full 4 6 SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


8 STRONG STEPS TO HANDLE BULLIES AT WORK...AND, AT HOME.


You feel bullied. You see others being bullied. It's not right!


Perhaps, you shy away. You sometimes take a day off to get away from the toxic environment.


You are ready to stop this nonsense, and today, I'm going to give you some solid steps, some strong steps, to understand the bully, and know what is in your power to do about it.


If this is a workplace bully, you may think that the bully should be management's problem. True, however, management may not be doing anything about it. After all, they don't have to work with this person every day, right? You do. So, you need to do something, too.


Bullies may or may not be Hijackals®, those relentlessly difficult, toxic people I talk about here. It is possible that the bully is just a truly scared person who leads with their anger to avoid appearing weak. There are possibilities to consider.


And, I've written a free ebook for you to find out. How To Spot A Hijackal. Get it HERE.


A bully is afraid. It sounds strange, and it's true. A bully is afraid that s/he will not be taken seriously, noticed, or made important enough, so they take on the job themselves. They really back themselves into a corner while trying to corner you!


In today's episode, I'm talking about what to do when you have to work with--or manage--a bully, person who goes out of his or her way to intimidate others. You cannot have that if you are in management. Productivity suffers and no one wants to come to work.


You personally cannot let it just go, either. It will affect your health and well-being. You want to know the steps you can take to feel assertive and confident in the face of a bully. I know, that may not be where you want to step, but it's better than avoiding, cowering, or quitting, right?


Notice what you are feeling when you hear those eight strong steps:


  • Do I lose my self-esteem around the bully? Am I just giving it away? That's a possibility.
  • Can I now see that I am letting the bully take away my right to be myself and stand strong?
  • Do I need more skills to stand strong and avoid a clash of wills. Facts are facts. Stick to them.
  • What do I need to do--what self-talk do I need--to do things more positively with the bully?
  • What difference would it make if I listened to the bully to find something I could agree with?
  • Am I willing to work on my issues, and shore up my skills to be happier every day with my willingness to be assertive?



If you need help with this, I'm here for you. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.


Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule a free consultation HERE.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Join my Closed Facebook group HERE to ask your questions, get validation and support.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


8 STRONG STEPS TO HANDLE BULLIES AT WORK...AND, AT HOME.


You feel bullied. You see others being bullied. It's not right!


Perhaps, you shy away. You sometimes take a day off to get away from the toxic environment.


You are ready to stop this nonsense, and today, I'm going to give you some solid steps, some strong steps, to understand the bully, and know what is in your power to do about it.


If this is a workplace bully, you may think that the bully should be management's problem. True, however, management may not be doing anything about it. After all, they don't have to work with this person every day, right? You do. So, you need to do something, too.


Bullies may or may not be Hijackals®, those relentlessly difficult, toxic people I talk about here. It is possible that the bully is just a truly scared person who leads with their anger to avoid appearing weak. There are possibilities to consider.


And, I've written a free ebook for you to find out. How To Spot A Hijackal. Get it HERE.


A bully is afraid. It sounds strange, and it's true. A bully is afraid that s/he will not be taken seriously, noticed, or made important enough, so they take on the job themselves. They really back themselves into a corner while trying to corner you!


In today's episode, I'm talking about what to do when you have to work with--or manage--a bully, person who goes out of his or her way to intimidate others. You cannot have that if you are in management. Productivity suffers and no one wants to come to work.


You personally cannot let it just go, either. It will affect your health and well-being. You want to know the steps you can take to feel assertive and confident in the face of a bully. I know, that may not be where you want to step, but it's better than avoiding, cowering, or quitting, right?


Notice what you are feeling when you hear those eight strong steps:


  • Do I lose my self-esteem around the bully? Am I just giving it away? That's a possibility.
  • Can I now see that I am letting the bully take away my right to be myself and stand strong?
  • Do I need more skills to stand strong and avoid a clash of wills. Facts are facts. Stick to them.
  • What do I need to do--what self-talk do I need--to do things more positively with the bully?
  • What difference would it make if I listened to the bully to find something I could agree with?
  • Am I willing to work on my issues, and shore up my skills to be happier every day with my willingness to be assertive?



If you need help with this, I'm here for you. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.


Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule a free consultation HERE.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Join my Closed Facebook group HERE to ask your questions, get validation and support.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[7 Warning Signs and Wake-Up Calls That Your Partner is MORE Than Selfish]]> Sun, 10 Jun 2018 16:30:44 GMT 13:22 5b1d4d72d276ba4e4066b792 no full 4 5 SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


7 WARNING SIGNS AND WAKE-UP CALLS THAT YOUR PARTNER MAY BE MORE THAN SELFISH


You excuse. You rationalize. You justify. And, repeat. You think that if you are more understanding, loving, compassionate, or giving then the demands will stop. Not if you're with a Hijackal®! That's why it's so important to know if that's the case.


And, I've written a free ebook for you to find out. How To Spot A Hijackal. Get it HERE.


Having someone in your life who demands to be the center of attention is exhausting. Even if you just give in and let them have the limelight, you cannot help but have some resentment brewing within, and that's exhausting.


In today's episode, I'm talking about verbal signs. In fact, I've given you seven things that a MORE THAN SELFISH person will say often, or at least, seem to be saying--or behaving--all the time. And, you don't want to hear them. It makes you scream inside...if not outside, occasionally. And, that's taking a toll on you.


Notice what you are feeling when you hear those seven things.


  • Do these selfish attitudes pop up often in your relationship with this MORE THAN SELFISH person?
  • If it was/is a parent, can you recognize how this diminished you over the years?
  • If it is your partner, do you feel less than, neglected, and screaming "What about me?" in your head?
  • Is it a friend who always brings the conversation back to what's up with them?
  • Are you too used to living with the drama and now recognize a need for change?
  • Do you drag my feel about changing your relationship because it all seems so difficult, distressing, and uncertain?


If you need help with this, I'm here for you. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.


Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule a free consultation HERE.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Join my Closed Facebook group HERE to ask your questions, get validation and support.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


7 WARNING SIGNS AND WAKE-UP CALLS THAT YOUR PARTNER MAY BE MORE THAN SELFISH


You excuse. You rationalize. You justify. And, repeat. You think that if you are more understanding, loving, compassionate, or giving then the demands will stop. Not if you're with a Hijackal®! That's why it's so important to know if that's the case.


And, I've written a free ebook for you to find out. How To Spot A Hijackal. Get it HERE.


Having someone in your life who demands to be the center of attention is exhausting. Even if you just give in and let them have the limelight, you cannot help but have some resentment brewing within, and that's exhausting.


In today's episode, I'm talking about verbal signs. In fact, I've given you seven things that a MORE THAN SELFISH person will say often, or at least, seem to be saying--or behaving--all the time. And, you don't want to hear them. It makes you scream inside...if not outside, occasionally. And, that's taking a toll on you.


Notice what you are feeling when you hear those seven things.


  • Do these selfish attitudes pop up often in your relationship with this MORE THAN SELFISH person?
  • If it was/is a parent, can you recognize how this diminished you over the years?
  • If it is your partner, do you feel less than, neglected, and screaming "What about me?" in your head?
  • Is it a friend who always brings the conversation back to what's up with them?
  • Are you too used to living with the drama and now recognize a need for change?
  • Do you drag my feel about changing your relationship because it all seems so difficult, distressing, and uncertain?


If you need help with this, I'm here for you. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.


Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule a free consultation HERE.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Join my Closed Facebook group HERE to ask your questions, get validation and support.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[4 Sneaky Signs That Mean Long-Term Relationship Trouble]]> Sat, 02 Jun 2018 18:34:34 GMT 16:29 5b12df59267a45f42d316224 no full 4 4 SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


4 SNEAKY SIGNS THAT MEAN LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIP TROUBLE


Something is wrong. It's off. It's sideways. You may not be able to put your finger on it, so let me help.


You may be used to these things, and that's not a good thing! How did you get used to them? Maybe, a parent did them and you learned these ways so early on that, even though you hate it, you accept it.


Time to change that. Once you really understand these four things, and TRULY ACCEPT that you cannot change them in the other person, then your life can improve by leaps and bounds. Yes, if you've been in the relationship for a long time, it might get nastier and messier for a while before it improves. Hijackals® don't like to be actually seen! They don't respond well to it.


You know about Hijackals®, those relentlessly difficult, toxic, disturbing--and often dangerous--people we talk about here on Save Your Sanity. These four things are almost in their DNA: they will do them. They may do them actively and openly, or they may be covert and underhanded, but they'll do them.


Once you see these four signs, and actually believe that you cannot change them, you'll begin to go and grow in a healthier direction. Sure, it may not be easy at first, but it will get so much better. I promise.


Red flags? They are everywhere, but when you're wearing rose-colored glasses, those red flags are very hard to see. It takes real strength to whip those glasses off, once and for all. You'll see clearly, even though you may not like what you see. That's the beginning of coming into your own, to empowering yourself to stand strong.


In today's episode, I'm sharing four big signs that, once you let yourself see them for what they are, you will not be able to unsee them...unless, of course, you slip into denial and allow yourself to keep on being demeaned, discounted and distressed. You won't do that, will you?


Think about these four signs in today's podcast. How many are present within you, or within in your relationship with the others. How's that working for you? Whether that's your partner, ex, mother, father, friend, or co-worker, you want to understand what's really going on. And, when you're being hurt, you want to see clearly, stand up for yourself, and say "No more!"


Notice what you are feeling. Ask yourself these questions after you listen:


  • Am I letting these behaviors go unchecked in my relationship?
  • Did a parent treat me this way, so demeaning behavior somehow feels "normal?"
  • If someone always has to win and it isn't me, am I willing to allow this to carry on?
  • Have I been in denial about this because I don't know what my next best steps are?
  • Do I drag my feel about changing my relationship because it all seems so difficult, distressing, and uncertain?


Start with yourself. If you need help with this, I'm here for you. I've done a few videos on my YouTube channel to help you learn more. Subscribe to it HERE.


You can make it stop. Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule a free consultation HERE.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Join my Closed Facebook group HERE to ask your questions, get validation and support.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


4 SNEAKY SIGNS THAT MEAN LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIP TROUBLE


Something is wrong. It's off. It's sideways. You may not be able to put your finger on it, so let me help.


You may be used to these things, and that's not a good thing! How did you get used to them? Maybe, a parent did them and you learned these ways so early on that, even though you hate it, you accept it.


Time to change that. Once you really understand these four things, and TRULY ACCEPT that you cannot change them in the other person, then your life can improve by leaps and bounds. Yes, if you've been in the relationship for a long time, it might get nastier and messier for a while before it improves. Hijackals® don't like to be actually seen! They don't respond well to it.


You know about Hijackals®, those relentlessly difficult, toxic, disturbing--and often dangerous--people we talk about here on Save Your Sanity. These four things are almost in their DNA: they will do them. They may do them actively and openly, or they may be covert and underhanded, but they'll do them.


Once you see these four signs, and actually believe that you cannot change them, you'll begin to go and grow in a healthier direction. Sure, it may not be easy at first, but it will get so much better. I promise.


Red flags? They are everywhere, but when you're wearing rose-colored glasses, those red flags are very hard to see. It takes real strength to whip those glasses off, once and for all. You'll see clearly, even though you may not like what you see. That's the beginning of coming into your own, to empowering yourself to stand strong.


In today's episode, I'm sharing four big signs that, once you let yourself see them for what they are, you will not be able to unsee them...unless, of course, you slip into denial and allow yourself to keep on being demeaned, discounted and distressed. You won't do that, will you?


Think about these four signs in today's podcast. How many are present within you, or within in your relationship with the others. How's that working for you? Whether that's your partner, ex, mother, father, friend, or co-worker, you want to understand what's really going on. And, when you're being hurt, you want to see clearly, stand up for yourself, and say "No more!"


Notice what you are feeling. Ask yourself these questions after you listen:


  • Am I letting these behaviors go unchecked in my relationship?
  • Did a parent treat me this way, so demeaning behavior somehow feels "normal?"
  • If someone always has to win and it isn't me, am I willing to allow this to carry on?
  • Have I been in denial about this because I don't know what my next best steps are?
  • Do I drag my feel about changing my relationship because it all seems so difficult, distressing, and uncertain?


Start with yourself. If you need help with this, I'm here for you. I've done a few videos on my YouTube channel to help you learn more. Subscribe to it HERE.


You can make it stop. Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule a free consultation HERE.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Join my Closed Facebook group HERE to ask your questions, get validation and support.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[12 Things Passive-Aggressive People ALWAYS Do, But Don't Often Realize]]> Sun, 27 May 2018 18:15:12 GMT 19:32 5b0af1c54bc8e06813c78696 no full 4 3 SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


12 THINGS PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE PEOPLE ALWAYS DO, BUT DON'T OFTEN REALIZE.


You want to be seen, know, loved, and valued. Of course, you do. Yet, you may be afraid to really enter into relationships. One way people think protects them from intimacy is to adopt passive-aggressive behaviors.


You push people away with passive-aggressive behaviors, right when you're longing for them to come closer. The good news is that you can change. And, if the passive-aggressive behaviors belong to someone else, you can learn how to recognize what's going on and make some changes. That's what today's podcast is all about.


You know about Hijackals®, those relentlessly difficult, toxic, disturbing--and often dangerous--people we talk about here on Save Your Sanity. Well, all Hijackals are passive-aggressive, but not all passive-aggressive people are Hijackals. That's good news, because you might have been thinking otherwise.


In today's episode, I'm sharing twelve things--twelve infuriating things--that passive-aggressive people do that can drive others crazy. And, unfortunately, can drive them away.


I mentioned my free PassiveAggressiveChecklist.com site, where you can dive deeply into learning more about yourself or that person whose crazy-making behaviors are causing you to wonder if you want to be around them. Understanding what is passive-aggressive, and what is not is the best place to start. The Checklist is in-depth. In fact, it has two parts. When you complete the first and you recognize you need to know more, the checklist generates a second checklist for you to complete. It's a really effective learning tool.


Think about these twelve things in today's podcast. How many are present within you, or within in your relationship with the others. How's that working for you? Whether that's your partner, ex, mother, father, friend, or co-worker, you want to understand what's really going on.


Notice what you are feeling. Ask yourself these questions after you listen:


  • Do I ever behave in any of these ways?
  • How do I currently respond when others behave like this?
  • Is it serving me? Is it serving them?
  • Am I completely kind and honest in my communications?
  • Do I tell the truth--again kindly and honestly--when asked for my opinion, or whether or not I'll do something?
  • Do I drag my feet once I've agreed to do something? Does someone I care about?
  • How can I release my own passive-aggressive tendencies?


Start with yourself. Then, learn to manage passive-aggressive behaviors and relationships. I've done a few videos on my YouTube channel to help you learn more. Subscribe to it HERE.


You can make it stop. Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule a free consultation HERE.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Join my Closed Facebook group HERE to ask your questions, get validation and support.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


12 THINGS PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE PEOPLE ALWAYS DO, BUT DON'T OFTEN REALIZE.


You want to be seen, know, loved, and valued. Of course, you do. Yet, you may be afraid to really enter into relationships. One way people think protects them from intimacy is to adopt passive-aggressive behaviors.


You push people away with passive-aggressive behaviors, right when you're longing for them to come closer. The good news is that you can change. And, if the passive-aggressive behaviors belong to someone else, you can learn how to recognize what's going on and make some changes. That's what today's podcast is all about.


You know about Hijackals®, those relentlessly difficult, toxic, disturbing--and often dangerous--people we talk about here on Save Your Sanity. Well, all Hijackals are passive-aggressive, but not all passive-aggressive people are Hijackals. That's good news, because you might have been thinking otherwise.


In today's episode, I'm sharing twelve things--twelve infuriating things--that passive-aggressive people do that can drive others crazy. And, unfortunately, can drive them away.


I mentioned my free PassiveAggressiveChecklist.com site, where you can dive deeply into learning more about yourself or that person whose crazy-making behaviors are causing you to wonder if you want to be around them. Understanding what is passive-aggressive, and what is not is the best place to start. The Checklist is in-depth. In fact, it has two parts. When you complete the first and you recognize you need to know more, the checklist generates a second checklist for you to complete. It's a really effective learning tool.


Think about these twelve things in today's podcast. How many are present within you, or within in your relationship with the others. How's that working for you? Whether that's your partner, ex, mother, father, friend, or co-worker, you want to understand what's really going on.


Notice what you are feeling. Ask yourself these questions after you listen:


  • Do I ever behave in any of these ways?
  • How do I currently respond when others behave like this?
  • Is it serving me? Is it serving them?
  • Am I completely kind and honest in my communications?
  • Do I tell the truth--again kindly and honestly--when asked for my opinion, or whether or not I'll do something?
  • Do I drag my feet once I've agreed to do something? Does someone I care about?
  • How can I release my own passive-aggressive tendencies?


Start with yourself. Then, learn to manage passive-aggressive behaviors and relationships. I've done a few videos on my YouTube channel to help you learn more. Subscribe to it HERE.


You can make it stop. Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule a free consultation HERE.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Join my Closed Facebook group HERE to ask your questions, get validation and support.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[12 Signs You Are in a Love/Hate Relationship And Need Help]]> Sat, 19 May 2018 18:36:12 GMT 15:53 5b00687abeb378261e0365df no full 4 2 SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


There is something wrong, something off, in your relationship. You can feel it, and you may not be quite able to put words to it, to describe it to yourself even. Yet, you know it's not right!


Good start! Go with your gut!


Hijackals®, those relentlessly difficult, toxic, disturbing--and often dangerous--people, have "tells." Those are the signs that you need to see as early as possible...even if that happens after you've been with them for ten years. Or, if you were born to them and only see it all now!


In today's episode, I'll help you see how what you thought were the great traits of the person, are NOT what's real about them. Sad, right? You fell in love with Prince or Princess Charming, and now you've got the Prince or Princess of Darkness. So disappointing!


If you're like most people whom Hijackals target, though, you'll do your very best to make excuses for their bad behavior, to rationalize and justify it. You'll dance as fast as you can to do the best you can, and yet, it will never be good enough. When you're with a Hijackal, everything--and I mean everything--will be your fault. Familiar?


These twelve signs are explained in today's podcast. (There are more, and I'll save them for further discussion in other episodes.)


See these twelve signs. Think about these twelve signs. How many are present in your relationship with the Hijackal, whether that's your partner, ex, mother, father, friend, co-worker?


Notice what you are feeling. Ask yourself these questions after you listen:


  • What makes me want to believe what they say?
  • Why do I not trust my gut, my intuition?
  • Do I ever really get a straight answer from the Hijackal?
  • Am I always backing down or apologizing?
  • Do I ever feel safe in my relationship with them?
  • Am I always feeling discounted, blamed, or worse, degraded?
  • Do they care what I think or how I feel?
  • Why do I think it's my job to please them?


These answers will lead you to a more healthy, balanced place now that you've heard the twelve signs in today's podcast.


You can make it stop. Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule a free consultation HERE.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Join my Closed Facebook group HERE to ask your questions, get validation and support.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


There is something wrong, something off, in your relationship. You can feel it, and you may not be quite able to put words to it, to describe it to yourself even. Yet, you know it's not right!


Good start! Go with your gut!


Hijackals®, those relentlessly difficult, toxic, disturbing--and often dangerous--people, have "tells." Those are the signs that you need to see as early as possible...even if that happens after you've been with them for ten years. Or, if you were born to them and only see it all now!


In today's episode, I'll help you see how what you thought were the great traits of the person, are NOT what's real about them. Sad, right? You fell in love with Prince or Princess Charming, and now you've got the Prince or Princess of Darkness. So disappointing!


If you're like most people whom Hijackals target, though, you'll do your very best to make excuses for their bad behavior, to rationalize and justify it. You'll dance as fast as you can to do the best you can, and yet, it will never be good enough. When you're with a Hijackal, everything--and I mean everything--will be your fault. Familiar?


These twelve signs are explained in today's podcast. (There are more, and I'll save them for further discussion in other episodes.)


See these twelve signs. Think about these twelve signs. How many are present in your relationship with the Hijackal, whether that's your partner, ex, mother, father, friend, co-worker?


Notice what you are feeling. Ask yourself these questions after you listen:


  • What makes me want to believe what they say?
  • Why do I not trust my gut, my intuition?
  • Do I ever really get a straight answer from the Hijackal?
  • Am I always backing down or apologizing?
  • Do I ever feel safe in my relationship with them?
  • Am I always feeling discounted, blamed, or worse, degraded?
  • Do they care what I think or how I feel?
  • Why do I think it's my job to please them?


These answers will lead you to a more healthy, balanced place now that you've heard the twelve signs in today's podcast.


You can make it stop. Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule a free consultation HERE.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Join my Closed Facebook group HERE to ask your questions, get validation and support.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[6 Subtle Signs You're Being Manipulated and How To Stop It]]> Sun, 13 May 2018 04:46:08 GMT 17:31 5af7c34f73a893c525f84adb no full 4 1 SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


Don't you just hate it when you feel manipulated? That's what happens far too often when you have a Hijackal in your life. And, you hope for better, but nothing really seems to change.


Today, I'm talking about six subtle signs to watch for, signs that you are being manipulated. They're tricky to spot because...well...you're not a Hijackal! You don't think that way. So, they are important to know about.


People who MUST manipulate do it because that's the only way they know to survive. Unfortunately, you are expected to accept it, settle for it, and allow it.


In today's episode, I hope you'll see that you have the right--and the responsibility--to step up and speak up. You know, though, that that often leads to arguments, threats, and, far too often--the silent treatment. So, do the work I'm talking about in this episode first, within yourself.


See these six signs. Then, notice what you can do to make it stop. These are things for you to change within yourself, not creating change in the Hijackal. That doesn't often happen. So, do these things to SAVE YOUR SANITY!


  1. Stop wanting their approval.
  2. Stop being addicted to their drama.
  3. Stop living up to their expectations
  4. Stop letting your boundaries slip.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


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Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

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Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


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#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


Don't you just hate it when you feel manipulated? That's what happens far too often when you have a Hijackal in your life. And, you hope for better, but nothing really seems to change.


Today, I'm talking about six subtle signs to watch for, signs that you are being manipulated. They're tricky to spot because...well...you're not a Hijackal! You don't think that way. So, they are important to know about.


People who MUST manipulate do it because that's the only way they know to survive. Unfortunately, you are expected to accept it, settle for it, and allow it.


In today's episode, I hope you'll see that you have the right--and the responsibility--to step up and speak up. You know, though, that that often leads to arguments, threats, and, far too often--the silent treatment. So, do the work I'm talking about in this episode first, within yourself.


See these six signs. Then, notice what you can do to make it stop. These are things for you to change within yourself, not creating change in the Hijackal. That doesn't often happen. So, do these things to SAVE YOUR SANITY!


  1. Stop wanting their approval.
  2. Stop being addicted to their drama.
  3. Stop living up to their expectations
  4. Stop letting your boundaries slip.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[Dating Red Flags to Watch For]]> Fri, 30 Mar 2018 15:04:22 GMT 9:03 no full Sometimes they are hard to see... they don't really look red, or they're not very big... But don't ignore them. This quick episode will identify major red flags you NEED to pay attention to.



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#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Sometimes they are hard to see... they don't really look red, or they're not very big... But don't ignore them. This quick episode will identify major red flags you NEED to pay attention to.



Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[Raised by a Hijackal, a Toxic, Difficult, Even Narcissistic Parent?]]> Tue, 27 Mar 2018 13:00:00 GMT 10:52 5aeac0f5840b09bc32989915 no full 3 371 SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


Today. I talk about what happens if you're raised by a toxic, difficult person. What are some of the things that you might look at within yourself and:


  • the way your life is going
  • the way your relationships are going
  • the way you feel about yourself
  • the way you expand or contract in the world


That might have its basis in being raised by a difficult toxic parent somewhere deep down inside yourself.


You know you're not quite fine. You might say you are, but you know you're not and maybe you can't even put your finger on how you know you're not. So I wanted to offer some things today that might help you understand that. Deep down in there, there are some beliefs. I'm going to talk about five of them that you might just examined and see if they're true for you.


This can help you understand what a horrible gift your Hijackal parent gave you.


I created the term, Hijackals, for those people who hijack relationships for their own purposes and then scavenge them for power, status and control. A lot of parents fall into that category, so these might be good for you to work through and replace because they're mistaken beliefs about yourself. They were about the Hijackal, not about you.


Your brain grows until you're in your mid twenties, but by then, you're on a path and you may not even take time to examine what has happened to you. You think "It's just what I do," "It's just where I'm going and with whom," and you don't really recognize the impact of all that happened from the time your brain started developing, and that's huge.


Particularly what happened to us in the first two, three years of life makes a huge difference!


So think about these:

  • What was going on in your house before you even had language?
  • Who was there?
  • Were they happy you were?
  • Were they annoyed by your presence?

You were there, a baby experiencing life by putting everything in your mouth, exploring everything you could touch and trying to make those giants whom you needed to keep you alive, interested and happy. You smiled and you laughed and you made encouraging noises, trying to attract them. That didn't work.


So you cried and they responded, but how did your parents respond?

  • Were they loving?
  • Did they come in time?
  • Were they happy?
  • Were they warm?
  • Were they concerned about you or did they give you a feeling that you were a nuisance?
  • Did you feel like you should make yourself small, not take up space?


These things make a big difference in how you feel about yourself as an adult, AND how you are able to create healthy relationships.


So many beliefs you may have about yourself now, as an adult, that stem from how your Hijackal parent treated you in your early life, long before you had language. That really matters!


I encourage you to spend time and reflect on this episode, and how it played out in your own life. If your parent is judgmental, critical, and competitive, it will ring true!


And, I invite you to read my free ebook, How to Spot a Hijackal, at Hijackals.com and find out. If s/he is a HIjackal, you need more strategies and insights and they're there for you.


If you need help with this, I'm here for you. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.


Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial consultation HERE for only $97.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


Today. I talk about what happens if you're raised by a toxic, difficult person. What are some of the things that you might look at within yourself and:


  • the way your life is going
  • the way your relationships are going
  • the way you feel about yourself
  • the way you expand or contract in the world


That might have its basis in being raised by a difficult toxic parent somewhere deep down inside yourself.


You know you're not quite fine. You might say you are, but you know you're not and maybe you can't even put your finger on how you know you're not. So I wanted to offer some things today that might help you understand that. Deep down in there, there are some beliefs. I'm going to talk about five of them that you might just examined and see if they're true for you.


This can help you understand what a horrible gift your Hijackal parent gave you.


I created the term, Hijackals, for those people who hijack relationships for their own purposes and then scavenge them for power, status and control. A lot of parents fall into that category, so these might be good for you to work through and replace because they're mistaken beliefs about yourself. They were about the Hijackal, not about you.


Your brain grows until you're in your mid twenties, but by then, you're on a path and you may not even take time to examine what has happened to you. You think "It's just what I do," "It's just where I'm going and with whom," and you don't really recognize the impact of all that happened from the time your brain started developing, and that's huge.


Particularly what happened to us in the first two, three years of life makes a huge difference!


So think about these:

  • What was going on in your house before you even had language?
  • Who was there?
  • Were they happy you were?
  • Were they annoyed by your presence?

You were there, a baby experiencing life by putting everything in your mouth, exploring everything you could touch and trying to make those giants whom you needed to keep you alive, interested and happy. You smiled and you laughed and you made encouraging noises, trying to attract them. That didn't work.


So you cried and they responded, but how did your parents respond?

  • Were they loving?
  • Did they come in time?
  • Were they happy?
  • Were they warm?
  • Were they concerned about you or did they give you a feeling that you were a nuisance?
  • Did you feel like you should make yourself small, not take up space?


These things make a big difference in how you feel about yourself as an adult, AND how you are able to create healthy relationships.


So many beliefs you may have about yourself now, as an adult, that stem from how your Hijackal parent treated you in your early life, long before you had language. That really matters!


I encourage you to spend time and reflect on this episode, and how it played out in your own life. If your parent is judgmental, critical, and competitive, it will ring true!


And, I invite you to read my free ebook, How to Spot a Hijackal, at Hijackals.com and find out. If s/he is a HIjackal, you need more strategies and insights and they're there for you.


If you need help with this, I'm here for you. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.


Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial consultation HERE for only $97.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[Divorcing a Hijackal® Tips]]> Fri, 23 Mar 2018 16:50:53 GMT 10:03 no full Aside from the co-parenting, there are other details its important to say mindful and aware of when divorcing a Hijackal and you share children. Protecting your children's emotional and mental health needs to be top of the list in this process.


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#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Aside from the co-parenting, there are other details its important to say mindful and aware of when divorcing a Hijackal and you share children. Protecting your children's emotional and mental health needs to be top of the list in this process.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

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Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


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#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[Kids & Hijackal® Parents]]> Fri, 23 Mar 2018 16:47:12 GMT 10:52 no full What You Need To Do For Your Kids When Co-Parenting With A Hijackal® Ex


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What You Need To Do For Your Kids When Co-Parenting With A Hijackal® Ex


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<![CDATA[Q & A Should I take my Hijackal partner back again?]]> Wed, 21 Mar 2018 01:00:00 GMT 5:42 5aeac0c3066512202d2ea31d no full 3 361 <![CDATA[How to Stop Second-Guessing Yourself]]> Wed, 14 Mar 2018 01:00:00 GMT 8:00 5aeac074066512202d2ea31c no full 3 352



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#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[What is Passive-Aggressive Behavior, Really?]]> Wed, 14 Mar 2018 01:00:00 GMT 6:45 5aeac051840b09bc32989914 no full 3 351

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<![CDATA[Finding Clarity in the Midst of Hijackal® Chaos]]> Sun, 11 Mar 2018 19:19:33 GMT 11:47 no full Recognizing when a Hijackal is trying to control you - especially when you feel like it's "normal" - is an important skill to getting your personal power and sense of self BACK. This archive audio is from Dr. Shaler's Dec 12/2016 Facebook Live video - which you can also watch here: https://www.facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor/videos/1108716749241004/


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#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Recognizing when a Hijackal is trying to control you - especially when you feel like it's "normal" - is an important skill to getting your personal power and sense of self BACK. This archive audio is from Dr. Shaler's Dec 12/2016 Facebook Live video - which you can also watch here: https://www.facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor/videos/1108716749241004/


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


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<![CDATA[Dr. Shaler How Can I Learn to Trust ? Part 2]]> Wed, 07 Mar 2018 02:00:00 GMT 8:01 5aeabf65066512202d2ea31b no full 3 341


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<![CDATA[Divorcing a Hijackal® Tips]]> Mon, 05 Mar 2018 18:20:52 GMT 9:54 no full There are big, sometimes scary and nerve-wracking, steps involved in divorcing anyone. Going through that opposite a Hijackal can be even more treacherous. You need to have all the information... and all the strategies... at your fingertips. Watch for more installments of this feature.


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There are big, sometimes scary and nerve-wracking, steps involved in divorcing anyone. Going through that opposite a Hijackal can be even more treacherous. You need to have all the information... and all the strategies... at your fingertips. Watch for more installments of this feature.


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<![CDATA[Q&A How to reduce the conflict and craziness]]> Wed, 28 Feb 2018 02:00:00 GMT 8:02 5aeabeba066512202d2ea31a no full


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<![CDATA[How Can I Learn to Trust? - Part 1]]> Tue, 27 Feb 2018 14:00:00 GMT 4:56 5aeabf0d0f406bec7378320a no full 3 332


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<![CDATA[Q&A I've ended my relationship, now what?]]> Wed, 21 Feb 2018 02:00:00 GMT 9:59 5aeabe5a066512202d2ea319 no full


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<![CDATA[Why am I afraid of my husband's anger, I'm walking on eggshells still ]]> Wed, 07 Feb 2018 02:00:00 GMT 11:12 5aeabdde840b09bc32989913 no full


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Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

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<![CDATA[Propinquity ]]> Wed, 07 Feb 2018 02:00:00 GMT 10:41 5aeabda2f2fb72ce3c9b21e7 no full 3 301


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Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

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#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[When work becomes a place you want to avoid]]> Wed, 31 Jan 2018 02:00:00 GMT 11:21 5aeabd4a840b09bc32989912 no full


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Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

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<![CDATA[How To Handle Bullies At Work]]> Wed, 31 Jan 2018 02:00:00 GMT 12:17 5aeabc9d840b09bc32989911 no full 3 291


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Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

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<![CDATA[5 Ways to Recognize Passive-Aggressive Behavior ]]> Wed, 17 Jan 2018 02:15:00 GMT 10:48 5ae8a6b6840b09bc329898ba no full 3 271 Today's Save Your Sanity Podcast: Help for Handling Hijackals®

from Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


Passive-aggressive behavior is frustrating, infuriating, and frankly...unfair! And, it's sneaky! In fact, so sneaky that you're often caught up in thinking that it actually makes some sense...at first, or for a while. Then, it dawns on you: Something's not right with this but I can't quite put my finger on it.


So, today, Dr. Shaler offers you five ways that passive-aggressive behavior shows up. You can then recognize it more easily. BUT, it's never very helpful to tell another person that their behavior is passive-aggressive. It's highly unlikely to get you anywhere good. Learn why.


Listen to this short podcast and learn how to listen for passive-aggressive stuff coming at you, and well as from you. It can be tricky!


Oh, Dr. Shaler has also written two books to give you even more insights, strategies, and skills:


Stop! That's Crazy-Making! How to Quit Playing the Passive-Aggressive Game


The Hijackal Trap: The Hidden Anger of Passive-Aggression


Available at Amazon along with her other books.


TAKE DR. SHALER'S FREE PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE CHECKLIST HERE! Find out what's up for sure.


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#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Today's Save Your Sanity Podcast: Help for Handling Hijackals®

from Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


Passive-aggressive behavior is frustrating, infuriating, and frankly...unfair! And, it's sneaky! In fact, so sneaky that you're often caught up in thinking that it actually makes some sense...at first, or for a while. Then, it dawns on you: Something's not right with this but I can't quite put my finger on it.


So, today, Dr. Shaler offers you five ways that passive-aggressive behavior shows up. You can then recognize it more easily. BUT, it's never very helpful to tell another person that their behavior is passive-aggressive. It's highly unlikely to get you anywhere good. Learn why.


Listen to this short podcast and learn how to listen for passive-aggressive stuff coming at you, and well as from you. It can be tricky!


Oh, Dr. Shaler has also written two books to give you even more insights, strategies, and skills:


Stop! That's Crazy-Making! How to Quit Playing the Passive-Aggressive Game


The Hijackal Trap: The Hidden Anger of Passive-Aggression


Available at Amazon along with her other books.


TAKE DR. SHALER'S FREE PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE CHECKLIST HERE! Find out what's up for sure.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[Drama: Who needs it??]]> Tue, 16 Jan 2018 23:07:01 GMT 7:15 no full Accepting responsibility for allowing drama to continue in your life is the first step to putting an END to it. The patterns and persistence of drama and manipulation in a relationship are not hard to spot. What can be hard is deciding where your boundary is, and holding it strong. Listen in and learn about expressing your boundaries in effective ways.


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CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

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#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Accepting responsibility for allowing drama to continue in your life is the first step to putting an END to it. The patterns and persistence of drama and manipulation in a relationship are not hard to spot. What can be hard is deciding where your boundary is, and holding it strong. Listen in and learn about expressing your boundaries in effective ways.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

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Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[Adult Hijackal Child Blaming & Shunning ]]> Tue, 16 Jan 2018 08:36:00 GMT 15:53 5aeabc500f406bec73783209 no full 3 272


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Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

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#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[Verbal Abuse: More common than you think]]> Sun, 14 Jan 2018 21:41:12 GMT 9:58 no full Where is the line between simply being strict or rigid, and being abusive? It can be a very fuzzy line, and it's important to be able to recognize it so you can protect yourself from it. And if you've already experienced it, taking your life back from it. Abuse is about power. In all instances. It's not ok.


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#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Where is the line between simply being strict or rigid, and being abusive? It can be a very fuzzy line, and it's important to be able to recognize it so you can protect yourself from it. And if you've already experienced it, taking your life back from it. Abuse is about power. In all instances. It's not ok.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

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Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


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#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[Are You In A Relationship That is Comfortably Uncomfortable?]]> Wed, 10 Jan 2018 02:15:00 GMT 9:40 5ae564876cc266e9455967aa no full 3 262 Today's Save Your Sanity Podcast: Help for Handling Hijackals®

from Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


Is your relationship bringing you love, safety, trust, respect, and emotional intimacy? Or, has it become one that goes along all right as long as you both walk on eggshells? Is it somewhere in the middle?


What's going on? It could be that one or both of you have been set up to settle for a "comfortably uncomfortable" relationship. You need to think about this. Settling is not the best descriptor for a satisfying relationship.


Dr. Shaler gives you insights into why you may not yet be having the relationship you most want, together. And, gives steps you can take to move in a better direction.


TAKE DR. SHALER'S FREE RELATIONSHIP CHECKLIST HERE.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Today's Save Your Sanity Podcast: Help for Handling Hijackals®

from Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


Is your relationship bringing you love, safety, trust, respect, and emotional intimacy? Or, has it become one that goes along all right as long as you both walk on eggshells? Is it somewhere in the middle?


What's going on? It could be that one or both of you have been set up to settle for a "comfortably uncomfortable" relationship. You need to think about this. Settling is not the best descriptor for a satisfying relationship.


Dr. Shaler gives you insights into why you may not yet be having the relationship you most want, together. And, gives steps you can take to move in a better direction.


TAKE DR. SHALER'S FREE RELATIONSHIP CHECKLIST HERE.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[Q&A One day is good. The next is a nightmare. ]]> Wed, 10 Jan 2018 02:00:00 GMT 10:03 5ae5645ecd7788d4792db679 no full 3 261 Today's Save Your Sanity Podcast: Help for Handling Hijackals®

from Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


When you are in a difficult relationship, you can certainly have more ups and downs than are comfortable. Those roller coasters can take so much energy that you're exhausted.


Dr. Shaler answers a reader's question about a roller coaster relationship. Good relationship advice.


If you have a question that you would like her to answer on air for you, you are welcome to submit it using THIS LINK.


Enjoy Dr. Shaler's YouTube channel: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Today's Save Your Sanity Podcast: Help for Handling Hijackals®

from Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


When you are in a difficult relationship, you can certainly have more ups and downs than are comfortable. Those roller coasters can take so much energy that you're exhausted.


Dr. Shaler answers a reader's question about a roller coaster relationship. Good relationship advice.


If you have a question that you would like her to answer on air for you, you are welcome to submit it using THIS LINK.


Enjoy Dr. Shaler's YouTube channel: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA["It Happened To Me" - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler's story]]> Wed, 03 Jan 2018 02:15:00 GMT 8:54 5ae563fd928bf5cf7926bc48 no full 3 252 Today's Save Your Sanity Podcast: Help for Handling Hijackals®

from Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


"It Happened To Me" is a feature of the Save Your Sanity podcast. Guests tell their real life stories of life with Hijackals. Whether they loved on, lived with one, left one, or were raised by one, you'll relate to their experiences, and hear how they found ways to move positively forward.


Today, it's Dr. Shaler's own story.


Would you like to come on air and tell your "It Happened To Me" story? I'd love to have you as my guest. Use this guest form: ForRelationshipHelp.com/guests


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Today's Save Your Sanity Podcast: Help for Handling Hijackals®

from Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


"It Happened To Me" is a feature of the Save Your Sanity podcast. Guests tell their real life stories of life with Hijackals. Whether they loved on, lived with one, left one, or were raised by one, you'll relate to their experiences, and hear how they found ways to move positively forward.


Today, it's Dr. Shaler's own story.


Would you like to come on air and tell your "It Happened To Me" story? I'd love to have you as my guest. Use this guest form: ForRelationshipHelp.com/guests


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[Unresolved Conflict is Organizational Bloodletting]]> Wed, 03 Jan 2018 02:00:00 GMT 9:15 5ae56337928bf5cf7926bc47 no full 3 251 Today's Save Your Sanity Podcast: Help for Handling Hijackals®

from Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


Have you ever wanted to stay home from work to avoid someone, or to not have to deal with conflicts? You are not alone. Stress in the workplace caused by unresolved conflicts takes a large toll on everyone. It's exhausting.


Dr. Shaler discusses conflict in the workplace, and why it is essential to address it. Of course, having the right communication and conflict management strategies is important. That's why training is valuable. Too many businesses and companies could do a better job of offering this kind of help to their people.


What happens when conflict continues? That's the subject of today's podcast...and what happens when it's not addressed.


Want skills and strategies right away?

Buy your copy of Wrestling Rhinos: Conquering Conflict in the Wilds of Work now from Amazon HERE

Valuable chapters on communication, conflict, negotiation, anger management, and more.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Today's Save Your Sanity Podcast: Help for Handling Hijackals®

from Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor


Have you ever wanted to stay home from work to avoid someone, or to not have to deal with conflicts? You are not alone. Stress in the workplace caused by unresolved conflicts takes a large toll on everyone. It's exhausting.


Dr. Shaler discusses conflict in the workplace, and why it is essential to address it. Of course, having the right communication and conflict management strategies is important. That's why training is valuable. Too many businesses and companies could do a better job of offering this kind of help to their people.


What happens when conflict continues? That's the subject of today's podcast...and what happens when it's not addressed.


Want skills and strategies right away?

Buy your copy of Wrestling Rhinos: Conquering Conflict in the Wilds of Work now from Amazon HERE

Valuable chapters on communication, conflict, negotiation, anger management, and more.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[Boundaries. Got any?]]> Sun, 31 Dec 2017 02:39:34 GMT 6:57 no full Boundaries are what keep us feeling safe, secure, protected, in control of our own lives. When you give up your boundaries because you are in relationship with a person who does not respect them, you leave yourself open to a world of potential pain. In this segment we discuss how and why we end up giving up boundaries, and what we need to do to reset and STICK to them.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Boundaries are what keep us feeling safe, secure, protected, in control of our own lives. When you give up your boundaries because you are in relationship with a person who does not respect them, you leave yourself open to a world of potential pain. In this segment we discuss how and why we end up giving up boundaries, and what we need to do to reset and STICK to them.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[Recognize Verbal Abuse Now]]> Wed, 27 Dec 2017 02:45:00 GMT 12:58 5ae562ea928bf5cf7926bc46 no full 2 244


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[Q&A My mother is always finding fault. ]]> Wed, 27 Dec 2017 02:30:00 GMT 9:11 5ae562c66cc266e9455967a9 no full 2 243


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[Love-Bombing - Not As Desireable As It Sounds]]> Wed, 27 Dec 2017 02:00:00 GMT 12:00 5ae5628fcd7788d4792db678 no full 2 242


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[12 Signs You Are In A Love-Hate Relationship]]> Wed, 27 Dec 2017 02:00:00 GMT 14:58 5ae5626bcd7788d4792db677 no full 2 241


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[Spirituality, Hijackals & You]]> Wed, 27 Dec 2017 02:00:00 GMT 9:15 5ae4eb4bf3d04dea45b263b3 no full 2 231


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[Should I Stay or Should I Go?]]> Thu, 21 Dec 2017 01:14:10 GMT 7:27 no full Big question. Knowing the answer takes a whole lot of thinking…unless, of course, there is physical or sexual abuse.


Then, there is only one answer: GO. Go to the police. Go to the court. Go to any lengths you need to protect yourself and your children. GO.


For most of you, though, going or staying is not black or white. It’s a whole lot of grey that travels from close to white some days, to too close to black others.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Big question. Knowing the answer takes a whole lot of thinking…unless, of course, there is physical or sexual abuse.


Then, there is only one answer: GO. Go to the police. Go to the court. Go to any lengths you need to protect yourself and your children. GO.


For most of you, though, going or staying is not black or white. It’s a whole lot of grey that travels from close to white some days, to too close to black others.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[Four Scary Reasons Unconditional Love is a Dangerous Myth]]> Wed, 20 Dec 2017 02:00:00 GMT 9:29 5ae56220cd7788d4792db676 no full 2 232


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[What's up with Harvey W?]]> Wed, 20 Dec 2017 00:40:28 GMT 13:48 no full Host, Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, discusses boundaries, narcissism, entitlement and sexual predators with Christine Baumgartner, owner of ThePerfectCatch.com


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Host, Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, discusses boundaries, narcissism, entitlement and sexual predators with Christine Baumgartner, owner of ThePerfectCatch.com


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[Q&A - How do I know what to trust?]]> Mon, 18 Dec 2017 03:31:18 GMT 9:54 no full Questions relating to: Filed for divorce - now what? My Hijackal partner is now, magically, doing everything right, everything that I'd begged for for year. Can I trust these changes??


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Questions relating to: Filed for divorce - now what? My Hijackal partner is now, magically, doing everything right, everything that I'd begged for for year. Can I trust these changes??


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[DIFFICULT or Actually DANGEROUS?]]> Mon, 18 Dec 2017 02:24:31 GMT 12:03 no full Some people are simply difficult - they're passive-aggressive, narcissistic, maybe obnoxious or pandering. Other people are actually dangerous - sociopathic, psychopathic, abusive. It's important to know the difference, and be able to see the signs BEFORE it's too late.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Some people are simply difficult - they're passive-aggressive, narcissistic, maybe obnoxious or pandering. Other people are actually dangerous - sociopathic, psychopathic, abusive. It's important to know the difference, and be able to see the signs BEFORE it's too late.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[Are You Looking for a Fight?]]> Fri, 23 Dec 2016 21:26:48 GMT 7:14 no full Sometimes you're speaking up about something you believe in. Other times, you want to fight and use a topic to make it happen. Can you tell the difference?


Don't be "that person" who is always gunning for an argument, or purposefully trying to get a rise out of their partner. That is bad behavior and totally un-loving.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Sometimes you're speaking up about something you believe in. Other times, you want to fight and use a topic to make it happen. Can you tell the difference?


Don't be "that person" who is always gunning for an argument, or purposefully trying to get a rise out of their partner. That is bad behavior and totally un-loving.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[Recognize a high-conflict person in a relationship]]> Sat, 10 Dec 2016 21:07:15 GMT 7:26 no full High-conflict people - there's always drama but you can't pin it down. Listen to this episode of For Relationship Help and learn the other signs that signal a high-conflict person.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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High-conflict people - there's always drama but you can't pin it down. Listen to this episode of For Relationship Help and learn the other signs that signal a high-conflict person.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[Interview with Patricia Evans of VerbalAbuse.com]]> Mon, 14 Nov 2016 20:08:29 GMT 39:03 no full Are you experiencing verbal abuse in your relationship? Not sure? Listen to this episode of For Relationship Help for an in depth interview with Patricia Evans, a specialist in verbal abuse.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Are you experiencing verbal abuse in your relationship? Not sure? Listen to this episode of For Relationship Help for an in depth interview with Patricia Evans, a specialist in verbal abuse.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[Why Do I Get So Angry?]]> Wed, 09 Nov 2016 13:01:41 GMT 2:21 no full Anger is a challenging feeling AND something you can manage. In ANY relationship, it's super-important to be capable of recognizing and managing your anger while still acknowledging your feelings and getting to the real source of the issue.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Anger is a challenging feeling AND something you can manage. In ANY relationship, it's super-important to be capable of recognizing and managing your anger while still acknowledging your feelings and getting to the real source of the issue.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[Toxic, Corrosive, Explosive Relationships]]> Tue, 08 Nov 2016 17:47:02 GMT 5:15 no full The holidays can be stressful and add pressure to your relationship. In this episode, @CoachLaura Rubinstein, CHt, and @RhobertaShaler, Ph.D., discuss the impact of the holidays and how to continue thriving in your relationship despite it all. There are also some interesting ideas regarding Social Media and powerful messages.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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The holidays can be stressful and add pressure to your relationship. In this episode, @CoachLaura Rubinstein, CHt, and @RhobertaShaler, Ph.D., discuss the impact of the holidays and how to continue thriving in your relationship despite it all. There are also some interesting ideas regarding Social Media and powerful messages.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[How To Stop Blaming]]> Fri, 21 Oct 2016 12:18:20 GMT 7:56 no full Blame can be destructive to your relationships. If you find yourself blaming your partner, listen to this podcast episode with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Blame can be destructive to your relationships. If you find yourself blaming your partner, listen to this podcast episode with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[Q&A Listener questions answered by Rhoberta Shaler, PhD]]> Thu, 20 Oct 2016 12:00:00 GMT 25:00 no full Listeners can submit questions. Rhoberta Shaler, PhD answers many common questions in these videos.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Listeners can submit questions. Rhoberta Shaler, PhD answers many common questions in these videos.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[Is Name-Calling Ever Okay?]]> Tue, 18 Oct 2016 17:14:12 GMT 1:59 no full SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


IS NAME-CALLING EVER OK? EVEN IN AN ARGUMENT?


You lose it.

You're angry, out of control, and maybe, even a little out of your mind.

You want to win.

You want to be heard.

You want to be acknowledged.

You want to feel validated.


So, some words you hate hearing from others come bellowing out of your mouth. Then, all those nasty names from the playground, and maybe sadly from your early life at home, force themselves upon another person.


It feels good. Finally, you told the truth. Finally, you let loose.


PROBLEM: What now? You're calm, and the thrill of thinking "I showed them what was up!" is gone. You know you've damaged the relationship. Now, what?


Name-calling gets you a one-way ticket to regret...if you have much emotional intelligence at all, and you want the relationship to continue.


If you never want to see the person again, and simply don't care, you might be fine for awhile. But, what happens when others hear about your rampage? Is that OK with you?


You know about Hijackals®, those relentlessly difficult, toxic, disturbing--and often dangerous--people we talk about here on Save Your Sanity. They will definitely push you, screaming, right up to the edge. It's up to you whether or not you leap over and have your say in a damaging way.


Is it damaging to the Hijackal? Likely not. That person will soon weaponize it and use it against you.


But, what does it do to your image of yourself? That's what really matters.


Listen to today's episode to see how you're thinking about name-calling, and how it works for--and against--you. And, both can be true whether you're the giver or receiver!


Name-calling. Did you like it as a child? Do you like it coming at you now? Good questions to ask yourself if you're the one who's doing it now.



Want more topics to help you create the life and relationships you most want? I've done a few videos on my YouTube channel to help you learn more. Subscribe to it HERE.


Anger getting the best of you? You can make that stop. Do it because you matter. You want to feel good about the way you handle things.


Anger coming at you from someone else. It's SO not all right for them to be spewing out horrible names at you, either. That has to stop. Unfortunately, that's not something you can stop, but you don't have to stand still for it.


Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule a free consultation HERE.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


Join my Closed Facebook group HERE to ask your questions, get validation and support.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor


IS NAME-CALLING EVER OK? EVEN IN AN ARGUMENT?


You lose it.

You're angry, out of control, and maybe, even a little out of your mind.

You want to win.

You want to be heard.

You want to be acknowledged.

You want to feel validated.


So, some words you hate hearing from others come bellowing out of your mouth. Then, all those nasty names from the playground, and maybe sadly from your early life at home, force themselves upon another person.


It feels good. Finally, you told the truth. Finally, you let loose.


PROBLEM: What now? You're calm, and the thrill of thinking "I showed them what was up!" is gone. You know you've damaged the relationship. Now, what?


Name-calling gets you a one-way ticket to regret...if you have much emotional intelligence at all, and you want the relationship to continue.


If you never want to see the person again, and simply don't care, you might be fine for awhile. But, what happens when others hear about your rampage? Is that OK with you?


You know about Hijackals®, those relentlessly difficult, toxic, disturbing--and often dangerous--people we talk about here on Save Your Sanity. They will definitely push you, screaming, right up to the edge. It's up to you whether or not you leap over and have your say in a damaging way.


Is it damaging to the Hijackal? Likely not. That person will soon weaponize it and use it against you.


But, what does it do to your image of yourself? That's what really matters.


Listen to today's episode to see how you're thinking about name-calling, and how it works for--and against--you. And, both can be true whether you're the giver or receiver!


Name-calling. Did you like it as a child? Do you like it coming at you now? Good questions to ask yourself if you're the one who's doing it now.



Want more topics to help you create the life and relationships you most want? I've done a few videos on my YouTube channel to help you learn more. Subscribe to it HERE.


Anger getting the best of you? You can make that stop. Do it because you matter. You want to feel good about the way you handle things.


Anger coming at you from someone else. It's SO not all right for them to be spewing out horrible names at you, either. That has to stop. Unfortunately, that's not something you can stop, but you don't have to stand still for it.


Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule a free consultation HERE.


I hope this empowers you to make positive changes.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


Join my Closed Facebook group HERE to ask your questions, get validation and support.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


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<![CDATA[Q&A - Will He Ever Commit? ]]> Fri, 14 Oct 2016 12:33:58 GMT 2:23 no full Dr. Shaler talks about the many variables that lead up to the question: to commit, or not. This question comes from a woman in her fifties. No matter how old you are, these variables apply. These insights will help!


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#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Dr. Shaler talks about the many variables that lead up to the question: to commit, or not. This question comes from a woman in her fifties. No matter how old you are, these variables apply. These insights will help!


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[QuickTips - My Boyfriend Dumped Me]]> Wed, 12 Oct 2016 18:57:31 GMT 2:21 no full I know it's almost unbelievable to think that someone could dump you, right? But, that someone is also having thoughts, feelings & experiences, and may have concluded that going on alone is best. Here's are few insights into that.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

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Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


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#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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I know it's almost unbelievable to think that someone could dump you, right? But, that someone is also having thoughts, feelings & experiences, and may have concluded that going on alone is best. Here's are few insights into that.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[Expert interviews - Do Opposites Attract?]]> Mon, 10 Oct 2016 20:59:42 GMT 6:25 no full We aren't talking about magnets - we're talking about human relationships! Check out this great experts interview including me, Rhoberta Shaler, PhD.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


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#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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We aren't talking about magnets - we're talking about human relationships! Check out this great experts interview including me, Rhoberta Shaler, PhD.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[Stop Anger And Aggression From Ending Your Relationship]]> Fri, 07 Oct 2016 20:43:46 GMT 4:06 no full Anger can impact your relationships.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


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Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

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#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Anger can impact your relationships.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


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#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[How Hijackal Parents Mess With Kids' Lives]]> Fri, 23 Sep 2016 20:00:16 GMT 13:02 no full Setting them up for a lifetime of "bait" status is one of many results of a Hijackal® parent.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

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Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

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Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


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#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Setting them up for a lifetime of "bait" status is one of many results of a Hijackal® parent.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[Trapped By A Hijackal?]]> Wed, 31 Aug 2016 21:32:05 GMT 34:45 no full Are you feeling always blamed? Are your thoughts feelings dismissed? You may be dealing with a chronically difficult person, a Hijackal. You can find them in the workplace but they are more likely to be difficult at home where there's a captive audience. Listen to Dr. Shaler being interview about identifying these people who are not just "having a rough day" - they're difficult, chronically.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


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#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Are you feeling always blamed? Are your thoughts feelings dismissed? You may be dealing with a chronically difficult person, a Hijackal. You can find them in the workplace but they are more likely to be difficult at home where there's a captive audience. Listen to Dr. Shaler being interview about identifying these people who are not just "having a rough day" - they're difficult, chronically.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[Are You Headed For A Breakup?]]> Mon, 22 Aug 2016 22:37:11 GMT 4:47 no full Feel like something is lurking in the subtext of your communication with your partner? Is a breakup on the horizon? Decipher the cues and listen to this week's episode of For Relationship Help by Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


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#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Feel like something is lurking in the subtext of your communication with your partner? Is a breakup on the horizon? Decipher the cues and listen to this week's episode of For Relationship Help by Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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<![CDATA[My Partner Is Constantly Blaming Me For Everything]]> Tue, 09 Aug 2016 00:54:33 GMT 6:39 no full Learn some skills for dealing with blame that's aimed at you incorrectly. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler discusses the blame game.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


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#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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Learn some skills for dealing with blame that's aimed at you incorrectly. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler discusses the blame game.


Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \


CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler


YouTubeYouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp


#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest 

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